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The Lusty Vegan: A Cookbook and Relationship Manifesto for Vegans and Those Who Love Them
The Lusty Vegan: A Cookbook and Relationship Manifesto for Vegans and Those Who Love Them
The Lusty Vegan: A Cookbook and Relationship Manifesto for Vegans and Those Who Love Them
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The Lusty Vegan: A Cookbook and Relationship Manifesto for Vegans and Those Who Love Them

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This combination cookbook and lifestyle book takes a unique look at inter-palate partnering, with personal stories and tips for peaceful co-existence when one partner wants a cheeseburger and the other wants a tempeh slider.

Award-winning Chef Ayinde has crafted 80 delicious recipes that both vegans and omnivores can enjoy together, including:
  • Classic Cloud-Nine Pancakes
  • Tuscan 12-Vegetable Soup with Savory Biscuits
  • Habanero Portobelo Fajitas
  • Crispy Spring Rolls
  • Cherry Cobbler and Cacao Nibs
  • Many more
Ayinde and Zoe are longtime vegans, but they have something else in common; neither has ever dated another vegan. After comparing notes, they realized the need for a manifesto to help vegans and omnivores navigate their cross-cuisine love life. The book shares tips for vegans who want to satisfy the appetites of their omnivorous counterpart, and for non-vegans who want to impress their plant-based partners.

The authors' personal experiences and advice can be irreverent, but always on the mark for people needing relationship solutions, both romantic and culinary. Loaded with humorous anecdotes and seductive full-color food photographs. The Lusty Vegan provides delicious recipes and lots of fun along the way.
LanguageEnglish
Release dateOct 7, 2014
ISBN9780988949256
The Lusty Vegan: A Cookbook and Relationship Manifesto for Vegans and Those Who Love Them

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    The Lusty Vegan - Ayinde Howell

    Love is blind. And sometimes deaf and dumb.

    This is the most important thing you will read in this book: Regardless of your food politics, take warning. Do Not Try to Convert Your Partner. Attempting to bring them over to your side—whatever side that might be—will be detrimental to your relationship, and will possibly make you look like a dick. Even if it works, they may resent you, and they will probably (definitely) gorge themselves on break-up chicken wings if things don’t work out, just to spite you.

    Originally we planned to put this note in the intro chapter. But then we realized many people skip the intro because they’re seeking the instant gratification that Chapter One promises. This note is so important, we just didn’t want to risk it being glossed over in favor of the sexier, more alluring Chapter One.

    Even if you’re not overtly attempting to change your partner, you should also avoid doing that thing where you secretly hope they will change on their own. Many vegans enter veg-fusion relationships hoping that one day their love interest will make the switch independently. We’re housing on their own and independently in obnoxious quotations because in reality, most people who get into relationships hoping their partners will change also indulge in some sort of persuasion. This is what we call the vegucation style of vegan-on-omni dating, a guerrilla-esque method of conversion. It goes like this: seduce an omni, hook them, demand they eat your seitan sammy, and—bam—they are vegan.

    DATinG SOmEOnE WITH THE HOPE THAT THEY WILL onE DAY CHAnGE Is ILLOGICAL.

    Okay, it’s not always such an aggressive approach. Sometimes it’s more like a semi-unintentional slow-prod, or a sideways crabwalk into conversion. A plant-muncher starts dating an omni, engages them in thought-provoking conversations about veganism, crosses their fingers, and secretly hopes for vegan osmosis to occur. This seems innocent enough—all you’re doing is educating them, right? Wrong. There’s a fine line between educating and lecturing. Your views are yours, your passions are yours, and like Ayindé always says, you can take a horse to water but you can’t hold their head under. It’s totally illegal.

    Dating someone with the hope they will one day change is illogical. Say it with us:

    I can never change the person I am with. I should not expect my partner to change because I want them to. The only person I can change is myself.

    ZOË: So if you shouldn’t try and convert your partner, then what should you do? Let’s talk for a minute about soul mates. Wait, wait, don’t close the book—I don’t mean soul mates in the one person for everyone sense. What I am referring to is finding another person who has a spirit and energy that mirrors and matches your own. This applies just as much to your friendships as it does to your romantic connections. It also applies to animals. I’m pretty sure my cat and I are kindred spirits—we are both really fickle and like to sleep on the radiator.

    Don’t look for someone you think you can convert one day. Instead, focus on finding a person who is right for you in as many facets as possible. If their level of compassion truly reflects your own, then they might (might, I said!) be curious about your lifestyle, excited to learn, and eager to try it on. But they have to want it for themselves. Be their muse, not their dictator. No one likes a dictator. So, get that if only they were vegan dream out of your head. Look for someone who appeals to you as is. Cataloguing possible improvements will only lead to disappointment, and again, it kinda makes you look like a dick.

    Remember: You can’t bully someone into thinking your way is the right way. And why would you want to? So you can have some vegan arm candy? If it’s not their own idea, they will probably resent you. (Remember the post-breakup wing binge.)

    So for starters, focus on finding someone you truly connect with.

    What it means to make a connection

    ZOÉ: I’ve gotten a lot of shit for being a vegan who is open to dating omnivores. An iEatGrass.com troll, er, commenter, even called me a vegan whore once. According to him, engaging in some non-vegan P in V is akin to stabbing animals in the back. I wrote him off as seriously sexually frustrated, but really, am I a bad vegan? Am I sleeping with the enemy? Maybe—but you might too if you saw what the enemy was packing in his boxers. Just kidding. I’m not that shallow. (Maybe a little.)

    In reality, the reason I don’t cringe when a date does dairy is this: being vegan doesn’t guarantee compatibility, and more importantly, it doesn’t guarantee a connection. Do I want someone to share my love for tempeh Reubens and fuzzy-headed baby chicks? Sure. But I also want someone who gets me, who is supportive, passionate, driven, smart, funny, attentive, caring, and—of course—sexy as f*ck. And what if I find that person and, shit, he also likes to cook up a steak on his George Foreman? Then what? I write them off?

    When I stew over my own relationships, the thought of missing out on past so-in-love-my-face-is-numb situations because my man eats meat is laughable. Scoffable, even. While veganism is an important lifestyle choice for me, what I value in a partner above all else is a real connection. The type of connection that has you talking like you’ve known each other for years. A connection that has all of your friends thinking you’ve joined a cult or moved to rural North Carolina to have a baby in secret, because they haven’t seen you in months—you’ve been in bed the whole time with your new beau, listening to Cat Power and marinating in each other’s juices.

    You can’t help who you’re attracted to: vegan, omni, your brother’s new girlfriend, your third cousin (eek!). This is a truth that has caused problems for millions—I mean, who hasn’t listened to Jessie’s Girl? Rick Springfield knows what’s up. Attraction extends beyond aligning lifestyles, and this connection is where the vegan-on-omni dating dilemma is rooted.

    Vegans make up a scant percent of the population, so the majority of the people you meet in the wild are not vegan. If you’re solely searching for a vegan mate (what the veg world calls a vegansexual), then you have to eliminate nearly everyone you come across organically from the potential partner pool. This is difficult, and what’s more difficult is making a connection with someone, and then telling those butterflies in your belly to calm the f*ck down because this newcomer eats

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