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    Narcissistic Lovers: How to Cope, Recover and Move On
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    Narcissistic Lovers: How to Cope, Recover and Move On

    By Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble

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    In a revealing study of relationships where partners love themselves first, last, and always, Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble help readers determine whether their partner is over the line and has narcissistic personality disorder. The book draws on the authors' research and interviews with a variety of men and women who've been narcissized. Featuring compelling stories and scenarios, Narcissistic Lovers helps victims understand the pain brought on by their abusers, shows why these self-loathers can't change, and offer hope for healing from their "N-fliction."
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherNew Horizon Press
    Release dateNov 1, 2010
    ISBN9780882823553

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    • 3/5
      Well, this book sums u what characteristics narcissistic lovers convey. My husband was diagnosed with this by our marriage counselor, but my husband (soon to be ex) would not receive this information. He is always right and the whole world is wrong. So he just isn't able to have insight or empathy.That said, having several sections of stories of relationships with narcissistic partners was interesting but took up too much of the book.Finally, what to do when you have such a relationship. Essentially nothing. It's impossible to get the narcissist to see himself in a true sense. A partner cannot make them see this. In my experience, no one, not even the world world can help them see this. Relationships are expendable.
    • 5/5
      It gives understanding and instruments for self-recovery. But how to live with new knowledge, If you know that your N almost can't be treated, espesially if your N doesn't want to change and take a therapy?
    • 5/5
      The author covers every topic and more that I have thought of in regards to my narcissistic boyfriend. He criticizes and never takes any blame although every criticism describes himself. He talks badly about me to others and is incredibly mean and verbally and emotionally abusive. When I threaten to leave he apologizes and says the same exact things every time and will turn around from saying sorry only to repeat the same exact actions, no matter how hurtful they are. He lies and denies everything, no matter how obvious it is, and will even yell at you for having the audacity to make the accusation and call him out. He thinks very highly of himself in every regard and takes advantage of those weaker at every turn. He will be and do the meanest and most disrespectful things and even get violent. When I try to leave, he forces me to stay by taking my things, threatening my/his life, etc. but then say I am the light in his dark life and life would be unbearable without me and he loves me more than money and any other girl he has fucked, etc. These characteristics and more, plus thoughts and actions of the spouse, and advice on controlling the present and future are all covered in this book. There are short quizzes throughout the book as well. This has been really helpful and I HIGHLY recommend it for anyone with any kind of relationship with somebody they suspect to lack empathy, be disrespectful and selfish, be controlling and abusive (verbal, physical, emotional).
    • 5/5
      Is your man (or woman) moody (like, Jekyll and Hyde moody) for no apparent reason?Does he fly into a rage when you ask him simple questions?Does he treat you badly and then disappear for days, only to reappear and act like nothing happened?Does he (or she) say unbelievably hurtful things to you for no reason and when you tell him so, he says "you're overreacting" or "you're too emotional"?Does he only keep his word when it applies to something he wants to do?Do you feel confused, chaotic, and drained from being with him?Chances are your man (or woman) is suffering from narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), a bona fide psychiatric disorder characterized in the American Psychiatric Association's bible, the DSM-IV. But don't take my word for it. Read Narcissistic Lovers by Cynthia Zayn and Kevin Dibble and see for yourself how your man compares to the many characteristics and examples in the book.Narcissistic Lovers saved me from months of recovery after I was drained and discarded by an NPD after a 6-month involvement. I would say 6-month "relationship", but Zayn makes it very clear that one does not have a "relationship" with an NPD; it isn't possible. Ironically, the NPD even told me once that he wasn't trying to have a relationship with anybody (meaning me at the time). Of course, neither of us realized at the time that he was incapable of having a relationship with anyone anyway.I read half a dozen self-help books on relationships before I finally came across Narcissistic Lovers. On every page I read the uncanny accuracy with which this book described my ex-boyfriend--the things he did and said, his habits and behaviors. It was as though the authors had eavesdropped on us. In Narcissistic Lovers, I found the truth and it set me free indeed.It amazes me to see that even in the psychopathy of personality disorders, human beings are still creatures of habit. As nuts as the narcissist's behavior is, it is consistent from one narcissist to the next, whether the narcissist is male or female, regardless of economic, social, racial, or educational backgrounds. This is good news for those of us who have fallen victim to these predators; without consistency, their behavior couldn't be classified and we'd never know what hit us.I highly recommend this book to anyone who was drained by a lover who did his evil and then simply waltzed off, leaving you to sweep up the dust of your desiccated self-esteem. Read this book, replenish, recover, and know that what ails the NPD wasn't your fault, although he no doubt blamed everything on you whenever you voiced any discontent.Most books on narcissism focus on the narcissistic parent. If you were romantically involved with a narcissist, this book speaks directly to your pain. Make it your bible for recovery from the NPD and move on with your life. It should be recommended reading for anyone who dates these days, as narcissism is rampant in our culture and only appears to be getting worse. Get educated and protect yourself from these real-life vampires. Narcissistic Lovers also gives online support resources and a bibliography of books that address how to deal with your (perhaps) propensity for NPDs. Even if you trust your instincts and drop these losers the first time they harm you, you may find it fascinating (as I did) to learn about narcissism and the various other personality disorders that are on the rise.

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