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Table of Contents
Keep in Touch......................................................................................................................4 Acknowledgements.............................................................................................................5 Introduction.........................................................................................................................6 How to Make Easy Conversation for Attraction....................................................................7 Using The Add-On Principle to Get the Girl.......................................................................9 The Power of Yes................................................................................................................11 In Closing..........................................................................................................................13 Other References...............................................................................................................14
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Acknowledgements
Special thanks to my hardworking assistant Emily Johnston (on twitter: emjbooks) Whose dedication to this business and her strong desire to help others is unmatched by anyone.
Of course, a very special thanks also goes out to my associates and friends within the dating coach, and seduction community.
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Introduction...
Talking has always been my biggest problem. I knew how to eye chicks up. I just didnt know what to say after the first few words. Everything would go quiet and I would get more and more nervous and quieter and quieter, either that or I'd click into interview mode and just bombard the girls with questions. Boring questions too. Everything is great now. I just followed Rachel's advice and women seem to want to stick around now. I don't just pick up women in the bars, I get them in the mall, on my street, anywhere.
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Mistake #2: NEVER SHUTTING UP. This is the opposite scenario to the one above, but happens for the same reason. Some men, scared that the girl theyre talking to will up and leave any second, choose to talk endlessly in an effort to keep their attention. Again, this is immediately obvious as a sign of social inexperience and nervousness. Mistake #3: BORING HER TO DEATH. Its not easy talking to a girl whos beautiful, sexy and usually practically unattainable. So when a guy gets chatting to a girl he really likes, whos hot and confident, he doesnt want to mess it up after all, it might not happen again for ages! So, in an attempt to limit the chance of saying something that might ruin the interaction and thus his chances with her, he subconsciously restricts the topics of conversation he brings up. He talks about work, the weather, sports, current affairs, perhaps bombards her with a few questions on those subjectsand generally doesnt push the boat out much. Okay, so theyre 3 of the worst mistakes a guy can make when talking to a girl he likes. So lets flip the coin and look at what he SHOULD be doing. Objective #1: PROGRESSIVE QUESTIONING. Choose what questions you ask the girl wisely. You dont want to throw too many her way too quickly. If you do, you give her too much control over the conversation and dont provide her with a challenge. So, use progressive questioning ask her questions that she MUST give a detailed response to. Avoid Yes/No questions and instead quiz her on things that require emotion-packed responses. Do you come her often? is a terrible question. What do you think this place could do to make it feel more lively and fun? is much better, as it not only requires a more detailed reply than a simple Yes or No, it also probes the girl on what makes her feel good. Objective #2: Dont be afraid to let short pauses punctuate your conversation with a girl. Many men panic when they hear a silence and jump in with another question or statement to fill it. Dont make the same mistake. A confident, dominant guy the kind of man women love isnt afraid of little pauses, because theyre natural and harmless. He simply, waits a second or two, sips his drink, smiles and goes with the flow. Objective #3: Its okay to use common topics of conversation when you first get talking to a girl. But move away from the mundane stuff as quickly as you can and instead choose to tell engaging stories. Describe a great holiday you had, an amazing concert you recently went tomake it positive and interesting and you engage the girls emotions and make her want to tell YOU about her own good times. When this happens, instant rapport and sexual chemistry is born.
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Route #2: GOING FOR IT. This routes most often taken at night, in bars, clubs and parties namely because the availability of alcohol makes this option seem a good idea. Going for it means a guy will try to kiss the girl or cop a feel a little while after talking to her. Perhaps hell do it while they dance or as the venue is closing and theyre leaving. Again, its a bad idea because it makes the girl feel used and not in control. Route #3: BOTTLING IT. This option, quite simply, involves choking at the last second being unable to go through with a closer. The conversations gone great but the guy just doesnt feel confident enough to propose meeting up again or something along those lines. As you can imagine, taking this route is a bad idea in regards to being successful with women. So what do you do? The three routes above are bad, so what route can you take? Well, it goes without saying that you HAVE to run the risk of using a closer if you want to see the girl again. Therefore, your goal is to make your offer in whatever form it might take seem like a natural, obvious, fun option for the girl to take. To achieve this, you should justify what youre suggesting with a REASON you should both do it. For example: Lets swap numbers so we can talk about that book we both like. Or, We should get a coffee or hot chocolate some time, because I know a great little place thats just opened and think youd really like it. When you follow up an offer (such as swapping numbers or going for a coffee) with a reason for doing it (to talk about something or because you know a nice little new place) you make the offer seem ATTRACTIVE and a NATURAL thing for the girl to say yes to. This is the essence of The Add-On Principle. When you employ it, try to always use the words So and Because. Our minds, when we hear these words, associate them with good reasons, they back things up for us in our heads. You can use this principle any time you want a suggestion youve made to a girl to be accepted and agreed to. For example: Shall we go over and look at the jukebox, so we can put on some tunes we both like? Youre taking away any hard work the girl needs to do in deciding whether or not she wants to go ahead with what youre suggesting, simply because youve already given her a valid, natural-sounding reason to say YES! Try ityoull be amazed at the results.
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At the same time, avoid asking questions or saying things near the end of your conversation, just before youre about to close, that could possibly evoke negative reactions or no responses from the female. The reason this technique works so well is because of the natural human phenomenon mentioned at the start of this article that people feel its important to be consistent and congruent in the things they say and the situation theyre in. After responding to you positively half a dozen times, a natural inclination is created in the females mind for saying yes shes gotten used to it. When you finally suggest going for a bite to eat tomorrow or visiting that museum together you told her about, the most natural and consistent response in her mind is a responding Yes!it just feels right.
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In Closing...
The best thing to do is learn more about Conversation King and Rachel Davis and then, to be blunt and to the point stop reading all this crap!
You need real world, real life practice. You can read and study this material from now until you're dead and still not have all the answers. Without actual read world practice you'll never get it and will constantly be struggling to find the perfect answer to land you the perfect woman. The answer to find the perfect woman is to practice getting all the other ones first only then will you get that one particular perfect woman. (Assuming 'perfect' even exists). Don't get me wrong, studying and reading is all fine but budget your time read some, practice lots. You'll get some good lines and pointers that can help you out especially when you're just starting out, or have reached a plateau in your current learning curve. Just don't let studying consume you and dampen the successes you are striving for in your social life! Alex
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