Saving Alex: When I was Fifteen I Told My Mormon Parents I Was Gay, and That's When My Nightmare Began
Written by Alex Cooper and Joanna Brooks
Narrated by Luci Christian Bell
4.5/5
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About this audiobook
Days after Alex Cooper told her parents that she was gay, they drove Alex from their home in Southern California to Utah, where they signed over guardianship to fellow Mormons who promised to save Alex from her homosexuality.
For eight harrowing months, Alex was held captive in an unlicensed “residential treatment program,” modeled on the many “therapeutic” boot camps scattered across Utah. Alex was physically and verbally abused, and forced to stand facing a wall for up to eighteen hours a day wearing a heavy backpack full of rocks. “God’s plan does not apply to gay people,” her captors told her, using faith to punish and terrorize her. With the help of a dedicated legal team in Salt Lake City, Alex would eventually escape and make legal history in Utah by winning the right to live under the law’s protection as an openly gay teenager.
Saving Alex is a horrific yet uplifting story of identity, faith, courage, acceptance, and freedom that reveals what happens when religion goes too far and how a group of dedicated Americans and one young woman fought for her rights, including finding the strength and courage to be herself, and how her story has inspired countless others along the way.
Alex Cooper
Alex Cooper made legal history in Utah by winning the right to live under the law’s protection as an openly gay teenager. Now twenty-one, she lives in Portland, Oregon.
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Reviews for Saving Alex
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Extraordinary story of bravery in the face of seemingly unsurmountable chellenge. When she announces her sexuality to her Mormon parents Alex is cast out of the family and becomes invisible to them, good as dead. The one thing that did make me mad was how her family and the whole LDS community threw her out with the trash yet they claim to be so godly and moral. I don't think I've ever said the word "disgsuting" out loud while reading a story so many times but that is a perfect description of how they treated her. Her story is one of fierce perseverance and demonstrates the importance of being true to oneself. She surely deserves a medal for the sheer bravery she displayed in her torturous situation when most that came before her remained silent and went along with the abusive system. She truly paved the way.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5There are so many reasons why this is such an important book and story!I have such an emotional attachment to Alex's story being from Utah and having grown up involved in the Mormon religion. While I personally didn't face any of her circumstances I know people who have to some degree. It's so important for people to hear her story and to understand that this IS happening! It's important too, to understand that there can be a happy ending. For anyone who may be going through feelings of doubt, shame, or suicide because they are LGBTQ, in a religious and unaccepting family, please read this book along with any other story you can get your hands on of survivors! It gets better, and that's why Alex told her story! Not only to shine a light on the abuse and torture of conversion therapy, but to also show people that it can get better!I hope that this book makes its way into so many peoples hands! People in the LDS faith who may not quite understand LGBTQ, people struggling to accept their homosexuality, parents with homosexual children, and anyone else. Thank you Alex for sharing your story, however hard it must have been to relive your horrible circumstances.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This is so well written and honest! It’s a must read
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This was a very distressing book. I could feel myself trembling with the emotions of reading this book multiple times. It is also a book that is very very hard to put down. Not because I was thrilled or excited but because I just couldn't put the book down without seeing the resolution, without seeing that Alex was safe. I didn't feel good knowing I was going to read this book, I didn't feel good while reading it and I don't feel good, now, after having read it. But sometimes you have to read books like this. They open your eyes. They are evidence of how our world shifts and changes and how one case or one voice can help make those shifts happen. Having said all that, I struggled a little with this book on a different level, a writer-reader level. This was a retelling of something horrible, and I felt the horror, but I felt that there was a big lack of emotional connection here. I fully understand why this happened the way it did: Writing about something like this would be and was very emotionally difficult for the author and her ghost writer. That made the book come out with 'all tell and no show', as us writers like to phrase it. I think this happens often, when the point of the book is that it's message is more important that it's format. Nothing wrong with it, but it makes for a different type or reading. One I'm not keen on doing very often. Anyways, anyone can relate to this book I think, but some people more than others might take a lot from this if they gave it a chance.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5An extraordianarily transparent account of struggle against the odds and self belief
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This was a really compelling read. Though I don't think this is Brooks's best writing, Alex and her story draw you in and don't let you go. Two days of few breaks. What hit me the hardest was realizing that Alex is younger than I am. I knew this was a recent story, but I've read a lot of memoirs and they are all by people older than me, so that was the mindset I was reading this book with. But no. She's about the age of my younger brother. This was just a couple years ago, and conversion therapy is still very much a thing in Utah.LGBT issues are divisive within the Mormon church. Alex wrote her story mostly for kids like her who know deep down that they're not broken, but this book also has the potential to soften some hearts. There is power in listening to the stories of individuals we lump into general groups. I was impressed with the charity Alex had toward her parents' beliefs and where those beliefs came from. While I'm sure hurt and anger were and probably still are there, she doesn't blame her parents. She stresses how important it was for them to believe in a plan where everything would be alright in the end. When Alex didn't fit that plan, her parents had to find a way to make things right. Letting go of the plan you have clung to for your whole life is hard and painful, and it's easier to try to get the people you love to fit back into the plan; after all, they used to fit, they can fit again. Throughout the book Alex does an excellent job of understanding and helping the reader understand her parents' worldview. This is an important read.Minor nitpick: I can't stand the click-bait-y subtitle.