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8 REASONS GRIEF IS GOOD ... People try to avoid grief when they can !eca"#e no one li$e# to !e #ad.

%he #tage# of grief & denial' anger' !argaining' depre##ion' and acceptance & are #o hard to get thro"gh and trying to r"#h or avoid the proce## will "lti(ately (a$e thing# wor#e. )e#ide# #o(eti(e# grief i# a good thing a healthy thing. It (ay !e hard to deal with !"t perhap# "nder#tanding the rea#on# grief i# good will help yo" #ignificantly. *. +E%%ING ,O- +E% GO One of the (o#t i(portant rea#on# grief i# good i# !eca"#e it allow# yo" to "lti(ately let go. If yo" don.t grieve yo" (ay never let go of what h"rt#. %he feeling# will fe#ter and h"rt !"t they will never /"ite go away. 0hen yo" grieve however yo" are a!le to !egin letting go of that pain #o that only the good (e(orie# will re(ain. 1. PRO2IDING A RE+EASE Grief al#o provide# a ("ch needed relea#e. It won.t co(e right away !"t !y allowing yo"r#elf to grieve in the fir#t place yo" enco"rage that event"al relea#e. If yo" hold onto yo"r grief and don.t allow it to relea#e yo" then in a way yo"r feeling# will !e #tagnant. %hey will free3e in one place n"(!ing yo" to everything not 4"#t the pain. 5. 6REA%ING 6+OS-RE 6lo#"re i# incredi!ly i(portant when yo" are grieving whether it i# !eca"#e of a failed relation#hip or the lo## of #o(eone yo" love. 0itho"t clo#"re yo" can never really get over the pa#t let alone (a$e peace with it. If yo" don.t f"lly allow yo"r#elf to grieve then the pa#t will #tay with yo". Once yo" do allow it however yo" can (ove ("ch (ore ea#ily into the f"t"re. 7. A2OIDING 6ONF-SION 0hen a tragedy happen# it i# often conf"#ion. ,o" try and try to find #en#e in

what i# #en#ele## and when yo" can.t yo" can feel helple## angry and overwhel(ed. %hi# i# another rea#on grief i# good !eca"#e it help# yo" to avoid conf"#ion. ,o" don.t need to (a$e #en#e of what i# happening' there will never !e a good eno"gh rea#on for thi# $ind of pain. ,o" don.t need to "nder#tand it right now' let yo"r#elf grieve fir#t and thing# will !e clearer. 8. 9EA+ING A lot of people #ay that #leep heal# and ti(e a# well. )oth of tho#e thing# are tr"e !"t nothing heal# /"ite li$e grief. Even tho"gh yo" are #ad and wrac$ed with pain grieving heal# yo" !y helping yo" to relea#e yo"r hold on a painf"l pa#t. ,o" have to get the h"rt and the anger o"t !efore yo" can (ove on and grieving in a healthy (anner i# the !e#t way to do that. :. %EA69ING A +ESSON One of the (any rea#on# grief i# good i# !eca"#e it i# al#o a teacher. Grief can help yo" learn a!o"t yo"r#elf li$e nothing el#e can. For in#tance yo" can #ee fir#thand how yo" really react to change# even when they are !ad or "nde#ira!le. )y learning a!o"t that yo" will !e !etter a!le to cope with f"t"re change# no (atter what they !ring with the(. Pain and grieving help yo" to evolve. ,o" (ay not want to !eca"#e of what yo" are feeling !"t later yo" will reali3e that tho"gh !itter#weet it i# a good thing. ;. <A=ING 6ONNE6%IONS In ti(e# of heartache and tro"!le we a# h"(an# actively #ee$ connection# to other people. Grief can help yo" (a$e tho#e connection# !eca"#e people are nat"rally drawn together when they grieve. A# a re#"lt yo" are given a #"pport #y#te( yo" can connect with people who feel the #a(e way yo" do. %hi# create# the !e#t coping aid# yo" can i(agine. 8. A++O0ING A66EP%AN6E +a#t !"t (o#t certainly not lea#t grief "lti(ately allow# yo" to accept. Not only do yo" accept yo"r grief it#elf !"t yo" al#o learn to accept the thing# yo" cannot

change. ,o" feel the way yo" feel and yo" will #oon accept that. ,o" al#o learn to accept the fact that yo" can.t change #o(e thing# yo" #i(ply have to (eet the( head on and face the( with all yo"r #trength. %here are (any (any rea#on# grief i# good. ,o" need it yo" need to go thro"gh the grieving proce## in order to (ove on with yo"r life and greet the f"t"re.

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