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WELLNESS • PAUL HUDSON • FEB 3, 2014 - 12:41PM
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There is a particular aspect of mental strength that is the deciding factor of whether or not you will have a good life.
There are many levels to mental strength and all are needed to be successful and happy. The one particular area of
mental strength that has the greatest impact is that of emotional strength.
Emotions are, of course, a part of our psyche, yet nevertheless, can be distinguished from the remainder of mental
qualities because they most directly influence our physical body. They affect the way our body functions and they
drive every single one of our actions. Without emotion, we would have no reason to act, to do anything with ourselves.
Emotions are our greatest motivators. Unfortunately, they can motivate us to act in any direction, even the wrong one.
For this reason, emotional strength is essential. There are countless situations that emotionally strong people avoid
and many actions they never take. Here are 15 of them:
1. They Don’t Beg For Attention

Needing attention is directly linked to emotion. Those who feel the need for recognition only find themselves
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experiencing feelings of worth when others make them feel needed; it’s as if these people are uncertain of their value,
or if they have any ounce of self-worth. Feeling unsure of your worth is a self-fulfilling prophecy; if you don’t know you
matter, then no one will ever believe you do.
2. They Don’t Allow Others To Bring Them Down

Emotional strength requires resilience. This world is filled with haters and trolls. There are jealous eyes lurking around
every corner. The unfortunate truth is that often the people who hold us back the most are those closest to us. Getting
rid of these people is often the best solution, but also the most difficult. If you can quietly remove these people from
your life, that’s one fewer bridge burned and much less of an emotional trigger.
3. They Don’t Hold Grudges

If you’re holding a grudge, then you already care more about a situation than you should. If a person apologizes
genuinely, forgive him or her. If this person doesn’t apologize, then don’t interact with him or her, but don’t hold
grudges. People with whom you seek to alienate and hold grudges against take up too much of your mental energy,
doing more harm than good.
4. They Never Stop Doing Their Own Thing

Emotionally strong individuals do what they do because they love doing it. They don’t plan on slowing down or
stopping for anyone who deems their happiness inappropriate.
5. They Never Stop Believing In Themselves

Those who love themselves and understand themselves — those who aren’t afraid or proud to be themselves —
never doubt themselves. You amount to your own self-worth, not a shilling more.
6. They Don’t Act Like Bitches Or Assh*les

People are mean. But we wonder, why? Being a jerk is only good as an intimidation factor, and if you’re trying to
intimidate people, then you better be a negotiator by profession; if you’re intimidating just for the sake of it, you’re
obviously overcompensating for a lack of confidence. Do you also drive a very large automobile, perhaps? I hear they
make pills for that.
7. They Know Better Than To Let Just Anyone Into Their Lives
The emotionally strong are emotionally strong for a reason: They don’t expose themselves to people who break down
their defenses and crush their morale. Most people in the world are lost and will be more than happy to take you
along with them. Don’t let an awful acquaintance ruin your happiness.
8. They Aren’t Afraid To Love

If you’re afraid to love, you don’t have enough confidence in yourself. You obviously think you can’t be in a lasting
relationship, but only in one that is doomed for disaster. You don’t want to get hurt again because getting hurt really
sucks. There is no reason for you to get your heart broken again because you are awesome. If things don’t work out,
it’s not you. It’s the two of you together. Unless, of course, you are an awful human being; in that case, it is you.
9. They Don’t Lie In Bed Dreading The Day Ahead Of Them

The best part of your day should be the moment you wake up and realize you’re still alive. We take life for granted too
regularly.
10. They’re Not Afraid Of Slowing Down

Emotionally strong people aren’t in need of constant action and excitement. They don’t need to run around all day and
keep moving in order to avoid their demons. They appreciate a slow moment because it brings them closer to what it
feels like to do nothing but living, breathing. This is not to say that they don’t enjoy excitement in their lives, but they
aren’t junkies and are more than happy to just go for a walk and smell the roses.
11. They Don’t Do Things They Don’t Want To Do

We all do things that we don’t love to do, but we should never do things that we don’t want to do. The emotionally
strong understand that and almost always manage to figure out a way to focus on what they love, which allows them
to figure out what they need to do, in order to do what they love. Although they may not love every second of it, they
like doing what they are doing because it’s bringing them one step closer to what they would love to do.
12. They Have No Problem Saying “No”

If you can’t say “no,” you will get abused. You’ll be considered a pushover and no one will ever ask you for your
opinion or take it seriously when you give it. Saying “no” reminds people that they don’t have control over you.
13. They Don’t “Forget” To Give Back

We’re not too busy or too poor to donate our money and/or time. We don’t forget, either. Some people just choose to
ignore our responsibilities as human beings. The stronger you are emotionally, the more you come to appreciate
others and life itself. You give life more worth and you begin to empathize with those who were dealt a bad hand.
14. They Don’t Feel The Need To Fit In

The stronger you are emotionally, the more independent you become. You don’t feel the need to fit in because you fit
in where it matters: the world. People form smaller social groups that are often skewed and unhealthy. Wanting to fit in
doesn’t say much more than “I’m afraid to be myself.”
15. They Don’t Forget That Happiness Is A Decision

Most importantly, the emotionally strong have learned to understand the power their brains have over both the mind
and body. They understand that emotions are reactions, not reactions to direct physical causes, but to the way we
perceive those causes. In other words, our emotions don’t reflect reality; rather, our emotions reflect the way we
interpret reality. Understanding this gives us near-full control of our emotions and, therefore, our lives.
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Carter Roy · Nova Iorque
This kind of generalized crap is so dangerous because it says nothing about HOW emotionally strong people do any of
these things. This isn't a list of DO, as it suggests, its a description of WHAT. It suggests that you simply be them.
Which, of course, you would be if you could! To be of any benefit the list would need to suggest ways in which this kind
of result can be achieved when one's mental framework has already been programmed (nature, environment, etc) in
ways that aren't emotionally strong.
Also, in case anyone out there is using a knowledge based approach to learning, seven of those are essentially on the
list for what describes a sociopath. Do your own thing - regardless of other people's feelings. Don't let people into their
lives. Don't feel the need to fit in. Don't stop believing in themselves no matter what the rest of the world has to say
about how it looks or is going. Never give up on their drive or point of view. Being an asshole is emotionally strong, but
not really the goal is it?
Reply · 185 · Like Like · Follow Post · February 5 at 4:46am
Yvette Stevens · Lunch/Recess Supervisor at Minto Clifford P. S.

To be of any benefit the list would need to suggest ways in which this kind of result can be achieved when
one's mental framework has already been programmed (nature, environment, etc) in ways that aren't
emotionally strong.
Absolutely what I was thinking while reading. Well written, thank you.
Reply · 31 · Like Like · February 6 at 1:48pm
Aaron Smith · Indianápolis

Most emotionally strong people are emotionally strong, because they've been hurt or traumatized at a young
age. We have different coping mechanisms for trauma, and essentially these are the most common coping
mechanisms. I'm not emotionally strong by choice, but I am who I am and sometimes I wish I could have the
same emotions that other people have. Sometimes it feels like I'm not even a human sometimes. Don't judge
someone just because they act emotionally strong, alright?
Max Phillip Bentley-Cottam · Follow Following · Top Commenter · Chef at The Castle INN, Wigmore
You are a good man, sir :)
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Jeremy Odom · Hendrickson High School

It takes far more strength to bend and sway with society than it does to stand up and get blown over. People who aren't
willing to "put up" with anything that "contradicts who they are and what they stand for" are generally obnoxious and their
beliefs are more likely to get in the way of success (or having friends) than anything. Holding on to your beliefs while
simultaneously doing what is necessary shows true strength. If you have to violate your beliefs to do a job that makes
you miserable in order to feed your family, then I believe you are of the absolute strongest character.
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Carole Macaulay · Medical College of Wisconsin

I agree with you, and your second sentence is dead on. I would only differ on compromising "beliefs" -
depending on what you mean by that. I would never compromise morals. There will be a job somewhere
which won't require you to compromise those.
Reply · 10 · Like Like · February 5 at 4:42am
Michael Tabone · Follow Following · New Haven

How does it feel to be a compromising shill? It must be an awesome trait to be just smart enough to
rationalize away the truth of ones self
Jason Bachand · Follow Following · Top Commenter · Client Supervisor at Perception Programs
Michael Tabone spoken as only a douchebag without a spouse or children could do.
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Kenneth Anderson · New School

Why is George Clooney in the photo?
Scott Tewes · Follow Following · Figurehead at Igreja do Subgênio

these are the questions that try men's souls.
Aesis Mia
Because the article is so stupid you'd have to put George Clooney on it to make it worth looking at.
Samuel Mackey · Works at Hanging out and making stuff up

Who's George Clooney?
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Jay Arnott · Escuela Mexicana Americana

Emotionally strong people don't read internet newsfeeds or online suggestions. I am weak!
Madeleine Qiex · Works at Singer/Songwriter/Performer

hahahahahahaaHAHAHAHAHAAAAA ;-D
Jens Hörnicke · Follow Following · Top Commenter · Friherre at Hamburg/ Umeå /Västerås /Gozo
Viva Mexicana Have a nice day J.H./ Malta
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Peter Borten · Boulder (Colorado)

Stop propagating the idea that "Emotionally strong people don't do things they don't want to do." People who don't do
anything they don't want to do risk living a stunted life with many closed doors. This is a misunderstanding of Campbell's
"follow your bliss."
Jay Alvaro · Portland (Oregon)

Yes! I agree! Read this earlier today on another persons post and had a very similar thought. I also find it
interesting that a few of those same characteristics are also the common qualities of a sociopath. And here I
thought just being willing to be honest and vulnerable with your emotions was what emotionally strong
people do....guess I was wrong, but by turning a new leaf after reading this article, it doesnt matter, cause I
dont really give a f@#* what you think!
Elizabeth Marsh Bloom · Top Commenter · Charlotte (Carolina do Norte)

I agree with both of you. This article couches these characteristics as absolutes. Gray areas abound in
everything.
Louie Kiskowski · Top Commenter · Geography Instructor at Universidade de Kent

It means leisure activities, not going along with an unsatisfying hobby because it is popular.
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Steve Bonacich · Top Commenter · Works at Panasonic

You can do all of those things if you are George Clooney and have $200 million in the bank, otherwis little more difficult
wake up in the morning.
Steve Bonacich · Top Commenter · Works at Panasonic

Excuse the grammar, should say: "otherwise it is a little more difficult to wake up in the morning."
Jennifer Gwynne Oliver · Top Commenter

Plus, people who look like Clooney tend to be given far more in the way of free passes and opportunities
than those of average attractiveness.
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Mick Wijnen · Top Commenter · Universidade Tecnológica de Eindhoven

I think there is a clear distinction between feelings and emotions, emotions are feelings with judgement attached to it.
You can feel sad, which is a feeling, but as soon as you judge that feeling as either positive or negative it becomes an
emotion. There is nothing wrong with feelings, any feeling, be it happiness, anger, sadness, excitement or any other
feeling. But labeling them negative or positive makes them emotions, it also empowers them and makes you strife for
the positive ones and avoid the negative ones. In this case you are still attached and can never be truly happy, as your
emotions still guide you. The emotional strength mentioned in this article is largely based on a sort of detachment of
your emotions. That is you still feel the feelings but don't judge them. When you're sad, you're just sad end of story and
you're not trying to avoid being sad, or trying to make the sadness go away.
Djanane Pinheiro Hodge · Follow Following

I am in perfect harmony and agreement with your statement. Thanks for being smarter than this!!
Michael Mertins · Top Commenter

i think emotions are not feelings with labels or judgement but just the visible expressions of feelings, but you
probably mean the same. the article can also be understood as the attempt to manage and channel feelings
into emotions that are helpful to yourself. Finding an identity that allows feelings and thoughts, but that also
acknowledges that they are not what makes you you and dont have to harm you or your decision making...
good judgement is never based on what you feel but on higher principles I think...
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Rick Reiss · Birmingham Senior High

Excellent point. You hit it on the nail.
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Lindsey Kulp · Hostess at LongHorn Steakhouse

As someone who struggles withwhat most of this is saying an emotionally strong person does, I find the wording to be
very....I'm not sure of the word I'm looking for, but in all honesty it makes me feel like shit because I can't seem to d
feel this way
Happiness may be a choice for many people but for quite a few others it is a struggle. I can't just wake up and say I'm
going to be happy today many days because I just don't have the will or strength to do that. I feel like this article
generalizes a lot and that many emotionally strong peoe don't have ALL of these qualities. Quite frankly after reading
this article I feel like I just got slapped in the face and told that I suck.
Jason Bachand · Follow Following · Top Commenter · Client Supervisor at Perception Programs
Some people have genuine emotional issues that prevent them from "choosing" to be happy. This author is
an asshole with a giant ego, don't let him get you down.
Shannon Kiefer · Follow Following

I know exactly how you feel. There are many things in our lives that are simply beyond our control. there is
nothing we can do about it but it still affects us negatively. HOw can you feel happy with those things going
on in your life that have that huge impact on you can not control. I am in a situation where I do not like where
I live but I have to be here. I have tried time and time again to be accepting of the situation but non the less
can not help how I feel. This is a trite list of assumptions. There are no easy answers. This is an incomplete
article. Do not let this article affect you. Does this person have a PHD in this subject or did they just do an
online search of things that make you emotionally strong. Somethings we can help but there are others we
can not. Screw this psycho-babble. You are just fine. You are human. Just keep on trying to love yourself
and find what will relieve your sorrow. I pray ALOT. Just because you do not fall into this list does not mean
you are not strong. Keep believing in yourself. Keep loving yourself. You are a valuable person and this
tough time you are going through will pass. That is the great thing we can always count on change. do not let
this crappy article lower your self esteem, You are worthy .
Anthony Collova · Follow Following · President at Myoatmeal.com

If you think you suck, You do.
If you think you can choose happiness, you can
If you would rather be a victim than an active participant in your own life, you will be.
Excuses are only valid for those that make them. The rest of us don't care about what holds you back. The
answer is always the same. YOU!
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Phil Franklin · Follow Following · Works at From Where I'm Standing

This article starts from the false premise that emotion is primary to reason.
Mary Delaney · Follow Following · Queen's University

Psychological research has determined that emotions are central to choice-making. The duality you suggest
is classic Descartes, a separation of body and mind. Emotional experience lies at the intersections of
physiological reactions (arousal) to external stimulus and our thoughts about the scenario. An emotion is an
intriguing combination of some event or trigger, along with one's belief systems, values and central tenets.
Some of those beliefs can increase our arousal, and we don't think rationally and make unfortunate choices.
I.e. "how dare he bump into me, disrespect me, I can't let that one go, etc." What helps rational thinking is to
employ the info gained from the emotional arousal cues, put it into context (problem solve, fight or flight).
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WELLNESS • PAUL HUDSON • FEB 3, 2014 - 12:41PM

1. They Don’t Beg For Attention

2. They Don’t Allow Others To Bring Them Down

3. They Don’t Hold Grudges

4. They Never Stop Doing Their Own Thing

5. They Never Stop Believing In Themselves

6. They Don’t Act Like Bitches Or Assh*les

8. They Aren’t Afraid To Love

9. They Don’t Lie In Bed Dreading The Day Ahead Of Them

10. They’re Not Afraid Of Slowing Down

11. They Don’t Do Things They Don’t Want To Do

12. They Have No Problem Saying “No”

13. They Don’t “Forget” To Give Back

14. They Don’t Feel The Need To Fit In

15. They Don’t Forget That Happiness Is A Decision

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Carter Roy · Nova Iorque

Yvette Stevens · Lunch/Recess Supervisor at Minto Clifford P. S.

Aaron Smith · Indianápolis

Jeremy Odom · Hendrickson High School

Carole Macaulay · Medical College of Wisconsin

Michael Tabone · Follow Following · New Haven

Kenneth Anderson · New School

Scott Tewes · Follow Following · Figurehead at Igreja do Subgênio

Samuel Mackey · Works at Hanging out and making stuff up

Jay Arnott · Escuela Mexicana Americana

Madeleine Qiex · Works at Singer/Songwriter/Performer

Peter Borten · Boulder (Colorado)

Jay Alvaro · Portland (Oregon)

Elizabeth Marsh Bloom · Top Commenter · Charlotte (Carolina do Norte)

Louie Kiskowski · Top Commenter · Geography Instructor at Universidade de Kent

Steve Bonacich · Top Commenter · Works at Panasonic

Steve Bonacich · Top Commenter · Works at Panasonic

Jennifer Gwynne Oliver · Top Commenter

Mick Wijnen · Top Commenter · Universidade Tecnológica de Eindhoven

Djanane Pinheiro Hodge · Follow Following

Michael Mertins · Top Commenter

Rick Reiss · Birmingham Senior High

Lindsey Kulp · Hostess at LongHorn Steakhouse

Shannon Kiefer · Follow Following

Anthony Collova · Follow Following · President at Myoatmeal.com

Phil Franklin · Follow Following · Works at From Where I'm Standing

Mary Delaney · Follow Following · Queen's University

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