Raise Your Desirability Factor: Getting Date-Ready--Inside and Out--In Two Easy Steps
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In Raise Your Desirability Factor, Patti helps you prepare—mentally and physically—for the dating world with two steps from her book Become Your Own Matchmaker. In Step One: Dating Detox, Patti teaches you to take a thirty to ninety day dating break to recharge so that you’ll be mentally and spiritually ready to attract men. Based on what thousands of men have told her, Step Two: Mirror, Mirror offers tips for getting into top dating condition to make you feel sexier, skinnier, and absolutely scintillating from head to toe.
“A fun and informative read. Patti turns the challenges of dating into a few easy steps that will change your life and get you on the path to finding your soul mate!” —Tori Spelling, bestselling author of uncharted terriTORI, and Dean McDermott
Patti Stanger
Patti Stanger was the star and executive producer of her own television show, the wildly successful Millionaire Matchmaker, on Bravo. Her wildly successful matchmaking efforts have been featured on Oprah, E!, MTV, Dateline, Dr. Phil, Ellen, Tyra, NBC News, The Big Idea with Donnie Deutsch, and numerous other television shows, as well as in Marie Claire, Elle, Glamour, The New York Times, Forbes, The National Enquirer, The Washington Post, and many more. She is a popular guest on talk and news shows throughout the world, and is frequently accessed as a dating resource by international media outlets.
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Reviews for Raise Your Desirability Factor
14 ratings2 reviews
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5It's common sense. Thought it would go into more detail. Waste of a read.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5It was an interesting book, very quick to read that I would advise to any single women who wants to get into a relationship. I love Patty, but it’s not her best book.
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Raise Your Desirability Factor - Patti Stanger
STEP ONE
Dating Detox
Recovering from a bad relationship? Been on a series of disaster dates? Are you a one-date wonder? Just got dumped? Haven’t been on a date in weeks, months, or years? Maybe you’re a serial dater who can’t make a relationship last more than two months. If you fall into any of these categories (and what single woman doesn’t?) your first step is to go through Dating Detox. During this step you get to stop, take a deep breath, and get your romantic bearings. This is probably my favorite step of all, because it’s all about me—excuse me—I mean, it’s all about you. It’s not about men, not about friends or family, it’s not about pleasing anyone else—you purely focus on pleasing yourself.
During this time you wrap yourself in a delicious, warm and cuddly cocoon to metamorphose into the sexy, irresistible femme fatale that’s buried deep inside you. Don’t even think about going out on a date. Just step back and take time to figure out what exactly it is that you’re looking for and what makes YOU happy. This is a chance to get back in touch with your softer, more feminine side—to draw men to you like bees to honey.
On a side note, don’t be surprised if during your dating sabbatical, the men start lining up. As soon as you say, I’m not going to date for a while,
the bus unloads. Don’t go out with them, but make sure you take reservations. Remember, the best restaurants are booked weeks in advance, why not you? You’re worth waiting for.
Depending on the length of your last serious relationship, Dating Detox should last between thirty to ninety days. If your most recent relationship lasted less than a year or if you’ve never had a serious relationship, detox for thirty days. If your last relationship lasted for two years, detox for sixty days. If it was a marriage or a relationship that lasted three or more years, detox for ninety days. Believe me, you’ll end up loving Dating Detox so much you might need someone close to you to slap you and make you move on from it.
The Happiest Place on Earth
One of the reasons this step is so delectable is that for thirty to ninety days, you’re allowed to completely forget your troubles. Once you get the positive energy flowing, you’ll move into a place of happiness that you’ll never want to leave. This happiness will be unflappable—you’ll be able to be happy anytime, anywhere, even with the most obnoxious people around you or, even more important, alone. As soon as you learn to revel in the opportunity to be by yourself rather than languish in miserable isolation, you’ll be free of that ugly and burdensome feeling known as desperation. And once you’ve attained internal happiness, you’ll be ready for a mature, solid relationship. A happy woman makes a much better companion, and your stock on the dating market will soar.
Men love happy women. It’s as simple as that. Hell, women, children, dogs, cats—everyone loves, and wants to be with, a happy woman. The happier you are, the happier your mate will be. The truth behind the law of attraction is that like attracts like. During my matchmaking events I often see cheerful women who are not classically beautiful attracting more men than the supermodels in the room. Why? Because the supermodels are more likely to be starving and insecure, and don’t exactly exude joie de vivre.
Are you that happy person? If not, ask yourself why. Many clients come to me unhappy because they don’t have a man. I tell each one that her attitude will only set her back because a man will only be drawn to her once she realizes that she can be happy without him. Men see women who are with them because they choose to be, not because they need to be. Most women don’t understand this. They think they’re losers because they don’t have Saturday night dates, but this couldn’t be further from the truth. It’s far better to wait for the right guy, alone in your jammies, than to be out with someone you have no interest in, wasting time and money.
Another common reason you might be unhappy is because you’re weighed down by issues from your past. We