State of Ease
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State of Ease
A state of consciousness grounded in ease
free of Violence, control & greed, where the truth is easily accessible & life has purpose
Walker McDonald
State of Ease is a State, a Paradigm of Consciousness
The three states of human consciousness are:
1.Survival (SOS); five sensory, ordinary reality, un-present. Anxiety, martyrhood and neurotic empowerment
2.Ease (SOE); multi-sensory, heighten reality, ably to be present. Unconditional love, purpose and authentic empowerment
3.Essence; self-actualized, enlightened, present. Egolessness, oneness and universal wisdom
State of Ease explores the three state of human consciousness. State of Ease is a workbook and journal that’s meant to give you the insight and tools to achieve a SOE. The book focus is on a State of Ease and a State of Survile and goes to greate detail explaining differences as it relates to your personal evolution.
The author articulates a convencing argument on the needed actions to achive a Sate of Ease.
State of Ease describes the elements of a healthy life style and the importance of a strong comittment to greate self-awareness to be able to breakout of a SOS and reach a SOE. He warns of the danger of being traped in self-image and the power your unconscious self-image defense mechanism (USIDM) and conditioning have over you. That freedome, real freedome lays beyond the wall your self-image has constructed.
Healthy Life Style + Comittment to Greater Self-awareness = State of Ease
Healthy Life Style consist of four equally important elements: Satisfaction of your basic needs (Animal, Love, Values and Goals), b between the 4Aspects (Personal, Family, Social, and Professional), appropriate relationships and a positive attitude. Commitment to greater self-awareness is the passion and motivation that guides you towards Essence.
The 4AspectsTM Journal is a program for achieving radical success, balance, and passion, in everyday life -- in 30 days. Like a compass, the journal process shows you where you are and points you toward your real purpose.” The 4AspectsTM Journal is a 30 day program with daily journal questions, charting and daily and weekly logging. The 4AspectsTM is based on the concept of balance through appropriate relationship with four Aspects (parts) of your life: Personal, Family, Professional, and Social. The basic assumption of the 4AspectsTM is, the more balanced you are, the less time and energy you waste, and the healthier and more fulfilling your life become. The purpose of the 4AspectsTM is, to create success, balance, and passion through developing greater self-awareness and by bringing clarity of intention and purpose. The 4AspectsTM Journal process nurtures greater self-awareness through examining your needs, behaviors, values, desires, and beliefs daily.
Walker McDonald
Walker McDonald is a Teacher/Educator, Psychotherapist and Organization Development Specialist whose work integrates Eastern Spiritual Teachings with Western Psychology and Business Practices. Walker has a deep passion for and commitment to understanding the human potential. Walker has over twenty-five years of experience as an Educator, Psychotherapist and Organization Development Specialist in the areas of; character development, violence & gang prevention, conflict resolution, truancy parenting, change management, executive coaching, leadership and staff development, teambuilding, mediation, and organization (culture) diagnosis/intervention. He has developed systems for helping schools, organizations and groups discover common goals and work more effectively together. Walker developed the 4AspectsTM Skill for Success program to support at-risk students in taking ownership of their education; keeping them in school and out of gangs. He’s also developed workshops and special events in: 4AspectsTM Journal Program; Servant Leadership; Anger Management, Violence Preventions, Conflict Resolution, Diversity Training, Martyrhood, Boundaries, Community Elder, State of Ease, and Internship Programs. He has successfully supported hundreds of individuals within our schools and organizations. Walker has publisher papers/blogs on: Trickledown Behavior, Servant Leadership, Culture of Fear, Boundaries, Healthy Self-esteem, Disidentify, Self-image, Authentic Empowerment, Transition, Burnout, and Martyrhood. Walker is also the author of the 4Aspects Journal Workbooks (Personal, Leadership & Organizational), 4Aspects Skills for Success Workbook I – Empowering Students to take Ownership of Their Education and Their Lives(published in 2007), 4Aspects Skills for Success Workbook II – Beyond Division; Transforming Differences into Personal Empowerment (published in 2010), 4Aspects Servant Leadership Workbook – Unlocking the Passion to Serve (published in 2013), 4Aspects Skills For Success Character Development – Taking Ownership of Your Life (published in 2014), and State of Ease, (published in 2013). Walker’s work spans for profit and nonprofit clients, working with multi-international Fortune 150 corporations as well as start-up companies. He served as transitional CEO with BioEnergetics, LLC, Boulder, CO. and director of Core Action Network. Prior to that he served with Point Easy, a San Francisco based organization development consultant firm serving California’s Silicon Valley. Presently Walker is the President of 4AspectsTM, LLC and is working in the area of truancy reduction & gang prevention within Denver and Aurora Public schools. Walker lives in Denver Colorado with his partner Flora they are both actively involved in the community.
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State of Ease - Walker McDonald
Flora
Acknowledging my teachers for their patience, guidance and love
Michael T McDonald
Paul A. McDonald
James Portter
Dr. Robert McClure
Dr. Hildegard Platzer
Dr. Vern Hadick
Dr. Paul Hearman
Flora Phillips
Dr. David Rosensweet
Bill Johnson
Copyright©2012 – 2017 Walker McDonald
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ISBN: 9781370141524
Cover design by Terry Rosen
God has promised forgiveness to your repentance; but he
has not promised tomorrow to your procrastination
— St. Augustine
Table of Contents
Preface
Foward
Introduction
Chapter One: Healthy Life Style
Chapter Two: State of Ease
Chapter Three: The Tool
Chapter Four: 4Aspects Journal
Chapter Five: Management Techniques
About The Author
When we examine the relationship between mind – or consciousness – and body, we see that wholesome attitude, emotions, and states of mind, like compassion, tolerance, and forgiveness are strongly connected with physical health and well-being.
– Dalai Lama
Preface
State of Ease
Nothing has a stronger influence psychologically on
their environment and especially on their children
than the unlived life of the parent."
— Carl Jung
There is a great difference between who a person really is and who they think they are. We have a need to rationalize unconscious processes to keep the self-image that we have built intact.
— Sigmund Freud
What I know is that there is a stage within a State of Ease where self-image doesn’t exist. And living your purpose fulfills and sustains you as much as food or water. In this reality, unconditional love and purpose are as present within you as the air you breathe. You may awake in the morning feeling stiff and sore as your feet touch the floor. And, if you open up and become present (Being present is defined on page 21) the discomfort fades significantly. In becoming present you are claiming your life, taking ownership of it. You are no longer the victim of your life. Because you are no longer the victim, life’s discomforts are not multiplied by the pains and frustrations of the past. Once you become present and take ownership, you allow yourself to experience the beauty of each moment. Your moments then become filled with gratitude, unconditional love and ease.
A good friend said to me recently If I had $100,000, I would be in a State of Ease.
I looked around her beautiful clinic where she brings healing and wellness to her patients and thought… she’s living her dream, she’s living her purpose, yet she experiences the dis-ease of worry and stress
. I have watched her create this incredible healing place. However, because some days are financially challenging for her, she can become stressed. When she is engaged in her purpose, present in the now, she is free of stress and worry.
How do you keep your fearful, uncomfortable thoughts from owning you? How can you allow those thoughts to present themselves only as questions? Questions which support you in becoming present and will allow you to maintain a State of Ease?
Dis-identifying is like hitting the pause button on the remote.
It gives you a moment of freedom to feel what’s up.
– Paul
I am sure you’ve experienced moments of ease, even though a difficult situation may arise and you’ve easily handled it. Those moments of ease do not have to be far and few in between. A State of Ease is within you and is easily accessible. This book is meant as a map for your journey. It will guide you to a State of Ease. It provides exercises that support you in being present and releasing your self-image and conditioning. When you are present you make aware empowered choices. These choices build authentic empowerment (authentic empowerment is defined on page 80). Authentic empowerment is stronger than the neurotic empowerment (neurotic empowerment is defined on page 80) generated by your self-image.
"My experience with the 4Aspects program has been incredible. After thirteen years of traditional therapy, I felt stuck in my growth process. The 4Aspects has presented an entirely different approach of healing and learning. I’ve enjoyed the way the 4Aspects program has demanded me to be present through my growing process and how the program toggled my memory daily as to intentions for growth."
–Stacy
I’ve been a student of human behavior and the human potential for over twenty-five years. During this time, I have become increasingly aware of an altered state of consciousness. The description of this altered state of consciousness has escaped western psychology and eluded contemporary definition. My experience with this state has continued with increasing frequency and power. I have seen this amazing state appear in others, without reason. This empowered state appears to glow from the inside out. I refer to this state as Essence,
and when I’m in it, I feel empowered and free. My life is in a State of Ease. I’m living my purpose and I feel unconditional love and compassion toward others. I am simply at peace, life is easy, and the truth is effortless. A.H. Almass wrote Essence is the fulfillment of all our deeper longings. Essence is the answer to all our fundamental questions, absolutely, without exception.
Essence, your real-self is the goal, a state of consciousness free of self-image and conditioning. The path to Essence is a State of Ease and the 4Aspects™ Journal program is the compass that provides the guidance as you journey down your path. Without fully understanding what a healthy life style (described in detail on page 28) was, I worked toward Essence and was successful in discovering it and unsuccessful in maintaining the connection. I knew how to be present and disidentify (disidentifying stops you from thinking and removing you from your conditioning – instruction; chapter five, page 167) and yet I still struggled to maintain Essence. I wasn’t aware of the power my unhealthy life style and my self-image had over me. Now, as my feet touch the floor, my daily focus is on being present and making sure that my lifestyle is healthy. When issues arise I become present and disidentify. Being present and disidentifying allows me to maintain a State of Ease when dealing with my issues. I highly recommend that you start practicing disidentifying as soon as possible.
"The 4Aspects Journal process was helpful in four specific areas:
(1) it helped to focus on specific problem areas;
(2), it gave a daily log to chart progress in these areas;
(3), the 4Aspects journal process helped to go a step further in these problem areas;
(4), it gave a visible, concrete evidence of my progress."
– Beverly
Self-image & Conditioning
The Dictionary of Psychology defines Self-image as The self as the individual pictures it or imagines it to be. The self-image may differ widely from the true-self
. With self-image, you’ve consciously and/or unconsciously learned to project the image that rewards you best. This image is either how you believe you are being perceived, or want to be perceived. Your Self-image may change throughout your life; however it stays within the self-imposed and self-maintained boundaries it has created. Your self-image is not who you really are. It is simply who you see and believe yourself to be, and who you wish other to perceive you to be. Your self-image is a defense against an inferiority complex. If you are ashamed of whom you are, and your community judges you as being bad; it will negatively affect how you see yourself. This self-rejection and being rejected by your community may cause unbearable emotional pain. The image you project is in defense of the rejection. If you feel belittled by society, you may project the image of being better than. If you feel yourself to be dumb, you may compensate by projecting the image of being cool or strong.
The persona archetype serves as a mask. It enable one to portray a character that is not necessarily his own. The persona is the mask or façade one exhibits publicly, with the intention of presenting a favorable impression so society will accept him.
– Carl Jung
Your self-image defines and controls your behavior, beliefs and values. Self-image determines whom you will be relational with; it defines your friendships, and determines the depths of your loves. Self-image sets the parameters on how you act in any given situation and if your actions are not in accordance with it; you are punished and thrown in to self-rejection. Self-image chooses your professions and interprets your needs and life’s purpose in accordance with its limited beliefs and vision of who you are. Your self-image has a consciousness of its own. Your self-image is protected by an Unconscious Self-Image Defense Mechanism (USIDM page 11). Your self-image is simply an illusion generated by an unconscious defense mechanism and based on unconscious neurotic needs. You feel weak and the need is to feel empowered. The solution could be to carry a gun, go into politics, or join a gang. You spend your whole life trying to cover up your feelings of inferiority, weakness and insecurity. Your self–image allows you to understand only degrees of the truth, freedom and awareness. No matter how much personal work you do, if you are not willing to examine your self-image; the results will be limited.
Your self-image interprets your basic needs, beliefs, motivations, and values according to its neurotic desires. These neurotic desires are the foundation of your self-image.
The Austrian psychiatrist Alfred Adler writes
It is the feelings of inferiority, inadequacy, insecurity, which determines the goal of an individual’s existence. His goal is so constructed that its achievement promises the possibility either of a sentiment of superiority, or an elevation of the personality to such a degree that life seems worth living……We orient ourselves according to a fixed point which we have artificially created, which does not in reality exist, a fiction. This assumption is necessary because of the inadequacy of our psychic life. The mechanism of the striving for compensation with which the soul attempts to neutralize the tortured feeling of inferiority has its analogy in the organic world. The soul, under pressure of the feeling of inferiority, or the torturing thought that the individual is small and helpless, attempts with all its might to become master over this
inferiority complex."
Your self-image is your comprehensive neurotic solution; it defends you against inferiority complex. This comprehensive neurotic solution (self-image) along with your story and the way you interpret your past make up your conditioning.
A great deal of our suffering comes from having too many thoughts. And, at the same time, the way we think is not sane. We are only concerned by our immediate satisfaction and forget to measure its long-term advantages and disadvantages, either for ourselves or for others. But such an attitude always goes against us in the end. There is no doubt that by changing our way of seeing things we would reduce our current difficulties and avoid creating new ones.
— Dalai Lama
In graduate school a fellow student asked what your self-image?
I responded rather quickly with: I’m cool, don’t mess with me
. I was surprised with my response and how fast it came. The benefit I received from this was the elevated status in which I would not be challenged. I was happy, cool, people liked me and others wouldn’t mess with me. It concealed my fears and insecurities of growing up dyslexic on the streets of Los Angeles. My self-image wasn’t a bad thing. It could be seen as morphine and a bandage that concealed my inferiority complex. It repressed the pain and hid the shame, and that allowed me to have a normal
life. I say my normal life
in that self-image is the norm.
Exercise 1: Self-image
a) Describe your self-image?
Write down your responses to the following questions in your journal
b) Describe the benefits you receive from having your self-image?
Write down your responses to the following questions in your journal
FOREWORD
Molly McCarthy Leamon, EdD
"Be the change that you wish to see in the world."
— Mahatma Gandhi
How can you be the change you wish to be? We all have dreams, hopes and passions for living our lives to the fullest! We want to embrace this essential idea of being the change but how do we implement it in a meaningful and compassionate way? How do we invite an actualized life full of consciousness and intention? How do we become the best we can be? Walker McDonald offers an incredible opportunity that creates purpose and direction in fulfilling that hopeful ideal of implementing change. I met Walker as we were part of a school team that was opening a new school for at-risk students in grades 6th through 12th grade. These students were not successful in other schools and came to our school for a chance to learn and graduate. I was a teacher effectiveness coach employed by the school district to help support the school with professional development, coaching and leadership skills. Walker was providing a program for students to learn social-emotional skills to build character and integrity to make them successful in their school and personal lives. We immediately connected as we knew we needed to partner to address the concerns and needs of the students and the school, especially as there was a leadership change early in the process. We created a survey to invite dialogue for an action plan that addressed vision, mission and goals to support the school and move it forward in a sustainable way. Students were out of control and Walker’s program helped those students most in need. Walker’s tools provide, an opportunity for whole school involvement to collaborate and invest in change that would meet the needs of all the stakeholders.
Walker walks his talk with compassion and passion! He wrote this book with the intention and hope for addressing change to make this world a better place for all of us. He challenges western psychology by asking us to become conscious through freeing ourselves of self-image and conditioning. As a psychotherapist by training, he has seen many clients and students say they want change but they did not know how to do
it for themselves. Often, they would come to therapy or the classroom and hope that Walker could make the change for them. He knows that people must make the change for themselves or it would not be meaningful or sustainable. The book offers a tool, which creates a state of consciousness of ease for us, which invites our purpose to be revealed and actualized if we have the courage to reflect and take action. Knowing our purpose should be our highest priority as it allows us to live our dreams. We must know who we are and what we value so we can put those values into our life choices. We may say we want a lot of money but does it bring a state of ease
to our lives or only invite worry and mistrust, which becomes a state of dis-ease.
As we understand our needs and wants, we can live with more awareness about the decisions we make. The more attuned we are to addressing our needs and wants, the more we can connect to a larger purpose outside of ourselves! We can empower each other to make decisions, which are grounded in unconditional love and positive regard, when we can move ourselves beyond the superficial gratification of a me-first society.
The book is designed around the 4aspects,
which Walker highlights as a part of the equation for a healthy lifestyle. The 4aspects are four different dimensions of one’s life. These dimensions are professional, social, personal and family and they provide us the opportunity to identify what is most important to us. He states that we need to satisfy our basic needs, balance the 4aspects with appropriate relationships, and have a positive attitude and commitment to a greater self-awareness. Walker shares his personal insight and stories with us to illustrate that we all have been faced with a variety of choices and not always made the best choices for ourselves, as we all are human. He invites us to explore what really matters to us and why…and then live that life by growing in one’s awareness and consciousness through reflections and intentional actions. Walker’s book helps you take inventory of your values so you can create the goals and life you want. His thoughtful quotes