Every Mans Battle

A careful examination into the subject of sexual temptation in the bible and the devastation caused by sexual immorality in our modern society.

Chaplain M. Hamilton Stevens, M.Min

Every Mans Battle

Scriptures from King James Version

Mark H. Stevens
Crowned-Warrior Publishing Co. Jan.2004 Chaplainstevens@gmail.com P.O. Box 1497 Browns Mills, New Jersey 08015

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Table of Contents Introduction Chapter One History of Sexual Sin Chapter Two Why Satan Uses Sex Chapter Three Why Sex Sin is so Devastating Chapter Four Kryptonite for Men of God Chapter Five Generational Curses & Demonic Activity Chapter Six Pornography Authors Biography

INTRODUCTION
I am writing this book with the hope of helping Christian men (and women) that may be struggling with sexual sin and the temptations connected with sexual sin. We live in an age when illicit sexual intercourse is the norm, Pornography is in mainstream society, and sexual perversions are considered the everyday way that modern men and women live. The Bible is filled with examples of the same sins and struggles we have today. Samson is on the cover because he was the poster child for a believer with sexual addictions. Samson however had a comeback because he cried out to God. If you are struggling, maybe its time for you to cry out for help. The problem is the pulpit is silent on the subject of sexuality positive or negative. Young people today need direction and answers on issues concerning sex. The average teenager today starts having sex at the age of 14; this is terrifying to me. I was exposed to pornography when I was about 12 years old growing up in Connecticut. My brother had a trunk in the attic filled with hardcore porn and I found it. I would secretly go to the attic after school and look at it, I never told anyone or shared my discovery with friends. Porno has haunted me most of my life, I accepted Christ at the age of 14, and thanks to the power of the Holy Spirit I began to feel convicted about my activities. The sad truth is even after becoming a Christian I realized the images had already done their damage. After joining the Air Force at 18 my first roommate was a porn junkie, and I fell back into temptation again. Eventually I was able to request a new roommate but the damage was done. To this day I have to make a daily concerted effort to pray and seek God for strength. I put blocks on my computers and I make sure I dont go in stores that sell porno like 7-11 and other corner stores. I cant let my guard down EVER because I know that is an area of weakness for me; but not just me but millions of other men, yes Christian men too! I hope this short book will help you realize how the enemy carefully calculates your destruction through the avenue of sexual sin. I share some funny stories and personal things so you will know you are not alone in this struggle. Jude 24 is my favorite scripture when it comes to God keeping us in this evil world, meditate on it and make it your mantra. The Lord can keep you from falling, sometime even when you DONT want to be kept! If dont believe me keep reading!

CHAPTER ONE THE HISTORY OF SEXUAL SIN 22 And Ham, the father of Canaan, saw the nakedness of his father, and told his two brethren without. 23 And Shem and Japheth took a garment, and laid it upon both their shoulders, and went backward, and covered the nakedness of their father; and their faces were backward, and they saw not their father's nakedness. 24 And Noah awoke from his wine, and knew what his younger son had done unto him. 25 And he said, Cursed be Canaan; a servant of servants shall he be unto his brethren. (Genesis chapter 9) When Jonah discovered the power of the fruit of the vine, he also became the first victim of sexual sin. For years people have indicted Ham as a bad son because he discovered his fathers nakedness. Granted he should have used more discretion by covering his father, but it was Noah who got drunk and allowed his nakedness to be on display. The real villain never gets identified by most peoplethis would be Canaan! Ham was not cursed by Noah, what would make a man CURSE his grandson! It had to have been something really awful. Lets look at some other scripture. 15 Woe unto him that giveth his neighbor drink, that puttest thy bottle to him, and makest him drunken also, that thou mayest look on their nakedness! 16 Thou art filled with shame for glory: drink thou also, and let thy foreskin be uncovered: the cup of the LORD'S right hand shall be turned unto thee, and shameful spewing shall be on thy glory. (Hab. Chapt.2)

Drunkenness often leads to sexual immorality, this is not something someone told me, and Ive been there! A persons inhibitions are lowered when drunk; will power goes out of the window. When I was a young unsaved airman back in the seventies, I would get so drunk I couldnt remember what I did the night before. I believe Canaan was guilty of taking advantage of his grandfathers drunkenness. Canaan is the father of Sodom and Gomorra. They were CANAANITES! I strongly believe Canaan was the first homosexual in the Bible. The Canaanites were the most sexually deviant people of their time! 7 Keeping mercy for thousands, forgiving iniquity and transgression and sin, and that will by no means clear the guilty; visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children, and upon the children's children, unto the third and to the fourth generation. (Exodus chapter 34)

Sexual sins pass through bloodlines because the demons that influence the perpetrators, never die! These vile spirits haunt families for years. Have you ever noticed how certain sins and habits are prevalent in certain families? Watch the Jerry Springer Show or some of the other trash talk shows and you will see my point. Example - Bubba is a drunken adulterer, Bubbas daddy is a drunken adulterer, and Bubbas grandfather is a drunken adulterer. My point, sin travels through generations. The only cure is Jesus Christ! The Lord Jesus Christ is the curse reverser. The power of God stops the demonic flow through families. When I worked as a County Corrections Officer in Burlington County, New Jersey, I would often see the devastating effects of generation curses. I processed an inmate one summer evening that molested his daughters. Within six months of his
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incarceration, The Lord gave me opportunity to lead him to salvation. This individual had repented of his deeds and took full responsibility for his actions, but he shared something with me that sobered me on the subject of generation curses and sins. He told me his father molested him for nearly 3 years, and his father was also molested. This does not excuse an individual, but it helps us understand the demons behind the molestation that haunted this family, and that wrecked havoc in their lives. The fact that the jailed father accepted Christ and repented put a stop to this demonic onslaught. (Read Psalms 32, 38, and 51) Unconfessed sin makes us not only an emotional wreck, but can affect us physically as well.
Ps 38:1

O LORD, do not rebuke me in your anger or discipline me in your wrath. Ps 38:2 For your arrows have pierced me, and your hand has come down upon me. Ps 38:3 Because of your wrath there is no health in my body; my bones have no soundness because of my sin. Ps 38:4 My guilt has overwhelmed me like a burden too heavy to bear.
Ps 38:5

My wounds fester and are loathsome because of my sinful folly. Ps 38:6 I am bowed down and brought very low; all day long I go about mourning. Ps 38:7 My back is filled with searing pain; there is no health in my body. Ps 38:8 I am feeble and utterly crushed; I groan in anguish of heart.
Ps 38:9

All my longings lie open before you, O Lord; my sighing is not hidden from you. Ps 38:10 My heart pounds, my strength fails me; even the light has gone from my eyes. Ps 38:11 My friends and companions avoid me because of my wounds. NIV

CHAPTER TWO Why Satan Uses Sex

6 And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat. 7 And the eyes of them both were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together, and made themselves aprons. (Gen. Chapter 3)

28 But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman to lust

after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. (Matt. Chapter 5) KJV

25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; neither let her take thee with her eyelids. 26 for by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the precious life. 27 Can a man takes fire in his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? 28 Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? (Prov. Chapter 6) KJV

Satan uses sex for on simple reasonIT WORKS! In the beginning God created man (Adam) and declared, It is not good for the man to be alone. God created a woman FOR the man. Man was built to desire a woman. Satan went after Eve because he knew this fact. Eve gave Adam the fruit, why did Adam take it? Men throughout the ages have forsaken kingdoms, riches, position, and even God for the love of a woman. John the Baptist lost his head because of a promise Herod had to keep. Take a look!
6 But when Herod's birthday was kept, the daughter of Herodias danced before them, and pleased Herod. 7 whereupon he promised with an oath to give her whatsoever she would ask.

8 and she, being before instructed of her mother, said, Give me here John Baptist's head in a charger. 8 And the king was sorry: nevertheless for the oath's sake, and them, which sat with him at meat, he commanded it to be given her. (Matt. Chapter 14) KJV

Herod was so driven by lust over Herodias daughters seductive dance, he killed someone he actually admired and liked. Pornography is like gasoline on a fire, the human sex drive doesnt need a lot to motivate it, pornography sends it over the edge, and this is why Satan uses it so often. Most movies today have full nudity or partial, our music is sexually suggestive, and adultery is so commonplace even our clergymen are notorious for their fallings. Women have to realize that they are objects of beauty and that carries great responsibility on their part. Now I am not advocating women cover up like Muslims, but having your breast exposed and legs showing up to the thighs will cause men to lust plain and simple. Solomon was the worlds wisest man in the world, he was anointed by God to lead the mightiest kingdom on earth, yet he threw it all away because his desire for women. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines, and the scripture say he LOVED THEM ALL! Satan knows that woman was created for man. God created woman not only to be a companion, but also as a helper and advisor. Satan always perverts what God creates. Remember King Ahab? He was Israels most wicked king, guess were he got all of his advice? His wife Jezebel! Abraham in a bout with unbelief decided to sleep with his handmaid, because he didnt trust that God could allow Sarah to become pregnant. Who put the idea in his head to do such a thing? Sarah, his wife! Now before you accuse me of thinking woman are evil, there are many more examples of woman helping
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advance Gods program in the Bible than not. This is my point, if Satan can corrupt a woman, he in turn also corrupts a man as well (or men). Joseph was handpicked by God to save his people, Satan chose Potiphers wife to tempt him to commit adultery, and fortunately Joseph was committed to God.

Pr 6:32

But a man who commits adultery lacks judgment; whoever does so destroys himself. NIV

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CHAPTER THREE Why Sexual Sin is so devastating 3 And David sent and inquired after the woman. And one said, Is not this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam, the wife of Uriah the Hittite? (2 Sam.chapter 11)

Davids sin with Bathsheba lead to him also killing her husband as well. David spoke his own punishment when the prophet Nathan confronted him concerning his sin. Nathan used a story about a wealthy man that stole a poor mans lamb, while he had many sheep of his own. David said this man should suffer fourfold. David lost 4 sons! David and Bathsheba lost their illegitimate son, Amnon raped Tamar his sister, Absolom avenged his sister by killing Amnon, and Davids general Joab for trying to overthrow his fathers throne killed Absolom. Davids eldest son Adonijah was killed by order of Solomon because he sought to overthrow the chosen king (Solomon). All of this because David couldnt control his libido. It was no accident David was standing on a rooftop at the time Bathsheba was cleansing herself ritually. He knew who Bathsheba was. His closest advisor was her grandfather, and her husband was one of his military leaders. The seed of lust was already there; Satan just put some water on it. 32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. 32 A wound and dishonour shall he get; and his reproach shall not be wiped away. (Prov. Chapter 6) 18 There be three things which are too wonderful for me, yea, four which I know not:

19 the way of an eagle in the air; the way of a serpent upon a rock; the way of a ship in the midst of the sea; and the way of a man with a maid. 20 such is the way of an adulterous woman; she eateth, and wipeth her mouth, and saith, I have done no wickedness. 21 For three things the earth is disquieted, and for four which it cannot bear: (Proverbs chapter 30) Adultery is very devastating because in affects not only the individuals involved, but also the innocent children, the church family if the adulterers are believers. If Satan can weaken the family structure in the home, then the church is also weakened. 26 Thou hast also committed fornication with the Egyptians thy neighbors, great of flesh; and hast increased thy whoredoms, to provoke me to anger. 27 Behold, therefore I have stretched out my hand over thee, and have diminished thine ordinary food, and delivered thee unto the will of them that hate thee, the daughters of the Philistines, which are ashamed of thy lewd way. 28 Thou hast played the whore also with the Assyrians, because thou wast unsatiable; yea, thou hast played the harlot with them, and yet couldest not be satisfied. 29 Thou hast moreover multiplied thy fornication in the land of Canaan unto Chaldea; and yet thou wast not satisfied herewith. (Ezekiel chapter 16) The children of Israel were lured away from their relationship with the Lord by sexual sin. God constantly warned Israel not to intermarry and fornicate with the heathen nations around them. Sexual intercourse unites the parties involved emotionally; this is called a SOUL TIE. This is why married couples are not truly married until they have sexual intercourse; it is the consummation of the marriage. When sex takes place between unmarried people they are still
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emotionally tied to one another, this is why Israel backslid and followed the gods of other nations. 17 Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. (I Cor. Chapter 6)

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CHAPTER FOUR KRYPTONITE for Men of God When God created woman for man in the Garden of Eden she was everything man (Adam) needed or would ever want in a companion. Some of the language may be a little explicit in this chapter but it is very much biblical and needed for saints to read and understand. Many Christian thinkers and theologians have debated as to why the serpent (Satan) tempted the woman and not the man. The reason is VERY simple! A man's greatest temptation IS a woman. A woman was made specifically and carefully, by the Lord God almighty! Man was alone and needed a companion, or as the scripture states A Helpmete. In the Hebrew the word helpmete is EZER! Every time you see the word EZER in scripture it means HELP, for example the name EBEN-EZER means The Lord is my HELP. The woman is to be a mans HELP! A man is not complete without a woman. This is why men that lose wives to death OR divorce USUALLY remarry. This is also why men have a capacity to be able to also love more than one woman. In many cultures it is acceptable for a men to have more than one wife. (I am not condoning this just pointing out a fact) When the devil tempted eve he appealed to her intellect and emotions, men on the other hand are not that complex when it comes to what will get his attention. Men are visual creatures that sexually get aroused by what they see. This is why men dont need a lot of stimuli to get sexually aroused. Candles and soft music make women happy, but a man can have sex anywhere and anytime as long as the women in question is sexually appealing in some way. The truth of the matter is the woman doesnt have to be very beautiful. Women have an appeal to men that goes beyond beauty. The fact that she is a woman is often enough. God made women look very different for a reason, to

appeal to men. A womans breast are large and soft, her legs are softer than a mans are, her eyes are usually prettier and brighter, her voice softer, even her feet are pretty (some women) and her hair longer. The big DIFFERENCE is the clincher! A woman has a vagina! This body part is what separates her from a man. Remember the woman is delicate and beautiful, even her vagina resembles a flower. Women have soft lips! I remember the first girl I ever kissed on the lips! I could not sleep that night! All I could remember was how soft her lips were. Now I need to stop because I am not trying to get YOU aroused, but I am trying to make a point! The reason Satan went after the woman was he knew that the man would give in to the woman. Satan always perverts Gods gifts. Women were created to help men have dominion in the earth. (Read Proverbs 31)
Pr 31:11

Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. NIV When a man has a woman in his life that loves God and loves him he has a great treasure. In the reverse if Satan manipulates a woman in anyway the man is in trouble. I was a Correction Officer and I met a preacher in jail that had fell in love with a woman that had a drug problem. All he talked about was how beautiful she was and how her eyes made him melt; He tried to rehabilitate her but instead she caused him to fall back into his previous lifestyle which was filled with drug usage and bondage. Now he has a criminal record and she is still on drugs. How could such a thing happen? Well before I give you my thoughts just think about David. David loved God probably more than any human that ever lived did, and he fell prey to sexual temptation. We often try and pick apart the scenario that led up to the fall of David. Yes there were many factors. 1. David should have been on the battlefield.
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