God a friend in need You see all of us require a mentor, a friend or a coach to guide us. A friend wh o is unbiased.

A friend who is honest and trustworthy. A friend who is informed enough and a friend who would always think and want good for us. In this materia l world of ours, how many friends with this profile could you find? Not a single one, right? No, wrong. There is one who has all these traits and that is God. The p roblem is that we have turned our back on Him. We think that we are good enough to take all the decisions ourselves. And because we do not ask Him, most of the times, He would not tell us. Let me give you an example to elaborate it further. Take an example of a child w ho goes to his father all the times for his guidance. He understands that his fa ther knows better than him and is honest and trustworthy. Whenever, he goes to h is father for guidance, he will always have it. When he grows up he thinks that now he has become wise enough to take his own decision so he stops consulting hi s father. Father tries to assert himself in the beginning, but since the child d oes not listen, he withdraws himself and stops guiding. My dear, the same is tru e for God. Our creator loves us seventy times more than our mother does, but we have stopped going to him for guidance. If we do not seek His guidance, He would not give it to us. Our believes are distorted to the extent that now God has be come an old fashioned thing in this new and modern cooperate world. Right. No, i t is wrong. Prayer begins where human capacity ends. (Marian Anderson) During the research that led to this book I met hundreds of successful people. O ne of the common traits in them was that they lived with God in one way or other , does not matter what religion they belonged to. I met a businessman who was co nsidered as a best decision maker in the industry. All the decisions that he too k in thirty years of his career proved right. People call him a great visionary. W henever I asked him about it either he would change the topic or with a smile wo uld say, I just sleep over it. During the research, I develop friendship with him. Whenever we had some time to spare, we would meet and he would ask me about how the research was getting along. One day, our discussion moved to religion and G od. After listening to my arguments and my personal faith in God, he said he wan ted to share a secret. I got curious. He asked me if I remembered my question ab out his decision-making he had always been evading. I said, Yes, I do He said, You wanted to know the secret of my successful decision-making, I will t ell you today. I did not tell you earlier because I did not think that it would make sense to an educated 20th century person like you. But now, after discoveri ng your faith in God, I think I could share it with you. What he told me was this . Faiez, you see over a period of time, I have developed a blind faith in God. H e is the best friend I have. Instead of doing my own thinking, I just give this task to Him to do it for me. Whenever there is a major decision to make, I alway s try to postpone it for night, and if I cannot then I would postpone it till th e time of next prayer. During my prayers, I would tell him the issue and instead of praying for what I think is right, I admit my ignorance and request Him to s how me the right path. And right after the prayer, whatever comes to my mind, I just do it even if it is against my wishes. If God be for us, who can be against us? (Bible) On my probing, he told me that in the beginning it was not an easy task, because he would get a little confused but over a period of time he had become good at understanding God s voice and signals. At that time, about five years ago, it was a little new for me, but luckly not any more. Now I know hundreds of people in Pakistan as well as in Europe and USA who are living very successfully with the same philosophy of life. What it adds is a matter of pure faith. Unfortunately, our faith has distorted over times making our lives more difficult, everyday.

There are three answers to prayer: yes, no, and wait a while. It must be recogniz ed that no is an answer. (Ruth Stafford Peale)

When I am no good feeling emerges Remind yourself that it is all about thinking.If you think you are weak, you wil l become weak. If you think you lack something, you do. If you think yourself to be an ordinary or a second class citizen, you are. If you do not abandon this t hinking, people will start treating you as no good Become confident. Look at all the pluses and strengths, you have in your pe rsonality. There is none in this world without any positive qualities. The more you think the more positives you would discover about your personality. Treat yourself as VIP.Others will treat you the same way. If you look miser able, people will make you miserable. Treat yourself the way you want people to treat you Look important. Dress well. Keep an upright posture. Smile frequently. Walk faster. Be a front seater.Be the first one to introduce yourself to others. How you come across or look has a lot to do with how you feel from inside

Concentrate on your assets and continue building on your strengths. You wil l become confident and build self image. Remember, learning new things and small wins in life are very important to build a self image. Respect others, love others, greet others. Whatever you want yourself. Star t giving it to others and more and more will coming back to you. Give people their due respect but stop getting impressed by others. The oth er person is just an other human being like you. e. Stand in front of mirror many times a day and tell yourself how great you ar

Is The Situation As Bad? Consider This Our negative thinking never let us discover the powers God has given us regardle ss of our race,religion,creed,gender,or any socio-economic status.I (seyal) come across many people.No matter what you ask them,their answer will always be nega tive.They will grumble about their job,the economy,children education,or busines s. If you are one of those who see the dark side of the picture and try to rational ize your setbacks in life by shifting the blame,consider this: v If one industry is in recession or even closing down, there are hundreds o f others starting a new.Some people win other lose. v If due to mergers or recession one industry is going for redundancies,ther e will be several hiring people. v If the economic data shows 20 percent unemployment, it means 80 percent ar

e on the job. v If 2 percent people quit a country, 98 percent still live there. v If hunrded of people die every day, millions are still alive and thousands are born every day. v If there are five robberies in your locality, hundreds of other households are safe. v If hundreds of vehicles meet accidents on highways everyday, there are mil lion others are million others, which are safe. v If 30 percent students fail in an exam, 70 percent others succeed. v If one in every five people has a cardiac disease, four do not have. v If divorce rate is 15 percent, 85 percent are living together. v If one aeroplane crashed last night,there were several others in the airsp ace, all safe and sound. v If there are hundred applicants for five jobs,at least five will get them. v If your job is not rewarding any more,there are hundred of other things y ou could do.How about multiple jobs. v If you have wasted 20 years of your life,you have about 50 more. v If it has become difficult for one person to feed a family of 10,there are nine others who can work. v No matter how corrupt the system seems,most people are honest,and so the c ountry is still moving ahead. Positive reaction to negative situation and people,gives positive results.Negati ve people keep on focusing on what they have no control over.Positive thinking p eople instead build their area of control.They continue enlarging their area of control until no control zone is also their territory. When You Confront A Failure It is not possible to achieve a success without hardship and setbacks,but you ca n live the rest of your life without defeat.Those who avoid failures in their li fe,also miss tremendous opportunities to grow.It is pain that a new and great ti me is born.Behind every success,there are several setbacks. A barrier is not an end of the road.It is just pointing your attention to find w ays of going over.It is your job to find ways to go over.If you decide to turn b ack,it is a choice and you must not blame others for it. If success was so easy to achieve who would have it so badly. Nothing has happened so far. What you do with this setback, would finally determ ine your destiny. Accept the challenges and setbacks of your life with grace and courage. The harder you hit the ball on the floor, the higher it bounces back. The same c ould be true for you. Accept setbacks as learning opportunities. Analyze them, learn from them So verily with every difficulty there is relief. Verily with every hardship there is relief. (Al-Quran) Use it as a driving force to push you forward with a stronger thrust. Be creative and come up with a different methodology. Make a commitment never to repeat a mistake. Start afresh with new approach. Stay patient and persistent. Keep on learning and trying unless you get what you want. You never fail unless you accept your failure and stop trying. e

Whoever works righteousness benefits his own soul; whoever works vil, it is against his own soul. (Al-Quran)

When Performance Is Declines No matter what you do and regardless of your profession, higher status and highe r salary is a result of increased quality and quantity of your output. Whatever wa s good a month or a week ago, if you still think it to be good, it means that yo u have stop learning. Whatever help you in getting your current job or position is not good enough for justifying your current job or moving ahead. Live with a c ontinuous improvement philosophy in your life. o Remind yourself I can do better. Nothing is impossible. There is always a room for improvement. Just like water if we become static, we will stink. Life i s moving ahead. o r. When you think, I can do better right brain will show you ways to do bette

o Refuse to settle down for less. Tell yourself that you deserve the best . o Read books and inspiring stories about winners and learn from them. Reme mber you become what you see, hear, do, say, all day long . o Be with those you are inspired by. Develop friendship with those who are better than you and benchmark yourself with them. If you continue being with th ose, who are lesser say in terms of capabilities or knowledge, you would lose fir e in your belly. o Develop a plan for continuous learning and improving physically, emotion ally, intellectually and spiritually. o o Never let any day go away without you learning new things, or being able to do things in a better way in quantity and quality. Stop worrying and start the action. The worry will disappear.

Is The Situation As Bad? Consider This Our negative thinking never let us discover the powers God has given us regardle ss of our race,religion,creed,gender,or any socio-economic status. I (seyal) com e across many people. No matter what you ask them, their answer will always be n egative. They will grumble about their job, the economy, children education, or business. If you are one of those who see the dark side of the picture and try to rational ize your setbacks in life by shifting the blame, consider this: v If one industry is in recession or even closing down, there are hundreds of others starting a new. Some people win other lose. v If due to mergers or recession one industry is going for redundancies, ther e will be several hiring people. v If the economic data shows 20 percent unemployment, it means 80 percent are on the job. v If 2 percent people quit a country,98 percent still live there. v If hundred of people die every day, millions are still alive and thousands are born every day. v If there are five robberies in your locality, hundreds of other households are safe. v If hundreds of vehicles meet accidents on highways everyday, there are mill ion others are million others, which are safe. v If 30 percent students fail in an exam, 70 percent others succeed.

v If one in every five people has a cardiac disease, four do not have. v If divorce rate is 15 percent, 85 percent are living together. v If one aero plane crashed last night, there were several others in the airs pace, all safe and sound. v If there are hundred applicants for five jobs, at least five will get them. v If your job is not rewarding any more, there are hundred of other things y ou could do. How about multiple jobs. v If you have wasted 20 years of your life, you have about 50 more. v If it has become difficult for one person to feed a family of 10,there are nine others who can work. v No matter how corrupt the system seems, most people are honest, and so the country is still moving ahead. Positive reaction to negative situation and people, gives positive results. Nega tive people keep on focusing on what they have no control over. Positive thinkin g people instead build their area of control.They continues enlarging their area of control until no control zone is also their territory.