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Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It
Written by Marty Klein
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About this audiobook
Enjoyable sex: it’s not about technique or a perfect body or being hopelessly, passionately in love. It’s about Sexual Intelligence.
In his three decades of working with couples and individuals as a sex therapist and marriage counselor, Dr. Marty Klein has continually seen that although most people say what they want from sex is pleasure and closeness, that’s not what they focus on during sex. Instead, we’re preoccupied with how we look, what our partner is thinking, how we’re performing, and whether we’re “normal.” We do more thinking, worrying, and judging than experiencing. Sex like that can’t thrill us, can’t create intimacy, and can’t, well, feel sexy.
In Sexual Intelligence, Klein shows how to stop observing ourselves during sex, ending our obsession with sexual performance and sexual normality. “I don’t help people ‘function’ better during sex,” he says. “I teach people how to relax and enjoy sex with the body they have, the partner they have, in the situation they have.” Now that’s something we all want: fulfilling, exciting sex at every stage of our lives.
In Sexual Intelligence, Klein challenges our understanding of sex, love, intimacy, romance, and satisfaction. After all, sex isn’t just an activity. Change the way you think about sex, and you can change your sex life—forever.
Author
Marty Klein
Marty Klein, Ph.D., has been a licensed marriage and family therapist and certified sex therapist for thirty years. A former adjunct instructor at Stanford University Medical School, Marty is the award-winning author of seven books. Marty's humor, insights, and down-to-earth approach are regularly featured in the national media, such as the New York Times, The New Yorker, Nightline, NPR, and The Huffington Post.
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Reviews for Sexual Intelligence
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Love It. Absolutely wonderful insight explanation suggestions. Encore!! Thanks for this book
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Excellent book overall with useful insights and advice. Highly recommended.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Great book. One of the best. Lots of humor. Lots of the most practical advice I’ve read!
- Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5This book addresses hetero sexuality. In my opinion I found this book to cover the simplest issues of mis/non communication between men and women in regards to their sexual needs and desires. This book is not deep or profound and offers no information for anyone outside of a straight, married, vanilla, sexual relationship.