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    Helicopter parents help their kids throughout school, but recently this has taken another huge step. As parents reenter the work world, everything changes. Helping with some homework is one thing, but work, or even college? that's a bit too much. A few simple questions should be asked to oneself after asking about grades: "Does my kid become upset or emotionally charged after I ask?"

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    Helicopter parents help their kids throughout school, but recently this has taken another huge step. As parents reenter the work world, everything changes. Helping with some homework is one thing, but work, or even college? that's a bit too much. A few simple questions should be asked to oneself after asking about grades: "Does my kid become upset or emotionally charged after I ask?"

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    JacobPearson

    Ms.Gardner
    English10Period4
    10November2015
    HelicopterParents
    Itisnormal,forparentstobeconcernedfortheirkids,butsometimesdotheytakeittoo
    far?Isperhaps,goingtoyourchild'sfirstjobintervieworaddingalloftheirfriendsonsocial
    mediatoofar(Harris,M)(Bernstein)?

    ThisIaskyou,toquestion.

    Thereisatermbrandedtothesekindofparents:helicopterparents.Thenamemaysoundweird
    butitimpliestheconstanthovering,andnaggingfromtheparents,muchlikethatannoyingfly
    thatwontleaveyoualone.Helicopterparentshelptheirkidsthroughoutschool,butrecentlythis
    hastakenanotherhugestep.Asparentsreentertheworkworld,everythingchanges.Helping
    withsomehomeworkisonething,butwork,orevencollege(Oglesby)?That'sabittoomuch.

    Howevernotallhelicopterparentsarethisextreme.Mostjustbugtheirkidstodotheir
    homework,ortoturninamissingassignment.Butthiscanalsobetakentotheextreme.
    Sometimesparentswillconstantlychecktheirchildren'sgrades.Sometimestheybugthemtofix
    them.Sometimesthechildhasnocontroloverwhenthenexttestisandmayevenbestruggling
    intheclass.Parentsmaybewantingthebest,butthatisntalwaystheoutcome.Addingstressto

    analreadystressfulenvironment,makinghomenolongeraplacetorelax.Thisstressthencan
    becomeacatalystformanyamplifyinganalreadyapparentproblemtothestudentandmakingit
    evenworse.Kidsbegintoloseselfesteemmakingitevenhardertoimproveintheclass.

    Howcouldsomethingmeanttohelpcausesomuchharm?

    Becauseinmostsituations,parentsintendtohelptheirchildandseeitasnothingelse.They
    mightsayintheirhead,Oh,Imjusttryingtohelpout!whereinfactitsdoingtheopposite.

    Afewofyoumaybeaskingbynow,Whatcanwedo?Itisjusttheirinstinctafterall.

    Whilethatmaybetrueitisalsonecessaryforparentstoaskthemselvesiftheyareinfact
    helping,ratherthanhurting.Afewsimplequestionshouldbeaskedtooneselfafteraskingabout
    grades:DoesmykidbecomeupsetoremotionallychargedafterIask?andThereisntany
    improvementaftermyconstantquestions,amImakingitharder?orevenaskthemyourself.

    Itmayseemasaminorproblemforthoseofyouwhohavenoexperiencewithit,butforthose
    whodo,manycandirectlyrelatetothethingsIvejustsaid.

    Butnow,letsswitchtoaresultofthosebadgrades:punishment.

    Manyofusheardoftheclicheofgettingyourphonetakenaway,anditevenhappensatour
    school.ButtheoneIwanttofocusonistakingawayaphoneorgameathome.AsIpreviously
    statedkidsoftenbeatthemselvesupafterabadtestorabadgradeinaclass,addthatontopof
    yourparentsbeingdisappointed,anditsintensified.Mostkidswillturntoagame,ortheir
    phonestoavoidtheconstantpressure,tryingtoforgettheenormousamountofstressontheir
    back,oftenventingtootherfriendsabouthow,IwishIhadyourparents,orMyparentsare
    theworst.Weofcoursedontmeanthisandarejustabitfiredupoverourselves.

    Butwhatcanhappenifyoutakeawaythatvent?

    Theheateruptseverywhere.Youmaymakeasnideremarktoaparent,orbecomeentirely
    depressedandunabletoworkonimprovingthatgrade.Kidsmaysaysomethingtheydontmean
    atalltotheirparents,butitsparksafuse,andexplodesoutofcontrol.

    Manythingscanbedonetostopit,butnotmanyare.Aresultmaybefurtherpunishment,
    resultinginatornfamily.Allbecauseofabadgradeinasingleclass,andacataclysmicchainof
    eventsthatledtounwantedhate,andthatiswhy,parentsshouldmakesuretheyknowabout
    something,beforetheytalkabout,andconsiderwhatyourchildmaybegoingthrough,andifthe
    bestdecisionistoscoldthem,ratherthanhelpthemwiththeproblembysettingupaplan.

    Notallissuescanbestopped.Butifyouactbeforeyouthink,thinknowbeforeyouactonthe
    issue.

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