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    What Young Women Need to Know About Men
    What Young Women Need to Know About Men
    What Young Women Need to Know About Men
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    What Young Women Need to Know About Men

    By Arlan Twinn

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    Lack of experience in dating and marriage can be dangerous. Although men can be awesome and delightful partners, some can also be unbelievably unfair, self-centered, and cruel companions. Written with a grandfather's warmth and wisdom, this book shares insights that will help women between the ages of 17 and 24 understand many of the challenges they may face as they seek and enter serious relationships with men—especially men whose characters turn out to have edges that cut deeply! The core element of successful marriages is described, as are how to uncover deceptions, how to react to physical abuse, and how to deal with disrespectful treatment in public. The author explores how young women can determine if its their bodies or their hearts men are after, what three emotions build lasting love, how love-at-first-sight works, and the true place of sex in lasting relationships. How and when to stand up to men is discussed, as are tips for getting men to improve certain behaviors— without waiting years for it to happen! In short, this book offers the warnings and advice about men that parents would love to arm their daughters with before their girls set out on the exhilarating and yet risky path to finding lasting love.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherArlan Twinn
    Release dateSep 15, 2016
    ISBN9781370766796
    What Young Women Need to Know About Men
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    Arlan Twinn

    Arlan Twinn is my pen-name, folks. I am a grandfather to a lovely young woman I care very much about, and I wrote "What Young Women Need to Know About Men" with her in mind. I'd love it if the man she gives her heart to turns out to be a wonderful husband and father. But with the national divorce rate running upwards of 50%, the odds are barely even, aren't they? Realizing that I couldn't promise her a pain-free life or trouble-free relationships, I tried to write a few words that might help her a lot if she runs into a man who thinks more of himself---and less of her---than he should. Perhaps other wonderful young women will be helped by this book, too? I hope so. Oh, about me? Well, I'm certainly not ashamed of what I've written. I chose a pen-name because I'm a quiet man who craves neither fame nor notoriety. More importantly, I took a pen-name to help insure my safety. Why? Because we live, unfortunately, during times when young women are sometimes stabbed to death by their boy-friends because they're trying to walk away from a bad relationship. I imagined a rock coming through my window with a hate-note attached because some young hot-head blamed his girlfriend's reading of my book for motivating her to dump him, change him, or stand-up to him. Not good! I hope my book will stand by itself without having my aging mug or life's particulars attached to it. If the ideas in it are as true as I think they are, then they will have value long after I'm dead and forgotten. That is the goal.

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    • 5/5
      Great advices! I wish someone would hand me this book. I know I will if I have a daughter. The author is a wise one. Definitely a must read!
    • 5/5
      Men and women certainly have different needs and once a woman learns that a man's core desire in a relationship is to feel like his voice and sexual appetite are being satisfied especially in a marriage then that may be the beginning of a union that is to be written in the books. However, also note that sex may not always keep a man. Hence, a woman needs to be open to the idea that men also want women to play their own part in the relationship by being a suitable mate that is independent while also contributing to the welfare of the family without always having to force unnecessary feelings of doubt of her husband's actions but in some ways treating her husband like he means well for her.

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    What Young Women Need to Know About Men - Arlan Twinn

    Preface

    IF YOU ARE A YOUNG WOMAN between the ages of approximately 17 to 26, I believe this book has the power to make your life easier and sweeter if you understand and practice the ideas and principles in it.

    Why would I make this claim? Simply because not all men are like the best men you have known, men who respect, protect, provide for, and patiently and deeply love women. If all men were like that, then I suppose this book would have no reason to exist. But, the sad truth is that there are men who are ready, willing, and able to make your life very difficult, even painful, for a host of reasons. I want you to understand such men a little better so you can either avoid them or at least deal more wisely, courageously and effectively with them.

    Who am I that would hope such a thing? I'm simply an older man (a grandfather and widower, now) who has listened to too many stories of women whose lives have been badly bruised through their relationships with men. Sadly, I've come to the conclusion that many of those bruises could have been avoided if these women in their younger years had only understood men better. And that's why I've written this little book. A very bright lady-friend of mine has called it the Wee Book. Well, wee it is; but, I hope it is full of big concepts that will really help you!

    I would love to be able to impress you by my having published dozens of books and perhaps having earned a PhD in counseling. But that is not my lot. So, lacking impressive credentials or worldly recognition, from here on I will simply state the ideas in this book as if they were facts and rely on you—in your own way and at your own pace—to carefully ponder how true they are. As part of that process, may I pose a special challenge to you? After you've thought hard about the ideas you read here, please ask others, especially your parents, what they think about them. As you discuss these ideas with the people you love and respect the most, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised and even delighted at the additional insights and stories that come up! Further, if there is a spiritual presence or guide in your life that you have learned to trust as being able to lead you toward goodness and truth, I hope you will ask it, also, for impressions about the truthfulness of my words. Finally, if the witnesses you receive from doing all this homework are positive, I hope you will actively consider how you might use what you learn from this book to bless your life. Does this sound fair enough? I hope so!

    With all that said, I do solemnly attest to you that every word in this book is what I believe with all my heart and mind is the truth, and that these are the truths I would wish my granddaughters to know as they came of age to become serious about loving a male companion.

    So, keep your brain and heart in gear, gentle reader, and let's move on! This is for you.

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    Chapter 1

    Yes, He Can Fool You!

    Principle: Some men will say, do, and pretend almost anything for sex and power. They can fake you right out of your socks!

    There is an old adage that says women give sex to get love, while men give love to get sex.  This is not very flattering to men, but it is not meant to be—it's intended to be a no-nonsense warning to women!  When the 'love' a man gives is rooted primarily in sexual desires, it can last for about as long as it takes him achieve an orgasm.  (This is not a book about sex techniques, by the way, so I won't elaborate beyond saying that this can be an amazingly short time!).

    The point is that some men are expert at convincing women that they want to cherish and protect them when in fact what they want is to have sex with them and move on.  Legendary seductions throughout recorded history have established that men have an uncanny ability to transform their raw, animal passions into words and deeds that women would swear mean nothing less than profound and undying love. Sadly, because they live closer to their hearts, I've found that most young women are fundamentally unable to understand men's ability to be so completely false in this way. But, ladies, that you cannot understand it does not excuse or protect you from having to deal with it!

    Men who want you for sex have one root problem, really. It’s not that they're

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