Positive Thinking

Positive thinking
Positive Thinking
Train Your Mind For
Success And
Happiness
Francisco Bujan
www.vitalcoaching.com
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ontents
!ntro """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""#$
Part # % Mind d&namics""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""#'
What is self talk and how to make it work for you?____________ 14
Mind sets ____________________________________________ 15
ow ins!iration and influences reach you ___________________ 1"
What are your core #eliefs ______________________________ 1$
%houghts& emotions and feelings__________________________ '(
What is a feeling? _____________________________________ ''
What is your mindsca!e ________________________________ '4
)our em!owering networks______________________________ '5
*+ll #e direct& okay? ____________________________________ ',
%he secret of success and ha!!iness_______________________ -(
.very action generates a result___________________________ -'
)our /uest ___________________________________________ -4
What is a negative emotion? _____________________________ -,
%his is a #attle________________________________________ -"
ow to em#race change and renewal ______________________ -$
What to do if you feel lack of su!!ort ______________________ 41
a!!iness is a choice0 __________________________________ 4-
a!!iness is your new territory___________________________ 4,
)our s!irit is connected _________________________________ 41
What is your 2niversal *dentity ___________________________ 4$
ow to stand #etween your !ast and your future _____________ 5(
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Part $ ( Power)ul strategies to shi)t &our mind set """"""""*#
3onnect with !ositive streams____________________________ 5'
Wake u! your mind !ower_______________________________ 55
Protect your mind s!ace ________________________________ 5,
.nergi4e your #eing____________________________________ 5"
5ove& res!ect and !ositive outlook on life ___________________ 51
6et rid of what holds you #ack ___________________________ ,(
What to do first when you are tra!!ed in a negative mind set ___ ,,
%ackle the real challenge________________________________ ,1
Part ' ( +egative thoughts, ( -h&, """""""""""""""""""./
What is negative thinking? ______________________________ "(
7egative thinking as !ositive force ________________________ "1
%he 8!ositive !ower8 #ehind negative thinking _______________ "4
Why it ha!!ens _______________________________________ "$
Why it hurts you ______________________________________ 1(
9olving your real challenge ______________________________ 11
Part 0 ( Power d&namics """"""""""""""""""""""""""""10
ow to strengthen your emotional foundation _______________ 15
Power kick ___________________________________________ 11
What is your emotional foundation? _______________________ 1$
:ind your !ower_______________________________________ $'
ow to #uild u! con/uering !ower ________________________ $4
11 ste!s to find your con/uering !ower ____________________ $,
What is the challenge? _________________________________ $1
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Wake u! your !ersonal !ower___________________________ 1('
)ou are the master of your mind_________________________ 1(5
Master your nature link ________________________________ 1($
6aining #ack control over what is yours ___________________ 11'
Where to start _______________________________________ 114
;re you resisting !ower?_______________________________ 115
2nleash your !ower___________________________________ 111
3lear your mind channels ______________________________ 1'(
5et your instincts do the work___________________________ 1''
:ind your destiny_____________________________________ 1'5
5 key mind !owers ___________________________________ 1',
%y!es of !ower ______________________________________ 1'$
%y!es of !ersonal !ower _______________________________ 1-'
:reedom of thought___________________________________ 1-5
<alues and ethics ____________________________________ 1-1
Power definition______________________________________ 14(
Part * ( Power 2uilding """"""""""""""""""""""""""""#0'
6aining #ack control over what is yours ___________________ 144
Personal !ower areas _________________________________ 145
8;greed8 transfers of !ower ____________________________ 14,
Power transfer_______________________________________ 14"
What is your #alance of !ower? _________________________ 141
; #asic human right __________________________________ 14$
Where to start? ______________________________________ 15(
Power of thoughts and emotions _________________________ 151
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Part . ( Mind per)ormance d&namics """"""""""""""""""#*$
ow to increase your mind !ower ________________________ 15-
=es!ond to challenges_________________________________ 155
Wake u! your con/uering !ower_________________________ 15,
>are to fight ________________________________________ 15"
2nleash your will !ower _______________________________ 151
:ocus ______________________________________________ 15$
%otal synergy________________________________________ 1,(
=emove resistances___________________________________ 1,1
Peri!heral vision _____________________________________ 1,'
:ocus on what thrills you_______________________________ 1,-
?ody !ower _________________________________________ 1,4
)our training ground __________________________________ 1,5
Part 3 ( Your per)ormance power weapons """""""""""""#..
.motional fuel _______________________________________ 1,"
Will !ower __________________________________________ 1"(
3on/uering !ower ____________________________________ 1"1
9urvival drive _______________________________________ 1"'
:ocus only on what thrills you ___________________________ 1"-
?est way to !re!are yourself____________________________ 1"5
%he secret door to your mind ___________________________ 1",
6ive rhythm to your day _______________________________ 1""
Making the right choices _______________________________ 1"1
;ction is life0 ________________________________________ 1"$
Part 1 % #4 power)ul mind training techni5ues"""""""""""#14
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;ctive self talk @ techni/ue _____________________________ 111
Will !ower concentration @ techni/ue _____________________ 114
<ictory drill @ techni/ue________________________________ 11"
;ssertive determination @ techni/ue ______________________ 1$1
%otal emotional freedom @ techni/ue _____________________ 1$-
Power vision @ techni/ue_______________________________ 1$,
*nstant effective strategy @ techni/ue_____________________ 1$1
>ynamic synergy #uilding @ techni/ue ____________________ '((
9ynchroni4ed action - techni/ue _________________________ '('
Part / ( 6e& strategies to get what &ou want """""""""""$40
ow to get eAactly what you want _______________________ '(5
ow to use challenges to !roBect yourself forward ___________ '("
*f you #ang your head against a wall& sto! right now0 ________ '(1
9ynergi4e0 __________________________________________ '($
%rust and go with the flow______________________________ '1(
*ntegrating new skills _________________________________ '11
Cum!ing without a safety net ___________________________ '1'
7o training0 Cust life0__________________________________ '1-
Master your control wea!on ____________________________ '14
?e aware of side tracks ________________________________ '15
>on+t miss your reality check0___________________________ '1,
2nhook yourself from the !ast __________________________ '1"
2se your !ower ______________________________________ '11
Part #4 ( 7se &our mind power to create happiness """"""$#/
%he secret of ha!!iness________________________________ ''(
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)our /uest __________________________________________ '''
%his is a #attle_______________________________________ ''-
ow to #e ha!!y on the long term _______________________ ''5
igh eA!ectations ____________________________________ '',
3om!etition #etween friends____________________________ ''1
3om!eting for success and ha!!iness_____________________ '-1
What are negative !roBections?__________________________ '--
Part ## ( 8eal li)e e9amples with 2est strategies """"""""$'*
7egative thinking triggers ______________________________ '-,
ow to shift your !ower level ___________________________ '4(
5ife vision __________________________________________ '44
9ocial life___________________________________________ '45
?usiness and !rofessional success _______________________ '4"
5ove life____________________________________________ '4$
:amily eA!ectations___________________________________ '51
?ody ______________________________________________ '5-
:oreign country ______________________________________ '55
3onfidence ga! ______________________________________ '5"
9ense of connectedness _______________________________ '51
* want to #e more !ositive _____________________________ ',(
.nBoy life more ______________________________________ ','
)ou want a solution? __________________________________ ',-
ow do you find inner security and inner !eace? ____________ ',4
*f you are afraid______________________________________ ',5
*f you feel angry with everything ________________________ ',,
*f you feel em!ty inside________________________________ ',"
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*f you feel isolated____________________________________ ',$
* had difficult eA!eriences in the !ast _____________________ '"(
* have lots of negativity in me___________________________ '"1
* hesitate too much ___________________________________ '"'
* wish * had a !artner _________________________________ '"-
* lack energy ________________________________________ '"4
What am * doing with my life? __________________________ '"5
:eel stacked0 ________________________________________ '""
ow do * make this #roken record sto!?___________________ '"$
Part #$ ( Your happiness tools"""""""""""""""""""""""$1#
*t is time for change __________________________________ '1'
=emove o#stacles ____________________________________ '1-
Master your life !ower_________________________________ '15
Duest for #eauty and harmony __________________________ '1"
3on/uering !ower ____________________________________ '1$
What are the s!onsors of your ha!!iness? _________________ '$'
ere is an eAam!leE music creates Boy ____________________ '$-
Where to start? ______________________________________ '$,
7othing can sto! you__________________________________ '$"
Wake u! you ha!!iness skills ___________________________ '$$
.motional freedom ___________________________________ -((
, easy ste!s to esta#lish a new !ositive ha#it in your life______ -('
Part #' ( 6e& tactics to wake up &our happiness """""""""'43
6et rid of the victim role _______________________________ -(1
3onnect with !ositive sources of ins!iration ________________ -($
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3onnect with !ositive streams___________________________ -14
Wake u! your mind !ower______________________________ -1"
Protect your mind s!ace _______________________________ -1$
.nergi4e your #eing___________________________________ -'1
5ove& res!ect and !ositive outlook on life __________________ -''
9earch for meaning ___________________________________ -'4
6et rid of what holds you #ack __________________________ -'5
3onnect with your destiny______________________________ -',
Positive mind sets and values ___________________________ -'"
Master your connection with others_______________________ -'$
9tay awake and alert0 _________________________________ --(
What to do first when you are tra!!ed in a negative mind set __ --1
ow to influence your thoughts__________________________ --'
%ackle the real challenge_______________________________ ---
Part #0 ( hange d&namics """""""""""""""""""""""""''0
3hange dynamics ____________________________________ --5
ow to shift mind sets_________________________________ --"
.very action generates a result__________________________ --$
Mind conditioning ____________________________________ -41
- life !owers ________________________________________ -4-
=enewal !ower ______________________________________ -4,
=econditioning your environment ________________________ -4"
%he dangers of negative attention________________________ -5(
ow to educate your environment _______________________ -5'
Where to go neAt_____________________________________ -54
What is the challenge? ________________________________ -5,
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Who should decide?___________________________________ -51
What is your source of ins!iration? _______________________ -,(
Why invest in yourself? ________________________________ -,'
Part #* ( How to change &our li)e in these situations """""'.*
* am not ha!!y right now #ut * don+t know where to start _____ -,,
3hange Bo# _________________________________________ -,$
3hange my life ______________________________________ -"(
3hange my life @ * don+t know where to start _______________ -"1
3hange my life style __________________________________ -"'
3hange something in me_______________________________ -"-
3hange the way * act _________________________________ -"5
3hange the way * act @ * need to free myself first ___________ -",
3hange my diet @ * don+t know where to start ______________ -"1
3lear clutter_________________________________________ -1(
3lear the !ast _______________________________________ -1-
:ind a new career ____________________________________ -15
:ind answers ________________________________________ -1,
6et fit @ * don+t have time______________________________ -1"
6et rid of an addiction @ * can+t take action ________________ -11
* need to free myself first ______________________________ -1$
* would like to move __________________________________ -$(
3hange house @ * am not sure of my neAt move ____________ -$1
=enewal !ower ______________________________________ -$'
9omething has to change ______________________________ -$,
9omething is resisting in me ____________________________ -$"
%ake an im!ortant decision _____________________________ -$1
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Part #. % 3 ke& steps to change &our li)e """""""""""""""'//
:ree your energy_____________________________________ 4((
*dentify and eliminate to! resistances_____________________ 4('
*dentify and focus on !riority num#er one _________________ 4(5
?uild u! your confidence and emotional fuel________________ 4("
%ake action _________________________________________ 4($
3hoose an eAciting conteAt _____________________________ 411
onclusion """"""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""0#$
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!ntro
%he goal of this e-#ook is to give you effective strategies to em!ower
your mind and #uild u! !ositive mind sets. *t is as well to hel! you
connect with your natural inner sources of ha!!iness.
)ou canFt !rotect your mind s!ace without !ower.
%his e-#ook will give you key strategies and energy to take ste!s.
* cover as wellE
1 %he dynamics of change and how to invite renewal in your life.
2 Positive thinking and how you can manifest it.
3 Personal !ower dynamics and hot to ta! into your natural
sources of !ower.
4 Mind !erformance.
%ake a minute to !rint this #ook.
aving is in front of your eyes will hel! you stay focused0
6ood luck and stay in touch
vitalcoach
www.vitalcoaching.co
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Part # % Mind
d&namics
%he first ste! is to understand some #asic dynamics a#out your mind.
)our mind is a com!leA architecture of thoughts& feelings& emotions
and so much more.
?efore you even design a strategy or take action& you must see the
underlying dynamics of your mind so that you can measure and
!erceive eAactly the im!act of your actions& attitudes and #ehaviors.
%he goal is to find out where and how you can im!act over
what ha!!ens in this inner s!ace.
*n the neAt few !ages * will descri#e some of the key
mechanisms which direct the way you think and the way you feel.
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-hat is sel) talk and how to
make it work )or &ou,
9elf talk is the story you tell yourself.
When you are tra!!ed in negative thinking loo!s& your self talk is a
cycle of thoughts which !ulls you down into s!irals of limiting #eliefs.
*f you are in a !ositive mind set& self talk is em!owering.
9elf talk is a stream of inner activity you can consciously influence
and shift if you want to.
%he way you think has a massive im!act on the way you !erform in
life.
9elf talk is the result of a conditioning.
.very time you are confronted with a given situation in life& you will
create a mind set which is your Gres!onseH to that situation.
7ow& your mind stores memories& feelings& thoughts and emotions.
When you are confronted with the same situation again& you
Gcall #ackH the corres!onding mind set.
:or instance& you have a given mind set for when you wake u! in the
morning.
)ou have another mind set when you have a chat with a friend.
)ou have another mind set for s!orts and another one for romance.
9elf talk is more than a thought.
*t is a whole succession of thoughts.
*t is a story you tell yourself.
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Mind sets
)ou need to reali4e one thingE thoughts ha!!en within a mind set.
; thought is never an Gisolated eventH in you.
*t is !art of a vaster stream you can call your mind set.
; mind set is an inner architecture.
*t is the sum of your thinking and emotional ha#its.
When you are in a given life situation& you will tend to react to it in
the same way over and over again.
Why is that?
?ecause your mind architecture tends to stay the same.
)ou tend to create emotional and thinking ha#its and sim!ly kee! on
re!roducing them.
%his is conditioning.
When you are faced with a given life situation for the first time& you
will create a mind set associated with that situation.
9u!!ose you go one day for a walk in nature.
)ou clim# to a hill.
*t is misty and suddenly the sky clears u!.
)ou get a fresh wind #lowing in your face and you feel overwhelmed
#y the #eauty of the landsca!e.
)our thoughts and emotions at that moment will create a memory.
%his memory is more than a 8sus!ended !icture8 somewhere in your
!ast.
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*t is a whole set of thoughts& emotions and feelings.
*n fact& you will tend to associate hills with the !ositive mind set you
eA!erienced that day.
%his mind set will stay im!rinted in you unless it is re!laced #y a
new one.
%his is conditioning.
3onditioning ha!!ens through work and education as well.
*t ha!!ens through the interaction you have with others.
*n a life time& your mind #uilds u! millions of mind !atterns Ithoughts&
feelings and emotionsJ.
; conditioning is an o!en and well known !ath in the landsca!e of your
mind.
*t is a !ath you traveled #efore.
*t is a thinking and emotional ha#it.
%his ha#it will stay the same unless you consciously re!rogram
yourself or go through new eA!eriences.
*f you want to re!rogram your mind& you need to understand how you
can shift a mind set and manifest a new one.
)ou want to create a new conditioning.
)ou need new thoughts and emotions.
%he idea is to shift what you donFt want or no longer need.
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How inspiration and
in)luences reach &ou
)our mind is not an isolated entity.
)ou are #om#arded daily #y millions of im!ressions.
9ome of these im!ressions are visi#le.
%hey are what you read& what you hear and anything else you
!erceive.
*m!ressions reach you through your !hysical senses or through your
su#tle senses.
)our sense of feeling for instance is an inner sense of touch.
*t is your a#ility to create an im!ression out of a com#ination of
energies im!acting on your mind.
)our mind generates feelings and im!ressions all the time.
)ou are aware of some of these im!ressions.
9ome other im!ressions sim!ly im!act on your mind without you
even #eing aware of it.
*ns!iration is a su#tle& invisi#le stream of energy.
When you are ins!ired you feel an inner drive or force which
#rings you to take action.
%he word Gins!irationH is Gin @ s!irationH.
5iterally& it means Gtaking the s!irit inH.
)ou are ins!ired all the time.
%here is always some form of influence im!acting on your mind.
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%ake the eAam!le of a cloud of #irds.
When they fly& you can always see the larger #ody they are in.
7ow& every individual #ird is in its own world as well.
%he #irds do not !erceive the larger GentityH of their grou! #ut when
you look at them from the distance& you can see some form of
cohesion or connection #etween them.
.ven when you are sitting and doing nothing& your mind is
still following a stream of ins!iration.
%here might #e no action or desire involved& you are still #eing
!ermeated #y a flow of life force& right?
)ou are alive0
%his G#eing aliveH means that there are whole streams of thoughts&
emotions and feelings naturally ha!!ening in your mind.
.Aternal sources of ins!iration do im!act on your mind.
9u!!ose you have an u!lifting chat with someone you like& you will
naturally feel ha!!y and energi4ed.
5istening to the news& walking through a #usy street& surfing the
net& having a drink in a cafK& !laying with your children are all
activities which will leave an emotional #lue !rint on your mind.
;nything which ha!!ens in your environment will influence you in one
way or another.
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-hat are &our core 2elie)s
)our thinking is structured in various layers.
%he surface thoughts are the ones you are not really attached to.
%hey come and go.
3ore #eliefs are dee!er than that.
%hey are your inner values and the Ginner knowledgeH you are really
attached to.
)our core #eliefs are what you want to tackle when you want to shift
from negative mind sets to !ositive mind sets.
)our core #eliefs are the foundation thoughts of your mind.
*n your self talk& your core #eliefs are like miles stones.
%hey are the crossing !oints.
%hey are the decision making areas.
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Thoughts: emotions and )eelings
%houghts& emotions and feelings are waves on the surface of your
mind.
When you feel a certain emotion& what you !erceive is only the visi#le
!art of a dee!er reality.
%houghts& emotions and feelings are mind !atterns.
Part of what ha!!ens in your mind is totally invisi#le to your
awareness.
%he goal is to eA!and your awareness and see the underlying
dynamics #ehind your thoughts.
Lnce you understand how these thoughts work and how they are
generated& it is much easier to shift them or generate new ones.
%houghts are not isolated.
%hey are com#ined with a set of emotions& feelings and #eliefs.
%houghts& #eliefs& emotions& feelings and energy level create what we
call a mind set.
; mind set is an inner architecture.
; mind set will generate a given ty!e of emotions and thoughts.
9u!!ose you wake u! one 9unday morning and feel a sudden sense of
inner freedom.
)ou will smile and feel some Boy.
%hese are emotions.
;t the same time& you will start thinking a#out your day and decide to
call some friends.
%hese are thoughts.
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)ou might feel as well energi4ed in this early morning.
)ou take a fresh shower and feel high on an energy level.
;ll these elements are your 9unday morningFs mind set.
;ny moment in your life has a mind set.
9ometimes you !erceive emotions.
9ometimes you are aware of a feeling.
;nother time you catch yourself making !lans for the
future. %hese are all Gvisi#le as!ectsH of your mind set.
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-hat is a )eeling,
:eelings are im!ressions on the surface of your mind.
)our sense of feeling is your a#ility to !erceive invisi#le im!ressions.
; feeling is the result of an energy im!acting on the surface of your
mind.
)ou are #om#arded #y millions of im!ressions daily.
9ome of these im!ressions touch you through your !hysical senses.
9ome other im!ressions touch you through your !sychic senses.
)our sense of feeling is your sense of inner touch.
*f you touch an o#Bect& your sense of touch will transmit information
a#out this o#Bect.
)our sense of touch will inter!ret matter and think elements likeE
wood& metal& flesh& cold& warm& etc.
%his is your sense of touch.
:eelings work in the same wayE a feeling is an im!ression which
a!!ears in the surface of your mind.
9u!!ose you go downtown and listen to some street musicians.
%he music and the atmos!here will im!act on your mind and generate
a series of feelings.
When you hear the music& this might wake u! a sense of Boy for
instance.
%his feeling is the result of a 8message8 im!acting on the surface of
your mind.
%his feeling ha!!ens #ecause there is an interactionE you and a
musician.
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)ou can get a feeling without having any visi#le message im!acting
through your !hysical senses.
)ou can for instance wake u! in the morning with a strange
im!ression.
)our !syche !erceives millions of informations a day.
; large !ortion of this information comes from your environment.
Lther feelings can wake u! through different channels and only a
!ortion of these channels are visi#le.
;ny state of mind has a set of feelings associated with it.
.ven when you are /uiet& you are still feeling something.
)ou sim!ly are unaware of it.
%he term im!ression is defined asE
;-hat sta&s in some2od&<s mind= a lasting e))ect: opinion: or
mental image.>
%his definition invokes this idea of im!act or inner touch.
9ome im!ressions can truly come from outside of your mind
while others are the result of your inner 8!rocessing8.
)our mind is !rocessing millions of !erce!tions daily.
)ou are only aware of a small fraction of them.
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-hat is &our mindscape
)our mindsca!e is your mind set.
*f someone asks you 8What do you feel?8& you will look inwards and
come with a series of im!ressions.
)our mindsca!e is your inner territory.
*t is all these emotions and thoughts you are used to.
)ou tend to identify yourself with your mind s!ace.
)ou will have a system of core #eliefs a#out who you are and what you
do on this !lanet.
)ou have as well memories& records of what ha!!ened in the !ast.
%hese memories are like !ictures on the surface of your mind.
.very memory is associated with a s!ecific set of emotions and
thoughts.
.veryone has a different mindsca!e.
)ours is uni/ue and you go on designing it daily.
)ou are the one who has the greatest influence over the inner territory
of your mind.
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Your empowering networks
Lne of the elements which give you a strong sense of !ower and
su!!ort is any network you #elong to.
:or instance if you work within an organi4ation& this network will
im!act on your mind and life.
)our family is a network.
)our friends re!resent a network.
When you feel isolated& you usually miss a connection with a network.
; network is a community as well.
)ou can feel attuned with a Gmusical styleH for instance.
)ou can #e a Gi! o!H fan for instance.
%his will connect you with a given network and ins!ire your actions&
thoughts and #eliefs.
*n fact& it will give you a mind set you can identify yourself to.
*f you work within an organi4ation& the culture of this organi4ation
will as well have a similar ty!e of in!ut.
7etworks can #e em!owering.
%hey can as well #e limiting de!ending on the way you stand in them
and the role they !lay in your life.
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!<ll 2e direct: oka&,
What * am a#out to say is radical. *t is different than anything you
heard #eforeE
When you are unha!!y& you #ecome your worst enemy0
Why is that?
?ecause you go into the 8nurturing8 mode.
)ou acce!t yourself the way you are and !roBect your !ro#lems
outwardly.
When you are unha!!y& you often end u! com!laining a#out your
situation endlessly.
)ou talk a#out your !ro#lems day after day and #y doing so& you
reinforce negative mind sets.
When you kee! on feeding these negative thoughts& you stimulate the
cycle of limiting #eliefs and strengthen the 8victim role8 in you.
*f you are in this situation& sto!000
9to! right now0
* won+t take ste!s for you.
Why?
?ecause it is your Bo#.
*t is your #attle000
What * can do though& is first send you this wake u! call and second&
give you effective and !owerful strategies to deal with this.
*f you could see what * see right now& you would kick yourself in the
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5ife is short0
*f you wait one more day& there are good chances that you won+t ever
reach what you are looking for.
)ou !resent mind set !ulls you down.
%here are a series of mistakes you are doing right now.
ere is what * know you might #e doing wrongE
1 Accepting &oursel) and where &ou are at right now
9im!le0 >on+t. %he moment you hate your life enough& that+s
the moment you decide to do something a#out it. )our greatest
mistake would #e to acce!t a state of de!ression or
unha!!iness as your identity.
2 Believing someone else can do it )or &ou?
%hat+s another #ig lie. 7o#ody can do it for you. %he moment
you reali4e this& you sto! waiting and start taking action.
3 ;!t<s 2ecause o) m& past>.
*t+s not000 )our mind is your mind. )ou can shift the way you see
yourself. 2se your !ast as a !latform to !roBect yourself into
your future& no matter what you !ast is. )ou have no eAcuse0
4 Hiding &oursel) 2ehind sel) destructive 2elie)s?
*t+s safe& aye? When you tell everyone you are worth nothing&
this is !laying safe. )ou make sure no one will challenge you&
right? 9elf limiting #eliefs are self destructive !atterns. .very
time you use one& you destroy your life.
5 @njo&ing negative attention?
What do you think you are doing? * know you feel nurtured #y
other+s negative attention. %he truth is that taking the victim role
!uts you down over and over again.
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1 @m2racing the esthetic o) darkness.
)ou #elieve that #eing 8dark8 is cool? *t+s not. >arkness is not
your identity.
* know that what * am saying is tough.
%he truth is that * don+t see anything which needs to #e fed
or nurtured in your unha!!iness.
)ou are tolerating and allowing !iles of negative emotions to invade
your life and your mind.
Why?
?ecause !art of you is still on the Gloser+s !athH.
* see you as a winner0
%he moment you take the decision to #e one& you start moving
towards the !lace you would like to #e in.
%he only thing * will feed in you is your inner strength and !ower.
What * want to do is destroy any negative !resent mind set right now.
*f you are unha!!y right now& * #elieve you have #een making a #ig
mistake and those around you have #een comforting you with that.
*f you are on a !ath to self destruction& you are the one who
decides what ha!!ens neAt.
* am here to challenge you and hel! you shift your !resent mind set.
%his is the task of this e-#ook.
*f you live in a landsca!e of negative feelings and #elieve that this is
all there is& *+ll kee! #om#arding you until you do something a#out it
and reali4e that another story can #e written right now.
*t is easy for me0
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Positive thinking
?elieve me& unless you take a ste!& * won+t sto!.
=ight now& you are my 8victim8.
* will challenge and !ursue you until you wake u!.
* will #e relentless and merciless.
%he only thing * am here to nurture is your inner !ower.
%his is easy for me& right?
* heard enough com!laints from !eo!le claiming they had no control
over their lives.
* heard enough self !ity discourses.
*t+s either you wake u! right now and take a ste! or *+ll come after
you0
)ou won+t esca!e& no matter how much you hide.
* know your real !otential and so do you0
*t is time to shift0
>onFt wait one more day0 Wake
u! to your true identity0
* know it takes focus and courage.
)our new way starts right here& right now0
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The secret o) success and
happiness
5ife is a #attle.
When you are unha!!y& you are losing this #attle.
What makes you ha!!y is energy.
*t is the energy which flows in your mind and life.
When you feel unha!!y& you are low on energy.
)ou are low on energy #ecause you did not master yet effective way of
!rotecting your mind s!ace and finding key sources of !ower and
energy in and around you.
*f you stay low on energy for a long !eriod of time& you go into states
of de!ression.
%he idea is to recon/uer your mind territory.
* know this might sur!rise you #ut the only way to #e ha!!y is to get
your full !ower #ack.
)our life is under attack.
*f you feel de!leted& it is #ecause life force is not circulating in you
or is running out of you.
%he architecture of your mind is incom!lete and you want to ad !illars
of !ower and strength.
)ou want to con/uer the territory of your eAistence.
%his is a fight.
*t is a fight for !ower.
)ou are in charge0
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Positive thinking
>o you reali4e this?
)ou are the master of your eAistence.
)ou are su!!osed to own your life.
%he goal is sim!leE get your full !ower
#ack. Power is what !rotects your mind.
*t is your emotional foundation.
%he more !ower you have& the stronger you feel.
*f you feel strong and still unha!!y& this means that the neAt /uality
you need is #liss& !leasure& love or ha!!iness.
%hese are energies0
%hey are mind sets.
%he way to go is to master these energies and know how to
manifest them in your life.
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@ver& action generates a result
9u!!ose you stay at home a whole day.
)ou will naturally miss fresh air.
%he moment you o!en the windows and take a cou!le of dee! #reaths&
you invite life force in your #ody.
%his sounds sim!le& right?
9o& why arenFt you doing it?
)es0 =ight now.
)ou can stand u!.
L!en the windows and #reathe dee!ly a few
times. 3lose your eyes and o#serve your reaction.
%his ste! can sound like an insignificant
ste!. *t is only one dro!& right?
Lne ste! is a first ste!. %his
is how a Bourney starts.
*f you want to travel somewhere& you always need to start with a first
ste!.
7o one #ut you can take that ste!.
=ight now& * could descri#e a series of actions which would make you
very unha!!y within 41 hours.
*t is easyE
1 Cust !ick u! the !hone and start swearing at someone.
2 7eAt ste!? .at only Bunk food for two days.
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1 ;fter that& no #ody care. >onFt wash your hands or your face for
two days.
%he list can go on0
*n the same way * could descri#e you a series of actions which would
make you ha!!yE
1 .ating /uality food.
2 .Aciting goals for your day.
3 Meaningful contact with some good friends.
4 .ntertainment.
5 9ome eAercise.
6 .tc.
)our key to ha!!iness is a#out thoughts& emotions& actions and
attitudes.
What makes you truly ha!!y is when you live within an eAciting
stream of ins!iration which gives you !ower& vision and action lines.
a!!iness is a#out the s!irit your live in.
)ou can decide right now to em#race the values of ha!!inessE love&
!assion& eAcitement& !ower& etc.
What would sto! you from em#racing these values?
What is the force which can kee! you from wanting more of these
/ualities and manifesting them in your life?
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Positive thinking
Your 5uest
a!!iness is a life long /uest.
*f you have #een in a state of low energy or ins!iration& semi
de!ression or easily touched #y negative emotions& you must
wonder how to come out of it.
What eAactly is missing?
What * have to say is radical.
* will #e direct.
My goal is not to nurture negative emotions.
My goal is to give you a !ower kick.
* would like to shake you and give you some essential tools to
understand what is ha!!ening in you.
a!!iness ha!!ens in the mind& right?
*t has to do with what goes on in your thoughts and emotions.
)our mind is a territory.
When you are ha!!y& life flows.
*t is #alanced.
)ou feel good.
When you are unha!!y& your mind is invaded #y negative emotions
and feelings.
)es0 *t is an invasion.
)our mind is a territory and something ha!!ens in it you canFt really
control.
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%he goal is to gain #ack control of what ha!!ens in
it. )our mind is your territory.
*f itFs your territory& how come you seem to have so little influence
over it?
>o you reali4e that ha!!iness is a !ath of life mastery?
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Positive thinking
-hat is a negative emotion,
; negative emotion is a !attern. *t
is a channel for a ty!e of energy. *t
is a !attern or a frame.
*n other words& it is and inner architecture.
Why did you choose this !attern?
)ou really didnFt. *t
is a conditioning.
What you want is a different conditioning.
)ou want another story in your mind.
)ou want to wake u! to a new reality and an a!!roach which frees you
from negative states of mind.
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Positive thinking
This is a 2attle
a!!iness is your territory.
%his is why ha!!iness #uilding is a #attle.
* am not here to hel! you nurture your !ast or even your wounds.
9ure you can look at them.
9ure you can acce!t the way things are.
7ow& what * see are only emotions.
%hese emotions are not your identity.
%hey are waves on the surface of your mind.
%houghts and emotions are only waves on the surface of your mind.
%here is a dee!er identity in your which is formless.
*t is a source of !ower and life force.
%his is your fire.
%his is the !lace from where new ins!iration wakes u! now.
When you are #orn& your mind is virgin.
)ou start !icking u! !atterns from your environment.
*f your mother tongue is .nglish& .nglish words will create the frames
of your mind.
*f you first s!oke 9!anish& itFs 9!anish which will #e the core of your
#eing.
Words are frames.
;ny emotion you encounter in your childhood leaves a !attern.
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*t leaves a #lue !rint. ;n
emotion is like a !ath.
)ou travel it once.
%hen you travel it again. )ou
#ecome familiar with it.
9oon& your mind #ecomes familiar with this !ath.
*t #ecomes an esta#lished !attern in your mind.
)ou are !rogrammed& conditioned to res!ond to a given situation in a
very s!ecific way.
*f you tend to #e unha!!y& you will get familiar with emotions like
loneliness or sadness.
;fter a while& you identify yourself with them.
%hey #ecome the key frames in your mind.
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How to em2race change
and renewal
*Fll #e direct& okay?
*f you are unha!!y right now& and want to #e ha!!y in the future& you
need to invite change and renewal in your life.
)ou need to create s!ace in your mind so that a new story can #e
#uilt.
ow do you do that?
?y using what we call renewal !ower.
=enewal !ower is your a#ility to change.
%he mind is not a fiAed set.
*t has the a#ility to #e in constant evolution.
%here is a force in you whose aim is to refresh and change your mind.
*t is an agent of change.
*f you no longer want your mind set& what you need to do is connect
with your renewal !ower.
Power?
)es0 Power0
%he time of comforting yourself within your known limits is over.
*tFs time to show your face to the sun.
%o tell you the truth& * donFt know what force !ut you in a challenging
situation #ut there #ut its reign is over.
)our mind is your territory and a new force is waking u! in you.
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Positive thinking
*t is your renewal !ower.
7o need to #e scared.
=elaA and enBoy.
%his is what you will do now for the rest of your
life. )ou deserve ha!!iness.
)ou deserve Boy and !leasure in your eAistence.
)our #eing has a #asic human right to feel #lessed #y every day you
will live from now on.
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Positive thinking
-hat to do i) &ou )eel lack o)
support
uman connections are magical.
)ou talk to someone.
*t makes you ha!!y. =ight?
What makes you ha!!y is eAchange of life force.
When you communicate with someone Iin whatever formJ& there is a
flow of energy which is activated in you.
5ove& s!eech& Boy& emotions.
Whatever that is& it sim!ly flows through your system and #rings a
refreshing stream of life in you.
When you are isolated.
%his eAchange tends to sto!.
*f you did not get enough love during your childhood& you sim!ly
missed on this flow of life force and love.
%his creates an inner emotional ga! where you sim!ly feel invaded and
un!rotected.
%he same ha!!ens if you never had a relationshi!& or if you went
through a heavy #reak u!.
%here are all sorts of triggers in life which create energy ga!s in
your mind.
%hese negative states of mind are nothing #ut a lack of
energy eAchange.
*f this is where you are at now& * know eAactly how you feel.
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* am sorry if you did suffer in the
!ast. %his time of suffering is over.
7ew doors are o!ening right now in your life.
What you did not get from life& friends& family or !artner is still
an invisi#le !otential in you.
)our resources are still in you ready to #urst any time.
Wake u! your ha!!iness channels again.
)our mind is a su#tle architecture and you want a get a #oost of !ower
and fresh energy.
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Happiness is a choice?
*t is true0
a!!iness is a choice0
%rust this force and master it.
When you decide to move on& you literally die to your !ast. )our
!ast was this comfort 4one you did #uild for many years. *t
#ecame a landsca!e of emotions that your recogni4e very well. *f
you come out of a cave& what do you see? 9unlight0
%he contact with sunlight can actually scare you off.
%he sun hitting your eyes can #e a traumatic eA!erience if you have
#een living in the dark for a long time.
)ou can either retreat in fear or move forward and take the ste!.
%he moment you take the ste!& you do face a new environment.
*t is like changing home.
)ou need to get familiar with it.
)ou leave #ehind what you used to call your identity
7ew emotions.
; new mind set.
; new home0
3hange is stressful.
7o matter how you look at it.
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Positive thinking
3hange re/uires investment and energy.
)ou can destroy negative memories #y invoking and using this inner
sense of renewal which connects you with your future and destiny line.
)ou annihilate the !ower that negative memories or eA!eriences used
to have over you.
=ight now& you are taking charge of your emotions and #uilding u! a
new energy su!!ort system in your #eing.
)ou wake u! to a new set of emotions which are the emotions of Boy&
!ower& ha!!iness love and success.
>o any of these terms hurt your ears?
.ven if they do& reali4e that right now& you have no choice.
%his #ook you #ought is a contract with yourself.
*t is a commitment.
*t is a decision.
*t is an initiation into a new era of your eAistence.
)ou are no longer alone.
What you thought was an isolated #eing is now connected with a
larger vaster reality.
;ny form of change creates stress on your #eing.
Why is that?
?ecause you shift your mind set.
Lld frames are destroyed or dissolved and new ones are #eing #uilt.
%his is a movement into your future.
3an you see that?
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Positive thinking
)ou own your ha!!iness.
*t is not something any one can take away from you #ecause it is
em#edded in !ower and strong frames in your mind.
a!!iness channels o!en new lines of energy in your #eing.
*n fact you dare to take these tools in your hands.
%he art of ha!!iness is the art of mani!ulating energies.
*t is the art of making conscious choices a#out what you want to have
in your mind.
%o make these choices& you are given eAtra !ower.
*t is a !ower kick.
*t is this eAtra resource of energy which wakes u! in you and canFt #e
sto!!ed.
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Happiness is &our new territor&
)ou want to get familiar with this new inner landsca!e.
What you do with it does no matter.
What shifts is the way you feel
inside. 5ife !ower is !recious.
)ou remove anything which sto!s life force from flowingE fears& dou#ts
and hesitations are gone.
)our new values are trust and confidence.
Why?
?ecause you Bust woke u! to the reali4ation that you know eAactly how
to do it.
WhatFs the difference?
)ou dare0
)ou dare to #e yourself.
What is yourself?
*t is not your car& your Bo#& your house or even your thoughts.
%hese are all tem!orary vehicles.
)ou could shift one for the other.
G)ourselfH is what you find if you travel to a new country.
G)ourselfH is your essence.
*t is your s!irit.
*t is your life force and life !ower.
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Positive thinking
)ou could take off right now and live in the forest for the rest of your
life& your s!irit would not die.
)ou would stay alive.
;lmost a miracle0
)ou would wake u! your survival instincts and find ways of feeding
yourself.
)ou would rediscover your link to nature.
*n other terms& you would #uild a new mind set.
)our mind set is not your essence.
*t is only a tem!orary vehicle.
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Positive thinking
Your spirit is connected
%his is really good news.
9ure& getting validation from others can hel! #ut it is no longer needed
for ha!!iness.
)ou can #e !erfectly ha!!y with or without others.
Why is that?
?ecause you live in a sea of consciousness you are connected to all the
time.
)our life force is not an isolated stream of energy.
)our life force is a stream of energy within a much vaster reality.
)ou are connected.
)our Boy is !art of a vaster Boy.
)our life is always connected.
7o matter how far you think you are.
;s a human #eing& you might sometimes feel isolated from
others& from your family or friends.
owever& the truth is that you are never alone.
.ven when you think you are.
5ife is an active stream of energy and !ower.
%his stream is active since the #eginning of creation.
umankind is !art of that stream and you are !art of humankind.
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Positive thinking
-hat is &our 7niversal !dentit&
%his is where you go to.
%he moment you see yourself as a human #eing on this #lue
!lanet& you reali4e your universal identity.
%his is literally your !lace in the cosmos.
We are a solar system.
We are within a galaAy amongst millions of other galaAies.
.ven when you are #usy dealing with the details of your daily life&
a !art of you is still aware of this vaster reality.
; s!ark of !leasure in you im!acts on your environment.
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Positive thinking
How to stand 2etween &our
past and &our )uture
)our mind is !acked with memories.
Memories are minute mind !atterns.
%hey are accumulated emotions which stay in your mind.
When you try to move into your future and connect with !ower and
ha!!iness you need an eAtra energy to free yourself from !ast
!atterns you no longer need.
%he only way to do that is to use your renewal !ower.
)ou need to delete the negative !atterns in you and recreate new
ones.
%his ha!!ens naturally.
%he way to do it is sim!leE connect with a new stream of energy
inside yourself.
%here are two roles you can !layE
1 Lne is the victim.
2 %he other is the warrior and winner.
*f you want to win& you need to connect with a new stream of
ins!iration and wake u! the warrior and winner in you.
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Part $ ( Power)ul
strategies to shi)t
&our mind set
)ou want to !erform at your #est.
)ou want you mind to #e your ally and hel! you achieve whatever you
want in life.
)our mind is your tool. *t is your vehicle.
*n the neAt few !ages& we will analy4e eAactly what to do to maAimi4e
the full !otential of your mind.
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Positive thinking
onnect with positive streams
%his is !ro#a#ly the most im!ortant strategy.
; thought is a mind o#Bect.
; thought is like a wave on the surface of your mind.
*t is an event.
*t is the visi#le !art of the ice#erg.
*f you swim in a river& what matters is not the waves& it is the river
itself.
Where does it take you?
Why do you swim in it?
What is its tem!erature?
ow does it im!act on your life?
; river gives you a direction.
; river is a source of ins!iration.
When you wake u! in the morning and read a !a!er& the news
#ecomes a source of ins!iration.
3hoose your stream0
What are the sources of influence in your life right
now? )ou can choose0
%argeting the thought means only targeting the surface wave.
*f you really want to have an im!act on your mind& connect with
em!owering sources of ins!iration.
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%his is why you sometimes #uy an em!owering #ook.
7ow& the !eo!le around you are sources of ins!iration.
Which ones are !ositive?
Which ones are negative?
%his vast architecture of connections is the architecture of
your streams of ins!iration.
%o develo! !ositive mind sets& you need to connect with em!owering
sources of ins!iration.
>o you reali4e that you are the architect of all that?
)ou choose for your daily and weekly activities. )ou
are the active creator of these connections. )ou can
choose what you connect to.
1 %he first ste! is to identify the sources which do em!ower you.
2 %he second ste! is to consciously organi4e these sources of
ins!iration in your life& time frame and mind.
%he #ooks your read& the music your listen to& the !eo!le you connect
to& your community& your work& family& friends& inner growth and
s!iritual life are all streams of ins!iration.
7ow& for your mind develo!ment& you need to connect with a stream
of ins!iration which does em!ower you.
)ou want to connect with a system or a source of ins!iration which
o!ens new doors in your life.
*f you have a #ook in your hands& what matters most?
*s it the #ook itself or a single word you Bust read?
:ind streams of ins!iration you can connect and relate to.
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Positive thinking& em!owerment& inner and s!iritual growth are all
directions which hel! you use your mind in the #est !ossi#le way.
7ow& if you want to train your #ody& you go to the gym& right?
)ou connect with an environment whose aim is to em!ower your
!hysical #ody.
%he same works for your mind.
*f you want to em!ower your mind& you need to connect with inner
and outer sources of ins!iration which su!!ort you or give you the
energy and mind sets to develo! your mind.
%he modern streams of mind !ower& self growth as well as s!iritual
develo!ment directions are all systems which hel! you maAimi4e the
!otential of your mind.
Ln to! of that& you do have inner sources of ins!iration which do hel!
you take the right ste!s.
%rust your instinct and consciously choose your sources of ins!iration.
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Positive thinking
-ake up &our mind power
)our mind is your greatest ally.
*f you get the feeling that your mind works against you& it is the sign
that something is missing.
What is missing? *t is !ower0 Mind !ower0
Mind !ower is a natural resource of energy you have in you.
Mind !ower is the a#ility to #e in charge of your life.
*t is a s!ace.
)ou own that s!ace.
*t is yours0
*t was given to you at #irth0
)our thoughts& emotions and #eliefs ha!!en within your mind.
%hey ha!!en within your territory0
)ou are the !erson who has the greatest influence over what ha!!ens
in your mind.
)ou are in charge0
%he moment you reali4e this& you already wake u! your mind !ower.
)ou wake u! to the reali4ation that you do have resources of energy
inside yourself to !rotect and !reserve your mind s!ace.
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Protect &our mind space
When you have negative thoughts& images or feelings !o!!ing u!
into your mind& you can literally see it as an attack on your mind.
*t is form of #attle and you want to develo! new skills to make
sure that you are the winner of this #attle.
)our mind is yours0
)ou have the !ower to !rotect it.
L#serve how it functions and do what it takes to !rotect your
mind s!ace.
9u!!ose for instance that someone Budges you in a negative way.
)ou can either let this Budgment take root in your mind and let it grow
and eA!and& or you can reBect this Budgment& fight #ack and not let
anyone !ut you down.
%he moment you react and fight #ack& you use your !ower.
)ou instantly reali4e that your self confidence is under attack and you
do something to tackle this threat.
*n a day& you can have many situations where you let someone else+s
negative thoughts im!act on you.
*t can #e an aggressive look you get from another driver. *t can #e a
word your !artner tells you Bust #efore you take off.
*f you recogni4e a negative attack on your mind& do something a#out it
straight away.
*dentify the attack as an energy which !uts you down and do
something a#out it straight awayE res!ond to the !erson& consciously
dro! it #ut reBect the thought& stay alert& etc.
*n other terms& you need to sometimes see your day as a #attle in
which you need defend your inner territory.
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Positive thinking
@nergiAe &our 2eing
%he way you feel in your #ody directly im!acts on the way you feel in
your mind.
*f your #ody is low on energy& you will naturally feel low in ha!!iness
and satisfaction.
%here are two main ways of influencing the way you feel in your #odyE
eAercise and diet.
*f you don+t move your #ody enough& you miss energy.
*f you over eat or eat unhealthy& you will naturally lower your energy
level.
>on+t underestimate the im!act this has on your mind.
; full stomach sto!s you from !erforming well or kee!ing a clear mind.
Modern lifestyles are challenging for the #ody. 9itting on a chair or
driving a car are not GnaturalH activities.
owever& there are do4ens of ways to maintain a high level of energy
in your #ody.
Make sure you give your #ody what it needs. )our
#ody and your mind are your greatest assets.
=es!ect them and give them what they need.
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Positive thinking
Bove: respect and positive
outlook on li)e
5ove nurtures your life.
7ow& love is giving and receiving.
When you give& you encourage the flow of it in your life.
*t works #oth ways.
;s long as it streams in your eAistence& you tend to stay more ha!!y&
healthy and in harmony.
5ove is a#out the way you relate to yourself and your environment.
5ove is a /uality you consciously invite in your eAistence.
ow do you invite
it? %hrough action0
Watering a !lant is something which sounds sim!le #ut it does have an
im!act on your mind and !ersonal environment.
*t sends a clear messageE G* careH.
%ry saying G* love youH more often.
5ove& res!ect and care are your ways of nurturing yourself and those
around you.
*t #uilds u! harmony and invites !eace in your #eing.
)ou can eA!ress #oth love and !ower in your life.
%hese two /ualities com!lement each other harmoniously.
>are to take the ste! when you see an o!!ortunity to eA!ress your
love& care or res!ect.
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Search )or meaning
)our life is a mystery.
* mean& when you reali4e that you are a living entity somewhere on a
#lue !lanet sus!ended in s!ace in the Milky Way& you can dro!
everything and search for answers.
)ou touch here on your s!iritual identity.
5ife #eyond the limits of rationality.
9ome form of s!iritual connection or #elief usually gives you an
energy #ase in life.
*t gives you a mind set which answers some of these
!rofound /uestions.
; way to em!ower your mind is to invite some form of s!iritual reality
in your life.
*f you are religious& this might mean eA!loring dee!er levels of your
s!iritual life through !rayer& meditation& rituals or other !ractices.
%here are do4ens of ways you can connect with your s!iritual identity.
Many s!iritual streams focus on the idea of ha!!iness& inner !eace and
even success and satisfaction.
%his is truly a different to!ic.
* will need another e-#ook to fully cover that one.
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Cet rid o) what holds &ou 2ack
What holds you #ack is in the !ast.
*t can #e anythingE old memories& o#Bects& negative
eA!eriences& draining connections& etc.
*f you want to move forward in your life& you need to create s!ace0
*f your mind and life are full& your future can+t o!en u!.
>ro! it0
5et go of what you no longer need0
*dentify what drains you and make sure that you remove it from your
eAistence.
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onnect with &our destin&
)our destiny is an intelligent entity.
*t is not a fiAed set of actions and events in your future.
*t is more like a river you swim in.
;long the way& the details of your life travel are not yet fiAed.
owever& you do have a vision of where this takes you.
6oals& life vision and destiny are all as!ects of your future.
%his is your !ers!ective.
%his is what you look forward to.
Part of the energy of your mind is aimed at o!ening doors into your
future.
%he moment you take a good decision or make the right choice& you
get this em!owering feeling of inner freedom.
3onnecting with your destiny is an art0
*t is at the very core of !ositive thinking and !ositive mind sets.
*f your line of action takes you in the wrong direction& you feel
systematically drained and unha!!y. )ou know something is wrong0
%he negative thoughts are sim!ly a surface reflection of an
unattractive destiny line.
>on+t try to shift your thoughts0
9hift your destiny line instead0
%his is the true em!owering ste!.
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Positive mind sets and values
<alues are your core #eliefs.
%hey are the foundation #locs of your
mind. 5ove and res!ect are values.
;m#ition and eA!ression of your needs and wants are other values and
mind sets.
9ome negative values and mind sets disem!ower you.
*n fact they don+t solidify your mind. %hey make you vulnera#le and
!essimistic a#out life.
9ee yourself as an architect0
)ou can choose right now !ositive mind sets and values.
What does it take to shift a mind set?
Lne to three months of focus0
)ou need to make it your !riority num#er one0
Why is that?
?ecause your mind has #een conditioned over a !eriod of 1(& '( or -(
years.
; conditioning is a mind set.
*t is the result of eA!eriences.
When you want to shift your mind set& you need to re!olari4e and
recondition your mind to res!ond differently in given life situations.
%his means that you need to re!eat the right message to yourself until
your get it.
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)ou will see that your mind !rogressively ado!ts a new em!owering
mind set.
*t sim!ly takes focus& time& re!etition and will !ower to develo! a
new mind set.
Will !ower is fire0
Will !ower is your desire to change and shift things around.
)our will !ower is your emotional fuel0
*t is your am#ition.
%his is the num#er one /uality you need to shift mind sets.
*t is your driving force and what you will invest into your actions.
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Master &our connection with
others
=elationshi!s0
*t can #e your connection with your !artner& friends& colleagues&
community or family.
; connection with another human #eing can #e em!owering.
%he #est way to em!ower your connections is to focus on synergy and
win-win always.
*t is never a#out dominating or controlling someone else+s life.
Mastering your connection with others means mastering the way
you stand in it.
When you #uild harmonious relationshi!s with others& you em!ower
your eAistence and manifest a fresh flow of life in your #eing.
5ife res!onds to life0
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Sta& awake and alert?
)our mind can #e under attack any time.
ave a strategy for any situation.
?ehave like a martial artist ready to defend your territory any time.
)ou will notice that the moment you have the tools& skills and wea!ons to
defend yourself& you feel secure and you !erform at your #est.
; day can #e seen as a series of challenges.
%he goal is to con/uer0
)ou have a series of situations to master.
9tay awake and aware of what ha!!ens in such day.
L#serve the flow of your thoughts and emotions and if you notice that
something wrong is ha!!ening& do something a#out it straight away.
>on+t let negative situations im!act on you.
*f you feel that something takes you down& take action and shift the
dynamics.
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-hat to do )irst when &ou are
trapped in a negative mind set
:ind a new source of ins!iration.
%here is always an o!en door somewhere.
:ind out what this door is.
2se your instinct.
; !art of you always knows the #est neAt move.
*t is all a#out identifying a !ossi#le neAt ste!.
)our instincts are one of your to! mind !ower wea!ons.
Lnce you see an o!en door& you need to take action and walk through
it.
%o take action you need to trust yourself and use your will !ower and
determination.
>on+t let anything or anyone sto! you from taking action when
you feel it is right.
;nother eAcellent way to shift a negative mind set is to shift gear or
activity.
9!eed is another key wea!on in your mind.
)ou need to res!ond to o!!ortunities and o!en doors when you see
one.
9tay awake and alert0
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How to in)luence &our thoughts
;gain& a thought is sim!ly a surface wave.
%he #est way to influence your thoughts is to connect with the
right source of ins!iration in you.
*nstead of focusing on the details of your thoughts& focus on the larger
!icture.
3ome to the details once your larger life stream is set u!.
*f you feel that you can+t connect with a !ositive stream of thoughts&
it is time to go and look #eyond the limits of what you already know.
3onnect with a new s!iritual or !ersonal develo!ment stream.
L!en a new door in your #eing and consciousness.
L#viously& if the solution was !resent within the limits of your comfort
4one& you would #e eA!ressing already the full dimension of your life.
*f something is missing& start searching for it and ste! #eyond
what you already know.
)ou will need to o!en new doors and invite new streams of ins!iration
in your life.
Lnce you connect with a new stream of ins!iration& the shift does not
ha!!en overnight.
*t does not go from left to right in one day.
; stream of ins!iration is a stream of renewal.
)ou feel it having a !rogressive im!act on your mind over a !eriod of
time.
6ive yourself 1 to - months to see the results.
9tay focused on your target and #e consistent with your action.
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Tackle the real challenge
*f you feel dissatisfied with your love life& do something a#out it.
*f you are unha!!y with your #ody& sign in to the gym.
*f you don+t like your Bo#& make a career shift.
;ll these eAam!les show you one thingE
<ery often your negative thoughts or feeling of dissatisfaction are not
the !ro#lem& they are the sym!tomsM they are the warning signs which
tell you that something is not /uite right.
%he moment you take action and do something a#out the real issue or
challenge you face& you reali4e that life starts flowing again.
;ction invites life force into your #eing.
*t energi4es you& o!ens new channels of eA!ression in your #eing and
#asically takes you from where you are to where you want to #e.
iding yourself #ehind dou#ts& fears and hesitations does not work.
*n these situations& your negative thoughts are an inner call0
)our life is calling0
%he only way to #reak the negative !attern is to take action and
do something a#out the real challenge.
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Part ' ( +egative
thoughts, ( -h&,
9im!ly trying to su!!ress negative thoughts is usually not very useful.
Why is that?
?ecause your mind is trying to tell you something.
; negative thought is often a warning sign.
*t is an inner call0
*t tells you that something is not /uite right.
*n the neAt few !ages& you will discover eAactly what is the nature of
Gthis negative thinking callH and how to use it to em!ower your mind.
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-hat is negative thinking,
7egative thinking are endless loo!s of thoughts which kee! on going
in circles in your mind.
%hese loo!s are usually self destructive. %hey generate negativism for
yourself and for others.
%hey are more than thoughts. %hey have whole sets of emotions and
feelings associated with them as well.
%hey can #e the result of negative !ast eA!eriences or sim!ly related
with lack of trust in yourself.
7egative thinking can destroy your life. *t !uts you down& creates
endless dou#ts and hesitations in your mind.
*t is a cycle of energy which drains you on the long term.
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+egative thinking as positive )orce
Lkay&
What * am a#out to say might sur!rise youE
7egative thinking can #e seen as a !ositive force.
)ou #elieve that #ecause you are tra!!ed in self limiting thinking loo!s
there is something wrong with you?
%here isn+t0
)our mind is fine and !erfectly functional.
*n fact& negative thinking is the sign that you are !erfectly healthy.
7egative thinking is not a #ad thing0
*t is your #est shot at defending your life territory.
)our mind is #om#arded #y millions of im!ressions daily.
%hese im!ressions come from within you or from your
environment& the !eo!le you talk to& the !lace you live in& your
memories& !ast im!ressions& conditionings& etc.
7egative thinking is the emotional res!onse which matches all
these im!ressions.
*t is like the summary #lue !rint of what is going on in your mind.
7egative thinking is a mind set. ; mind set is an inner architecture.
%he reason you create mind sets is to !rotect your mind s!ace.
; thought& whether !ositive or negative is always an eA!ression of
your !ower of thinking.
7egative thinking is not #ad in itself.
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*t is a #attle strategy. *t is a fighting tool.
9ometimes& these thoughts #urn you or seem to #e tra!!ed in your
mind without finding a way of eA!ression.
%his is the moment negative thinking turns against you. *t #ecomes
alienating.
When you are consumed #y negative thinking& you are not truly
master of your mind any more.
What you want at that moment is an eAtra !ower kick which gives you
the !ossi#ility to decide what you want to have in your mind.
%o summari4e& here are the key ideasE
%here is nothing wrong with you. 7egative thinking is okay as long
as you choose for it.
7egative thinking is a wea!on. ;nyone uses it. %he moment it hurts
you is the moment this wea!on turns against you.
Protect your territory. )our territory is your life and your mind. *t is
okay to do whatever it takes to stay master of your life. 7egative
thoughts !lay a role in this. %hey are aggressive and !rotective moves
to defend your mind territory.
Wake u! your fighting !ower. )ou want to master your fighting skills.
%his is the real challenge. ave fighting skills which are effective at
hel!ing you reach your goals.
.A!ress0 >on+t su!!ress. *f you feel negative thoughts a#out
something or someone& dare to eA!ress it. >on+t su!!ress. 5ook at
these emotions straight in the eye. 7egative thinking is fighting fire.
%his is what is #ehind it. *t wakes u! #ecause there is com!etition. 5ife
is full of it. *f you su!!ress it& you loose your !ower. >on+t su!!ress.
>are to eA!ress. *t is a direct reflection of your inner !ower and
emotions.
)our taming !ower. %his is the /uality your need to deal with a
negative emotional res!onse you no longer want.
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;s you can see& there is nothing wrong with you. ;ll you need is an
eAtra GtamingH /uality which gives you the !ower to direct your
thoughts more effectively.
%he force #ehind negative thinking is a !ositive force. *t is the same
force which can hel! you reach goals and con/uer whatever you want
in life.
*t is like fire& though. ;ll you need is this eAtra !ower kick which hel!s
you master this natural inner resource of !ower.
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The Dpositive powerD
2ehind negative thinking
*magine yourself having a fiery !olitical de#ate with an o!!onent. )ou
will generate thoughts and #eliefs which can #e sometimes aggressive
towards your o!!onent.
*f you tell your o!!onent something like G)ou will never succeed0H& this
is a negative thought& right?
*n the conteAt of a ver#al fight& you use this thought in a !ositive wayE
you want to win.
%here is com!etition. %here is a #attle for !ower. %his thought does
not hurt you. *t attacks your o!!onent. *n fact& this thought is a
wea!on.
7ow& imagine what ha!!ens with negative thinking loo!s in your mindE
)ou take the same negative thought IG)ou will never succeedHJ and
you !roBect it on yourself. %his thought is the same as #efore. *t is
identical. *t is the same 8wea!on8. *t is sim!ly used in a different way.
)ou #ecome a victim of this thought.
Why does this ha!!en?
Why do negative thinking !atterns arise in your mind and 8self attack8
your own #eing?
*t ha!!ens #ecause of a very sim!le reasonE your mind creates it.
*t creates it in the same way as it creates another ty!e of self
destructive #ehavior.
*t creates an addiction.
)ou know that these negative thinking loo!s are self destructive& still
your mind kee! generating them.
Why? ?ecause a !art of you enBoys it0
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* know this can sound cra4y #ut a !art of you actually enBoys creating
these negative loo!s.
Why? ?ecause when you create this loo!& you use your fighting !ower.
3reating negative thought !atterns is your way of eA!ressing your
!ower and free will.
ow does it work? 9u!!ose you are with a grou! of friends and
everyone is /uite o!timistic a#out the coming evening. ; !arty is
a#out to start in a few hours and everyone gets ready. )ou Bum! in
there and say something likeE
G)ou know what? %hese !arties never work. .very time it is the same
story& the same old #oring !eo!le0 * don+t even know why we #other
tryingNH
7ow& there is a #attle of energies. %his #attle is #etween !ositivism
and negativism.
)ou carry the flag of negativism. )ou generate fight& conflict and #y
doing so& you eA!ress one of you most #asic !owersE %he need to
con/uer& the need to fight and win.
)our cause isE G*t+s not going to work0H
*t might look like a negative cause #ut #ehind this cause& there is only
one thingE a challenge& a desire to fight& an instinctual im!ulsion.
3an you see how it works?
)ou !ick u! a cause and sim!ly defend it.
7ow& if someone comes to you and saysE GWhy don+t you dro! it?H
you+ll reali4e that a !art of your does not want to let go of your
negative thought.
Why is that?
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?ecause this negative thought gives you !ower. %his is not a#out
!ositivism or negativism. *t is a#out how much !ower you have
com!ared with others.
; story is going on in your mindE
*f you dro! your negative thoughts& you end u! in a no man+s land. *t
is like loosing your identity.
Why? ?ecause negativism has #ecome your mind set. *t is your inner
architecture and you got familiar with this inner mindsca!e.
)ou know how to relate to these thoughts.
; thought form is an Gelemental formH. *t is actually an intelligent
entity.
9u!!ose you have a dog. %his dog is aggressive and kee!s #arking at
everyone you meet on the street.
)ou might think something likeE GWell& this dog is not !erfect& #ut it is
my dogH
*f you give it away& you+ll end u! with nothing.
%his dog is a >o#erman.
)ou could shift and get a gentle sweet !u!!y #ut somehow& you are
used to your >o#erman.
9omehow it gives you !ower to have it. *t defends your house. *t
defends your territory.
%he negative side of it is that #ecause of this >o#erman& !eo!le sto!
talking to you. Police came few times to your house #ecause the dog
was #arking endlessly at night.
*n other terms& your dog creates some trou#le #ut gives you !ower.
7egative thinking can ha!!en in the same wayE negative thoughts
give you !ower.
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?eing aggressive or negative is your way of challenging your
environment. *t is a role you !lay.
*f you go #ack to this G!artyH eAam!le& something in you might not
care at all a#out the !arty #eing nice or notE your real goal is to
challenge your friend+s o!timism.
*n fact you tease them with your negative mind set.
*t is a #attle #etween two energiesE L!timism against negativism.
Why do you carry the flag of negativism?
?ecause this is what you are used to do. )ou know how to do it. When
you !ick u! the GenergyH of it& this gives you a sense of control over
the event.
%hat+s your in!ut. %hat+s your role. *t is an identity.
)ou get something from itE %he !ower to mess it u!.
* know it can sound funny #ut this is the underlying !ower dynamic.
*t Bustifies your negative thinking.
%he downside of it?
Lnce you finish attacking the !arty+s !ositive mind set& you+ll still end
u! with the negative thought form strengthened in your mind.
9u!!ose you go #ack home. )ou generated a mind set which needs to
kee! on 8feeding8 itself.
%his will turn into a self destructive loo! and kee! you tra!!ed within a
negative mind set.
%hat+s unless you know how to dro! it and truly master your negative
thoughts.
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-h& it happens
7egative thinking is a natural defense mechanism.
*t ha!!ens #ecause your mind is under attack. )ou feel threatened or
under the !ressure to !erform and your mind res!onds #y creating
these negative thoughts.
When you have negative thoughts rising in your mind& it is actually a
!ositive im!ulsion.
)our mind sim!ly tries to survive.
*magine& it is like #eing in the water and struggling to swim.
;ny thought is a mind frame.
*t is a mind set.
; mind set is an inner architecture which sustains your mind.
3an you see that?
; thought is a mind frame.
*t is a !illar of life force which sustains and channels energy in you.
When you create a negative thought& you are still using your !ower.
%his negative thought is your #est shot at eA!ressing your energy.
)ou struggle to kee! on creating and this negative thought is what
arises.
7ature creates it. )our mind creates it. *t is s!onsored #y your inner
survival drive.
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-h& it hurts &ou
; negative thought hurts you #ecause it #urns
you. %here is a conflict of energies.
%here is a struggle for your energy to #reak through. *t
is #ecause of this #reak through that you feel #urned.
*magine& it is like trying to eA!ress yourself within a constricted s!ace.
)our mind does not get enough !ower.
)ou feel under !ressure.
%his #urning fire trying to #reak through is your own will !ower.
)ou have desires and am#itions.
)ou want to eA!ress them and struggle to #reak through.
)ou want to succeed.
)ou have eA!ectations.
7egative thinking is your instinctual res!onse to this #attle of energies. *t
is an eA!ression of a fire trying to create s!ace in your mind.
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Solving &our real challenge
ow to #reak though a negative thinking cycle.
; negative thinking cycle is very tricky to overcome unless you have a
solid strategy to deal with it.
1 Step # = )ou need to understand eAactly why and how negative
thinking works.
2 Step $ = )ou need a strategy and the !ower to take action and
#reak through this cycle.
%he main challenge when dealing with a negative thinking loo! is that
it ha!!ens in your mind.
%he only tool you usually have to deal with it is an incom!lete
emotional reaction.
)ou feel guilty a#out your negative thoughts.
)ou #uild u! resentment and kee! on re!roducing the same
destructive !attern over and over again.
;fter that& you usually wait for the negative thoughts to go away and
ho!e that they will #e re!laced #y #etter and more harmonious
emotions or thoughts.
Most strategies out there tell you to focus on !ositive thinking instead
of letting negative loo!s drain you.
)ou will try to reBect negative thoughts #y forcing yourself into a
!ositive mind set.
%his is a valua#le strategy.
owever& there is a limitation with itE
What ha!!ens with the negative loo!?
Where does it go?
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When you try to su!!ress negative thinking #y over!owering it with
your will !ower& you try to control a volcano in you.
*f the main force you use is control& su!!ression or disci!line& you
might achieve good results.
)ou still need an eAtra source of will !ower and determination to do
this.
)ou usually miss that !ower.
Why is that?
?ecause your emotional resources are already engaged in creating
the negative thinking loo!.
%his is where your emotional energy goes to.
)ou are using your emotional resources to actually generate these
negative thoughts.
.motional fuel is the energy #ehind negative thinking.
)ou want to use this energy0 7ot su!!ress it0 )ou want to go with the
flow of your emotions rather than against them0
)our instincts are !owerful0 %hey generate the negative loo!s. ; !art
of you creates them.
*f you want to succeed with #reaking through heavy forms of negative
thinking& you want to work with the forces of your own nature rather
than against them.
%his is fundamentally different.
*t is a revolution in your mind set0
)ou use the eAisting !ower #ehind your negative thinking rather than
trying to su!!ress or delete it.
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*n fact& you use eAactly the same energy you use for negative thinking
#ut channel it in a different way in your mind.
* say it againE
)ou donFt su!!ress& or try to #lock your 8negative8 thoughts.
)ou channel their energy within a new mind set.
)ou need and want the energy #ehind negative thinking.
*f you su!!ress& you create a loose-loose situation where you are
re/uired to !ut u! lots of energy to #lock negative thoughts.
What * say is differentE 5et them flow.
.ven furtherE dare to eA!ress them.
:rom the core of this fire or frustration& reali4e that your negative
thoughts are actually your way of reacting to something which is
hurting you.
When you create a negative thought& you use your fighting !ower.
When you transmute negative thinking& you still use your !ower of
thinking.
9o& donFt try to su!!ress or #lock.
*nstead& ad a /uality to your mind which will give a new direction and
vision to your fighting !ower.
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Part 0 ( Power
d&namics
*n the first !art of this e-#ook& we will analy4e various as!ects of the
way !ower works and affects your life.
* will already give you many hints on where to start if you want to
increase your level of !ersonal !ower.
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How to strengthen &our
emotional )oundation
*n most cases of negative thinking and negative emotional
!atterns& what is missing is a stronger emotional foundation.
*magine your mind as an inner architecture of thought forms&
education& ha#its& instinctual reactions& etc.
*magine now that it is this mind architecture which !rotects your mind
s!ace.
)our life connections and the su!!ort you get from your environment
are as well strengthening elements.
When you have a negative emotion invading your mind s!ace& it sim!ly
means that you miss the !ower to defend your inner territory.
*f you want to sto! negative thinking and negative emotions& all you
need to do is to #ring in a new !ower /uality in your mind. %his new
!ower /uality will naturally strengthen your emotional #ase& give you
security and sim!ly !rotect your mind.
With certain negative emotions& like dou#ts and fears& this increase of
!ower is com#ined with an increase of awareness. )ou identify why the
dou#t is there in the first !laceE is it a real 8warning8 dou#t or is it
sim!ly an irrational useless instinctual reaction.
%hese are very !owerful techni/ues. %he reason why you have never
ta!!ed into these resources naturally #y yourself is sim!ly #ecause
society and normal education does not always !ut you in touch with
these resources.
%his strengthening of your emotional foundation is related with your
instincts. :or instance your survival instinct contains in itself a very
em!owering emotional #ase. %his means that if you are confronted
to survival in nature for instance& these !owers naturally wake u!.
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%here are of course other ways to wake u! these natural inner
resources& for instance any form of martial art training like aikido&
karate or kung fu trains your emotional foundation and naturally
wakes u! your !ower.
When you find yourself in situations which are emotionally challenging&
you might feel a ga! on that level. )ou might feel a ga! as well when
you see yourself tra!!ed in negative thinking !atterns.
; negative thinking !attern related with irritation for instance is
sim!ly an ina#ility to get what you want. )ou can as well feel touched
#y a negative emotion you canFt truly identify. %hese ty!es of
emotions can #e correlated with an invasion of your mind s!ace& the
inca!acity to !rotect yourself and to use your !ower effectively.
*f you s!end an afternoon in a city& you are #om#arded #y thousands
of !sychic im!ressions. %hese im!ressions can anchor themselves in
the core of your #eing or they can #ounce on the surface of your
mind. %he difference #etween those who enBoy a city and those who
donFt is sim!ly a difference in this level of inner !ower.
*f you have the skills& you have a good time. Ln the other hand if you
feel !ermanently threatened #y the Budgment of others or sim!ly feel
insecure& youFll have a terri#le time and feel drained after a cou!le of
hours.
When you wake u! your !ower& you wake u! your natural a#ility to
!rotect yourself.
)our emotional foundation re!resents this inner architecture which
sustains your emotional #ody.
%here are some sim!le ste!s to wake u! this inner !ower. %his is what
we do in a coaching session. *t is a form of initiation& an awakening of
an inner !otential which is already in you.
*f you eat a !eace of fruit& your res!ond to a natural instinct. )ou are
hungry and you eat.
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7ow& if you feel threatened and want more !ower& what would you do?
where would you start? *s there a fountain of fresh !ower you can
wake u! and sim!ly drink from naturally? )es there is.
;ll you need is to wake u! this stream and know how to ta! into it at
will. *tFs easy and it takes you only a few minutes to get initiated into
it. ?y !hone or in !erson. ?oth work !erfectly.
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Power kick
9ometimes& all you need is this eAtra !ower kick. *tFs a formless
energy. )ou can feel eAactly when you need it. *tFs like an adrenalin
rush.
3oaching sessions are targeted to give you such a kick. *t is a#out
getting the right su!!ort at the right time and adding a very
s!ecial and sim!le energy to your mind.
%his energy comes from you. :rom within. *n fact you already own all
the tools to fully em!ower your life. )ou sim!ly might not know eAactly
how to access it or where to look.
My role is to hel! you with that. * give you all the s!ace and time you
need. What you get with coaching is a safe and res!ectful environment
where you can develo! new a#ilities and ta! fully into your inner
natural !owers.
*n that s!ace you can trust& relaA and sim!ly take ste!s in your own
time. %here is no rush. *t is a sim!le and natural o!ening of your inner
!otentials.
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-hat is &our emotional
)oundation,
.motional foundation?
ave you heard that term #efore?
*t is your core s&stem o) energies& your #eliefs& what you have in
the middle of your mind and gives you an inner structure& an
energy #ase.
Part of this emotional foundation is formless. *t can #e your
connection with nature for instance.
*t can #e a connection with a !ro!erty or a land. *t can #e a
connection with a !erson. *t can #e a di!loma& a community.
;nother as!ect of your emotional foundation are your thoughts&
#eliefs& ideas& thinking !atterns& etc.
;s you can see& man& element can pla& a role: strengthen
and empower &our emotional 2od&.
*ntuitively you can !erceive what is #ehind that term.
)ou might reali4e as well that sometimes you feel emotionally very
sensitive or vulnera#le.
9ometimes& you sim!ly feel great& !owerful& in harmony& #alanced and
free.
What state do you !refer?
What are the key elements which create your emotional foundation?
; strong emotional foundation is of course more conductive to
ha!!iness.
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%he key /uestion isE what can &ou do a2out it,
9u!!ose you feel too vulnera#le& what can you do a#out it?
Eo &ou )eel that sometimes &our thoughts and emotions are
sa2otaging &our chances o) success,
*s a negative !ast eA!erience kee!ing you from fully enBoying life?
*s your mind su!er conductive or is it slowed down #y irrational fears
and invisi#le dou#ts?
;gain what can #e done a#out it? The solutions or techni5ues are
endlessE %hera!ies and healing techni/ues& s!iritual directions& mind
!ower& 75P& !ositive !sychology& mind machines& yoga& !ersonal
develo!ment& self growth& coaching... >id * forget anyone?
There is lots? !n )act: itFs simpl& overwhelming? *tFs a #it
like sitting at travelFs agentFs and having to decide on the s!ot for the
right destination.
*n my o!inion& everything works to a certain eAtent. .very one of
these techni/ues or a!!roaches has something to offer which can
em!ower your emotional foundation.
ang on a second... .m!owering your emotional foundation is not
a#out sto!!ing to cry or ste!!ing out of de!ression. %hese are
8eAtreme cases8 in a sense. .motional foundation concerns anyone.
!tFs simpl& the art o) esta2lishing ke& and empowering
)orces and )rames in the core o) &our mind.
%he truth is that your 8mind vehicle8 !ro#a#ly functions okay. *tFs
often only when you come in a situation of crisis that you decide to
do something a#out it. 3risis situations are often the moment you
decide to find out more a#out your mind and the way it functions.
Part o) the goal o) coaching is to empower &our emotional
)oundation and give &ou 2ack strength and tools to simpl&
have greater li)e satis)action.
%he strengthening of your emotional foundation is a #uild u! work
which is done consciously& identifying ga!s and !ositive !oints.
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*magine yourself going to the gym. What you do is #uilding u! your
fluidity& energi4ing your #ody and sometimes #uilding u! muscle and
!ower as well.
Where do you train your mind? Where do you train and em!ower your
emotional foundation?
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Find &our power
9ome years ago& * was in a situation where almost everything was
goneE Bo#& friends& money& house& car. * ended u! with nothing0 * went
to live in nature for , months. * stayed in forests and sim!ly tried to
find in me resources to go on.
;fter a cou!le of months& something started waking u! in meE some
form of survival instinct. *tFs something we all have #ut somehow *
never felt it #efore.
* reali4ed that even though everything was gone& there was something in
me which did not die or disa!!ear. * would call this my life !ower.
* started 8re#uilding8 my mind and life around this new #ase. %his was
almost 1( years ago and it is still my 8energy8 #ase today.
%hatFs the #ase from which * coach. *tFs a very s!ecific core of energy
which gives me trust and !ower in life.
*tFs so !recious that * canFt understand how * s!end most of my life not
knowing a#out this resource of energy inside myself.
My role as your coach is to hel! you get in touch with this source of
natural !ower. *tFs a source of !ower you could find anytime which
gives you a stronger mind foundation.
;fter some years of coaching and develo!ing ways of ta!!ing into that&
* reali4ed that there are actually very sim!le ways to wake u! this
natural !ower.
*t is in fact like getting in touch with something very #asic in your
#eing. %he moment it wakes u!& you definitely feel the difference. *t
gives you trust& confidence and the way you relate to others
fundamentally shifts.
*t is a connection with a very #asic source of inner energy.
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*t is always in you #ut it sim!ly gets covered #y layers of education
and conditioning. %he modern life style tends as well to limit the
eA!ression of this natural stream of !ower.
%his !ower gives you the a#ility to !rotect your !ersonal s!ace. *t
strengthens your will !ower& energy level and life force.
*t gives you as well this eAtra energy kick to #reakthrough whatever is
limiting you.
;t this stage& the only way * hel! you connect with your inner natural
!ower is within a coaching session.
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How to 2uild up con5uering power
11 @motional )uel
%his is the starting !oint. *t is am#ition and desire. *t is the original
driving force connected with our instinctual nature
12 Galua2le targets
*t must #e worth it and make a difference. 3on/uering !ower is a
universal force and it manifests itself when there is something to win
13 Build up techni5ues
9ome attitudes& #ehaviors or !ractices slow you down. Lther !ractices
stimulate your inner fire and hel! you #uild u! a valua#le reserve of
inner !ower.
14 Co with the )low
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6o with the flow. ?e wise. *f you hit a wall& figure out what it is. *s it
something you must #reakthrough or is it a sign that you should
reorient your targets or strategies? 5isten to the signs and learn from
it.
15 PrioritiAe
3onflicting interests can kee! you from reaching your target. %hese
conflicting interests can #e in you or can #e related with your
surroundings& friends& !rofession& family& etc. *f you want to hit the
target& you must decide what is !riority num#er 1. )ou must as well #e
a#le to recogni4e side tracks and !ossi#le distractions.
16 Structures versus )ree energ&
)our con/uering !ower can #e multi!lied if you use the right tools.
>eciding to face challenges with #are hands and no resources is very
honora#le and thrilling. =eali4e however that you are in a highly
com!etitive environment. ?uilding environments to su!!ort your
goals could #e your key to success.
17 Focus
9ome goals are reached overnight. :or the targets which re/uire more
attention& the key to succeed is to follow u!. 1 ste! might not #e
enough. %here is more.
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## steps to )ind &our con5uering
power
1 Assume a leadership position
;ct in the name of a larger reality. *f thousands of !eo!le were
doing what you do& what would #e the im!act on your local
community& your country& the !lanet or humankind?
2 See li)e as a 2attle
When you think #attle& winning& you straight away shift your
mind from your daily mood to a high energy mood.
3 Focus on win%win
)ou donFt want to annihilate resistance& you want to Boin forces
whenever !ossi#le. 3on/uering can #e di!lomatic& no need to
#e destructive.
4 Build up trust
.very action has an im!act on your environment. ?e true to
yourself and those who #elieve in you. ?e authentic.
5 Cather &our weapons
%hese are the tools you need to have an im!act. *t can #e life
skills& for instance communication skills. *t can #e key ha#it
!atterns& like healthy eating. *t can as well #e real tools like a
la! to! or the latest cell !hone.
6 Hoin )orces
=ecogni4e those who are on the same stream and Boin forces
with them. 3reate strategic alliances. 6et su!!ort and offer
su!!ort in return. %his is the !ower of uniting !eo!le in the
name of a common cause.
7 hallenge &oursel)?
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9ystematically ste!!ing #eyond your comfort limits gives you a
kick of !ower and energy. *t stimulates your survival instinct and
connects you with the forces of nature. )ou can do that with
challenging s!orts or immersing yourself in challenging nature
environments.
1 Train &oursel)?
Make sure that the skills you need are effective and u!dated0
)ou must feel on to! and ahead in many ways. %his gives you as
well the com!etitive edge0
2 7se &our mind?
Make sure that your mind is your greatest ally. =e!lace self
defeating #eliefs #y self em!owering ones. ?e
su!erconductive to life. .m!ower your mind.
3 Be awake? Be aware?
5isten to signs. 2se your instinct and intuition. 9ynchroni4e your
actions. ?e aware of !erfect timing. >evelo! a sense of
!eri!heral vision and total awareness. ?alance determination
with flow& wisdom and o!!ortunities.
4 6eep in mind the larger picture
7o matter how good you !erform& $$O of what you created on
the !hysical level will #e gone within 1(( years. What remains is
a memory of a #ehavior or energy !attern which you em#edded
when you were alive. *t is the sum of all the actions& thoughts
and emotions you !erformed over your whole life time.
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-hat is the challenge,
ere is a sim!le truthE when &ou use &our con5uering power:
the environment will react. Peo!le might try to sto! you.
-h&, Because there is competition.
When you set u! yourself on a con/uering course& your life shifts
#ecause you are using your own will !ower. )ou transform yourself
and your environment.
ere is another truthE a part o) &our environment does not want
change. )our environment is sustained #y what we call preserving
power or conservative !ower. *t is a !ositive force which sim!ly
maintains structures& in your life and in your mind.
%he !reserving force is what you challenge every time you use your
con/uering !ower. on5uering means opening doors. *t means
challenging !eo!le and making them reada!t to a new 8you8 or a new
#ehavior.
%his goes for #ig ste!s and as well for small ste!s.
%he reason you sometimes donFt #reakthrough is #ecause of these
D)reeAingD )orces in and around &ou. %hey are the resistance.
%o #reakthrough& your con/uering !ower has to #e stronger than the
resistance.
9u!!ose you want to go for a career shift and start your own
#usiness. %his will im!act on the com!any you are !resently working
for& your family& friends and environment. *t will as well create
com!etition with those who already are active in that field.
*n other terms& when you take the decision to start your own #usiness&
this will im!act on may#e hundreds of lives. 8*m!act8 means that
everyone has to slightly resha!e their world #ecause of your move.
)our !resent #oss will have to find new staff& your family might need
to move& etc.
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%his is why conservative forces test you. %hey are the underlying
!ower sustaining society. %hese forces are sayingE 8;re you for real?
>o you truly mean to start your own #usiness or is this only a !i!e
dream?8. %his is why they !ut you to the test.
)ou see& change takes energ&. *t stresses your environment #y
asking it to reada!t to a new e/uili#rium.
We live in a very su#tle #alance of forces. Preserving )orces are like
a )orm o) gravit&. %hey kee! society together and sto! it from
s!litting in all directions in incoherent ways.
9o& what can you do to take action? 9im!leE #uild u! your con/uering
!ower.
*f your con/uering !ower is too weak& things wonFt move. )our #oss&
family& com!any& city will free4e your moves #efore you even start.
What you do is 2uild up momentum. 6ather information& get ideas&
design a #usiness !lan& gather funds and sources of financing. ;ll
these ste!s are telling your mindE 83hange is coming. 9omething new
is ha!!ening8
Lnce your mind is ready& you start telling others who will ho!efully
Boin and su!!ort you with your !lans.
%his moment of o!ening is the key. %his is when things can shift into
change or get fro4en #y resistance.
%o #e a#le to #reakthrough& you must understand what forces are
involved and why they eAist in the first !lace. %hey are sim!ly !art of
nature Ilike gravity0J& they are !art of the human mind .
%o overcome gravity& you concentrate your efforts and will !ower. )ou
gather knowledge& know how& and #uild a s!ace shuttle a#le to
#reakthrough resistance. %hatFs one o!tion.
9eagulls on the seashore found another way to stay in the air. %hey
master another force of nature& the wind #lowing on the sand dunes&
and use that force to fly forever.
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3on/uering !ower works in a similar way. We were #orn with it. *t is
!art of our mind& our inner engine. We used this force to survive in
!rimal times.
*t is still in us today& organi4ed& transformed& transmuted. *t is this
same original instinct translated in modern timeE stock markets& trade&
selling !ro!ositions. Toda&Fs econom& is a re)lection o) the same
original con5uering power. *t is related with the desire to create&
the desire to earn more& the desire to con/uer a new holiday get away
on a Pacific *sland& etc.
9ome years ago& * saw a fascinating !rogramE the crocodile unter.
)ou are may#e familiar with it. %his guy would catch a - meters long
crocodile on his net and then try to kee! it immo#ile. ;s he was laying
on this massive !owerful #east& he utteredE 89he is #uilding u!0 What
a #eauty08
?uilding u!0 ?uilding u! energy to overcome resistance. %hen she Ithe
crocodileJ eA!loded into this massive #urst of energy giving the
crocodile hunter a solid first class ;ussie rodeo.
3on/uering !ower0 %hatFs what this female crocodile was #uilding u!.
7ature invented many strategies to #reakthrough !reserving forces.
There is a wa& as long as &ou colla2orate with the )orces o)
nature. *tFs a matter of mastering your own resources and
understanding the underlying dynamics.
7ow here are the good newsE at least some aspect o) &our
environment wants to change. %his is what we call the renewal
)orces. %ransformation. 3hange. %hese are !art of nature as much as
the !reserving forces. 5ook at the cycle of the !lanets around the
sun. %his movement creates the cycle of the seasons which is the
force #ehind #irth and renewal in nature. Lrganic growth is a
!ermanent changing !rocess.
%hen& you have the creative force. %he creative !ower. $$.$O of
civili4ation and todayFs society was ineAistent 'F((( years ago0 Where
did it all come from? ow did it rise? *t wasnFt the will of one single
man. *tFs not even a creative !rocess humankind controls. 3ities
sim!ly rise. What we are doing as humans is res!onding to instincts.
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:irst you decide to !ut a roof on your head& then you go and get some
food. %he rest is history.
3heck an orangutan under a tro!ical shower. *t takes #ig leaves from
the !alms around it and !uts them over his head. *tFs a refleA. =ain
is cold0 *t is uncomforta#le. %hatFs how everything startedE !rotecting
ourselves from elemental forces.
; city is a sim!le eA!ansion of the same original instinct. %his is
creative !ower.
:rom a leaf on our head to a community of 1'F(((F((( !eo!le0
7ow& the frames within the sky scra!ers could #e called the
conservative forces Inothing to do with a !olitical !arty0J. %hey are the
sustaining !ower.
%he creative and con/uering forces are there as well. 3on/uering
more s!ace. .A!anding technology. *n <itro :ertili4ation I000J. *t all
comes from a creative drive which moves civili4ation forward.
*f you want more con/uering !ower& sim!ly connect a little #it more
with that !art of nature which want to evolve and create. 2se this
force in a creative and wise way. 3on/uering !ower is strong in and
around you. %he only reason you would not #reakthrough is #ecause
the !reserving forces are too strong for a reason or another.
*n another article& weFll look at it from a very human and !ractical
!oint of view.
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Positive thinking
-ake up &our personal power
ave you ever felt like you are using only a small fraction of your
!ersonal !ower?
ave you ever felt like there is much more !otential than the one you
are using right now?
What is that !otential? *s it magic !owers? *s it new skills and
a#ilities? *s it a new life& #elongings& money? *s it a new
network& friends& family connections?
;ll these are fine #ut there is another one. 9omething dee!er and
direct you might not think off. %his !otential is an inner strength& and
inner !ower which is waiting to come out and #e manifested.
What is it waiting for? <ery sim!leE a sign from you.
)ou might not reali4e that& #ut you are sitting right now on a dormant
gold mine which is ready to #oost your life& energy& career& and
whatever you can think of.
%his force is an inner !ower. *t is in the very core of your life sim!ly
waiting to come out.
)ou were #orn with a !owerful giftE the seed for a !hysical #ody& your
mind& a channel of life force.
7ow& something strange ha!!ened in your childhood thoughE itFs called
conditioning. *t came through education& family& friends. *tFs not a #ad
thing. *tFs sim!ly needed to sha!e your life in a way which fits societyE
good manners& s!eech& skills& etc.
;ll these integrated forms create a very s!ecial set of structures in
your life. %his is your vehicle. *t is your mind& a set of #elief system&
ha#its& actions& #ehaviors& attitudes& emotional reactions. ;ll these are
formsE mind !atterns.
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;gain& they are !ositive ones. %his sha!ing of your mind. %his
character #uilding is what created your mind as you see it today.
Millions of life eA!eriences& feelings and emotions.
.very single time you laughed in the !ast& there is a stream of life
force which crossed your mind. *t created a channel of energy. *t
created a frame which is still !resent in your mind today.
*magine how many times you laughed in your life. *magine how many
times you felt a giggle #ursting in you. *f you had the a#ility to do it&
you could recall hundreds of those moments.
%he same goes for any emotion. %he same goes for any thought.
%he same goes for any action and any s!oken word.
7ow take a second to ste! #ack and com!are your mind today with
your mind the way it was the day you were #orn. What do you see?
>o you recogni4e this virgin mind you had when you were a child? 7o
thoughts yet& only some instincts and emotions. )our character was
not yet #uilt. %here were no memories a!art from what you felt in
the wom#.
Many years later& there are layers of eA!eriences and literally millions
of micro memories im!rinted in your mind.
9o& what is this !ower you are not using? )ou could call it your original
instinctual force. *t is a clear channel of energy which activates your
mind and life.
>o you feel sometimes like you are carrying the world on your
shoulders? >o you feel sometimes these hundreds of life anchors
which sto! you from moving forward? What are these anchors? %hey
are undigested memories& undigested emotions which havenFt #een
cleared.
)our mind is a !owerful tool. 7ow& sometimes it needs a little hel! to
#reakthrough and take the neAt ste!.
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*magine for a second a !owerful force which has the a#ility to give you
this eAtra !ower you need to move forward and activate the skills you
need.
*magine again that this force is there& waiting for a signal from you.
*tFs sim!ly waiting to #e activated.
%he /uestion isE 8ow do you ta! into this inner !otential?8& 8ow do
you wake u! this inner natural resource which is waiting to come out?8
%he answer is sim!leE #y connecting with it0
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You are the master o) &our mind
%here is a mystery in us called emotional )reedom.
Most eA!eriences leave a GmarkH on our mind.
%his mark can #e dee! and visi#le or invisi#le.
Your present limits are simpl& a series o) mind )rames that
you acce!t as your !resent limits.
7ow& to #reakthrough your !resent limits& &ou need a )orce
strong enough to #reak the eAisting !atterns and o!en new doors.
%his is what a meeting with someone s!ecial sometimes does for
you. ; sim!le conversation a#out your goals with someone who is
o!en minded can have an ama4ing im!act on your life.
*t is like opening a new door in &our mind landscape.
; mind frame can #e a limitation or a !rotection de!ending on the
moment or how you look at it.
&our mind.
; mind frame is like a roof
a#ove your head. *t !rotects you from the rain #ut sto!s you as well
from seeing the stars at night.
%he idealE have )le9i2le mind )rames. When the sun
shines& you sim!ly o!en the doors of your mind and take in the
warmth and the light.
When destructive winds are #lowing& you are a#le to shut down those
doors and sim!ly feel 1((O safe.
!t<s all a2out mastering &our mind
%his ty!e of intelligence is !riceless. *nstead of riding a vehicle
you can+t control& decide to actually own all your tools.
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Mind )rames are structures which support
Positive thinking
%his a#ility to !lay with limits and #oundaries& to #e fleAi#le and
aware& has a lot to do with emotional intelligence.
.motional intelligence could #e descri#ed as the a2ilit& to
shi)t mind patterns at will and recreate new ones when
needed.
; new mind !attern can #e an o!en channel of creativity. *t can #e this
flow of ins!iration which takes over your life and floods you with #liss.
When you #uild a new house& you can see the scaffolds. )ou can see
the walls rising& the windows #eing set u!& etc. *t is visi#le.
With your mind& it+s another story. Mind )rames are invisi2le. ;
!ositive emotion is not visi#le for the eAternal eye. )ou might feel
someone else+s Boy #ecause of its eAternal eA!ression in the form of
s!eech and #ody language. )ou+ll see a smile on the face. )ou+ll hear it
in the tone of voice.
%hese signs are the visi#le !art of the ice#erg. ?ehind the
surface& there is a sea of emotions and thoughts.
*f you could have a real #lue!rint of your mind frames& it would #e
easy to actually find where Boy or !ain is created.
)ou could sim!ly go there and re!lace an old& undigested emotion #y a
new stream of life force.
9o here is the challengeE awareness. %o know where to start
with mastering your mind& you must first have a !icture of your mind.
)ou need to wake u! your awareness and eA!lore the way you
function and are #uilt.
%his first ste! will give you this #lue!rint of a region of your mind. )ou
might #e looking at your emotions& thoughts& feelings or desires.
)ou might #e looking at the !resent& !ast or future.
The mind is multidimensional.
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%here is a dimension of time in it.
%here is as well a dimension of s!ace in it. *t can #e a certain region of
your emotions for instance. %he region associated with the way you
handle your !rofessional life or your s!iritual connection for instance.
%hen there is another dimensionE the ty!e of mind frame we look
at. %his could the materials. *s it an emotion or is it a thought? *s it
a feeling? *s it a formless ins!iration? *s it a desire?
;ll these mind frames are like different materials com!osing your
mind.
)ou see& you miss something hereE A map o) &our mind.
We have glim!ses& !erce!tions& vague ideas or #eliefs& #ut if right
now& * sayE HWhere is your soul located? Where are you !ast thoughts
stored? What is the relationshi! #etween a thought and the emotion
associated with that thought?H we !ro#a#ly have no clear answers to
these /uestions& only glim!ses and intuitive #eliefs.
%he mind might #e such a com!leA vehicle that we still did not find
a way of Gma!!ingH it successfully using a truly suita#le model.
%he three dimensional design of a house is easy to com!rehend. 9ame
for a country+s road ma!.
*f you take a time !lanner or agenda& what you see is a time frame
with various activities. ;gain& this is easy to com!rehend. 7ow& the
mind might #e so com!leA that at this stage& any attem!t to
com!rehend it with our logical skills will #e too sim!listic and miss the
!oint.
9o& we use sim!le models. We write a diary of the day+s events and
feelings& We might as well take it one ste! further and engage into a
!sychothera!y. ; session with a hy!nothera!ist might unlock some
keys in the !ast or o!en new doors into the future.
%hese are still sim!le glim!ses.
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7ow& what would you do if you had more awareness and more !ower
to actually change things in your mind? *magine for a second that
you can easily see where there is friction or energy wasted in your
mind. *magine that you can actually do something a#out it and
remove a !ainful emotion or set u! a new activity channel which will
multi!ly your sense of Boy and !leasure.
Would you take that chance? Would you go with it and attem!t to
understand your mind?
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Master &our nature link
7ature is an essential !art of your life. %hatFs where you have your
real roots. %hatFs where your #ody and !art of your mind comes from.
When you go in nature& s!end some time on a #each or in a forest&
you connect with that !art of yourself.
5ayers of thoughts and ha#its can sto! you from seeing dee! enough
and connecting with what is truly thereE &our instinctual nature.
)ou canFt forget a#out this as!ect of your life. *n fact the life force in
your #ody is a reflection of the life force in nature. ; tree contains the
same life force essence as a human #eing. Ln an energy or etheric
level& life flows in the same way in the whole of nature. *t is #asically
the same mechanism.
%he moment you feel life disharmony& the #est is to go #ack in nature
and let natureFs harmon& re)lect on &our 2eing. %his naturally
creates a frictionless flow of life force which harmoni4es your #eing.
%his flow of life force is the essence of wellness.
; sickness can #e seen as a disharmony in the flow of this life force.
7ature im!acts on all levels of your !ersonality and s!irit. *t
im!acts on your #ody and your mind.
Iur mind is alwa&s using nature as an e9ample )or its own
evolution. 7ature is our original model. *f you cut yourself from
nature& you sim!ly cut yourself from a !recious source of ins!iration.
ave you heard a#out #ionics? ?ionics is the develo!ment of new
technologies using natureFs models. :or instance engineers try to
imitate s!ider we# when creating ultra resistant ro!e. %hatFs #ionics.
*f we go #eyond the !hysical #ody and technology& we enter into a
field we could call 8mind #ionics8.
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Mind 2ionics is the art o) using nature as a source o)
inspiration )or developing &our mind. *t sim!ly means connecting
with your instinctual nature.
7ature is one of your key environments.
Would you feel comforta#le when s!ending a week outdoor in nature
#y yourself. What would you do? ow would you relate to this
environment?
%his is not a form of survival test. *tFs more than an eA!eriment.
; house is a !rotective structure which sim!ly sto!s elemental forces
from im!acting on your #eing. *magine you remove the !rotection of a
home and sim!ly confront your #eing with the elemental forces of
nature. )ou might have eA!erienced a cou!le of nights outdoor. ow
did your feel?
What ha!!ens when you s!end time in nature is very s!ecial and very
magical. )ou ta! into new Ior ancientJ instinctual a#ilities and sim!ly
create a new e/uili#rium with this environment.
)ou can take different 8roles8 when you go in natureE
1 Personal develo!ment& team #uilding - a week-end training with
your com!any
2 <itality& relaAation& free time - a relaAing holiday on a tro!ical
#each
3 9cientific a!!roach - ?iology& 6eology& #ird watching
4 ;rtistic eA!ression - Photogra!hy& !ainting& music
5 Mystical& s!iritual - mediating under a tree
6 3hallenging s!orts - donFt forget your mountain #ike
7 :amily time& social time - 9unday outing
7ow& when you master your relationshi! with nature& you tend to go
#eyond the limits of these activities and see what ha!!ens when your
dro! all that. )ou sim!ly relate to nature and discover how it im!acts
on your mind.
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When you master the nature environment& you sim!ly feel at ease and
comforta#le within that s!ace.
%here are hundreds of ways of 8communicating8 with nature
and waking u! your instinctual mind.
*f you want to try it out& sim!ly go and s!end a cou!le of day in nature
every now and then& this will automatically reconnect you with your
instincts.
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Caining 2ack control over what
is &ours
*f you want to #uild u! mind !ower& all you have to do is appl& &our
natural power to areas o) &our li)e.
%he first ste! is to gain 2ack control over what is &ours.
3ontrolling !ower is one of the most misunderstood forces. *t is a very
!ositive force when channeled in the right direction.
When !eo!le think of !ower they often inter!ret it as the !ower you
have over others. %his is one of the greatest misconce!tions a#out
!ower.
%he first ste! is to shift your attitude and use controlling !ower first
for what is yours.
Personal power areas
ere are the key life areas where you can first eA!ress your !owerE
1 Your thoughts
2 Your emotions
3 Your 2elongings
4 Your time )rame
5 Your personal space
6 Your actions and 2ehaviors
*tFs very sim!le. Your actions 2elong to &ou. When
someone tries to control your actions and tells you what to do& they
are stealing a #asic right from you. %here are some eAce!tions
discussed in other cha!ters of this e-#ook.
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*f someone tells you what you should think and tries to force you& they
are again trying to control something which does not #elong to them.
*f someone takes the keys of your car without your !ermission& they
are trying to have some control over something which does not #elong
to them.
)ou get the !icture?
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-here to start
*f you want more !ower in your life& the #est it to take action. ere are
some sim!le ste!s you can take
*f you feel you gave away your !ower and want it #ack& the #est is to
take small ste!s. 9tart claiming #ack what is o#vious. :or instance
clean your room and !ersonal s!ace and get rid of what you donFt
want there. 7o need to #e aggressive with that. =emem#erE you are
#acked u! #y a #asic natural law.
6aining #ack control over your life is a thrilling eA!erience #ecause
you start using tools which were always there.
When you do this& you set u! new #oundaries and sim!ly strengthen
your !ersonal foundation. )ou give !ower to your #ase and sim!ly
esta#lish a new e/uili#rium in your life.
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Are &ou resisting power,
* come from the 8s!iritual8 world. *n fact * s!ent more than 1(
years 1((O engaged in an inner /uest.
When * was 1,& one of my #est friends argued that my o!inions were
too 8s!acy8. * remem#er his eAact wordsE 86o #ack to your clouds8.
%he s!iritual dimension focuses a lot on 5ove. *t is the key of most
teachings and the to! /uality one tries to develo! on the s!iritual
develo!ment !ath.
;fter actively !racticing a !ath single minded on love& something
strange ha!!enedE * did run out of energy.
%rue0 * sim!ly reali4ed love was not enough. %hatFs the moment *
searched for another /uality to #alance u! my a!!roach.
What came out? Power.
%he first thing you might reali4e when you try to connect with your
own !ower is that you might have lots of misconce!tions a#out it.
*n fact dee! inside& a !art of you could #e reBecting the very idea of
!ower.
)ou associate 8!ower8 with 8a#use of !ower8 and in your mind these
two #ecome one single reality.
%his is the greatest misconce!tion a#out !ower. *t is the num#er one
reason you might #e running out of !owerE dee! inside& something
sim!ly reBects the idea of !ower.
%he first ste! to em!ower your life is to get used again with the idea of
owning !ower.
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Take this simple test=
*f right now * ask youE 8how do you feel a#out !ower?8 what would
you say?
1. * love it0 * want more
'. * am okay with it
-. * am afraid * will need to look at it
4. * donFt like !ower
5. * donFt want !ower. * will stay out of it
* guess the conclusion is o#vious. *f you answered anywhere from '
to 4& this means you are luke warm a#out !ower.
%o get more !ower& the first ste! is to o!en u! to it. *n fact #ecome
su!er conductive to !ower. *f you donFt like !ower& !ower wonFt like
you #ack. *tFs very sim!leE you canFt get more of it if you reBect it in
the first !lace.
%he second ste! is to reali4e that with greater power comes
greater responsi2ilit&.
%he moment you ta! into your sources of !ower& you have to #e very
clear a#out what you want to do with it. )ou need to #e clear a#out
your values and ethics.
Why? ?ecause !ower can #e a very destructive force.
%hatFs it0 we are done.
Lnce you remove resistances and set u! a course of action& all the rest
flows naturally.
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Power is a very natural essence in your life and you were #orn with all
the a#ilities to use and manifest it. )ou connect with it #y waking u!
some natural refleAes. ;ll your 8!ower moves8 are already in you. ;ll
you have to do is wake them #ack.
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7nleash &our power
)es0 9et it free0
)our !ower is an instinct. *t is a force which eAists in you and can #e
constricted #y thousands of limiting thought forms.
*t is called conditioning. *t is !ermanent flow of dou#ts and limiting
dis#eliefs.
Ln the other hand& the natural stream of !ower can kee! on flowing
and create a mighty stream of life force.
)ou have the choice of what you want to feed. )ou can feed your
limiting thoughts or you can em!ower your life in an endless stream of
action and energy.
)ou have the !ower to tune into a wide set of energies. )ou can reflect
them inside and give them s!ace to grow and eA!and.
Power is a choice. >onFt listen when someone tells you !ower is a #ad
thing. *t comes from a misunderstanding. *t is the confusion #etween
!ower and a#use of !ower.
Many !eo!le #elieve that !ower corru!ts. %his is why they stay away
from it. %hey associate !ower with a#use of !ower. When they see the
word 8!ower8& it #rings in negative images of armies& #attle fields and
fanatic dictators. %his is very misleading.
Power has nothing to do with that. Power is an essence you can use
for anything. *tFs like atomic energy or the energy of the sun. *t is
a freeing force which leads to immense life satisfaction.
%here is com!etition for !ower. 9!orts and #usiness are all geared
towards #eing the #est. Politics is often a #attle for !ower as well. %his
com!etition for !ower is again a natural instinct.
When someone is trying to sto! you from gaining more !ower& they
are sim!ly eA!ressing this com!etitive s!irit. *tFs like #eing on a 1(( m
s!rint race and having neAt lineFs runner trying to sto! you.
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*n life& this ha!!ens all the timeE it can #e your neAt door
neigh#or who tells you to shut u!. *t can #e your family&
coworkers& friends. 9ome !eo!le sim!ly donFt want you to grow0
Ln the other hand& those who feel confident a#out themselves and in
a way 8are already there8 will have a reinforcing effect on your
convictions and desires to gain more !ower.
Power is great0
* love !ower0
3an you say it? can you write it down?
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lear &our mind channels
)our mind is the key to your success.
What drains energy is friction.
7egative #eliefs and dou#ts sim!ly create thousands of invisi#le
anchors which act like resistance when you try to take action.
Ln the other hand& if you are clear a#out your choices and sim!ly
em!ower yourself #y clearing dou#ts and self limiting #eliefs& you are
in for an incredi#le life ride.
2nleash0 :ree0 5i#erate0
;n action is su!!orted #y thoughts and #eliefs. ?efore you take action
you usually create a mind set which will su!!ort your moves. )ou #uild
u! skill and any s!orts !erson will tell you. *tFs all in the mind. *n fact
itFs not trueE *tFs in the #ody as well. *t is in the su!!ort structures and
the s!onsors. 7ow& if you take two com!etitors and give them the
same tools& what will make a difference is their mind.
When you are in a race& you can #e em!owered #y different forces.
%he key to success is flow and maAimum efficiency. %his means
removing resistances in the form of limiting emotions& thoughts and
#eliefs. What is the force which hel!s you do that? *t is !recisely
!ower.
%o 8clean your mind8& you can use a force which is called renewal
!ower.
%his is a natural instinct and it is there0
*t is already !art of the game.
;re you using it?
ow do you access it?
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*nner dou#ts& your surroundingFs limiting #eliefs are this 8leash8 we
talk a#out.
%his is what kee!s you from flying 1((O free in life.
%o unleash& your need to ta! into a stronger source of !ower which
removes resistances and sets you on a fresh action and energy
stream.
*t is like an oceanic current of !ower and energy which moves you
forward. *t is the thrill of connecting with an inner force which
connects you with your destiny line.
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Bet &our instincts do the work
Mind !ower is instinctual. )ou can set u! yourself on a 8reasoning
course8 #ut what matters at the end is emotional fuel and the way you
use it.
)ou can discuss strategies& design techni/ues and !ractice the moves&
#ut what gives you the final win is stamina& life !ower& determination.
%hese are not thoughts forms. %hey are free energy.
)our mind is great and !owerful #ut your a#ility to conce!tuali4e can
slow you down. %he goal is to hit the target& whatever that target
might #e.
)ou can talk a#out it or go ahead and do it. *f you have to Bum! in the
water& you can stand neAt to the waves and think a#out it& and reason
a#out or you can Bum! in the water and let your instincts guide you.
%houghts can #e limiting.
*gnorance can #e #liss. .ven if you !racticed the moves and know the
reci!es for success& what gives you the win is your instinctual !ower to
go for it.
%his instinctual !ower is a con/uering force. *t is similar to survival
instinct and does not need thoughts to enter in action.
)our inner drives are your fuel. :ocus and determination are dynamic
energies in your system. %he moment they flow freely is the moment
you act and take decisions in a second. )ou are 1((O in tune with
your destiny line and there is no se!aration #etween your action and
your thought. Mind and action are one.
)ou can make yourself life lists and kee! on delaying success #ecause
dee! inside you hide in the security of your comfort 4one. %he moment
you connect with your action thrill& something else #uilds u!. )ou
reali4e you love this flow of life force and canFt live without it. 5ife
s!eed is your natural state.
%echni/ues #ecome refleAes. )ou have hundreds of natural refleAes in
you. %he art of running is sim!ly the art of reconnecting with natural
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moves. ;rtificial modern life styles overla! and constrict these
instincts. When you unleash your instincts& you unleash a !ower which
was slightly dormant in you. )ou esta#lish it #ack in the core of your
#eing and give it full !ower and trust.
Most of life !ower has nothing to do with reasoning and
conce!tuali4ing your eAistence. *t means going for it fearlessly and
destroying delay.
*ns!iration& mind set and action are one. 9ynchroni4ed. %his is the
moment magic ha!!ens for you. WhatFs on the way? %he limits of your
comfort 4one. )our instincts naturally wander #eyond the limits of
what you already know. :ear and dou#ts call them #ack. %hey reason
an im!ulsion and take away its strength.
)our ins!iration can #e fragile in its original state. )ou can kill that
ins!iration #y #uilding u! a 8resistance mind set8& or you can #uild u!
the ins!iration #y #eing su!er conductive to it.
%he difference #etween su!er flow of life force and #locked energies is
sim!ly a mind set. 3hange your !attern and what you feel is a slow
vehicle can #ecome a high s!eed Bet any time.
9ure& there is conditioning. '(--( years of thought forms #uild u! do
create a mind set. 7ow your own inner renewal !ower has the a#ility
to shift thoughts faster than you can imagine. *t does not take long if
you set your mind into it.
*tFs like connecting with a cleaning force which gives you the tools to
move forward. %he challenge? 6aining s!eed and sim!ly removing
o#stacles. $(O of o#stacles are related with wrong conditioning.
Millions of seed of dou#ts !roBected and anchored in your mind.
7ow you are the master of your mind. %he !ower to get what you want
is yours. *t is a high s!eed movement which can take you where you
want to #e. %his is a move of energies and instincts which are already
alive in you. ;ll you have to do is use them and acce!t that your
!resent mind set can #e shifted and evolved. )our !resent mind
landsca!e is only a tem!orary identity you did #uild over the years.
%he only reason why this identity is there is #ecause you acce!t it
there.
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%here is a natural over glorification of your memory world. Memories
are sim!ly mind frames which create an identity. *t is this identification
which sto!s you from moving forward to another dimension. 5et go of
this identification and you can truly shift your eAistence in no time.
)our instincts have the !ower to guide you with that. )our can
consciously re!lace what you no longer need #y new tools and
mind sets.
*t is very sim!le and it is always your choice. 6aining s!eed in life is
ste!!ing #eyond your comfort 4one. ;fter some time& your new life
s!eed #ecomes your new natural comfort 4one. What is thrilling is the
acceleration& not the s!eed itself. )ou can #e in an air!lane traveling at
1(( milesPhour and not even notice it.
What is thrilling is the acceleration. *f you stay too long within your
comfort 4one& itFs the !assion and eAcitement which are gone.
; daily dose of challenges on the other hand kee!s you alive& fresh
and moving. %hatFs the magic0
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Find &our destin&
; destiny is a !lan& a line of evolution.
)ou can see your destiny as a formless s!ace of energies which create
an invisi#le architecture of o!!ortunities actions and #ehaviors.
When you look into your !ast& you can see an architecture of events.
*n fact its Feasy to recogni4e a !athway.
7ow& imagine that there is a similar architecture for your future. *t is
not static or crystalli4ed. *t is rather created #y a myriad of infinite
o!tions.
We could call these destiny lines.
When you choose #etween two careers for instance& you clearly see
two lines of evolution. *t is the same when you choose for a !lace to
live& a city or even an outing for an evening.
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1 reative power
3reative !ower is of course the first ste!. %his is where
everything #egins. *t ha!!ens when you have an ins!iring idea
you decide to !ut in action. *t is eA!ressed in nature all the time
via the force of fertility.
2 ontrolling power
3ontrolling !ower is what you eA!ress when you have a territory.
)ou naturally eA!ress some form of control over your !ersonality
and #eing. )ou eA!ress control towards your #elongings&
!ersonal s!ace& agenda. *t means that you are in charge. )ou
are in command.
Most a#uses of !ower are related with overuse of controlling
!ower. *t ha!!ens in families& in #usiness and society in general.
3 Preserving or protective power
*magine you have !ro!erty with children !laying on that
!ro!erty. What you want is for them to feel free while still #eing
!rotected. Preserving means o!ening the s!ace& setting free
while still offering !rotection. %he love of a mother for a child& or
the facilitation role you can have in #usiness are two classical
eA!ressions of !rotective !ower.
4 on5uering power
%his !ower eA!ress the drive to eA!and your territory. )ou
eA!ress this !ower when you market or !roduct or when you get
a new di!loma. )ou eA!ress it as well in com!etitive
environments like s!orts. *t usually means that you reach out
#eyond the limits of your eAisting territory.
5 Trans)ormative and renewing
%his !ower is a clearing one. *t is eA!ressed in the seasonFs
cycle. *t is eA!ressed in any form of change or shift. 2sed in a
more negative light& it is called destructive !ower. *t is death and
re#irth at the same time.
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*t can #e seen and felt as a shower of !ositive renewing forces.
*tFs this !ower that you use when you decide to let go or move
on.
ere are some more key ideas a#out these !owers and how
they workE
1 +atural powers
;s you can see& these !owers are already !resent in nature.
%hey are natural forces and our actions sim!ly em#ody one or
the other as!ect of them. %hey are streams of energy and
instincts. *t means that these forces are already !resent in
and around you. ;ll you have to do is use them wisely.
2 This is onl& a model
=eality is of course much more com!leA than this sim!le model.
)ou could ad other !owers de!ending on what you feel. * use
this model as a working tool to hel! clients understand the
dynamics of !ower and how they can shift it& wake it and use it
in their lives.
3 !t is not a DrealD se5uence
%he model shows 5 !owers in a cycle #ut in reality& these forces
are interconnected and eA!ressed simultaneously all the time.
:or instance& even when you reach out and esta#lish a new
marketing !lan within your com!any Icon/uering !owerJ& you
might still have children at school at the same time who do
#enefit from your love I!rotective !owerJ. %he keys of your car
are in your hands Icontrolling !owerJ and you Bust got a new
idea for the coming summer holiday Icreative !owerJ. )ou Bust
threw your soft drinkFs !lastic #ottle in the recycle #in Irenewal
!owerJ.
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ere is a detailed descri!tion of these " areas of !owerE
1 Personal power
Most of what ha!!ens within coaching has to do with develo!ing
!ersonal !ower. Lf course& there is su!!ort with gaining skills&
ownershi!& s!onsorshi!& networking& etc.
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1 Skills
%hese are your natural talents and what you did learn.
L#viously& your education and any training you received
re!resent valua#les sources of !ower.
2 Iwnership
*ncludes money& !ro!erty and #elongings
3 Sponsorship
%his works #oth waysE you can #e a s!onsor or you can #enefit
from s!onsorshi!. %hese are !ower systems which dictate a
certain distri#ution of !ower.
%his is not a financial s!onsorshi!. *t is a system of moral and
energy su!!ort.
9!iritual faith and em!owerment& as an inner /uality would
#e classified here under the 8invisi#le8 s!onsorshi! category.
%hese systems are usually agreed on an instinctual #ase. :or
instance the way informal grou!s will distri#ute !ower Iif there is
no formal organi4ationJ is very much an instinctual eA!ression of
!ower rather than a rational organi4ed decision.
4 +etworking
%his is the !ower you get from #eing !art of something. *t is a
mutual system of forces which em!owers all mem#ers. 9ynergy
for instance would #e !art of this ty!e of em!owering dynamics
5 Political
%his ty!e of !ower is the one given to you #y any form of
organi4ational structure.
; government for instance concentrates the !ower which has
#een delegated to it #y the mem#ers of a the country.
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*f you are the 3.L of an organi4ation& you will receive authority
and !ower to lead this organi4ation
1 oercion
%his ty!e of !ower is #ased on force& violence and military.
*n the neAt cha!ter& we will go dee!er into checking the various
as!ects of your !ersonal !ower for a model which leaves aside
organi4ational related sources of !ower I!olitical& #usiness&
organi4ational& coercive& etc.J
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* use the term !ersonal !ower for any form of !ower which is not
related with organi4ations and !olitics.
Personal !ower is centered on the !erson rather than a system.
%hese models and definitions are !urely intuitive.
)ouFre welcome to design your own model if you feel this one does not
match with what you eA!erience.
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1 Personal )oundation
)our !ersonal foundation are all the elements which sta#ili4e
your !osition in society. ouse& administrative #ody& etc.
2 @motional )oundation
)our emotional foundation is the /uality and strength of your
emotional #ase. *f you feel over sensitive& or vulnera#le& it is
often the sign of a weak emotional foundation. Ln the other
hand& if you are eAtremely confident and sim!ly feel strong&
this is the sign of a !owerful emotional foundation
3 Mind power
%he term of instinctual !ower could #e used here as well.
Mind !ower tends to #e associated with will !ower.
*n my a!!roach * use 5 key instinctual or mind !owersE 3reative&
controlling& !reserving& con/uering and renewing.
* defined these 5 key instinctual !owers #y sim!ly o#serving
them at work in my own #eing and in other !ersons.
4 -ill power
Will !ower as in determination could #e associated with mind
!ower. Will !ower is an inner strength. *t could sim!ly #e totally
merged with one of the instinctual !owers& con/uering !ower&
which could itself #e associated with survival instinct.
5 Bod& power
?ody !ower& heath and vitality are all related with the well
functioning of the !hysical #ody.
6 Skills
9kills& education and knowledge are another essential sources
of !ower.
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1 Iwnership
%his the !ower of money& #elonging and !ro!erty. Lwnershi!
eA!resses the si4e of your 4one of material influence.
2 !nvisi2le sponsors
%his area of !ersonal !ower has not really #een too much talked
a#out. %he life force or life !ower which activates your #ody is
your first and most #asic !ower. *t is the !ower to #e alive. your
connection with nature& its healing and harmoni4ing !ower for
instance are other as!ect of universal em!owering forces.
%hese !owers are not designed in an organi4ed system #y
human #eings.
We could talk a#out natural or su!ernatural forces.
%his !ower is related as well with your universal identity.
3heck as well the !revious cha!ter for a model which includes as
well !olitical& #usiness& organi4ational !ower& etc.
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Freedom o) thought
%his as!ect of your inner !ower is actually a human right
eA!ressly descri#ed in the 2niversal >eclaration of uman =ights.
;rticle 11 statesE
"Everyone has the right to freedom of thought..."
;rticle 1$ statesE
"Everyone has the right to freedom of opinion
and expression..."
;s you can see& #eing master of your thoughts and #eliefs is a
#asic human right.
7o one has the right to force your thoughts or #eliefs.
%his declaration of human rights has of course a !olitical connotation.
owever dee! inside& these laws are natural human laws which define
human !ower and dignity.
%hey do set u! the ground for healthy relationshi!s #etween human
#eings.
Lnce you are assured of this freedom of thought& the neAt level of
mind !ower is to have greater influence over the thinking streams in
yourself.
9ometimes you feel tra!!ed in a way of thinking which feels like
negative or self sa#otaging.
*n these situations& you often reali4e your own limitations in terms of
choosing your 8mind set8.
%his is the moment you start looking for tools to maAimi4e the way
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*magine #eing a#le to click on an em!owering stream of
refreshing thoughts and #eliefs. *tFs a #it like shifting %< channels.
Would you like to #e a#le to choose your 8mind channel8 and
consciously decide a#out the color of your thoughts?
*f you had the !ower to ste! out of a sudden negative thinking
!attern& would you do it?
%here are many streams of wisdom and teachings which aim Bust at
thatE having greater influence over what ha!!ens in your own mind.
%he usual deviation is wanting to control someone elseFs thoughts.
?ig mistake. 6oing that way is !recisely like #reaking these #asic
human rights - article 11 and 1$.
=emem#erE with greater !ower comes greater res!onsi#ility. %he
/uestion isE 8what do you do with your mind !ower?8.
5etFs take another eAam!le and check ideas like mani!ulation and
influence. 3heck the world of sales. What a#out a !olitical
cam!aign. *tFs all a#out influence& right? %he /uestion isE 8when
does influence #ecome unethical8.
9ome years ago& * heard that 8advertising su#liminal messages8 were
#anned from adverting in movie theaters.
9u#liminal messages were very short flashes and images which were
!roBected on screen. %he 8image flash8 was too short to #e consciously
recorded #y someone #ut was still recorded unconsciously #y the human
mind. %he resultE if the image was for instance& a !icture of a fresh glass
of 3oke you could have !eo!le rushing to the #ar at the end of the movie
and ordering a 3oke without really knowing why.
9ociety decidedE %hatFs one ste! too far.
When you wake u! your natural sources of !ower& you have to
consciously choose your ethical 8territory8. *t is like a resource of
energy you can !olari4e in so many directions. .veryone is
res!onsi#le for their own actions in that territory.
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What a#out 8!ositive influence8? %ake this eAam!leE )ou see a street
fight starting in front of a night clu#. Would you like to have the !ower
to ste! in there and 8!ositively influence8 an aggressor so that the
fight sto!s on the s!ot?
;nother eAam!leE Lne of your friends is on an alcohol related 8self
destructive loo!8. Would you like to have the !ower to !ositively
influence them so that their state of mind shifts? *magine what would
ha!!en if after a short talk with you& your friend says something likeE
8)ou know& * donFt know what has #een ha!!ening to me lately& #ut *
can see clearly now what * am doing to myself. 7o good08
We could discuss this further #ut * feel that at this stage the #est
solution is to use your intuition and common sense.
-ith greater power comes greater responsi2ilit&.
Be wise?
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Galues and ethics
With greater !ower comes greater res!onsi#ility. When you ste! into
the field of em!owering your life& a natural need for greater wisdom&
ethics and clear values rises as well.
;n em!owering ste! is to design and choose your own core set of
values.
ere are some eAam!les of what these values Iinner lawsJ can
look like when eA!ressedE
1 7niversal Eeclaration o) Human 8ights
)ou heard a#out that one of course. 3heck it again to strengthen
key inner values
htt!EPPvitalcoaching.comPnotesPuniversal_declaration_of_human_rights.htm
1 Pro)essional standards
%his is my own set of values as a coach. %hey came to my mind
very intuitively over a !eriod of cou!le of weeks.
htt!EPPvitalcoaching.comP!rof.htm
1 Samurai code o) honor
%hese are the " !rinci!les of ?ushido. %he ancient samuraiFs
code of honor
htt!EPPvitalcoaching.comPlifeskillsPres!ectPsamurai.htm
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*f you want to check further this to!ic& sim!ly ask yourself these
sim!le /uestionsE
1 !) &ou had to write down now )ive to ten ke& values
in &our li)e: what would the& 2e,
2 How would &ou e9press them,
3 -hat would 2e the impact o) these values on &our
mind: actions and attitudes,
4 -ho would 2ene)it )rom it,
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Power de)inition
*f you search for a definition of !ower you might #e sur!rised to see
how !ower is defined Icheck Wiki!eda+s !age on this to!ic
htt!EPPen.wiki!edia.orgPwikiPPower_IsociologyJ J
Why is it sur!rising?
?ecause in these !ages& !ower is first defined as the a#ility to control
other !eo!le+s lives. %his !uts the idea of !ower in a very negative
conteAt. %his definition of !ower contains only a small fraction of what
!ower is truly a#out.
%here is a great difference #etween the essence of !ower and what
you do with it.
2sing !ower to control others is only one inter!retation of !ower and it
is an a#use of !ower.
When taken one ste! further& this can lead to coercion which is
domination #y creating fear.
Power and a2use o) power are two ver& di))erent things?
)ou can have !ower without a#using it.
%hroughout history& !ower has #een associated with !olitical leaders&
armies and o!!ression.
%his is why& no#ody says 8* love !ower8.
%hey would #e la#eled as some form of !olitical freak trying to own a
land and its !eo!le.
uge misunderstanding here0
Power has many forms and !olitical a#use of !ower is only one of
them.
%he idea that !ower corru!ts is sim!ly wrong0
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8emove resistances
=esistances are useless0
=emove the anchors which could slow you down.
6et there faster0
%ravel at full s!eed0
%here is no need to !ut your success on hold.
=emove anything which could hold you #ack.
?e su!erconductive to your instinctual !ower.
3reate clear channels of eA!ression in your life.
)ou feel this almighty trust in yourself.
%rust is this !illar of energy in your #eing0
*t is this massive foundation of life force in the core of your mind.
)ou trust your instincts0
)our trust your s!irit0
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Peripheral vision
)ou see the larger !icture.
)ou are aware and awake at all times0
Peri!heral vision is your a#ility to see what is all around you.
*t is all your senses com#ined in one synthetic image.
Perce!tion& awareness.
)ou ta! into the unseen.
)ou see what others can+t !erceive.
)our mind is a clear screen on which im!ressions a!!ear with total
!recision.
;ll your senses are awake0
*nside0 Lutside0 )ou !erceive everything0
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Focus on what thrills &ou
%hrill is eAcitement0
.Acitement is the awakening of your emotional drive.
:ocus only on what thrills you.
3hoose only eAciting targets0
Passion is your driving force. %hrill
is what feeds your con/uest0
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Bod& power
)our #ody is totally aligned with your mind.
)ou maintain a high energy life hygiene.
)our #ody is a clear channel of energy #ecause you give it the care it
needs.
)ou train& eAercise& eat healthy and maintain total inner vitality.
%his is not a#out muscle& it is a#out how much life force flows
through your #eing.
)our #ody is a clear channel of !ower.
%ogether with your mind& they are your greatest assets.
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Your training ground
%here is no safety net0
)our life is your training ground0
)ou are not creating a !icture on a canvas to look at it from the
distance.
)ou are in the middle of the !icture.
)ou are the center of your universe and any situation in life is an
o!!ortunity to !erform at your #est.
)ou train your moves #y !racticing them in real life situations.
;ny word and any action are the eA!ression of your life force.
%hey are your uni/ue occasion to !erform at your #est.
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Part 3 ( Your
per)ormance
power weapons
)ou are #orn with #asic tools.
%hese tools are your instincts.
7ow& years of life and conditioning tend to overla! these #asic
resources.
%he goal of the coming !ages is to hel! you reconnect with your most
#asic mind wea!ons.
%hese wea!ons are your mind tools.
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@motional )uel
.motional fuel is motivation.
*t is fire0
%his fire is the core of your #eing.
)ou em#ody this energy in any of your actions& thoughts and
emotions.
%he more emotional fuel you have& the readiest you are for action.
*magine trying to run your mind engine without this #asic /ualityE you
could not even take the first ste!.
.motional fuel is your
desire. *t is your wants.
*t is your am#itions.
%his is the starting !oint of anything you do in life.
)our num#er one goal is to make sure that you own this fuel.
)ou are the one who controls it.
Why is that?
?ecause it is your #irth right.
)ou are the owner of an infinite resource of energy inside yourself and
you are in the cock!it.
.very time you invest yourself in a !roBect& you use some of this
emotional resources.
*f you invest in someone else+s !roBect& this is where your emotional
resources go.
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.motional fuel is more !recious than money.
*t is the raw energy in the core of your #eing.
)ou want to make sure that this emotional fuel kee!s flowing.
*t flows through your mind channels.
; mind channel is an idea& emotion or mind set.
%his means that you want to create mind sets which are su!er
conductive to life.
?lockages& fears& dou#ts& hesitations are all mind #lockages. %he more
you res!ond to them& the more you #lock your emotional fuel.
;nother way of loosing your emotional resources is to let other !eo!le
take control over your life.
When this ha!!ens& you feel drained and systematically tired.
%his is !urely related with a !sychic mind set.
)ou can #e for instance in a !rofessional situation where you feel
limited and una#le to eA!ress your creativity.
)ou can feel tra!!ed with a dominant !artner in a relationshi!.
)ou can feel insecure within a circle of friends.
;ll these situations have something in
common. )ou feel over!owered.
)our emotional fuel sto!s flowing.
;s soon as you start eA!ressing your !ower& you #reak these !atterns.
)ou reclaim ownershi! over your life and send out a clear statementE
G* own my life0H
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)ou are the one in charge. 7o one #ut you has the !ower of deciding
what ha!!ens and when.
*t is your right to eA!ress this !ower0
%he moment you eA!ress your !ower& you !rotect your energy
resources and invest them eAactly the way you want.
)our emotional fuel wants to #e freed0
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-ill power
Will !ower is your a#ility to go for it and !ersevere0
)ou focus on your target and don+t let go until you hit it0
Will !ower is your own individual reserve of determination.
*f you are in a #attle& you can sometimes win easily& #ecause you have
all the skills and tools you need and #ecause you know how to #reak
through.
7ow& if victory does not ha!!en #y itself and you face a high level of
resistance or com!etitiveness& will !ower is what makes the difference
and gives you the final victory.
2sing your will !ower concentrates all your energy in a given !lace and
given time.
)ou invoke the totality of your resources in one s!ot and use this
energy to feed your action.
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on5uering power
;ny time you head for a new territory& you use your con/uering !ower.
)ou use this con/uering !ower when you study& when you create a
#usiness& when you make an income& when you eA!and your
knowledge or when you give yourself a set of goals.
7ow& again& there is an infinite resource of con/uering !ower in you.
When you #ecome comforta#le within a secured situation your
con/uering !ower tends to slow down.
)ou achieved what you wanted to and now& you focus on securing
what you have.
)ou shift from Gcon/uering moodH to G!reserving moodH.
9u!!ose you created a #usiness and it is running well.
)ou might feel the need to head for a new challenge and start a new
venture.
%his ha!!ens !recisely #ecause your con/uering drive wakes u!.
)ou feel that your !resent territory is not challenging enough and you
need a new kick0
)ou love the adrenaline rush when you hit a target0
3on/uering !ower is a natural instinct in any human #eing.
*t is your a#ility to head for new territories0
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Survival drive
9urvival drive wakes u! when your life is in danger.
%his original instinct forces you to look for food and shelter.
7ow& this survival drive is a /uality which wakes u! when your life is in
danger.
*t is an inner call which saysE G 5ife threat0H
Lf course& most of the times your life is not really in danger.
When it comes to #asic survival though& this is the num#er one source
of energy which wakes u! and stimulates you to take action.
;nyone who might have #een in danger has felt this inner rush of
energy.
*t is a natural #oost your own s!irit or nature gives you.
*t is like setting u! the Gtur#oH in your car.
)our survival drive is not concerned with distant goals and com!leA
mechanisms.
*t is a #asic instinctual reaction to a threat on your life.
When you are taken #y your survival drive& you can see yourself
ta!!ing in resources you did not even know you had.
%here is a dimension of magic and mystery to it.
*t is your res!onse to crisis situations.
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Focus onl& on what thrills &ou
* already mentioned this earlier #ut it is so im!ortant& * need
to eA!lain it dee!er.
Motivation and emotional fuel comes from eAcitement.
%he way to invite more emotional fuel into your #eing is to focus first
on what is eAciting.
)ou might think that you can force your mind to get motivated?
2sually& it won+t work0
.motional fuel flows the moment you focus on eAciting targets.
*f your targets are #oring or from the !ast& your own s!irit saysE G7o
way0H
*t has to do with your destiny lines and !ath of evolution.
%he #est way to kill your emotional fuel is to #uild walls of security so
thick that life and renewal sim!ly no longer get through.
Part of your #eing needs challenge0 ;lways0
)ou might recogni4e from your own life a moment when you felt
stacked #ecause the flow of life force and motivation sto!!ed.
)ou might have felt #ored.
)ou might have felt tra!!ed #etween what society thought you should
#e doing and what you truly wanted.
9ociety and your environment tend to focus a lot on security.
)ou& on the other hand need !assion and eAcitement as well.
%hese two interests sometimes enter in conflict and it is truly your
right to decide what comes neAt.
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)our goals are yours0
*f you focus on targets which miss this !rofound level of thrill& you
won+t get anywhere.
:ocus on what thrills you
first0 5et go of GshouldsH.
%his is your life and you own the right to decide for yourself what
you want.
*t is okay to #e selfish and think of yourself first.
When you focus on what thrills you& you invite a massive flow of life
force in your #eing.
)ou clear your mind s!ace. )ou are 1((O alive.
*t im!acts on your health and on the way you relate to others.
*t is a win-win for everyone involved0
7o need to make concessions0
*f you are not thrilled #y an idea& sim!leE dro! it0
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Best wa& to prepare &oursel)
%he #est way to !re!are yourself is to manifest the right mind set.
)our mind set is your vehicle and #efore you take action& it is wise to
identify eAactly how to stand in it.
7o need to think a#out it for weeks.
9im!ly take a minute to ste! #ack and o#serve what you truly
eA!ect from the action you are a#out to take.
%he right mind set creates the !erfect alignment of forces in your
system.
*t is one of the keys to any success in life.
2sually& you do have choices to make when you choose for the right
mind set.
)ou see your various o!tions and consciously decide what role you
!lay.
*t is like a shirt you !ut on.
)our mind set is your vehicle for the coming course of action.
*f you are GalignedH inside& everything flows much easier.
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The secret door to &our mind
%he secret door to your mind is your inner listening a#ility.
)ou do have inner senses.
)ou do have intuitive senses which tell you eAactly where you are at
and where you can #e.
)our instincts are !owerful.
%he moment you start trusting them more dee!ly& you reali4e that you
can unleash a whole new wave of inner !otential.
*nstinctual !ower is your a#ility to res!ond instinctively to situations.
)our instincts synthesi4e a whole situation into a sim!le action !ath.
)our instincts see the #est way in any given situation.
%he #est way to train this inner sense is use it and to trust yourself.
)our instincts are in direct connection with the dee!est !art of your
#eing.
%hey are a !owerful force you can use to unleash your true mind
!otential.
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Cive rh&thm to &our da&
=hythm is what structures time.
*f you have music without rhythm& you sim!ly have a succession of
notes which merge into each other in an incoherent way.
*magine a landsca!e on which you take away the lines #etween the
sha!esE all you have left is a succession of colors which merge into
each other without definition.
%ime gives form and !ower to your day.
*t creates waves of energy with !eaks and rests.
7ow& you do have a natural rhythm.
9hift s!eeds and action lines.
>are to let go and create highly concentrated se/uences of energy
rather than a long monotonous one.
)ou will see that the moment you follow your natural rhythm and shift
activities fre/uently& you maintain a high level of eAcitement and
energy.
6ive rhythm to your actions.
%his is one of your to! !erformance wea!ons0
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Making the right choices
3hoices are your GcrossroadsH.
>e!ending on the !ath you take& this can #ring your closer or further
away from your !rofound goals.
; choice can #e this magic moment when a world of o!!ortunities
does o!en u!.
9ome other choices can limit your own evolution.
%o make the right choice& you need a cou!le of thingsE
9ynthetic vision and clarity.
*magine your mind as clear screen on which you can !erceive the
direct conse/uences of your actions.
)ou see !athways.
%his inner vision is an a#ility you train.
7ow& making choices means that you are faced with various o!tions.
Lften& these o!tions are the reflection of conflicting interests.
%hese different o!tions can #e the mirror of different views on life and
different mind sets.
)ou can eA!and your choice making s!ace and gain immense clarity
over where you want to go.
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Action is li)e?
What #rings you from where you are to where you want to #e is
action.
; mind set is only a vehicle.
%he real change and result ha!!ens when you take action and
do something which reflects the way you stand inside.
;ction invites life force in your #eing.
*t is the direct eA!ression of your manifestation !ower.
When you take action& you eA!ress your right to create.
%his is why action is the #est and most direct way to o!en new doors
in your life.
>are to take risks and go #eyond your comfort 4one.
When you do& you invite a refreshing stream of energy into your #eing
and wake u! your survival or con/uering instinct.
;ction unleashes your !rofound !otential.
9to! thinking a#out it and do it.
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Part 1 % #4 power)ul
mind training
techni5ues
%hese 1( techni/ues are sim!le ways to get you moving.
%hey are 1((O focused on you and your mind.
%he goal is sim!leE train your Gmind muscleH.
%hese are not fiAed& rigid techni/uesE they are only guidelines.
.ventually& you can recreate these techni/ues in your own way.
%hey are series of Gmind movementsH which evolve with time and
!ractice.
Most of these techni/ues re/uire some focus and !ractice.
* would say that it takes 1 to - months to fully master and own a
techni/ue.
*t is literally like training in the gym.
6ive yourself a target of achieving significant shifts over a !eriod of 1
to - months.
%his means focus on these techni/ues and use them regularly.
)ou will feel your !ower and mind sets naturally getting clarified and
energi4ed.
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Active sel) talk ( techni5ue
)ou are !ro#a#ly familiar with the idea of self talk& right?
9elf talk is the story you tell yourself inwardly.
%he goal of this techni/ue is to eA!ress this self talk outwardly.
5iterally& you talk to yourself.
%he moment you s!eak the words& you hear them as well.
)ou o#serve your thoughts and you reali4e that you can actually direct
your self talk.
*t is not anymore a conversation you can+t influence or goes on #y
GitselfH.
)ou direct your self talk and eA!ress the thoughts& #eliefs and
emotions you truly want to have.
%his is a creative way of !rogramming your mind.
)ou !rogram your mind #y s!eaking out the words.
ere is an eAam!le. )ou are alone at home& early morning. ere is a
conversation you could #e having with yourselfE
1 * feel like * should take action #ut * don+t know what direction to
goN
2 )es0 )ou know
3 %rueN * know #ut * have dou#tsN
4 What are your o!tions?
5 * could directly go the office and s!eak with Cim a#out what we
discussed yesterdayN
6 What would you say?
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1 %hat * like his idea& #ut that we should get a #ack u! !lan as
well& Bust in case we don+t get enough fundsN
2 What would #e a #acku! !lan?
3 %o sim!ly maintain the #usiness structure the way it is right
now.
4 9o& what you say is that you have two strategies and you want
to agree with Cim a#out them.
5 .tc.
*n these ' minutes& something very s!ecial ha!!enedE
1 )ou gained clarity
2 )ou #rought out a cou!le of constructive ideas
3 )ou designed a solid strategy for your morning
4 .tc.
)ou can have a conversation with yourself on any to!ic.
%he difference when you s!eak the words out is that you #ecome an
active creator of this conversation.
When you kee! this self talk in your mind& you miss focus and
awareness. *n fact& you tend to #e !assive and let your mind wander
in incoherent loo!s.
)ou can think many ideas without them manifesting to the surface of
your awareness.
%his means that you might #e #uilding u! negative self #eliefs or
missing on some essential insights.
.A!ressing ver#ally your self talk em!owers your mind. *t gives you
focus and directs your energy in a creative way.
When you eA!ress your self talk& you coach yourself.
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7ot only& you #ecome aware of what ha!!ens in your mind #ut you
direct your thinking stream as well.
%his !ractice is eAtremely em!owering #ecause it strengthens action lines
and vision in your mind. *t sim!ly em!owers your mind channels.
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-ill power concentration
( techni5ue
%his is a direct 1 minute techni/ue.
)ou can stand to !ractice this.
>on+t lay down& it makes you too !assive.
%o #reak through most situations& you need eAtra !ower.
%he goal of this techni/ue is to #uild u! eAtra !ower and
determination.
ere is what you doE
)ou stand still& eyes o!en and see yourself as a volume of energy.
7ow& you want to get ready for #attle.
)ou concentrate your !ower and energy.
*magine that your goal is in front of you.
=ight now& you are totally selfish.
7othing #ut you matters.
)ou totally concentrate your energy.
)our mind is 1((O single focused.
)ou stand still ready for #attle.
%his is the concentration #efore #attle.
)ou are invinci#le.
)ou give only to one directionE your mind.
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%his is where your energy is totally focused.
3oncentration I3on-centrationJ means that all energies you have in
you evolve around one coreE you and your mind.
%his is a high s!eed& high intensity techni/ue.
*t is this moment of stillness #efore your Bum!.
)ou want to #ring in a concentration of forces right here& right now.
*t is your moment of focus #efore you take action.
%he only thing which matters at this moment is you and the target you
want to reach.
>etermination and will !ower are naturally in you.
%his one minute concentration tells you one thingE total focus0
%otal concentration of energy0
)ou are ready for #attle0
Qee! this !ractice very short and use it when you feel a challenge
coming.
*t is an eAcellent techni/ue as well to use when you feel lots of
eAternal resistance.
3oncentrate for one minute and go for action straight after that.
)ou can focus on the words G:ocusH& G;ctionH& GWill !owerH or
G>eterminationH as well. )ou can re!eat them aloud or to yourself.
)ou can as well use other words and even short em!owering sentences
likeE G%ake action0H or GWin now0H
3oncentration& focus& determination and will !ower are mind attitudes.
%hey are internal energies you learn to master.
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With this sim!le 1 minute focus& you connect with your inner source
and use this eAtra !ower to take action.
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Gictor& drill ( techni5ue
%his techni/ue is dynamic and com#ines #ody movement with voice.
)ou stand on a s!ot and start Bum!ing.
Cum! as if you were Bogging or ski!!ing on the s!ot.
7ow& you ad the word GWin0H and s!eak it out Iyou can even do that
very loudly if you are #y yourself in natureJ rhythmically with your
Bum!s.
Win0 Win0 Win0 Win0 Win0 N
%his techni/ue energi4es you and esta#lishes the GvictoryH mind set
in you.
<ictory is a mind set0
%he core of this mind set is the word Gvictory0H& Gwinning0H or Gwin0H
When you re!eat this word rhythmically in that way you invoke the
victory mind set in you.
*n fact& you remove anything which is not aligned with the idea of
victory in you.
%his techni/ue is a drill0
%his means that you stretch your natural limit when you use it.
*t is intelligent& !owerful and effective.
* the #eginning& use it for a cou!le of minutes.
When you feel more comforta#le with it& you can stretch it in time.
6o for a run on the #each and use the word Gwin0H to give rhythm&
focus and !ower to your light Bog.
%his techni/ue is very transformative.
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%he moment you use it& you #reak o!en new lines of life force in your
mind. )ou energi4e as!ects of your emotional #ody and create a new
!illar of energy in the core of it.
;gain& if you use this techni/ue over one to three months& you will
truly own it and master it.
Play with that force and make it 1((O !art of your #eing.
* guarantee you that it makes a massive difference.
2se it0
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Super con)idence shield (
techni5ue
%he goal of this techni/ue is very sim!leE create an eAtra layer of
!rotection around your #eing.
*magine a s!here of energy around you. %his is your auric field& energy
#ody or etheric #ody.
%his envelo!e !rotects you.
7ow& imagine that any Budgment or attack on your #eing sim!ly
#ounces on the surface of your mind.
9ee attacks like arrows which are sim!ly refracted on the surface of
your mind.
)ou are still. 9im!ly o#serve that.
7ow& you will strengthen this shield.
)ou will use a sim!le martial art techni/ue which is the GQiai0H
GQiai0H is the sound you eA!ress as you give a kick or !unch forward.
9ound is very !owerful0
*t strengthens your shield and !rotects you from attacks.
;s you give a !unch forward with your fist& you screamE GQiai0H.
%ake a ste! #ack and re!eat this movement a few times.
)ou can shift arm or shift from !unch to kick.
%he moment you sound GQiaiH& you send out a clear statementE
G>efenseH& G9hields u!H.
*f you feel that life is a #attle field and that you miss the tools
to defend your territory& this is definitely the techni/ue to use.
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)ou will em!ower your emotional foundation straight away when you
do so.
)ou will as well strengthen your natural mind shield and create a
greater sense of inner security.
=emem#er one thing thoughE a shield is a #attle tool. )ou use it
dynamically and stay alert and awake.
)ou need to identify negative influences and not let attacks come in.
?eware of %roBan horses and other strategies which aim at #reaking
through your shields.
?e wise0
9tay awake and eA!eriment with these ways of !rotecting yourself and
defending your territory.
)our mind is a su#tle ecosystem.
)ou are in charge of it0
%his is your territory0
%his GQiai0H techni/ue gives you the eAtra !ower kick to !rotect
yourself.
9mile and stay confident0
)ou are safe0
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Assertive determination (
techni5ue
When you want to reach a target& you must always #e aware of side
tracks and deviations.
%his techni/ue is a sim!le concentration techni/ue which gives you
the a#ility to stay focused on your target.
*magine your target and hold in your mind a !icture or a word
eA!ressing your target.
%here is only one way to reach this targetE it is to stay focused on it
and eA!ress your fighting and con/uering !ower.
*magine your target and increase your focus and concentration on it.
;nything which deviates you from it is wi!ed out instantly.
)our vision stays firmly focused on this target.
;ssertiveness is a mind set you #uild in you.
%he core of this force is your mind.
ow does it work?
)our vision& need and desire is stronger than anyone else+s.
)ou know what you want and nothing can deviate your from it.
)ou focus on this goal and you don+t deviate from it.
)ou esta#lish a visual connection with this target and this is the only
thing that matters.
*t is your direction.
*t is your uni/ue !ur!ose.
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?etween now and the moment you reach your target& you
will encounter side tracks and deviations.
%he vision of what you want to achieve and what you want to reach
will stay firmly em#edded in your mind.
)our mind is 1((O focused and no one and nothing will shift you from
your target.
7eAt ste!& take a white !age and write down a word or short sentence
which summari4es your target.
2se ca!ital letters. 2se a #lack !en. 2se #ig enough letters.
%his is a statement of what you want to reach.
2nder these words& write down the termsE
G;ssertiveH& Gcon/uering !owerH or Gfighting instinctH.
%hese are the key /ualities you want to eA!ress.
%ake this white !age& fold it and kee! it with you in your !ocket or
with other !a!ers.
%his is the way you !rogram your mind.
*t is like a mind !ower Gto doH list.
.very time you come across this !a!er or feel it in your !ocket it
acts as a reminder of your target.
*t Gcrystalli4esH the assertive mind set in you and focuses your !ower.
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Total emotional )reedom
( techni5ue
When you want to take action& the less resistance you feel& the #etter&
right?
%his techni/ue is aimed at one goalE removing what could hold
you #ack. %hese are memories& thoughts& ideas& #eliefs& emotions
or feelings from the !ast that you no longer need.
ere is how it worksE
*dentify an emotion& fear& dou#t& or thought which could hold you
#ack.
:or instance& if you had a negative eA!erience a month ago& the
GtraceH of this eA!erience can still #e !resent in your mind.
*f you can+t identify any negative emotion& #elief or thought in your
mind& then it+s !erfect. 9to! reading right now this cha!ter and Bum!
directly to the neAt one.
7ow& if you feel that anything is #othering you or worrying you& you
want to increase your level of emotional freedom and remove the
source of tension you might identify.
;ny tension& inner conflict or worry drains your energy.
ere is what you can do to shift a negative emotion or draining mind
setE
9u!!ose last week you got angry with your a colleague at work.
7ow& you feel guilty.
:ace it.
:ace the events.
5ook at them straight in the eyes.
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What do you see?
)ou see yourself overreacting and making a mistake?
%he reason this #others you is #ecause you need to learn something
from it.
%he G!rocessH of what you eA!erienced has not yet #een solved.
; learning eA!erience #ecomes a mistake only when you
kee! re!eating it without learning from it.
%he first ste! is to identify what could #e learned.
*f you were confronted with the same situation again& is there another
!ossi#le reaction.
ow would you deal with the same situation in a more di!lomatic way.
:ocus on it and come u! with another line of action& even if you find it
emotionally challenging.
7ow& recall eAactly the ste!s you would take and what you would say
if this situation would ha!!en again.
Lnce you have a new effective strategy& go to the neAt ste!E 5et go
and forgive yourself.
ow do you do that?
9im!le& re!eat to yourselfE G* am not !erfect. * can make mistakes. *
learned from my eA!erience. * forgive myselfH
)ou can remem#er these words or s!eak them aloud.
%he key now is to let go and forgive yourself.
%his is a very s!ecific eAam!le #ut it works in a similar way with any
negative emotion& thought or #elief.
%here is a !illar of freeing !ower in your mind.
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%his !illar is your !ower of renewal.
%his is the force which flows through your #eing and clears your mind
for new eA!eriences to take !lace.
%his techni/ue is a#out increasing your level of internal freedom.
?asically you free emotional s!ace when doing so.
We are here in an area which can #e /uite challenging.
*f you feel you can+t manage to clear a negative thought& eA!erience or
emotion #y yourself& * can hel! you further and Boin forces with you to
do that together.
<isit this link and sign in for a cou!le of sessionsE
htt!EPPvitalcoaching.comPsignin.htm
* would #e looking forward to coach you further with that.
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Power vision ( techni5ue
)our vision is what you !roBect into your future.
*t is the a#ility to o!en s!ace and create on a conce!tual level.
:irst& #ring your mind to a still !oint.
%ake a moment to stay silent and start imagining your life 5 years from
now I%his is only an eAam!le. )ou can focus on what will ha!!en neAt
week& in the coming month or in the coming year for instanceJ.
7ow& let the flow of thoughts freely create a vision in your mind.
%he neAt ste! is to take a white !age.
)ou want to create a mind ma! of your vision.
:ollow this eAam!le to see some mind ma!s styles * use myselfE
htt!EPPvitalcoaching.comPallareasPcoachingstrategy.htm
%ake your white !age and in the center of it& writeE
Bi)e Gision
* &ears
;round this central image& start adding elements which you feel are
im!ortant for you in the future.
9tart first with general areas like #usiness or relationshi!s.
)ou can refine and ad as many details as you want to eA!ress your life
vision.
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%his sim!le mind ma! is your !lan.
*magine for a second an architect creating a new #uilding without
ever !utting things on !a!er.
)our !lan is your vision.
*t is not rigid.
owever& writing it down em!owers it and gives it new roots in your
mind.
?e ready to redesign it regularly if you have to.
;d new ideas into it.
What matters is that you take a few minutes to focus on it regularly
and check where you are at.
6oal setting can work against you when you fiA targets with too high
eA!ectations.
%oo high eA!ectations can make you feel very frustrated and unha!!y
when you reali4e you won+t reach them.
%o avoid this& kee! your !lan fleAi#le and focus on /ualities you want
to manifest in your life rather than fiAed material targets.
Qee! your !lan as o!en and fleAi#le as you want to.
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!nstant e))ective strateg&
( techni5ue
When you are in the middle of a challenge you want the a#ility to
res!ond fast and directly to any situation.
)ou can+t design in advance strategies for everything #ut you can stay
fleAi#le& o!en minded& alert and ready to res!ond any time anywhere.
%o do this& you need synthetic clarity and awareness.
%he goal is sim!leE you want to train your strategic skills.
%his means that you want to #e a#le to design effective strategies
easily.
%ake a !resent challenge in your life.
*f you don+t have any& take someone else+s Ia friend& !artner&
colleague& a situation from the news& etcJ
7ow& it is very sim!leE
)ou want to increase your reaction and strategic s!eed.
7o matter the situation& give yourself 1 minute to come u! with
an effective strategy to solve this challenge.
)ou don+t have to succeed& you only have to focus on it and try.
7o matter what you reached& after one minute& sto! and dro! it.
%ake another eAam!le& eventually write it down in a few words and
give yourself 1 minute to solve that one.
)ou can re!eat this techni/ue a few times ImaA 5J.
;fter that dro! it.
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%he goal is to increase your reaction s!eed. 7o need to stretch the
!ractice.
:ocus rather on short& concentrated sessions where you try to solve 4
or 5 s!ecific challenges in 5 minutes.
)ou will notice that if you !ractice this regularly& you are a#le to come
with effective solutions for almost anything.
When you find solutions& you use your emotional intelligence skills.
%his is very much a Gright #rainH training !ractice.
:ocus on trusting your instincts and intuition rather than rationali4ing
too much.
When faced with challenges in life& your survival drive wakes u! and
calls a new set of instinctual resources.
%hese are the new skills you want to o!en u!.
=es!ond with your guts& first im!ression and com!lete the !icture with
a reality and logical check.
=eason alone can definitely #e too slow or limited when you are
tra!!ed in a storm and need to act fast.
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E&namic s&nerg& 2uilding
( techni5ue
ow good you !erform in life is intimately linked with how well you
relate to others.
ow effective is your connection with those around you?
%his techni/ue aims at increasing synergy in any connection
you esta#lish.
9ynergy I9ynchroni4ed-energyJ focuses on creating win-wins out of
any situation.
ere is a sim!le techni/ue to multi!ly synergy in your life.
*magine someone you interact with regularly.
%he conteAt does not matter.
7ow& for a minute& !ut yourself in this other !erson+s !osition.
*magine the world as they see it.
%ake a white !age and write down their name in the middle of it.
2nder their name& write down what you #elieve are 5 main goals for
them.
7ow& for any of these goals& ask yourselfE
GWhat role do you !lay towards that !erson?H
;re you negative& neutral or !ositive towards that goal?
* su!!ose you know already what comes neAt& right?
%he goal of this game is to shift $(O of your !ositions from negative
or neutral to !ositive.
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)ou want to #ecome a !ositive force in that !erson+s life.
)ou don+t need to emotionally invest yourself.
;ll you have to do is remove the #lockages in your mind which could
sto! you from encouraging that !erson+s goals.
What you do is very sim!leE you shift from com!etitive to
colla#orative.
%ake 5 minutes to analy4e this.
7eAt time you meet that !erson& make sure that what you say reflects
a !ositive attitude towards that !erson+s goals.
%his is synergy.
*t is a direct way of creating win-wins in life.
%he more you have of it& the more energy flows through your system.
Lf course& in some situations& your role is to #e the challenger and
com!etition will #e the mind set you use& #ut think of situations like
friends& social life& #usiness meetings& family& relationshi!s& etc.
%here are do4ens of situations in life where the com!etitive mind set is
immensely draining for #oth !arties.
*f you shift some of that to a synergic mind set& you will feel a
tremendous increase of life force flow and satisfaction.
)ou let go of com!etition and focus on win-wins.
)ou can re!eat this !ractice regularly s!ecially with !ersons you find
challenging to relate to.
)ou will notice that within a month& your relating #ase can totally shift.
*t is direct and su!er effective0
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S&nchroniAed action % techni5ue
%iming and location0
%o succeed with what you want to achieve& you need to #e in the right
!lace at the right time.
7ow& synchronicity has some /uasi mystical dimension of magic to it.
9ynchronicity is descri#ed as the alignment of universal forces with
one+s own eA!erience. %hat+s the G#igH definition.
*n reality you can see synchronicity in the !erfect alignment of your
actions& thoughts and emotions with a natural greater flow.
)ou cultivate synchronicity #y develo!ing your awareness of what goes
on around you.
?eing synchroni4ed means #eing frictionless.
ere is a techni/ue which hel!s you em!ower this /uality in your
systemE
?efore you start your day& take a white !age and write down the lines
of action you can focus on today.
Lnce these lines are in front of you& ask yourself this sim!le /uestionE
What is my to! !riority today?
7eAt& ask yourselfE
What is really the #est line of action * can focus on today?
When you ask yourself this /uestion& you consider other elements
like timing& other !eo!le involved& circumstances& etc.
*f you take only 5 minutes to reflect on the #est line of action& you
could #e totally shifting your day.
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9ynchronicity is the art of #ringing this eAtra s!onsoring /uality to
everyone of your actions.
*t makes sure that you go with the flow rather than struggling to go
u!stream.
Lnce the great lines of action for your day are set& check a #it more in
the details.
)ou have the !ower to foresee areas of struggle& challenge or friction.
%ake these 5 minutes in the morning #efore you set u! yourself on a
course of action.
*t is your way of tuning in and synchroni4ing your actions with all the
forces involved.
*f you want to ad a mind conce!t to this to hel! you throughout the
day& think of Gsynchroni4edH or GfrictionlessH& this will hel! you stay
focused.
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Part / ( 6e&
strategies to get
what &ou want
We live in a time where no one needs to loose.
6etting what you want is a#out satisfying your own con/uering drive.
%his !ower is your driving force in con/uering new territories.
%he moment you unleash it& you release natural resources of energy
which start flowing in creative ways.
*n the neAt few !ages& * will show you direct and effective strategies to
reach your goals.
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How to get e9actl& what &ou want
%he first ste! is to identify valua#le targets.
Lnce you identify your targets& give yourself a time frame.
%he third ste! is to identify the !ossi#le distractions& side tracks
and challenges you could face along the way.
;iming for a target is like engaging in a new travel.
)ou want to have some form of road ma! and vision of where you are
going.
?efore you engage yourself with your full !ower& you will do some test
drives. )ou will take some small ste!s to try out and see if anything is
still missing.
;fter that& it is all a#out going for it and staying focused.
%his !re!aration time is a #uild u!.
%iming0 >on+t forget a#out that one0
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How to mani)est s&nchronicit& at
all times
)es0 %iming0
9ynchronicity is your a#ility to synchroni4e your actions with a larger
flow of energy.
*t has to #e the right time for you and the right time for all
forces engaged in your !roBect.
?eing synchroni4ed at all times is an art.
*t is your a#ility to go with the flow and res!ond to o!!ortunities and
o!en doors when you see them.
;t the same time& you alternate your Ggo with the flowH a#ility with
stronger in!uts of will !ower and determination.
9ometimes& it is wise to take a short cut and minimili4e your effort.
9ynchronicity is a#out giving fluidity to your actions and creating
frictionless enter!rises.
%he #est and most direct way to wake u! your full synchronicity !ower
is to use your instincts and intuition.
2sing your will !ower only might re/uire too much effort.
Partner with the natural Gmanifestation windsH.
%he moment you synchroni4e your efforts with the right sources& you
reali4e that you can get a massive su!!ort of energy.
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How to use challenges to project
&oursel) )orward
; challenge is always an o!!ortunity to grow.
%he #est way to use challenges is to face them and learn from them.
*f you feel you can+t get it right every single time& it sim!ly means that
you miss some eA!erience.
%he #est way to gain this eAtra eA!erience is to eA!eriment a #it.
.A!erience and eA!eriment have the same root.
*t is not a coincidence. )ou
eA!eriment #y trying.
*f you don+t succeed the first time& forgive yourself and see this as a
learning eA!erience.
%he #est way to learn to swim is to Bum! in the water.
)ou can !erceive life as a series of challenges.
%his is the way you #uild character& skills and develo! the
effectiveness of your mind.
.ffectiveness is not an a#straction or a thought. *t is a mind set you
develo! #y immersing yourself in real life situations.
%rying is a victory in itself0
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!) &ou 2ang &our head against a
wall: stop right now?
*n other words& learn from your eA!eriences0
*f you kee! hurting yourself or missing your targets& take a moment to
analy4e your strategy and see where you can shift key elements.
9hift actions !aths and try new ways and new mind sets.
:or any given situation there is always a #est way to stand in it.
?est !erformance is not Bust any !erformance.
)ou want to aim for what gives you the greatest satisfaction and
result& right?
5earning form your eA!eriences is the #est way to evolve very fast.
%ake a moment to ste! #ack and listen0
9tay silent for a while and identify eAactly what you can shift in your
a!!roach.
9ometimes& the #est way to deal with a wall is to go around it.
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S&nergiAe?
Coin forces0 :ocus
on win-win0
)our mind is not an isolated entity.
)ou are connected with everything that surrounds you at all times.
)ou are connected with everything through invisi#le energy links.
%he #est way to o!en doors is to work with the forces of nature rather
than against them.
*t sounds logical& isn+t it?
3reating conflicting forces is the #est way to waste energy.
)ou live in a time where no one needs to loose.
)our human s!irit has the a#ility to generate win-wins at all times.
;fter win-win comes third win.
.veryone can win.
%he com!etition e/uation has shifted.
9ynergy o!ens doors and s!ace.
*t is your most direct !ath to any dee! success.
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Trust and go with the )low
%rust yourself0
.very time you sit #ack and hesitate& you feed your dou#ts.
.very time& you take action& you feed your trust.
*magine swimming in a river.
%he moment you go with the flow& everything #ecomes easy.
; river is a stream of manifestation. *t ha!!ens right now.
%he moment you resist the current and focus on your own
individuali4ed will only you have to !ut u! lots of effort.
Lnce you trust and let go& you notice that your river sim!ly takes you
to the sea.
%his river is sym#olically your destiny line.
)ou can throw anchors and try to sto! the movement or you can
consciously lift these anchors and allow evolution to do its
natural work.
)ou are !art of a larger s!irit.
)ou are !art of a larger reality.
%his river is your Gs!onsoringH force.
*t is the energy which sustains your actions and em!owers your goals.
6o with the flow0
%rust your instincts0
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!ntegrating new skills
*f you miss some tools& you want to ste! out of the #attle for a
while and get what you need.
9kills are mind sets and actions.
%hey are a reality you integrate in your #eing.
*dentify eAactly what is missing and get it0
*t often takes courage and humility to ste! out of a situation and
reali4e that you miss some keys.
=eali4e that change and renewal can easily create !ressure on your
#eing.
*f your !resent mind set is not effective& you want to connect with and
integrate a new one.
%his !rocess of integration re/uires energy and focus.
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Humping without a sa)et& net
)our training ground is your life0
)ou minimili4e risks #y taking small ste!s.
Most life eA!eriences truly have no safety net.
owever& de!ending on the way you stand in these eA!eriences& you
can make sure you won+t get hurt.
)ou have a Gright way of fallingH.
:alling in life can #e eAhilarating.
*t can #e this kind of sudden reali4ation of what life is a
a#out. 9ee it as a game and Bum! in it.
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+o training? Hust li)e?
%here is no stage0 %here is no !u#lic0
)ou can ste! #ack and o#serve your life from the distance.
owever& the #est way to !erform at your #est is to Bum! in life rather
than checking it from far away.
*t is direct and effective to try and eA!eriment.
%his is the #est way to !erform at your #est0
Why?
?ecause real life is the conteAt in which you will manifest all
the ingredients.
)ou can !ractice your moves on the side of the !ool& or you can Bum!
in the water and use your survival drive.
)ou have resources in you which wake u! the moment you are
confronted with real life situations.
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Master &our control weapon
3ontrol is a sword.
*t is in your hand.
)ou are given the right to control your life.
%his is the first area where you can effectively eA!ress your
controlling !ower.
7ow& when it comes to influencing others you can easily cross the line.
)ou aim for greater freedom& not greater control.
*f you are in a !osition of !ower& what you want is to !rovide Bust
enough control to sta#ili4e the structures without limiting other
!eo!le+s natural s!ace and freedom.
5ife is !recious0
With greater !ower comes greater res!onsi#ility.
;#use of !ower means going against the forces of evolution.
2se your !ower to !rotect other+s freedom& not to limit them.
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Be aware o) side tracks
;ny time you aim for a target& you face the risk of getting side tracked
in one way or another.
9ometimes& this side track comes through a connection you have with
someone.
Lther times this side track is sim!ly the reflection of
conflicting interests in you or the lack of clear choices.
%he res!onse to a side track is focus.
)ou can of course take a rest and tem!orarily eA!lore a side alley
leading to your goals.
*t is fine as long as you don+t forget a#out your original target.
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Eon<t miss &our realit& check?
3once!ts and dreams are Gsus!endedH.
Ln the !ath towards manifestation& they face the test of realism.
Lut of thousands of !ossi#le dreams& only a few will manifest.
%he ones which reach creation are the ones who have a solid level of
realism in themE they match with reality.
?efore you set u! on a course of action& do reality checks0 %his
will make give you greater chances to reach your targets.
%his is another essential as!ect of manifesting your #est !erformance.
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7nhook &oursel) )rom the past
6et rid of what you no longer
need0 >eal with unsolved issues.
%he goal is sim!leE .motional
freedom0 )our mind is a territory.
.very as!ect in it !lays a role.
)ou are going towards the future& not towards your !ast.
*f your vision is focused on recreating the !ast& this is where you will
goE towards your !ast.
6oing #ack into the !ast sim!ly goes against the natural flow of
creation.
*t is literally like going u!stream.
)our future is like a virgin screen.
;ll !otentials are o!en.
%he #est way to see them is to remove whatever might #e sto!!ing
your from moving forward.
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7se &our power
*t is very sim!leE if you don+t use your !ower& someone else will do it
for you.
)our mind is a very su#tle ecosystem of forces and energies.
:or it to function and #e sta#le& it needs some key ingredients.
Power is one of these ingredients.
)ou can delegate you !ower to other sources.
)ou can tell a friend something likeE
G)ou know what? >ecide for meNH
%he moment you do that& you give away your !ower of self
determination.
*f you do that one time& it is no !ro#lem& right?
7ow& if delegating your !ower #ecomes systematic& you end u! sim!ly
feelingN Powerless0
%his is the way it works.
*f you want to feel em!owered and manifest the full !otential of your
mind& take res!onsi#ility and eA!ress the #asic !owers which are
yours.
*f you delegated these !owers to someone else in the !ast& it is
your right to claim them #ack any time.
%he #est way to !erform at your #est is to have a total sense of
control over what ha!!ens in your life.
2se your !ower to make sure that you are the one in charge of your
life.
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Part #4 ( 7se &our
mind power to
create happiness
a!!iness is intimately related with your level of !ersonal !ower.
*n the neAt few !ages& you will discover some of the keys to secure
long term ha!!iness in your eAistence.
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The secret o) happiness
5ife can #e seen as a #attle.
When you are unha!!y& you are loosing this #attle.
What makes you ha!!y is energy.
*t is the energy which flows in your mind and life.
When you feel unha!!y& it is #ecause you are low on energy.
*f you stay low on energy for a long !eriod of time& you go into states
of de!ression.
%he idea is to recon/uer your inner territory.
* know this might sur!rise you #ut the only way to #e ha!!y is to get
your full !ower #ack.
)our life is under attack.
*f you feel de!leted& it is #ecause life force is not circulating in you.
)ou need to con/uer the territory of your eAistence.
%his is a fight. *t is a fight for !ower. )ou are in charge0
>o you actually reali4e that?
)ou are the master of your eAistence. )ou are su!!osed to own your
life.
%he goal is sim!leE get your full !ower
#ack. Power is what !rotects your mind.
*t is your emotional foundation.
%he more !ower you have& the stronger you feel.
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*f you feel strong and still unha!!y& this means that the neAt /uality
you need is #liss& !leasure& ha!!iness.
%hese are energies0 %hey are mind sets.
%he way to go is to master these energies and know how to
manifest them in your life.
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Your 5uest
a!!iness is a life long /uest.
*f you have #een in a state of semi de!ression& easily touched #y
negative emotions& you must wonder how to come out of it.
What eAactly is missing?
What * have to say is radical.
* will #e direct.
My goal is not to nurture negative emotionsM my goal is to give you a
kick.
* would like to shake you and give you some essential tools to
understand what is ha!!ening in you.
a!!iness ha!!ens in the mind& right?
*t has to do with something going on in your thoughts and emotions.
)our mind is a territory. When you are ha!!y& life flows. *t is #alanced.
)ou feel good.
When you are unha!!y your mind is invaded #y negative emotions and
feelings.
)es0 *t is an invasion. )our mind is a territory and something ha!!ens
in it you canFt really control.
%he goal is to gain #ack control of what ha!!ens in it.
)our mind is your territory. *f itFs your territory& how come you have
so little influence.
>o you reali4e that ha!!iness is a !ath of life mastery?
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This is a 2attle
a!!iness is your territory. %his is why ha!!iness #uilding is a #attle.
* am not here to hel! you nurture your !ast or even your wounds.
9ure you can look at them. 9ure you can acce!t the way things are.
7ow& what * see are only thoughts and emotions. %hese thoughts and
emotions are not your identity. %hey are waves on the surface of your
mind.
Thoughts and emotions are onl& waves on the sur)ace o)
&our mind.
%here is a dee!er identity in you which is formless. *t is a source
of !ower and life force.
%his is your fire. %his is the !lace from where you wake u! now.
When you are #orn& your mind is virgin.
)ou start !icking u! !atterns from your environment.
*f your mother tongue is .nglish& .nglish words will create the frames
of your mind.
*f you first s!oke 9!anish& itFs 9!anish which will #e the core of your
#eing.
Words are frames.
;ny emotion you encounter in your childhood leaves a !attern. *t
leaves a #lue !rint. ;n emotion is a !athway of energy in your mind.
)ou travel it once.
%hen you travel it again.
)ou #ecome familiar with it.
9oon& it #ecomes an esta#lished !attern in your mind.
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)ou are !rogrammed& conditioned to res!ond to situations in a very
s!ecific way.
*f you get familiar with emotions like loneliness or sadness& you tend
to identify yourself with them.
%hey #ecome the frames in your mind.
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How to 2e happ& on the long term
5ong term ha!!iness has a lot to do with emotional freedom.
)ou are truly ha!!y when you learn how to master your own renewal
!ower.
)ou need all - /ualities of creating& !reserving and renewing.
owever& the renewing /uality might #e the most challenging to
master.
)our life success does de!end on your a#ility to move on when it is
time.
*t de!ends on your a#ility to create s!ace in your life for
new o!!ortunities to a!!ear.
%his renewal force is essential and when you #efriend with it&
it refreshes your mind set on a daily #ase.
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High e9pectations
9u!!ose you have #een living in this huge villa for ten years and
suddenly you have to sell it for financial reasons.
)ou end u! in a - #edroom flat downtown.
%he reason you feel #ad is #ecause of your level of eA!ectations. )ou
are sim!ly used to another standard of living.
9u!!ose for a minute that you have the !ower to sto! com!aring.
What ha!!ens then? ow do you feel?
)ou feel ha!!y when you are a#ove your eA!ectations.
)ou feel unha!!y and generate negative thinking when you are under
your level of eA!ectations.
;s you can see& very high eA!ectations can make you very unha!!y.
aving eA!ectations is usually a !ositive thing. *t is similar to having
goals or targets in your life.
6oals wake u! your desire. %hey fuel your life.
7ow& if your goals are too high& you+ll systematically tend to 8crash8
emotionally.
*t is okay to have very high goals as a driving force and know from the
#eginning that your eA!ectations are unrealistic.
*t still gives you an energy or !ower kick.
9ome !eo!le !lay very well with those forces. %hey use high goals and
targets as a way of overcoming their limits.
Where do you stand in that?
1 Are high e9pectations making &ou ver& unhapp&,
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or
1 Are &ou setting up unrealistic goals as a wa& o)
overcoming &our own limits,
;re you a victim or emotional slave of your eA!ectations?
%hese are the key /uestions concerning eA!ectations and goals.
*f you feel tra!!ed in negative thinking #ecause your goals are
unrealistic& it+s time to understand the underlying dynamics of your
unha!!iness.
*t is okay to dro! unrealistic goals and focus on new targets.
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ompetition 2etween )riends
ere is another eAam!leE
9u!!ose you get results from an eAam in your studies.
*f you get "P1( and everyone gets less& you will feel great& right?
9u!!ose now that you get "P1( and everyone else gets a #etter result
than you& you will feel !retty #ad.
%he result is the sameE "P1(
owever& #etween these two situations& the hierarchy of !ower and
energy is totally shifted.
%his is why ha!!iness& satisfaction and the way you feel a#out yourself
de!ends immensely on how others are doing.
)our level of inner satisfaction is not an a#solute measure of your
ha!!iness. *t is always !artly relative to your environment.
*n a way& you feel good or #ad de!ending on how others are doing.
%he way you feel is !artly a relative measure of your level of energy
and success com!ared with your environment.
%his means that your level of ha!!iness eA!resses two thingsE
1 An a2solute level of your energy& !ower and satisfaction
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2 A relative measure of your ha!!iness com!ared with others.
%hat+s your ranking !osition. )ou finish -
rd
for instance.
9u!!ose every one of your friends is succeeding with their own
#usiness and you feel stacked within an 1 to 5 day Bo#. )ou will
naturally feel unha!!y #ecause you com!are yourself with your
friends.
)our environment gets used to your energy level.
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When you decide to shift negative thinking !atterns& you have to
resha!e not only your thoughts #ut the way others look at you as well.
.veryone has a comfort 4one.
9u!!ose you are a man and have a male good friend. )ou recently
went through a #reak u! with your !artner. %his friend has #een
hel!ing you with that.
*n the last ' months& your #reak u! has #een your num#er one
conversation to!ic.
)our friend got used to your mind set. e knows your emotions and
knows how you feel.
With your friend& you do create a Gcomfort 4oneH. ; comfort 4one is a
mind set& activities& #ehaviors and attitudes which define your
connection with him.
%he moment you truly get over your #reak u! and may#e start dating
again& you need to shift the GoldH comfort 4one you created with this
friend.
;s you can imagine in this situation& it might #e a relief for him to #e
a#le to shift conversation to!ics.
; good friend will encourage a !ositive life shift in you.
owever& you will have to educate him so that he sto!s seeing you as
a victim.
%he 8renewal !ower8 needs to #e strong enough to shift not only
your mind& it is has to shift your friendFs mind as well.
*n fact& it is your whole social !ower #ase you are re#uilding.
Here is another e9ample=
*magine the same situation with much older mind sets.
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%hese much older mind sets are #ehaviors and attitudes which were
there from the very #eginning.
9u!!ose you have a few good friends and you have #een relating to
them in the same way for many years.
)ou !lay a certain role within this social circle.
9u!!ose you see yourself as a loser.
9u!!ose that+s the way your social circle sees you as well.
9u!!ose they tease you on that.
%hey might say things or #ehave in a way that !uts you down.
9u!!ose you are male& -( and single and did not have a girl friend
in ages.
Lne of your friends might systematically come and say things likeE
G9o& where is your date? LhN that+s rightN )ou have no dateH
e might say this in a teasing way. %he
truth is that it makes him feel good.
e does !ut you down #y coming over and over again with the same
story.
)our lack of success comforts him.
Why is that?
?ecause he does not need to think of another Boke and in com!arison
to you& he feels !retty successful with women.
*t+s easy. e knows the dynamics.
*f you show u! one day with a gorgeous date& it will challenge him.
e+ll need to shift his mind set and the way he relates to you.
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ompeting )or success and
happiness
.sta#lishing a new mind set is a lot a#out com!etition.
%his is a #attle.
Why is that? ?ecause some !eo!le can !ut you down sim!ly to
feel great a#out themselves.
* know it might #e tough to hear& #ut even your closest friend or
!artner might !ut you down and not let you #reak through your own
limits.
Why would the !erson who loves you the most !ut you down?
?ecause it+s no only a#out love& it is a#out !ower as well.
)ou are com!eting with your environment all the time.
)our friends do measure their level of !ower according to where their
environment is at.
9u!!ose you could measure ha!!iness in a scale of ( to 1(.
9u!!ose you are at 5P1( and your closest friend is at 1P1(.
9u!!ose now& that you get yourself a #ook on !ositive thinking and
you start working on #uilding a strong and em!owering mind set.
9u!!ose your level of ha!!iness goes to $P1(.
*s this a good thing for your #est friend?
)ou get the !oint& right?
)our #est friend can think something likeE
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1 G)ou know& * am really ha!!y for you. 5ooks like you succeeded
in shifting things around. )ou are achieving everything you
wantedH
%his is a !ositive outlook on your situation. Most !eo!le are a#le to do
that.
owever& there is usually another GvoiceH& even in your #est friend
which says something likeE
1 Ge is now more successful than * amH
%his last voice is the eA!ression of the com!etitive s!irit.
3om!etition is everywhere& even in the /uest for ha!!iness.
?est friends do estimate their level of satisfaction according to how
they are doing com!ared with their environment.
9ometimes this com!etitive underlying dynamic can #e very strong.
9ometimes it is can hardly #e felt.
*magine now the same dynamic ha!!ening not only with #est
friends #ut with everyone in your environment& family& colleagues&
social circle& etc.
Who says that everyone wants you to succeed?
%here is com!etition even for ha!!iness and success.
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-hat are negative projections,
; !roBection is a thought or an emotion. ;ny time you interact with
others& you are literally #om#arded #y !sychic im!ressions.
%hese im!ressions im!act on your mind and can leave G#lue !rintsH in
the form of feelings.
:eelings are sim!ly im!ressions on the surface of your mind.
9u!!ose you enter in a cafK with a cou!le of friends.
Within a few seconds& you !ick u! on looks& words& eA!ressions&
tem!erature& atmos!here& etc.
;ll these im!ressions will im!act on your mind and generate
feelings& thoughts and emotions.
Within a minute& you created a new mind set which is the reflection of
all these im!ressions.
%his new mind set is an architecture of thoughts& feelings and
emotions.
)ou will interact with your environment through this mind set. )ou will
send all sorts of signals to your environment through eA!ression and
#ody language.
%his mind set is an inner e/uili#rium that reflects the mind !roBections
and energy in this cafK.
9ome of these !roBections generate !ositive feelings in you.
)ou will get for instance a !ositive feeling from a smile or a kind tone
of voice from an ac/uaintance.
)ou will get a negative feeling through a Budging look& or a loud
invasive friend s!illing #ear on your shoes.
3an you see how this works?
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%hese millions of !roBections im!act on your mind.
*f you feel strong and confident& and armed with a very !ositive mind
set& negative !roBections will sim!ly #ounce on the surface of your
mind.
; negative look won+t touch you.
What if you feel really sad #ecause you Bust had a fight with an eA?
)ou+ll feel more vulnera#le and eAtra !ressure will im!act on you&
right?
When you work on your thoughts and feelings& you develo! new tools
to defend your mind territory.
%his means that you must recogni4e negative !roBections and come
with an em!owering mind set which !rotects your inner s!ace.
%his re/uires some GwarriorH skills.
)ou must reali4e that this is a #attle for !ower and energy.
%his #attle is going on all the time. 9ome !eo!le are very sensitive to
it and systematically feel the Budgment of others.
Lther !eo!le are strong and confident and feel nothingE no challenge0
7o com!etition0
%he moment you wake u! new !otentials in you& you must increase
your level of awareness and recogni4e sources of challenge.
)ou need to #e a#le to shift from GrelaAedH to G#attleH mood in no time
and not let negative influences take root in your mind.
*t is a #attle0 >efend your territory.
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Part ## ( 8eal li)e
e9amples with 2est
strategies
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+egative thinking triggers
What are the triggers which #ring you to negative thinking loo!s?
)ou might see different eAternal or internal causes #ut all these causes
can #e summari4ed to one sim!le elementE
5ack of !ower
%his lack of !ower can #e eA!ressed in many formsE
1 5ack of skills
2 5ack of su!!ort
3 5ack of resources
4 5ack of energy
5 5ack of love
6 5ack of success or results
7 5ack of money
8 5ack of social life and friends
9 5ack of recognition or validation
10 .tc.
;ll these eAam!les show one thingE when you enter into negative
thinking loo!s& it shows that there is a !ower ga! somewhere.
When you are negative a#out your life or your environment& you are
sim!ly in a state of energy de!letion.
%his is different than clinical de!ression.
.nergy de!letion is a more general term.
.nergy de!letion sim!ly eA!resses the fact that you don+t have enough
energy or !ower.
%he result is sim!leE your mind gets invaded #y negative thoughts.
7egative thoughts are the result of a conflict #etween you and your
environment.
7egative thoughts ha!!en #ecause there is com!etition of energy.
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7egative thoughts and emotions are the result of an interaction. %hey
are the sign that you are struggling to defend your mind territory.
When you win your life GchallengesH& you feel good a#out yourself.
9u!!ose you have a #usiness and you achieve eAcellent sales results
during the year.
?usiness success is a form of validation of your activity. )ou get
rewarded financially and gain as well satisfaction in the form of
recognition from friends& family and #usiness network.
%his #usiness success can make you very satisfied #ecause you will
feel valued.
%his financial and emotional validation gives you !ower.
*t is free energy and !ositive attention coming into your life.
%he reason you feel great is #ecause your #eing gets rewarded.
*t is a victory.
)ou did win a #attle.
When you win a #attle you have two !ossi#le reactionsE
?e very ha!!y and satisfied #y your victory
?elieve it is not good enough and maintain a dissatisfied attitude.
3an you see how the same result can lead to two very
different feelings de!ending on the way you stand in it?
When you are dissatisfied a#out a victory& you forget to cele#rate and
stay in the 8#attle mood8.
Winning a million is not enough. )ou want more& #igger or #etter.
%ake a silver medalist in the '(( m. women Llym!ic 6ames.
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%he silver medalist can #e very ha!!y and satisfied a#out his silver
medal. Ln the other hand she can as well #elieve it was not good
enough and #e very angry and disa!!ointed with her !erformance.
*n this case disa!!ointment has to do with a level of eA!ectation.
9he has very high eA!ectations and a silver medal is not good enough.
9he can actually decide #efore the race if she will #e ha!!y with silver
or not. 9he+ll tell the re!ortersE
G*+m going for the win0H
When she finishes second& she can sayE
G* gave it my #est shot0 %his was an incredi#le race and *+m very
ha!!y with the resultH
%oo high eA!ectations can kill the !leasure of a victory.
)ou might sometimes achieve victories in your life and then forget to
cele#rate #ecause your eA!ectations are much higher.
*f you are doing this consciously& it+s no !ro#lem.
)ou sim!ly !lay with motivation forces and kee! a much higher level of
focus and concentration.
)ou already focus on your neAt ste! or neAt challenge even when you
win a victory.
ere is the conclusionE
)ou have #asically two ty!es of mechanisms involved in negative
thinking loo!sE
%he first mechanism is a real !ower ga!. *n other terms& it is related
with a real lack of success& energy& attention& validation& etc.
%he second mechanism is related with your own !erce!tion of your
eA!erience. *n other terms& it is related with your level of eA!ectations.
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%he strategies you use to tackle negative thinking targets #oth of
these mechanisms.
*f you really miss !ower and validation for instance& the goal is to
actually shift your level of !ower and ad eAtra /ualities to your
eAistence.
*f you sim!ly have very high eA!ectations and are systematically
dissatisfied& you will work on your mind set and the way you !erceive
your successes and achievements.
9o& to summari4e& when you are in a situation of energy or !ower
de!letion& you can work on two levelsE
9hifting your !ersonal situation.
9hifting the way you stand in it or see this situation.
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How to shi)t &our power level
)our level of !ower is the result of your relationshi! with yourself and
your environment.
9u!!ose you live in a foreign country and feel /uite isolated.
)ou go to eA!at events #ut after a cou!le of years& you still did not
make any real new friends.
)ou are a woman. )ou are married. )ou traveled with your !artner and
don+t have your own !rofession.
%his is a situation which tends to isolate you& right? )ou don+t get
enough validation from your actions. )ou miss real !ersonal goals and
challenges.
)ou try new studies without really getting a kick from it. )ou kee!
trying #ut don+t feel really ha!!y.
)ou feel a growing dissatisfaction related with your situation.
%he real alternative would #e to have children now #ut your !artner
wants to wait another cou!le of years.
)our social circle is very limited.
*n this situation you miss !ower in many levelsE
5ack of !rofessional satisfaction
*solation
5ack of goals
5ack of validation
<ulnera#le emotional foundation #ecause you are in a foreign country.
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;s you can imagine& there are actually strategies to deal with
these challenges. %he way to solve these challenges is to take
action and redesign your goals.
)ou can imagine that such situation could easily generate lots of
negative emotions and feelings sim!ly #y the fact that you miss
a close circle of friends for instance.
7ow& you can share the way you feel. )ou can talk a#out it. )ou can
try to understand why you end u! in this situation. )ou can dig in the
!ast. ;ll these strategies are useful #ut won+t #e enough to have a real
transforming effect.
What will shift the way you feel is actually taking action and gaining
more !ower.
9u!!ose you have a cou!le of thera!y or coaching sessions.
%his will nurture your #eing and eventually hel! you understand what
is going on.
)ou will share your eA!erience and get some emotional su!!ort.
Lnce you do that& you want to shift your action !lan and come with
new strategies to #reak through the cycle you are in.
?asically& you are dissatisfied with your life.
7egative thoughts are only the waves on the surface of your mind.
>ee! inside& you want to tackle the real issueE
How to gain 2ack &ou )ull power and e9press &our
total potential.
%his is the real strategyE you want to shift your course of action
and invest into activities which do validate you.
*n such situations& the goals are truly toE
1 Be more success)ul with &our li)e.
2 -ake up &our li)e power.
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1 7nleash &our hidden resources.
ow long does it take to shift your !ersonal #ase?
*t can take a few months.
%his is a reasona#le target. )ou will shift the way you s!end your day
and the way you relate to others.
;s you can see& you are not targeting your thoughtsE you are targeting
your actions and doing something a#out your life and the way you
stand in it.
%his is the real strategyE ;ction0
%he goal is sim!leE
9te! 1E *dentify your area of dissatisfaction. What is the num#er cause
of dissatisfaction? *s it #ecause of !rofessional failure& weight issues&
lack of friends& a recent #reak u!& etc.? What is your num#er one area
of dissatisfaction?
9te! 'E >esign a strategy. 9im!ly reacting to your situation is not
enough. %his is a #attle. *f you want to win& you need solid and
effective strategies0
9te! -E %ake action. *nvest in this area. >o something a#out it. Make
it your !riority num#er one. ?reak through0
;s you can see& negative thinking is only a trigger.
*t is a form of alarm system which saysE
G5ook0 9omething is wrong. 5et+s do something a#out it0H
%his is what negative thinking tells you.
)ou can of course lower your eA!ectations and learn to #e satisfied
with what you have.
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owever& when the !ower ga! is real and you are truly
under!erforming in your life& taking action will #e more effective.
*n the neAt few cha!ters& * have analy4ed key life situations which
tend to generate negative thinking and negative emotions.
*+ll show you some key strategies to handle these challenges.
%hese are only a few key ideas. Most of these to!ics are whole
life coaching areas in themselves.
*f you want eAtra resources on these to!ics& sim!ly check
www.vitalcoaching.com .
)ou will find eAtra resources in the form of e-#ooks and articles on
most of these to!ics.
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Bi)e vision
7egative thinking can #e generated #y lack of life vision and
!ur!ose. )ou have this key /uestionE GWhat am * doing here?H
*n other terms& you are looking for meaning.
%he !lans and !roBects you have for your life are not eAciting enough.
)ou want more. )ou want to #reak through and sim!ly achieve things.
ere is a sim!le strategy to handle this challengeE
:ocus first on what thrills you
%his can sound sim!le and it is0 When you wake u! in the morning&
you often end u! doing only !ractical tasks. )our driving force is not
eAcitement. )ou sim!ly do what needs to #e done.
)our new goal is sim!le0 9hift your mind set and focus first on what
thrills and eAcites you.
.motional fuel and motivation are very !recious. %hey are your fire.
2se this fire as your driving force and focus at 1((O on your !assions.
?efore you start your day& ask yourselfE GWhat is truly eAciting for me
today?H ;nd focus on that.
.veryone has at least some level of freedom. 2se that freedom and
focus on what thrills you0
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Social li)e
9ocial isolation and lack of friends can #e eAtremely draining. *f you
feel isolated& you want to #reak the cycle.
%his is tough and it is not easy to do& #ut it is within your range.
%he goal is sim!leE 9te! #eyond your comfort 4one.
*n other terms& take risks0
*f you feel shy and insecure& it is often related with the way you see
yourself and your #ody.
3onfidence is a /uality you #uild #y taking action and challenging
yourself.
.very time you ste! #ack within your comfort 4one& you reinforce
hesitations& dou#ts and isolation. >on+t0
Move forward and develo! new social skills. Make it your !riority
num#er one for the coming month0
*nvest in it0
.sta#lish contacts online. 2se forums or dating sites as a training
ground.
%he num#er one /uality !eo!le look for when going out is fun0
>are to #e fun0
9hift the way you dress& o!en u! and do challenge yourself. ;nything
your try is a success. >on+t worry a#out outcomes and don+t let
anyone or any reBection sto! you.
9ocial life is challenging. Peo!le do confront you. %hey Budge you. %his
is a !lace to #uild character and wake u! your full !ower.
:ocus on fun and dare to take action0
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6ive yourself what you want0
%ake #ack control of your social life000
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Business and pro)essional success
*t+s a fact0 Many !eo!le are dissatisfied with their Bo#s. ?usinesses and
organi4ations can #e constricting and limiting for your own growth.
%his can ha!!en. )ou can s!end the neAt few years of your life
com!laining a#out a Bo# you don+t like or sit down today and truly
look dee!er into what can #e done a#out it.
Make it your !riority num#er for the coming month.
)ou might #e sur!rised to discover new ways of standing in your
!rofession. 9ometimes your actions sim!ly don+t match your task.
We would of course need another e-#ook to treat this su#Bect.
owever& take sim!ly the time to sit down and truly ask yourselfE
GWhat can * do a#out itH
*f you feel like you need eAtra !ower to #reak though& follow the links
at the end of this e-#ook and sign in for a few coaching sessions.
*+ll show you some !owerful strategies to unleash your full !ower.
9ame goes for #usiness success. *f you own a #usiness and are
not getting the results you want& you can do something a#out it.
;gain& doing #usiness is a #attle. *t is com!etition.
%o win& you need effective strategies.
%o design strategies& you need at least to sit down and think a#out the
key challenges you face and how to solve themE
*s this a marketing challenge?
*s your !roduct solid enough?
;re you facing organi4ational !ro#lems?
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Who could hel! you with that?
*s this a #alance workPfree time issue?
;re you sim!ly #ored with the !resent goals or !roducts?
.tc.
;s you can see& there are do4ens of key challenges you can face with
your #usiness. * #elieve that there is a solution for every challenge.
%he answer can sometimes #e that you can+t win with your !resent
action line.
owever& your life is easier when you know a#out it than when you
don+t.
>o what it takes to gain clarity and design effective strategies to deal
with the challenge.
*t might take you a month. *t might take you siA months0
%he truth is that negative thinking loo!s do not hel! with that0
%o #reak the cycle& use your mind in a different wayE analy4e the
situation& design effective strategies and take action.
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Bove li)e
;nother vast area in your life0
%he key to love satisfaction is to stay master of your love& not a victim
of it.
What you want is sim!leE )ou want to own your love life.
5ove is not something which ha!!ens to you. 5ove is a core source of
!ower and energy inside yourself.
)ou decide when you give it and to who. )ou are in charge.
%he key challenging situations with your love life have to do withE
:inding someoneE *s this your challenge? >o you get tra!!ed in
negative #eliefs #ecause you are single and want to meet someone?
Mastering the dating environmentE Lnce you start dating& the goal is to
thrive with your love eA!erience without loosing yourself. )ou loose
yourself when you love someone who does not love you #ack enough.
>esigning a harmonious relationshi!E ow to deal with fights& Bealousy
or other challenges. %his is another area where new skills and
strategies are definitely welcome
>ealing with a #reak u! or divorceE ; #reak u! is tough. *f this is what
you are going through& * know eAactly how you feel. ; #reak u! is a
#attle situation. When it ha!!ens& the goal is sim!leE get your full
!ower #ack.
%hese are some of the key challenges you can face with love and
dating.
*n this area& coming with the right strategy and mind set is essential if
you want to succeed.
%he trick is that most of your dating skills are sim!ly discovered and
learned on the s!ot. )ou tend to im!rovise and sim!ly react to
situations.
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%he goal is to ste! #ack and understand a #it more a#out love and
!ower dynamics.
Lnce you see really how dating and love works& it is much easier to
come with effective strategies and #ehaviors.
%he greatest mistake you can do right now is #elieving that you have
no control over your love life.
1((O wrong0
)ou do have great influence0 *n fact you are the !erson who has the
greatest influence over what your love life looks like.
>o you reali4e that you are actually the designer of your love life or
relationshi!?
%ake ste!s and dig into it.
*f this is your num#er one challenge& make it your !riority num#er one
for the neAt month.
* am serious0 >ro! everything else and decide today to dig into it.
*t+s your life0 )ou are worth it0
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Famil& e9pectations
igh family eA!ectations and demands can #e very draining for you
and make you very unha!!y.
%his can ha!!en with teenagers and young adults in relation to
!arentFs eA!ectations.
*f you are in a relationshi! and have children& you can s!end your life
doing things for your !artner or your children without ever having a
minute for yourself.
%his can #e draining and make you loose contact with who you are.
%he strategy?
5earn to #e selfish.
=eally?
)es000
)ou are the most im!ortant !erson in your life0
Put it this wayE your moods and emotions influence everyone0 )ou are
an eAam!le for those around you.
*f you fail to #e ha!!y and satisfied a#out your life& everyone looses.
)our time and energy are !recious.
%hey were given to you0
%hey do #elong to you0
7o one #ut you owns your life0
)ou are !riority num#er one.
3reate s!ace for yourself and focus first on what you want0
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)ou are master of your actions& attitudes& thoughts& emotions& time
frame and !ersonal s!ace.
)ou are in charge of your life. 7o one else is.
6ain #ack control over what is yours and give when you want to give&
not when you are forced to.
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Bod&
)our #ody is your tem!le0
*t is your greatest asset together with your mind.
%he num#er one challenge in today+s society is related with weight
issues.
Lver eating can #e a self destructive s!iral.
*t tends to #e addictive and lead to health !ro#lems& lack of energy&
lack of mo#ility and life dissatisfaction.
*t im!acts negatively on your self esteem.
%his is a #ig su#Bect and again& * would need a new e-#ook to treat this
to!ic.
ere are two sim!le !rinci!les to feel great a#out your #odyE
.Aercise
ealthy eating ha#its
%he key is to com#ine #oth and esta#lish long terms ha#its and
#ehaviors you can easily maintain.
;nything which is #ased on disci!line only will fail.
Why is that?
?ecause you want to feel eAcited a#out your life.
)our first driving force is eAcitement.
;ny new life style ha#it you esta#lish in your day must #e #ased on a
!ositive enBoya#le flow rather than a restraining one.
%he main mistake is to try to create ha#its which are too rigid and
#ased on disci!line only.
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;ny new ste! needs to #e fun.
Moving your #ody and gaining #ack control over the way you eat are
the two essential ste!s in succeeding with weight related issues.
*f you feel a lack of !ower on that level& do something a#out it.
* can hel! you design new life style and ha#its which will shift the way
you feel.
6et in touch. *+ll tell you more.
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Foreign countr&
?eing in a foreign country can #e tough0 )ou can feel isolated and
!ressured in a social environment you don+t master.
%his is a well known !henomenon within the eA!at community.
*t ha!!ens es!ecially to wives who travel with their !artners and miss
a sense of !ersonal !ur!ose.
ow to handle this challenge?
3onnect with a glo#al community0
When you are in a foreign country& no matter how hard you try& you
might still feel and #e considered like an outsider.
*t+s true #y the way0 )ou are an outsider0
)ou were not #orn in this city. )ou came in only a cou!le of years ago.
)ou arrived in a community which has its own invisi#le rules and
acce!ted #ehaviors.
:or the locals& you can #e seen as a threat.
Why is that? ?ecause you are different0 )ou s!eak with a different
accent and sim!ly come in with something new.
9omething else is going onE !ower dynamics.
When you arrive in a new city& those who have #een there for longer
have greater !ower than you have.
%hey 8own8 the !lace. %hey own the s!ace.
)ou show u! and actually 8challenge8 their s!ace.
L#serve the way you react to a cou!le of new neigh#ors.
)ou might welcome them& #ut your might as well Gcheck them outH
and Budge some as!ects of their #ehavior.
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%his ha!!ens naturally. *t is your way of esta#lishing a connection and
staying in control of your territory.
What do to do a#out all this?
3onnect with the glo#al community.
)ou have two ty!es of GrootsH in your lifeE
)our local roots which are related to where you were #orn and the
!laces you lived in.
)our glo#al roots which are the connections you esta#lished with the
!lanet and the vaster human family.
When you travel and for instance& visit the !yramids of .gy!t& you
connect with your glo#al roots. )ou dive into dee! layers of your !ast
and your consciousness and esta#lish a connection with an ancient
civili4ation. %his has nothing to do with this life time.
%hese GrootsH you find in .gy!t are a#out human consciousness.
%hey are a connection to something much vaster than the !lace you
were #orn in or your local community.
)ou can as well connect with the Gglo#alH community when you are
online.
*f you log on to a dating site& you will meet !eo!le from all races and
countries.
%his is a glo#al community.
7o one will say you are an outsider in this kind of community.
.veryone is on the same level& no matter where you are.
)ou can as well esta#lish a circle of friends which stretches over the 1
continents.
%his is what eA!ats tend to& right?
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on)idence gap
ere are other ways of !utting itE
1 5ack of initiative
2 ?eing shy or anAious
3 esitating too much
;ll these challenges have something in commonE
; !ower ga!0
%he goal is sim!leE Wake u! your con/uering !ower0
)ou #uild confidence #y designing effective strategies and taking
action.
.very time you sit #ack and dou#t& fear or hesitate& you reinforce your
negative #eliefs.
.very time you take action Iwhether you succeed or notJ& you
reinforce your sense of initiative and risk taking.
*t is okay to try and eA!eriment. )ou don+t have to succeed every
time.
%he #est way to learn is to try.
%hat+s what you do when you are a child and that+s what you should #e
doing as an adult.
Qee! trying and eA!erimenting.
:ace your fears0 3hallenge yourself0 %ake risks0
%his is the #est way to wake u! your full !ower
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Sense o) connectedness
9ometimes& it is not friends you need.
)ou want something dee!er like a sense of connection with the !lanet
and humankind.
*n fact you don+t know eAactly what you are looking for #ut you know
)ou can+t truly say 8what8 #ut you feel the urgency to start searching
or looking for dee!er meaning to your life.
%his is a s!iritual /uest.
;gain& it is a vast to!ic and we+ll need another cou!le of e-#ooks for
that one.
)ou want to connect with your sense of universality.
)ou have two identities in youE
1 The )irst one is &our personal identit&. *t is the !erson who
wakes u! every morning& works& loves& laughs& etc.
2 The second one is a universal identit&. %his is the as!ect of
you which is connected with life& the !lanet& humankind and
the cosmos.
)ou can sometimes see yourself as this #eing on a #lue !lanet and
reali4e how vast s!ace is.
*t suddenly strikes you that you are here on this #lue s!here on a
galaAy and you sim!ly reali4e the vastness and reality #ehind that.
*f you feel like you want to eA!lore and understand what is really
#ehind life& the goal is to start searching for answers and ways
to eA!and your awareness.
)ou want to eA!and your awareness and stay master of your
eAistence.
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)ou want to o!en new doors in your consciousness and sim!ly ta! in
you full human !otential.
;gain& * canFt say more in this e-#ook.
3ontact me for more.
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! want to 2e more positive
ere are some key ideas on how to #e more !ositiveE
1 !t is m& choice?
?eing !ositive is first a choice. What is going on in your mind is your
decision first. )ou take res!onsi#ility for your thoughts& actions and
emotions. )ou wonFt shift negativity in one day #ut the first ste! is to
decide to do something a#out it.
1 -hat is negativit&,
7egativity is a frustration. *t is a fire& will !ower& life force which is
#locked& stacked and canFt find a channel of eA!ression. 7egativity is a
natural instinctual res!onse to a threat. *t is a !rotective refleA of your
mind. *t is aimed at defending your inner territory from outer
aggression.
1 To 2e more positive: sta& awa& )rom what is negative
Peo!le& thoughts& mind !atterns& attitudes& activities& su#stances&
colors& terms& o#Bects& music. %he list is endless0 .very time you
choose& you are actually selecting a state of mind. *n what are you
investing your time and energy? 3heck your 3> collection& your #ooks&
the !eo!le you s!end time with.
1 !ntegrate what is positive in &our li)e
2se terms like love& care& ha!!iness& eAcitement& Boy& !leasure& fun.
2se these terms more often. %ake action which stimulate your life
force. Positivism has to do with flow and freedom& o!enness& feeling of
!ower. %ake actions which reflect !ositivism. Positivism is a territory to
#e con/uered. 2se your !ower to get where you want to #e
Being positive is a choice.
When you let negativity flood you& you are sim!ly #eing tolerant with
yourself& tolerant with something you know is destroying your life and
sending you where you donFt want to #e.
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)ou are in charge of your life. )ou are the architect of your eAistence.
)ou are the !erson who has the greatest !ower and influence over
your mind.
)ou have all the skills and !ower to #e !ositive in life. ;ll you have to
do is make a choice0 %ake a conscious decision a#out it and make this
the priorit& num2er one in &our li)e.
*t means investing at least time and energy in yourself.
%aking action means taking at least small risks. )our attitude towards
risk must radically shift. =isk is my friend0 * love risk0 =isk gives you
the !ower to take action.
;ction is what takes you from where you are to where you want to #e.
%rust and do it. 9tart feeding your goals0
6aining clarity and focus towards your goal is accessi#le to you.
;ll you have to do is 2ecome superconductive to li)e.
>ou#ts& fears& hesitations are closed doors. %hey are what holds you
#ack. When you listen to your dou#ts and fears& you are holding
#ack from life. )ou are feeding inaction and !assivity. %o #reak that
cycle you have to take action. 9tart #y small ste!s. %he first thing
that comes to your mind.
)ou can #e a renewed !erson within a cou!le of months. ;ction is what
takes you from where you are to where you want to #e. %rust and do
it. 9tart feeding your goals0
;ction is your friend0 )ou love action0
=ecogni4e an o!en door when you see one.
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@njo& li)e more
ere are some key ideas to enBoy life moreE
1 Focus on what is )un: thrilling and e9citing
)ou make hundreds of choice every day a#out your activities& what
you want to do& who you are going to see& etc. :rom now on choose
for what is fun and thrilling rather than what is !ractical and already
eA!lored. *f itFs new& go for it0
1 Become super conductive to li)e
=es!ond to occasions. =es!ond to what comes to you and let life flow
in those directions. 9to! resisting life0
1 Focus on the human side
Put humans first. 6ive and enBoy social contacts. 9trengthen
your social skills. 6ive to !eo!le what they need.
1 Cive rh&thm to &our da&
9ame as music& rhythm is fun. *t increases life. When you s!lit your
days and shift activities& s!eed u!& slow down& you intensify your dayFs
flow and life force.
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You want a solution,
a!!iness is an energy you can create& a skill you can learn. *t is
related with how you see your !ast. *t is as well related with your life
vision or what you see in your future.
)ou are the architect of your ha!!iness.
-hat is that li)e skill,
8ow do you create ha!!iness?8 is the neAt /uestion.
What is your o!inion?
ere is what you can doE
%ake a white !age and write down #4 simple actions which could
create happiness )or &ou. Write down the first things that come to
your mind.
%ake a decision to give these actions priorit& in &our li)e.
%ake 5 ste!s a day which make you more ha!!y0.
JJJJJJJJJ Eo )irst what makes &ou happ&?
)ou are aware of it0 a!!iness is a choice0 *t is a decision you take0
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How do &ou )ind inner
securit& and inner peace,
9ecurity is a#out #eing a#le to !rotect yourself and your mind s!ace.
%his means creating clear #oundaries and eA!ressing your
natural !rotective !ower.
)ou are #om#arded daily #y millions of !sychic im!ressions which
im!act on our mind and leave a form of #lue !rint.
>igesting all this information& im!ressions& what we call
feelings creates stress and demands energy from you.
6aining security means clarifying and freeing your mind and maintaining
your inner s!ace free and o!en without feeling vulnera#le.
ow do you do that?
3reating a strong emotional foundation& #oth on the !hysical and mind
level.
6aining inner !eace means clarifying your mind and your life from
whatever is creating stress and develo!ing a mind vehicle which is a#le
to deal with lifeFs !ressures without #eing flooded.
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!) &ou are a)raid
$(O of fears in you are irrational. %he #est is to take ste!s to stretch
your comfort 4one.
%his is a sim!le training !rocess. 9u!!ose you are afraid of heights.
6o to the eAact limit you can comforta#ly stand. 9tay there for a while
without moving. ;fter that take a minute ste! forward and sto!. 9te!
#ack. ;nd ste! forward again. 9te! #ack.
%he second day& stretch it slightly further. and so on.
%aming your fear means taming an instinctual res!onse. the key to
your success lies in re!etition.
%his means that you have to invest at least some time and focus to get
rid of whatever scares you. )ou can immensely stretch your confidence
#y taking these small ste!s.
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!) &ou )eel angr& with ever&thing
;nger is sim!ly a fire or energy which is trying to #reak through. %here
is always a !ositive source of energy #ehind it and anger is the only
way your mind manages to eA!ress that energy.
?ehind anger& there is a !ositive source of !ower.
5ook at a volcano& what do you see?
Ln one hand a volcano is this formida#le source of energy. .ngineers
know now how to canali4e that energy and use it to heat water in
villages. ;n active volcano is as well incredi#ly magnificent. Lne of the
great shows of nature.
Ln the other hand& a volcano can #e !owerfully destructive and
annihilate life all around it.
ow does a volcano work on the first !lace? ; sim!le !rocessE eAcess
of !ressure underground.
)our anger is the sameE an eAcess of !ressure inside. )ou can use this
eAcess of !ressure to channel it in the most creative directions or you
can use it as a destructive force. *t is energy wanting to #reak
through.
What you need to add are new skills to use your source of energy in
a creative way. %rying to su!!ress a volcano wonFt work. %he energy
is there. )ou have to use it.
ow do you use that energy?
%ake a white !age and write down what comes to your mind.
What is the #est use for the eAtra energy you have in you?
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!) &ou )eel empt& inside
:eeling em!ty is not usually a nice !lace to #e in. May * give you some
ideas? )ou can of course use them as you wish...
%he feeling of em!tiness is related with a lack of s!iritual connection.
%here are good chances that when you hear the term s!iritual& you
have many ideas and feelings coming to your mind. *t could #e that
these feelings are eAtremely negative. %he thing is that it is !recisely in
the s!iritual dimension that you usually find the missing link.
9!iritual awareness has nothing to do with religion. When you hear the
term s!iritual& you might think of someone trying to convert you to
some form of #elief system. :or your own sake& !ut this idea aside for
a while& and o!en Bust a little #it to another !ers!ective.
9!iritual is a#out the s!irit which is in everything. )ou can find it in
#usiness& relationshi!s& contact with nature& fun& free time& anything. *t is
always there. 7ow when you want to make a living and earn some
money& you work and in eAchange of your work& you receive a salary.
9!iritual oriented actions function with the same !rinci!le eAce!t
that the salary of your actions wonFt #e money. *t will #e something
else. What is it?
*t is a /uality& an energy& life force& Boy& ha!!iness. When you get lots
of it at a time& we call that #liss. *f there is even more it& you could call
it s!iritual trance which is an ecstatic state of intense Boy.
ow do you reach these states? )ou reach them through action and
o!ening u!. *t can take time and !ractice. >e!ending on your mind
!atterns& this 8filling u!8 of your #eing can ha!!en very fast or take
long years.
ere is the !ro#lemE while you are reading these words& something in
you might #e reBecting them and reBecting the energy #ehind them.
Why? #ecause of conditioning and ideas you did #uild u! over the
years towards anything s!iritual. )ou laughed at these ideas and
learned to reBect them.
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%he trick is that this is why you feel em!ty. )ou are reBecting the very
source of energy which can hel! you. *tFs okay. *t is Bust a natural way
of !rotecting yourself and your mind s!ace. )ou never know what you
will find there& #eyond the limits of what you already know.
* am well intended and for me it wonFt make a difference if you do
something a#out it or not. Lf course& * would enBoy seeing you ha!!y.
What * mean is that it is your life and only you can do something
a#out it.
* can only tell you these words. What will make a difference is action.
)our action0 *t is really u! to you.
)our life is in your hands.
P9E there is a chance that you are o!en and feel that your life is
actually /uite 8s!iritual8. *f it is the case& itFs only a matter of
!ersevering and going dee!er into it. *tFs Bust a matter of time and
further action.
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!) &ou )eel isolated
ere are some key ideas a#out #reaking the isolation cycleE
1 Become super attractive to &oursel)
5et go of what is unattractive in you. ?ecome su!er conductive to life.
=es!ond to o!!ortunities.
1 Take action
?reaking the cycle means ste!!ing #eyond your comfort 4one. %ake
ste!s every day to #reak that cycle. =es!ond to those who contact
you. %ake small risks.
1 Eevelop &our social skills
5earn to listen. 9mile. ?e outgoing and fun to #e with. >evelo! an
interesting life. >onFt #e self a#sor#ed.
1 Build up energ& and vitalit&
.nergy and vitality are su!er attractive. the more you have of it& the
more !eo!le want to #e around you. >evelo! a healthy life style.
.Aercise. .at healthy and energi4ing food.
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! had di))icult e9periences in
the past
7egative !ast eA!eriences can #e eAtremely distur#ing on a daily #ase.
*s this a dee! #urden in your life?
3learing your !ast means taking #ack control over your life. ;
7egative !ast eA!erience might feel like an intrusion in your intimacy.
%o clear that eA!erience& the trick is to gain control over your life and
mind. %his means retraining yourself and your emotional reactions. *t
means as well develo!ing new skills to !rotect your #eing.
%he negative im!rint in your mind can #e strong and !owerful. *f you
want this !rint to #e gone& you have to re!lace it #y something
which is even stronger and more !owerful.
%his new im!rint will come from your own mind and eventually as
well from eAternal hel!. *t means gaining trust& confidence and !ower.
*t means recon/uering your own mind s!ace. *n other terms
#ecoming master of your #eing.
ow? %aking small ste!s and retraining your reaction in key
challenging life situations. 9tart #y infinitely small non challenging
ste!s and then move to #igger ste!s.
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! have lots o) negativit& in me
ere are some key ideas to deal with negativityE
1 +egativit& is an e9cess o) energ&
*t is a !otential which is not used and saturates your emotional #ody.
>ealing with negativity means finding channels of eA!ression. %his
means taking at least some risks and eA!loring new territories.
1 7se &our con5uering power
7egativity is a natural instinctual res!onse aimed at !rotecting your
territory. )ou might feel invaded& frustrated #y other !eo!leFs actions.
*n the moment you turn around that state of mind and start taking
action Ino matter whatJ& you transmute a #locked stream of life force
into a !ositive creative !ower.
1 EonFt )eel guilt& a2out negativit&
*tFs not that #ad. *n its essence negativity has to do with your inner
!ower. 9o the source is a !ositive force. *f you systematically withdraw
and avoid eA!ressing what you feel& you su!!ress lots of emotions and
#lock all energy from streaming. 2se that #asic !ower and force. >o
something with it. Practice s!orts& eAercise& energi4e your #ody.
1 Take a decision to do something a2out it
)ou are the master of your mind. )ou are the one who has the !ower
to decide what goes on in it. Put it that wayE if you donFt do anything
a#out it& who will? %olerating something you donFt like in you takes lots
of energy. *t drains your life0 ow long #efore you decide to do
something a#out it? What would it take to change a negative or
destructive mind frame?
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! hesitate too much
.very time you sit #ack and hesitate& you feed your dou#ts and
strengthen your !resent situation.
%he key to take ste!s is to acce!t that your actions wonFt #e !erfect.
%he #est way to learn is to eA!eriment. %o clear your dou#ts& and get
answers& you test the waters with some small ste!s.
%he key #ehavior here& is to take small non committed ste!s instead of
hesitating.
;nother key #ehavior is to choose one time right& on time leftE
alternate your choices and give some s!ace to #oth o!tions.
%o sto! hesitating& you have to train a new #ehavior in sim!le non
challenging life situations. *t would take you Bust 1 week to ground this
new #ehavior in your life. %aking action is a life skill you can learn and
train.
When you sto! hesitating and take action with trust and confidence&
your life will radically shift and flow with renewed freshness.
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! wish ! had a partner
%he key to find a !artner is to go from !assivity to action. %aking
action is the key.
*f you feel like you canFt move& the #est is to take infinitely small
ste!s. there are endless daily occasions to connect and take it Bust
one ste! further.
%o do that& you have to take a small risk& which means ste!!ing
#eyond your comfort 4one. %o find a !artner& you have to do things
you never did #efore. 9tretch you !resent limits.
Lf course& this re/uires some form of decision on your side. Put it
that wayE 7o#ody can do it for you. )ou are the only one who can get
moving and change the !resent situation.
%hings can #e different. %ruly& it all starts with this key decision
you can take right now. %ake a white !age an instead of writingE 8*
wish * had a !artner8 & writeE 8* want a !artner8.
)our desire is your emotional fuel. )our desire is what #uild u!
motivation and gets things moving. %his is the first ste!.
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! lack energ&
ere are a few areas you can start with if you miss energyE
1 Eiet and e9ercise
3hange your diet& get the in!ut of vitamins you needE more fruit&
vegeta#les. 6et rid of Bunk food. .Aercise regularly& move your #ody&
get fit.
1 !s something draining &ou,
3heck your relationshi! with !eo!le in your life. .sta#lish clearer
#oundaries whenever needed to !rotect your !ersonal and mind s!ace. *s
anyone in your environment draining you? Work& family& friends?
1 @motional )uel: e9citement: motivation
3heck you daily activities? ;re you eAcited a#out your day? :ocus first
on what truly thrills you. What are the activities you find eAciting?
Make them !riority num#er one. :ocus first on what is fun and
eAciting.
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-hat am ! doing with m& li)e,
%hings are really not going the way you want?
3an * ask you a direct /uestion?
8>o you actually want to do something a#out it?8
*n situations like these& you get actually used to your !resent mind
set. *t takes determination& and will !ower to take action and actually
change something in your life.
* feel that right now& the main thing you want is recognition of where
you are at. )ou want validation. )ou are not saying something likeE
86osh. * am sick of this0 * will do whatever it takes to shift it08
%his is the real challenge.
=ight now& you are still in the 8nurturing8 stage. )ou look at these
emotions and feelings. )ou donFt like them #ut * #elieve you still did
not reach your 8saturation !oint8.
What is this 8saturation !oint8? *t is this eAact moment you decide to
take action.
* #elieve that you are the master of your mind. )ou are the master of
your eAistence. )ou are the !erson who has the greatest influence
over what ha!!ens in your life.
*t takes !ower and determination to 8con/uer8 your life. )ou want to
own your life tools. )ou want to own your energy0 )ou want to wake
u! every morning and thinkE 8Whaou0 ; new day08
What gets you eAcited in life is valua#le goals0 *t is values& causes and
actions your are ready to give your life for.
)ou can connect with a new mind set0 )ou can aim for new refreshing
targets in your eAistence #ut to succeed& you want to make it your
num#er one !riority.
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>ou#ts& !assivity and hesitations are your enemy. What #rings you
from where you are to where you want to #e is action.
)ou donFt know the right !ath? 7o !ro#lem. $(O of what you learn in
life is a#out trying and eA!erimenting. *f you want to shift your mind
set& you need to take action& try& eA!eriment and see any ste! as a
learning eA!erience.
* am not saying this is easy to do. What * can guarantee you is that
the moment you 8wake u!8 and start taking ste!s Ino matter what
they areJ you ta! into a new set of inner resources. 3all these
resources your con/uering !ower& your fighting skills.
*t takes !ower and determination to #reak through an eAisting mind
set. 3hange is always stressful and challenging. .very time you try
new things in life& you always get in touch with a new set of thoughts&
emotions and energies you need to integrate. %his is why any change
!uts you under !ressure. %his is why many !eo!le will stay within a
comfort 4one they donFt like rather than taking risks and ste!!ing in
unknown territories.
* admire you0 * admire your move. )ou !osted a /uestion and got
some great answers.
)ou have a !ositive #ase in life. 7ow& you could have much more #ut *
#elieve& youFll need to fight for it.
Wake u! your full !ower0 )ouFre worth it0
>oes this make sense?
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Feel stacked?
*t feels like your life wants to connect with something new and
refreshing #ut you donFt really know where to find it or how to eA!ress
it.
*tFs /uite normal and it is really good to sit down and ask
yourself these /uestions.
9taying socially active re/uires skills and determination. )ou need to
give it !riority& stay o!en& res!ond to o!!ortunities and widen your
hori4ons. >onFt reBect any o!!ortunity. 6o with the flow and #e
s!ontaneous. >are to o!en u! and do things you never did #efore.
.very time you ste! #eyond your comfort 4one& it feels challenging.
%his is why you usually tend to sit #ack and wait for things to come to
you.
*f itFs not ha!!ening it is time to con/uer a new territory. %his re/uires
!ower and determination. )ou can for instance go online and make
new contacts with girls in that way.
=eali4e that you canFt eA!ect your !rofessional environment to !rovide
you with these o!!ortunities. =ight now& you seem to rely on that.
Mistake0 Work !lace romances can #e tricky anyway and the chances
that you meet the girl of your dreams at work are very slim.
)ou need to stretch yourself and make it your !riority num#er one.
5earn more a#out flirting and seduction Ithere is loads of free ti!s
a#out this on the netJ. Merely thinking a#out it one day is not
enough. *mmerse yourself in it.
%his is a#out !ersonal growth.
)ouFll learn a lot a#out yourself #y taking ste!s. *f !eo!le donFt call
you& takes ste!s and call them. *f they donFt res!ond& esta#lish
new contacts. *t takes !ower and determination to #reak through.
7ow is the time0 7ow is your time0 9te! forward and do whatever it
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How do ! make this 2roken record
stop,
; #roken record is like a !rogram. 9omething in you !icked it u! and
started !laying it one day.
*t is rooted in your mind #ecause it was associated with strong
emotions.
7ow& you want this record to sto!& right?
)ou want to have another set of thoughts in your mind.
%he reason the record kee!s !laying is #ecause emotions are not
digested. %hese emotions try to find a way out #ut donFt have the
s!ace to #e eA!ressed.
*f you want to release these thoughts& the #est is to have a chat
with your friend. 9ay something likeE
8)ou know what& * #elieve you and * have a strong friendshi! and *
donFt want anything to stand on the way #ut somehow * am angry with
you for something which ha!!ened. ;s long as * donFt tell you& it will
stay around& do you know what * am talking a#out?...8
%o tell you the truth& these thoughts you have are a natural defense
mechanism. *t is an instinctual res!onse to an aggression or attack on
your life or your mind.
%hese thoughts ha!!en #ecause you have natural fighting skills. %he
moment you dare to eA!ress what you feel& these thoughts will sto!
#ecause you give them s!ace.
>onFt feel guilty. .A!ress what you feel and move on.
%his is an occasion to learn to eA!ress what you feel and defend your
life. %he moment you do& youFll #e a#le to stand with a stronger
emotional foundation. %his is !art of your 8character #uilding8.
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happiness tools
*f you want long term ha!!iness& you want to arm yourself with the
right tools.
%hese tools are mind sets& #eliefs& key ideas and attitudes you
can wake u! in your life.
*n the neAt few !ages will invoke some of the key !illars which give
your ha!!iness !ower and strength.
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!t is time )or change
3hange is a very su#tle mechanism in your life.
*t is a transition.
=ight now& everything su!!orts your change.
.verything su!!ort your evolution and your ste!!ing forward.
%rust this force.
owever& change is challenging.
.very time you shift your mind set& your enter into a new territory
which re/uires you to integrate new energies.
%his is why you tend to resist changeE *t is #ecause change tends to
!ut your under !ressure.
*t is usually easier to stay where you are than to move.
3hange re/uires energy.
*t is a move.
*t is an action.
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8emove o2stacles
%he !ath to ha!!iness is sim!leE remove what is on the way.
*f life flow generates !leasure& then remove what sto!s life flow.
5ife flow is rhythm.
*t is eAchange of energy.
*n other terms& #e su!erconductive to life.
)ou are a uni/ue #eing and no matter where you are& life always flows
in your system.
=emove dou#ts and hesitations and re!lace them #y trust and
confidence.
)ou want more !ower to do this. a!!iness
is a territory you want to !rotect.
>estroy anything in you which sto!s the flow of life force in your
system0
;nnihilate it0
>issolve it0
=emem#er that you are connected always even when there is no
eAternal res!onse.
)our !ath of !ower gives you the tools to !reserve your mind s!ace.
%his is the invisi#le su!!ort and love you get from nature and
the !lanet.
Why do we talk a#out mother earth?
?ecause the !lanet is your home.
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.ven when you are not nurtured #y other human #eings or friends&
the !lanet and nature still do nurture you.
ave you ever felt #lessed out or ha!!y #y yourself.
ave you ever felt a sudden desire to laugh or smile to yourself.
%his is a dro! of #liss.
Where did it come from?
ow did it ha!!en?
*t was the sudden flow of Boy and life force.
When you feel any form of s!ontaneous #liss& Boy or !leasure& it is
#ecause life flows in you.
*t is the activation of your ha!!iness channels.
%he love from the !lanet or a universal sea of energy sustains this
#liss.
*t o!ens doors.
;ny !lace. ;ny
time.
*t is a #asic human /uality to #e connected with the universal
life !ower.
.veryone is0
9ome are aware of it& some are not.
7ow& life force is a !recious su#stance.
)ou want to wake the !ower to stay master of it.
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Master &our li)e power
9ometimes& after you feel ha!!y& you are almost afraid it will go away.
)ou feel a cycle of energy& going.
)ou see yourself going from a moment of !leasure to sadness or
another negative emotion.
%he reason this ha!!ens is #ecause your 8ha!!iness channels8 are
not strong enough yet.
)our mind gets invaded #y negative emotions and #liss tends to fade
away.
)our mind is your territory. )ou
decide what ha!!ens in it.
a!!iness is something you #uild consciously.
%he moment you feel your ha!!iness channels #eing shut down& go
and do something a#out it.
)our life is your territory.
*magine a !ile of gold sitting somewhere on a mountain
to!. What would you do?
)ou would con/uer o#stacles to reach it& right?
)ou use your con/uering !ower.
%his is your a#ility to wake u! a fresh stream of determination and go
for it.
=elate to ha!!iness in a similar way
a!!iness is a territory to con/uer.
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*t is in you.
*t is in your mind.
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Kuest )or 2eaut& and harmon&
%here is a moment when the #attle sto!s.
)ou no longer con/uer #ut you nurture your inner #eing.
What !rotects you ultimately is the refinement of your mind.
*magine a dense tro!ical forest.
*t is fertile and sometimes canFt #e !enetrated at all.
%his intertwined vegetation is the result of organic eA!ansion.
a!!iness functions in the same way.
Lnce your mind is fertile to it& ha!!iness sim!ly grows and eA!ands in
a refined way& creating a !rotective inner ecosystem.
a!!iness is nurtured #y love.
When you care for life& you eAchange love.
*t is sometimes enough to have a !lant and to water it to feel this
eAchange of life force.
*t is as sim!le as that.
When you !lant a few lettuces in your garden& you nurture the forces
of nature and offer some su!!ort to creation.
%his is why !eo!le choose to have !et.
*t gives them an eAtra connection with a source of life force.
)ou share energy.
)ou love and give care.
When you actively care for your children& you take a similar ste!.
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)ou give love and nurture this inner s!ace& this inner dimension of
harmony.
3reation needs your hel!.
*t needs you to !artici!ate in it.
;s a citi4en of the !lanet& you give and receive in
return. %his the art of eAchanging life force.
When you listen to music or cook a s!ecial meal& you create
refinement in your life and in your mind.
*t is this refinement which #ecomes your inner Gtro!ical forestH.
=efinement is what nurtures and !rotects your ha!!iness.
Music is sound.
9ound is energy.
9ound o!ens doors. *t
dissolves resistance.
%he moment you sing& you o!en
u!. %ry it0
7othing sto!s you from trying it right now.
*t is as sim!le as that.
5ife force is everywhere and you have hundreds of o!!ortunities to
wake it u! daily.
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on5uering power
a!!iness is a territory to #e con/uered.
*t is okay to use your will !ower and do what it takes to master your
ha!!iness.
7o need to #e soft with
that. 2se all your wea!ons.
2se all your tools.
*magine that you need to !rotect a child from an aggressor.
2se your wea!ons0
%here are resources you are not using right now.
Why? #ecause you #elieve it is not okay. 9howing
determination to !rotect your life is okay.
)ou are fearless and it is okay to do what it takes to !rotect your Boy
and !leasure in life.
9u!!ose someone wants to !ut you down.
>efend yourself0
:ight #ack0
>o whatever it takes to not let this attack reach the core of your
#eing.
9ome forces are here to challenge your strength.
%hey are here to test your resistance and sim!ly check if you did
learn your lesson.
)ou can see life as a training ground.
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%he ultimate goal is life mastery.
*t is the a#ility to choose and decide for yourself what you want to
have in your mind.
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-hat are &our energ& sponsors
and how to connect with them
*f you want to clim# a mountain& you will look for s!onsors who are
ready to hel! you financially.
*t is an eAchange.
)ou carry their name to the to! of the world and they offer you
financial su!!ort in eAchange.
Ln an energy and emotional level& this ha!!ens in the same way.
When you decide to study and your family su!!orts you in that& they
#ecome your energy s!onsors.
%hey !rovide financial and emotional su!!ort to hel! you with that.
*n eAchange& you give them love& res!ect and you make them !roud
when you succeed.
%hey will feel ha!!ier of course if you do succeed.
*f you engage in !olitics& the same will ha!!en.
)ou will have a !arty su!!orting your moves and #acking you u! with
your cam!aign.
; #usiness association can s!onsor your start u!.
; community can s!onsor you with the education of your children.
a!!iness and life force are as well s!onsored #y sources of !ower and
energy.
What are these s!onsors?
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&our happiness,
3heck in your !ast and remem#er moments you felt a #reak through
of #liss or ha!!iness.
%hese moments will #e associated with an eAchange of love& a feeling
of o!enness in nature& a !rofessional or s!ort success& a commitment&
etc.
3an you remem#er your moments.
*f you check the underlying dynamics of your Boy& there is always and
8energy s!onsor8 #ehind your !leasure& Boy or ha!!iness.
*f you look into your !artnerFs eyes and have this sudden feeling of
love& the relationshi! or cou!le 8s!irit8 s!onsors your ha!!iness.
*f you are neAt to the sea and feel #liss when looking towards the
hori4on& you are s!onsored #y the energy of nature.
*f you feel #liss when listening to a sonata from Mo4art& your Boy is
s!onsored #y an artistic eA!ression.
%he conclusion is sim!leE there is always a 8s!irit8 or energy s!onsor
#ehind your Boy.
:or you& it sim!ly ha!!ens #ut in truth& ha!!iness is a mechanism.
*t ha!!ens for a reason.
*t ha!!ens #ecause a s!ecific #alance of energy creates a flow of life
force in your #eing.
%his flow of life force is an o!ening of your mind.
*t is a freeing of tensions. *t is a sudden flow of energy.
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Here is an e9ample= music
creates jo&
%he goal of music is to create #liss.
When you !lay music& it gives you comfort.
5ive music will create a set of emotions which is slightly different
than recorded music.
owever& #oth tend to lead you into the same direction. *f
you read a !a!er& you wonFt usually feel #lessed out.
%he news you read activate an inner reflection& thoughts and
emotions which are /uiet far away from musicFs refinement.
*t can still #e a form of #liss.
*magine some !eo!le !laying in the waves.
5ook at surfers in the sunset.
)ou usually feel this mystical union with the ocean and the waves. %he
conclusion is sim!leE different actions create different emotions.
*f you want more Boy and !leasure in your life& you want to !erform
more Boy related actions.
3heck in your environment.
3heck your day.
When are the moments you consciously invoke or invite !leasure in
your life?
*f you are used to sim!ly receiving& itFs time to change your mind.
;s long as you stay !assive& nothing will change.
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What #rings you from sadness to ha!!iness is conscious action.
)ou can wait for !eo!le to #ring it to you...
*t wonFt ha!!en.
)ou are the designer and the creator.
a!!iness is a GmealH you can cook.
%he right ingredients will create the eA!ected result.
.very time?
7ot always.
;t least& not in the #eginning.
a!!iness is however a 8su#stance8 you can learn to mani!ulate.
)ou sim!ly #ecome a master in the art of waking it u! in you.
What do you need? 7ew skills.
*f your set of life actions does not generate ha!!iness& it is time to ad
new /ualities in your eAistence.
* am serious.
>ifferent actions create different results.
.ating an a!!le creates a different result in your system than
eating Bunk food.
*t is a choice0
.very time0
*t is your decision0
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-here to start,
.very Bourney starts with a small ste!.
a!!iness is sim!ly an accumulation of small ste!s.
When you start traveling in that direction& you might take a ste!& and
think to yourselfE 8;re we there yet?8
wrong thinking.
%hatFs not the way it works.
a!!iness is a choice you make every day.
)ou choose for !ower& life force& Boy& !leasure& !assion& freedom& love&
etc.
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+othing can stop &ou
)ou already have all the !ower you need.
*t is sim!le.
)ou already have enough energy to #reak through.
%his is why you want to strengthen your links with your energy
s!onsors.
)ou want to strengthen you link with nature #ecause every time you
love nature& nature loves you #ack.
*t is magical.
%he same goes with friends or family connections.
=elating to others is a territory you want to con/uer.
Peo!le can try to sto! you& laugh at you or reBect you for fun.
;ll these are #attle strategies.
Why #attle? ?ecause there is always a conflict for !ower.
When you reach out to con/uer the territory of your ha!!iness& you
create a new mind set which does give you eAtra !ower and resources.
Peo!le com!ete with each other.
;s sim!le as that.
%he one who masters ha!!iness is sitting on a gold
mine. %ruly0 %his is you.
%his is why !eo!le can react to it.
9ome friends can s!onsor your moves.
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9ome others will get Bealous and challenge
you. %ry singing in the metro.
What will ha!!en?
%here are those who smile and enBoy it and those who cannot stand it.
)ou seeE s!onsors and challengers.
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-ake up &ou happiness skills
3reating ha!!iness is a life skill.
Where do you learn those skills?
%here are actually systems which teach you or show you how to #uild
it u!.
%he >alai 5ama teaches a !ath of !eace and ha!!iness& right?
My we#site where you got this e-#ook is as well dedicated to
s!onsoring you in develo!ing those skills.
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@motional )reedom
a!!iness is a flow of energy.
When you get lots of it& it #ecomes #liss.
.ven more? )ou get mystical trance or ecstasy Inot the !ill0J
;ny moment of intense Boy& !leasure or satisfaction is a #reak through
of energy.
What ha!!ens when you eat?
)ou ad life force to your #eing.
)ou give yourself new fresh energy.
9to! #reathing for -( seconds.
%hen #reath again.
Why does it feel so good?
?ecause the air is filled with !articles of oAygen and you need this
oAygen to live.
LAygen is life.
%he moment you #reathe& you connect with life.
What a#out seA?
; seAual orgasm is as well a #reakthrough of energy.
9ym#olically you o!en your #eing for the !ossi#ility of creating a new
life.
aving seA is s!ecifically manifesting a new life or #ringing a new life
into incarnation.
What ha!!ens on your mind level?
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)our inner doors o!en u!.
)ou are freed from the limitations of your own mind.
%his is why it feels good.
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. eas& steps to esta2lish a new
positive ha2it in &our li)e
)our mind is a su#tle ecosystem of forces and energies.
*t is organic in essence.
*t is alive0
When you feel unha!!y& it means that some /uality is missingE it can
#e !ower& love& energy or anything else.
*f you want to shift your mind set& you want to ad the /uality which is
missing.
%he #est way to ad this /uality is to take action in one way or another.
a#its are actions your !erform regularly.
%hey are the result of a conditioning.
%hese ha#its are ste!s you learned to take in life and which
maintain the frame of your day.
7ow& some actions do generate a very !ositive flow of energy.
9ome other actions drain your system and sto! your life force.
When you consciously esta#lish a new ha#it in your life& you design a
new architecture which em!owers the way you stand in life.
%ake a sim!le ha#it like having a good #reakfast when you wake u!.
)ou thinkE G)eah0 =ightN What does it change?H
%he answer is that Git changes everything0000H When
you esta#lish a new ha#it& you take control0 )ou
decide what your day is going to look like.
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7ow& having a good #reakfast is only one ha#it.
7ow& imagine what ha!!ens when you esta#lish '( new !ositive ha#its
in your life0
What do you think the im!act would #e?
)our day #ecomes a succession of !ositive ste!s and you Bum! from
one island of !ower and strength to another island of !ower and
strength.
When you day is filled with !ositive actions& your mind feels totally
em!owered and vi#rant0
7ow& you !ro#a#ly think that this is lots of effort& right?
*t+s not0
*t re/uires more effort and energy to #e unha!!y than to shift a sim!le
#ehavior.
* agree with youE any change in your life re/uires energy and focus.
7ow& energy is like money you invest in the stock market.
*f you invest it wisely& it multi!lies000
%his is good news0
;s soon as you connect with !ositive sources of energy in your #eing&
life does the rest.
)ou are not #reathing with your will !ower right now.
*t sim!ly ha!!ens.
*t goes on #y itself without you making any effort.
a!!iness functions in the same way.
*t takes some focus and energy in the #eginning #ecause you shift
ha#it !atterns and mind sets.
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)ou integrate new energy in your system.
%his energy shifts things around and Greorgani4esH your inner world.
%his is why you feel a slight stress on your #eing when you engage
yourself on a new !ath.
ere are some key elements you must res!ect when esta#lishing a
new ha#itE
1 @sta2lish one new ha2it at a time. :or instance if you decide
to have a healthy #reakfast from now on& focus on this ha#it
only.
2 Focus on &our ha2it )or a week. *n the #eginning& you need
to !ractice it. )ou can ad another ha#it the following week& while
maintaining what you already learned.
3 !t takes # to ' months to reall& own a new ha2it. Lnce
you invite this new ha#it in your life over a week& #e aware that
it will take 1 to - months for this ha#it to #e firmly esta#lished
in your life. 3onclusion? 9tay focused0
4 Focus on &our top priorit&. %o esta#lish a new ha#it& you need
motivation& desire and will !ower. )ou will get all those only if
the new ha#it you want to manifest in your life is really eAciting
and im!ortant to you. :ocus on what truly matters.
5 Ine da& a week: simpl& let it go. When creating a new ha#it
you can generate a slight stress or !ressure. Lne day a week&
release the stress and sim!ly let go I9unday is usually a good
time for thatJ. .verything in life needs a rest. %his will make
sure that you can maintain your ha#it on the long term.
6 hoose e9citing targets0 :ocus on what thrills you0 *f your
new ha#it is #oring& it will die #y lack of emotional
stimulation. :ocus on what thrills you and you will #uild u!
eAcitement and energy.
* guarantee you that if you res!ect these , elements& you will #e a#le
to invite new !ositive ha#its and attitudes in your life.
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*magine that every week& you focus on a new ha#it& imagine the effect
that this can have on your life within a !eriod of - months.
*t is a direct and sim!le way to renew your eAistence and shift around
what you no longer want.
ere is how you can startE
1 !) &ou could shi)t one element in &our li)e 2etween
now and ne9t week: what would that 2e,
7ow& write this down.
*f the target you selected is /uite vast& #reak your target into small
Gafforda#leH !arts.
:or instance if your target is Gfind a !artner and have a ha!!y
relationshi!H& #reak this target into small !arts likeE
1 9ign in into a dating site
2 6et myself a new hair style
3 6o out at least once a week
4 .Aercise at least twice a week
5 .tc.
)ou #reak your target into small !arts and focus on one of these new
targets every week.
)ou create an environment and life style which is conductive for your
reaching your goals.
Lkay?
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9o now& you have your #ig target and eventually smaller individual
targets.
Write these targets down.
7ow& look at your list or single target.
;sk yourselfE
1 -hen can &ou start,
*f the answer is Gright nowH& go ahead and take a ste! and take the
resolution of focusing on this new action for a week.
*f the answer is Glater in the weekH& take ste!s to !re!are the ground
and make sure that when the moment comes& you are ready for it.
%he following week& re!eat the same cycle of selecting a new target
and focusing on it for a week.
%his is only an eAam!le to show you the dynamics of creating new
ha#its in your life.
)ou can start right now0
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Part #' ( 6e& tactics
to wake up &our
happiness
a!!iness techni/ues?
)es0
%echni/ues0
a!!iness is a mind set your consciously #uild in your life.
*f it does not ha!!en s!ontaneously& it is sim!ly #ecause your
Gha!!iness channelsH are not yet fully o!ened.
What is a ha!!iness channel?
*t is a ha#it& #ehavior& mind set or attitude towards your life.
)ou want to !erform at your #est.
)ou want your mind to #e your ally and hel! you achieve whatever you
want in life.
)our mind is your tool. *t is your vehicle.
*n the neAt few !ages& we will analy4e eAactly what to do to maAimi4e
the full !otential of your mind and #uild u! em!owering mind sets.
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Cet rid o) the victim role
When your friends get used to you #eing unha!!y& it /uickly works
against you.
When you receive !ity and negative !roBections& it !uts you into the
victim role.
%his is totally disem!owering on the long term.
)ou must #reak the cycle and teach !eo!le around you how to look at
you in a different way.
9hift your mind and don+t let your friends& family or colleagues
strengthen the victim role in you.
ow do you do that?
)ou tell them0
*f anyone tells you G9o& are you feeling #etter today?H in a !atroni4ing
voice& stand u!& smile and say something likeE
G* am really eAcited a#out what comes u! today. * have this meeting a
11 which * think will #e a total success0H
; mind set is like a shirt you !ut on.
)ou decide the role you want to !lay.
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onnect with positive sources
o) inspiration
%his might #e the most im!ortant ste! along the line of
esta#lishing long term ha!!iness.
.verything around you has an im!act on your mind.
3onnections& actions& activities& music& #ooksN all dee!ly im!act
on your life and the way you feel.
*f you take it one ste! dee!er& you reali4e that ha!!iness is a#out
energy.
*t is a#out your core #eliefs.
*t is a#out the !eo!le you connect to& your community and your
!rofound sources of ins!iration.
3oaching& !ersonal growth or mind !ower are streams of ins!iration.
%here is an energy or a s!irit #ehind them.
When you read this e-#ook& you connect with a s!ecific source
of ins!iration.
*t is the same source which ins!ired me to write it in the first !lace.
aving one #ook is one ste!.
7ow imagine having do4ens of links in your mind connected with
!ositive streams of ins!iration.
*magine #eing surrounded and su!!orted #y a grou! of friends who
strive to #uild u! successful eAistences and make the #est with their
lives.
%his goes #eyond the !ersonal develo!ment stream of course.
*t touches s!iritual values and !rofound #eliefs as well.
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9o& where to start?
ere is a sim!le techni/ueE
%ake 5 o#Bects around you I#ook& 3>& maga4ine& etcJ
Put them in front of you and take a white !age.
7ow for every one of these o#Bects write down the adBectives which
come to your mind Ilike rational& ins!iring& su!erficial& funny& etcJ
7ow in a scale #etween ( and 1(& give a mark to these o#Bects a#out
the !ower of the source of ins!iration #ehind them.
:or instance& if you feel that one of the #ooks you have in front of you
is very ins!iring& give it a mark of 1 or $.
7ow& the neAt ste!E
6et rid of the o#Bect which scores the lowest0
* am serious0
%ake it and get rid of it.
%ake another white !age and draw a circle on it.
%his is a s!ace of energy.
*t is em!ty right now.
*f you had to fill it with something which scores at 1( on the level of
ha!!iness& what would that #e?
*f nothing comes u!& let it em!ty and kee! this white o!en circle on
your desk or stick it on your fridge with a magnet.
7eAt time you go sho!!ing for clothes or anything else& #efore you
#uy& ask yourself this sim!le /uestionE
Gow high does this o#Bect score on the ha!!iness scale?H
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>ecide right now to surround yourself with elements which score only
1 to 1(.
6et rid of anything which sounds dark& !essimistic& heavy or unsolved.
.very o#Bect around you reflects on your mind.
*t is a reminder of an energy connection you have with a source.
:or instance a i! o! 3> reminds you of a musical style and a certain
way of thinking.
*t is /uite different than classical music or ethnic tunes.
%here is a s!irit #ehind it0
3heck the s!irit #ehind the things you own and if any of these scores
lower than 5 on the ha!!iness scale& get rid of them.
7o cheating0 IJ
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+urture &our 2od& mind and spirit
*magine a garden.
%his is your mind.
When you nurture your #ody& mind and s!irit& you water your inner
s!ace with energy and care.
5ove and care feed your #eing and you can give lots of it to yourself.
ere is a sim!le way to take active care of your #eingE
7eAt time you get !aid& !ut aside 1(O of what you
earned. %his is for you0
)ou have #een working hard for a month.
)ou deserve a reward0
7ow& invest this money IenergyJ in yourself.
What comes to your mind?
1 oliday cruise?
2 ; new to!?
3 %raining some skills?
4 ; #unch of flowers?
5 ; mem#ershi! for the gym?
6 .tc.
;ny time you give yourself a treat& you send a clear messageE
G* am worth it0H
;nd it is the truth0
)ou own this money0
7ow& who do you think should #enefit the most from it?
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@at 2reak)ast?
*f you are struggling with weight related issues for instance& the
natural tendency is to ski! #reakfast ho!ing this will lower your
calories in!ut.
?ig mistake0
)our #ody is craving for energy0
When your #ody craves for energy& you #ecome weaker emotionally.
%his o!ens u! the door to lots of vulnera#ility and you can get hit #y
all sorts of negative emotions.
)ou are of course aware of the #ody-mind link.
*f your #ody misses energy& it is your whole emotional system which
gets de!leted.
%he solution is sim!leE
%ake 5 minutes to eat something healthyE my first choice goes for
muesli& fruit and yoghurt.
7o need to overeat.
9im!ly give your #ody eAactly what it needs and your level of
ha!!iness will rise instantly.
*f you do already have #reakfast& make sure that what you eat is
healthy0
%his is one of the first messages you give to your #ody early morning.
*t is one which makes a #ig difference0
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onnect with positive streams
; thought is a Gmind o#BectH.
; thought is like a wave on the surface of your mind.
*t is an event.
*t is the visi#le !art of the ice#erg.
*f you swim in a river& what matters is not the waves on the surface of
the water& it is the river itself.
Where does it take you?
Why do you swim in it?
What is its tem!erature?
ow does it im!act on your life?
; river gives you a direction.
; river is a source of ins!iration.
When you wake u! in the morning and read a !a!er& the news #ecome
a source of ins!iration.
3hoose your stream0
What are the sources of influence in your life right
now? )ou can choose0
%argeting the thought means only targeting the surface wave.
*f you really want to have an im!act on your mind& connect with
em!owering sources of ins!iration.
%his is why you sometimes #uy an em!owering #ook.
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7ow& the !eo!le around you are sources of ins!iration.
Which ones are !ositive?
Which ones are negative?
%his vast architecture of connections is the network of your streams
of ins!iration.
%o develo! !ositive mind sets& you need to connect with em!owering
sources of ins!iration.
>o you reali4e that you are the architect of all that?
)ou choose for your daily and weekly activities.
)ou are the active creator of these connections.
)ou can choose what you connect to.
%he first ste! is to identify the sources which do em!ower you.
%he second ste! is to consciously organi4e these sources of ins!iration
in your life& time frame and mind.
%he #ooks your read& the music your listen to& the !eo!le you connect
to& your community& your work& family& friends& inner growth and
s!iritual life are all streams of ins!iration.
7ow& for your mind develo!ment& you need to connect with a stream
of ins!iration which does em!ower you.
)ou want to connect with a system or a source of ins!iration which
o!ens new doors in your life.
*f you have a #ook in your hands& what matters most?
*s it the #ook itself or a single word you Bust read?
:ind streams of ins!iration you can connect and relate to.
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Positive thinking& em!owerment& inner and s!iritual growth are all
directions which hel! you use your mind in the #est !ossi#le way.
7ow& if you want to train your #ody& you go to the gym& right?
)ou connect with an environment whose aim is to em!ower your
!hysical #ody.
%he same works for your mind.
*f you want to em!ower your mind& you need to connect with inner
and outer sources of ins!iration which su!!ort you or give you the
energy and mind sets to develo! your mind.
%he modern streams of mind !ower& self growth as well as s!iritual
develo!ment directions are all systems which hel! you maAimi4e the
!otential of your mind.
Ln to! of that& you do have inner sources of ins!iration which do hel!
you take the right ste!s.
%rust your instinct and consciously choose your sources of ins!iration.
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-ake up &our mind power
)our mind is your greatest ally.
*f you get the feeling that your mind works against you& it is the sign
What is missing?
*t is !ower0 Mind
!ower0
Mind !ower is a natural resource of energy you have in you.
Mind !ower is the a#ility to #e in charge of your life.
*t is a s!ace.
)ou own that s!ace.
*t is yours0
*t was given to you at #irth0
)our thoughts& emotions and #eliefs ha!!en within your mind.
%hey ha!!en within your territory0
)ou are the !erson who has the greatest influence over what ha!!ens
in your mind.
)ou are in charge0
%he moment you reali4e this& you already wake u! your mind !ower.
)ou wake u! to the reali4ation that you do have resources of energy
inside yourself to !rotect and !reserve your mind s!ace.
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Protect &our mind space
When you have negative thoughts& images or feelings !o!!ing u!
into your mind& you can see them as an attack on your mind.
*t is a form of #attle and you want to develo! new skills to make sure
that you are the winner of this #attle.
)our mind is yours0
)ou have the !ower to !rotect it.
L#serve how it functions and do what it takes to !rotect your
mind s!ace.
9u!!ose for instance that someone Budges you in a negative way.
)ou can either let this Budgment take root in your mind and let it grow
and eA!and& or you can reBect this Budgment& fight #ack and not let
anyone !ut you down.
%he moment you react and fight #ack& you use your !ower.
)ou instantly reali4e that your self confidence is under attack and you
do something to tackle this threat.
*n a day& you can have many situations where you let someone else+s
negative thoughts im!act on you.
*t can #e an aggressive look you get from another driver.
*t can #e something your !artner tells you Bust #efore you take off.
*f you recogni4e a negative attack on your mind& do something a#out it
straight away.
*dentify the attack as an energy which !uts you down and
do something a#out it straight awayE
1 =es!ond to the !erson
2 3onsciously dro! it
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1 =eBect the thought
2 9tay alert
3 .tc.
*n other terms& you need to sometimes see your day as a #attle in
which you need defend your inner territory.
)ou can call this !sychic self defense.
%he moment you reali4e what is at stake& you give yourself all the
wea!ons you need to stay in a clear mind set.
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@nergiAe &our 2eing
%he way you feel in your #ody directly im!acts on the way you feel in
your mind.
*f your #ody is low on energy& you will naturally tend to feel low
emotionally.
%here are two main ways of influencing the way you feel in your #odyE
eAercise and diet.
*f you don+t move your #ody enough& you miss energy.
*f you over eat or eat unhealthy& you will naturally lower your energy
level.
>on+t underestimate the im!act this has on your mind.
; full stomach sto!s you from !erforming well or kee!ing a clear mind.
Modern lifestyles are challenging for the #ody.
9itting on a chair or driving a car are not GnaturalH activities.
owever& there are do4ens of ways to maintain a high level of energy
in your #ody.
Make sure you give your #ody what it needs. )our
#ody and your mind are your greatest assets.
=es!ect them and give them what they need.
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Bove: respect and positive
outlook on li)e
5ove nurtures your life.
7ow& love is giving and receiving.
When you give& you encourage the flow of it in your life.
*t works #oth ways.
;s long as it streams in your eAistence& you tend to stay more ha!!y&
healthy and in harmony.
5ove is a#out the way you relate to yourself and your environment.
5ove is a /uality you consciously invite in your eAistence.
ow do you invite
it? %hrough action0
Watering a !lant is something which sounds sim!le #ut it does have an
im!act on your mind and !ersonal environment.
*t sends a clear messageE G* careH.
%ry saying G* love youH more often.
5ove& res!ect and care are your ways of nurturing yourself and those
around you.
*t #uilds u! harmony and invites !eace in your #eing.
)ou can eA!ress #oth love and !ower in your life.
%hese two /ualities com!lement each other harmoniously.
>are to take the ste! when you see an o!!ortunity to eA!ress your
love& care or res!ect.
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Search )or meaning
)our life is a mystery.
* mean& when you reali4e that you are a living entity somewhere on a
#lue !lanet sus!ended in s!ace in the Milky Way& you can dro!
everything and search for answers.
)ou touch here on your s!iritual identity.
5ife #eyond the limits of rationality.
9ome form of s!iritual connection or #elief usually gives you an
energy #ase in life.
*t gives you a mind set which answers some of these
!rofound /uestions.
; way to em!ower your mind is to invite some form of s!iritual reality
in your life.
*f you are religious& this might mean eA!loring dee!er levels of your
s!iritual life through !rayer& meditation& rituals or other !ractices.
%here are do4ens of ways you can connect with your s!iritual identity.
Many s!iritual streams focus on the idea of ha!!iness& inner !eace and
even success and satisfaction.
%his is such a vast to!ic0
* would truly need another e-#ook to fully cover that one.
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Cet rid o) what holds &ou 2ack
What holds you #ack is in the !ast.
*t can #e anythingE old memories& o#Bects& negative
eA!eriences& draining connections& etc.
*f you want to move forward in your life& you need to create s!ace0
*f your mind and life are full& your future can+t o!en u!.
>ro! it0
5et go of what you no longer need0
*dentify what drains you and make sure that you remove it from your
eAistence.
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onnect with &our destin&
)our destiny is an intelligent entity.
*t is not a fiAed set of actions and events in your future.
*t is more like a river you swim in.
;long the way& the details of your life travel are not yet fiAed.
owever& you do have a vision of where this takes you.
6oals& life vision and destiny are all as!ects of your future.
%his is your !ers!ective.
%his is what you look forward to.
Part of the energy of your mind is aimed at o!ening doors into your
future.
%he moment you take a good decision or make the right choice& you
get this em!owering feeling of inner freedom.
3onnecting with your destiny is an art0
*t is at the very core of !ositive thinking and !ositive mind sets.
*f your line of action takes you in the wrong direction& you feel
systematically drained and unha!!y. )ou know something is wrong0
%he negative thoughts are sim!ly a surface reflection of an
unattractive destiny line.
>on+t try to shift your thoughts0
9hift your destiny line instead0
%his is the true em!owering ste!.
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Positive mind sets and values
<alues are your core #eliefs.
%hey are the foundation #locs of your
mind. 5ove and res!ect are values.
;m#ition and eA!ression of your needs and wants are other values and
mind sets.
9ome negative values and mind sets disem!ower you.
*n fact they don+t solidify your mind. %hey make you vulnera#le and
!essimistic a#out life.
9ee yourself as an architect0
)ou can choose right now !ositive mind sets and values.
What does it take to shift a mind set?
Lne to three months of focus0
)ou need to make it your !riority num#er one0
Why is that?
?ecause your mind has #een conditioned over a !eriod of 1(& '( or -(
years.
; conditioning is a mind set.
*t is the result of eA!eriences.
When you want to shift your mind set& you need to re!olari4e and
recondition your mind to res!ond differently in given life situations.
%his means that you need to re!eat the right message to yourself until
your get it.
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)ou will see that your mind !rogressively ado!ts a new em!owering
mind set.
*t sim!ly takes focus& time& re!etition and will !ower to develo! a
new mind set.
Will !ower is fire0
Will !ower is your desire to change and shift things around.
)our will !ower is your emotional fuel0
*t is your am#ition.
%his is the num#er one /uality you need to shift mind sets.
*t is your driving force and what you will invest in your actions.
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Master &our connection with
others
=elationshi!s0
*t can #e your connection with your !artner& friends& colleagues&
community or family.
; connection with another human #eing can #e em!owering.
%he #est way to em!ower your connections is to focus on synergy and
win-win always.
*t is never a#out dominating or controlling someone else+s life.
Mastering your connection with others means mastering the way
you stand in it.
When you #uild harmonious relationshi!s with others& you em!ower
your eAistence and manifest a fresh flow of life in your #eing.
5ife res!onds to life0
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Sta& awake and alert?
)our mind can #e under attack any time.
ave a strategy for any situation.
?ehave like a martial artist ready to defend your territory any time.
)ou will notice that the moment you have the tools& skills and wea!ons to
defend yourself& you feel secure and you !erform at your #est.
; day can #e seen as a series of challenges.
%he goal is to con/uer0
)ou have a series of situations to master.
9tay awake and aware of what ha!!ens in such day.
L#serve the flow of your thoughts and emotions and if you notice that
something wrong is ha!!ening& do something a#out it straight away.
>on+t let negative situations im!act on you.
*f you feel that something takes you down& take action and shift the
dynamics.
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-hat to do )irst when &ou are
trapped in a negative mind set
:ind a new source of ins!iration.
%here is always an o!en door somewhere.
:ind out what this door is.
2se your instinct.
; !art of you always knows the #est neAt move.
*t is all a#out identifying a !ossi#le neAt ste!.
)our instinct is one of your to! mind !ower wea!ons.
Lnce you see an o!en door& you need to take action and walk through
it.
%o take action you need to trust yourself and use your will !ower and
determination.
>on+t let anything or anyone sto! you from taking action when
you feel it is right.
;nother eAcellent way to shift a negative mind set is to shift gear or
activity.
9!eed is another key wea!on in your mind.
)ou need to res!ond to o!!ortunities and o!en doors when you see
one.
9tay awake and alert0
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How to in)luence &our thoughts
;gain& a thought is sim!ly a surface wave.
%he #est way to influence your thoughts is to connect with the
right source of ins!iration in you.
*nstead of focusing on the details of your thoughts& focus on the larger
!icture.
3ome to the details once your larger life stream is set u!.
*f you feel that you can+t connect with a !ositive stream of thoughts&
it is time to go and look #eyond the limits of what you already know.
3onnect with a new s!iritual or !ersonal develo!ment stream.
L!en a new door in your #eing and consciousness.
L#viously& if the solution was !resent within the limits of your comfort
4one& you would #e eA!ressing already the full dimension of your life.
*f something is missing& start searching for it and ste! #eyond
)ou will need to o!en new doors and invite new streams of ins!iration
in your life.
Lnce you connect with a new stream of ins!iration& the shift does not
ha!!en overnight.
*t does not go from left to right in one day.
; stream of ins!iration is a stream of renewal.
)ou feel it having a !rogressive im!act on your mind over a !eriod of
time.
6ive yourself 1 to - months to see the results.
9tay focused on your target and #e consistent with your action.
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Tackle the real challenge
*f you feel dissatisfied with your love life& do something a#out it.
*f you are unha!!y with your #ody& sign in to the gym.
*f you don+t like your Bo#& make a career shift.
;ll these eAam!les show you one thingE
<ery often your negative thoughts or feeling of dissatisfaction are not
the !ro#lem& they are the sym!tomsM they are the warning signs which
tell you that something is not /uite right.
%he moment you take action and do something a#out the real issue or
challenge you face& you reali4e that life starts flowing again.
;ction invites life force into your #eing.
*t energi4es you& o!ens new channels of eA!ression in your #eing and
#asically takes you from where you are to where you want to #e.
iding yourself #ehind dou#ts& fears and hesitations does not work.
*n these situations& your negative thoughts are an inner call0
)our life is calling0
%he only way to #reak the negative !attern is to take action and
do something a#out the real challenge.
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Part #0 ( hange
d&namics
)ou might tend to naturally resist change in life.
Why is that?
?ecause change usually creates some form of stress or !ressure.
3hange re/uires focus and energy.
*t forces you to go through a transition !eriod in which your life or
mind are GrearrangedH and develo! a new e/uili#rium.
*n the neAt few !ages& you will discover how to em#race change and
makes sure that your renewal and !ower has enough room to eA!ress
to eA!ress itself in your life.
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hange d&namics
)ou have a natural tendency to resist change.
Why is that?
?ecause change creates stress or !ressure.
;ny time you change& you integrate new energies in your life.
%his integration of new energies creates a slight discomfort or stress in
your #eing.
When you change& you go through a !eriod of transition which re/uires
eAtra focus and energy.
9u!!ose you want to shift house.
%he whole transition !eriod is o#vious in such case.
*t will take you a while to find your roots in your new !lace.
Mind shifts follow the same ty!e of dynamics.
When you want to change something in your mind& you often tackle
thoughts or #eliefs which are dee!ly rooted in your consciousness.
%his is why change re/uires focus and energy.
*f you tune into the right source of ins!iration& change will ha!!en
more easily.
7ow& if your motivation is weak& you might sto! half way and not
manage to #reak through what you wanted to change.
%he integration of a new mind set re/uires focus& energy and
determination.
When you want to shift& you need an effective strategy and a vision of
where you want to #e.
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%his is why you #ought this #ook& right? ?ecause it gives you a vision&
strategies and the ins!iration to take some ste!s.
7ow& the words you read are only a reflection of things you somehow
already know dee! inside.
)ou got this e-#ook #ecause !art of you is ready for some form of
change.
)ou sim!ly need to #ring it to the surface of your mind and clarify your
vision and how to do it.
*f you face resistance when you try to take ste!s& this resistance is
sim!ly the sign that you are ste!!ing #eyond your comfort 4one.
%his is okay.
;ny time you change& you challenge yourself.
)ou invite what we call renewal !ower in your eAistence and shift key
elements in the architecture and dynamics of your mind.
%he way to go for change anyway is toE
?uild u! eAtra !ower.
2se your will determination and motivation.
Minimaly4e resistance.
ave a clear vision of where you go.
6et some su!!ort from em!owering sources.
.tc.
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How to shi)t mind sets
>id you notice how !ositive thinking is sometimes looked at like #eing
naRve or childish.
%here is an underlying #elief system which wants to esta#lish !ositive
thinking as some form of su!erficial #rain washing techni/ue which
takes away character and real life eA!erience.
Positive thinking is not a#out hiding yourself #ehind a cloud of
su!erficial denial.
Positive thinking is em!owering.
*t is a mind set which strengthens your life and emotional foundation.
%his is !owerful stuff and the goals are sim!leE
6reater life satisfaction0
?etter !erformance.
More ha!!iness.
*ncreased !ower and life force0
.A!anded awareness.
.tc.
>o you want any of these?
*f you want more of these /ualities& you need to em#race them& want
them and love them.
*magine what you can achieve when your mind is stronger and you
have greater mastery of what ha!!ens in it.
)ou don+t want to kill nature and s!ontaneity.
)ou don+t want to isolate yourself in a fortified castle.
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Positive thinking is a#out !erfecting your mind vehicle and removing
what you no longer need.
6et rid of what slows you down and unleash your full !otential.
When it comes to em!owering your mind and shifting negative
mind sets in you& you+ll face - key challengesE
9hifting your mind set. %o shift your mind set& you need eAtra !ower
and effective strategies. Positive thinking and mind !ower are energy
streams. )ou esta#lish new mind sets #y connecting with new sources
of !ower and energy in you.
=econditioning your environment. )our environment gets used to your
#ehavior. *f you took the victim role for years& your new GroleH will
challenge your family& friends and colleagues. %here is com!etition for
!ower& success and ha!!iness. .ducate those who resist your change.
5etting go of negative attention. *f you have #een tra!!ed in negative
thinking loo!s& you !ro#a#ly got lots of !ity and negative attention. 5et
go of this negative sources of validation and create new relationshi!s
with your environment.
%he idea is to eA!and your awareness and understand the
underlying dynamics #ehind !ositive mind sets.
%hese are !owerful tools you can use any time no matter your age&
gender or status.
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@ver& action generates a result
9u!!ose you stay at home a whole day.
)ou will naturally miss fresh air.
%he moment you o!en the windows and take a cou!le of dee! #reaths&
you invite life force in your #ody.
%his sounds sim!le& right? 9o& why arenFt you doing it?
)es0 =ight now. )ou can stand u!. L!en the windows and #reathe
dee!ly a few times.
3lose your eyes and o#serve your reaction.
%his ste! can sound like an insignificant ste!. *t is only one dro!&
right?
Lne ste! is a first ste!. %his is how a Bourney starts.
*f you want to travel somewhere& you always need to start with a first
ste!.
7o one #ut you can take that ste!.
=ight now& * could descri#e you a series of actions which would make
you very unha!!y within 41 hours.
*t is easyE Cust !ick u! the !hone and start swearing at someone.
7eAt ste!? .at only Bunk food for two days.
;fter that& no 8#ody care8. >onFt wash your hands or your face for two
days. %he list can go on0
*n the same way * could descri#e you a series of actions which would
make you ha!!yE
1 Duality food
2 .Aciting goals for your day
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1 Meaningful contact with some good friends
2 .ntertainment
3 9ome eAercise
4 .tc.
%he key to ha!!iness is !artly thoughts and actions.
What makes you truly ha!!y is to live within a !owerful stream of
ins!iration which gives you !ower& vision and action lines.
a!!iness is a#out the s!irit your live in.
)ou can decide right now to em#race the values of ha!!inessE love&
!assion& eAcitement& !ower& etc.
What would sto! you from em#racing these values?
What is the force which can kee! you from wanting more of the
/ualities in your life?
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Mind conditioning
;ny thought leaves a #lue !rint in your mind.
1( to '( years of education or training leave a conditioning in your
mind.
.very time you eA!ress an emotion& a thought or a feeling your create
a channel of energy in your mind.
*f this thought ha!!ens only once& this channel wonFt #e strong.
7ow& if this thought ha!!ens daily it will create an energy line in your
mind which will #e im!rinted like a maBor as!ect of your inner
architecture.
*n the #eginning& a negative mind !attern is Bust a one time thought.
?ecause you kee! re!eating it& it #ecomes a ha#it.
%hese negative !atterns in your mind #ecome stronger #ecause of this
re!etition.
.very time you re!roduce a negative thought& you reinforce its
message in your mind.
7ow& your !resent conditioning is not a fiAed set.
*t kee!s on evolving over a !eriod of a life time.
*f you know how to do it& you can shift ha#its and re!rogram your
mind to react differently in the given situations.
%his is what this e-#ook is a#outE showing you the eAact techni/ue to
effectively re!rogram your mind so that the negative thinking refleA is
re!laced #y a new set of thoughts and emotions.
=econditioning takes some time and dedication.
9u!!ose you have #een re!roducing a negative thinking !attern for
many years.
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*f you want to shift that !attern& you need to re!eat the 8new8
message over a !eriod of time so that it #ecomes your new 8mind
ha#it8.
*n my eA!erience it takes a#out a week to get really familiar with a
new mind set.
*t takes a#out one month to ground it in your life and a#out - months
to truly own this new mind set.
; new mind set could #e anythingE it can #e an emotion or a thought
like 8* am worth it08.
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' li)e powers
;ny life cycle has three as!ects to itE #irth& life and deathE
1 Birth is s&non&m )or creation. %his is your creative !ower.
2 Bi)e is s&non&m )or maintenance or preservation. %his
is your !reserving or !rotective !ower.
3 Eeath is s&non&m )or destruction: trans)ormation or
renewal. %his is your destructive or renewal !ower.
%hese - as!ects are - !owers you eA!ress throughout your life.
When you eA!ress a negative thought& you are using your
destructive !ower.
>estruction ha!!ens #ecause you want to create s!ace.
*n fact& you want to free yourself from a limiting situation. 2sing your
natural destructive !ower is your way of trying to create s!ace.
7ow& #ecause these thoughts are often an attack on yourself and your
self worth& they are self destructive.
)our destructive !ower does not find its eAternal eA!ression and gets
stacked in your mind and kee!s on #urning you like a flame.
)our destructive !ower is a !ositive force.
%his force is given to you from #irth.
)ou use it in all sorts of situations and circumstances. )ou can eA!ress it
in the form of thoughts& emotions& actions& #ehaviors& #eliefs& etc.
;ny time you clean your !ersonal environment& you create s!ace and
throw away old things you no longer need.
When you do this& you use your destructive !ower.
*t is the same as renewal !ower.
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)ou create s!ace so that new events can ha!!en in your life.
*f you were not using your destructive !ower and creating s!ace& you
would remain stacked in the !ast and overloaded with memories.
%his is why your destructive !ower is a !ositive force.
When you eAercise and #urn calories or toAins& your !erform the same
action of #ody cleansing.
7ow& when do you actually take the ste! to remove the old mind
frames you no longer need?
7egative emotions tend to accumulate and !ile u! until your
mind saturates and canFt #reathe anymore.
%his is why you use your renewal !ower.
)our im!ulsion is to create s!ace.
)our negative thinking loo! is your #est shot at trying to create s!ace
in your mind #ut it is not enough.
*t #urns you from inside instead of creating s!ace in you.
*magine a wild stallion trying to #reak free.
*ts goal is freedom& right?
*n this freeing !rocess& the stallion can get hurt and wounded
#y throwing itself against the fences.
7atureFs im!ulsion of trying to #reak free is right& #ut #ecause if
flows in an untamed way& it might not achieve its wanted goal.
7ature is not !erfect. )our mind tries to function to its #est and
sometimes you need to give nature a little !ush.
%he goal is to use your natural freeing !ower and give it this eAtra kick
of energy so that you reach your target Icreating s!ace and feeling
freerJ and donFt get hurt along the way..
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)ou want to achieve !ositive results #y em!owering your mind&
esta#lishing a clear mind set and using your natural renewal !ower.
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8enewal power
>estruction and renewal are one and same thing.
>eath is intimately associated with re#irth.
9u!!ose you had a #usiness and decide to finish u! with it.
?efore you start with a new one& you need to clear the !a!er work and
create s!ace so that new !roBects can #e #orn.
Why is that?
?ecause you only have so much s!ace.
*f your mind is !acked with old memories& you sim!ly canFt focus on
the future.
%his is why you are given this renewal or destructive !ower.
7ow& the term destruction can feel scary #ut it is not.
>estruction is a force you use every day to clear your mind and get
ready for the following day.
*t ha!!ens naturally in you.
*f you !refer& focus on the terms transformation and renewal.
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8econditioning &our environment
%his is one of the to! three challenges you face when trying to #reak a
negative thinking loo!.
*t is not only your negative thinking you need to solve or deal withE it
is the negative thinking of those around you.
%here is a natural com!etition for !ower ha!!ening #etween !eo!le.
Peo!le do com!ete for !ower& success and ha!!iness.
*t ha!!ens su#consciously.
*n your circle of friends& there is an invisi#le hierarchy which measures
everyoneFs life success com!ared with others.
;n invisi#le race for success and !ower is ha!!ening all the time.
%his ha!!ens within your social circle& with colleagues at work and with
your family. *t ha!!ens as well within a community and #etween
neigh#ors.
Within your social circle for instance& the com!etitive s!irit can #e very
high or low de!ending on everyoneFs attitude.
:riends can get very Bealous with each other. %hey can actually attack
each otherFs success !recisely #ecause a !art of them is in
com!etition.
*n other social circles& the level of com!etition will #e very low.
%his means that its mem#ers value more the com!licity as!ect of their
friendshi!. %he level of care& love and su!!ort for each other will #e
higher.
%hese are called !ower dynamics.
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%hey are the underlying dynamics of !ower invisi#ly sustaining
the way a grou! of friends relate to each other.
* know it can sound strange& #ut when you are tra!!ed in negative
thinking& you are Gout of the raceH in a way.
What is this race? *t is the /uest for success.
7egative thinking !uts you out of the race straight away. *n other
terms& you don+t actually threaten someone+s 8victory8 in their own
ha!!iness.
When you !ut yourself down with negative thinking& you are already
giving u! on winning the 8success and ha!!iness race8.
)ou are not a threat for someone elseFs victory.
%his is why your friends wonFt challenge you and try to hel! rather
than try to com!ete.
ave you ever tried arriving in a cafe to meet a cou!le of friends and
say something likeE
8Whaou0 * feel great today0 * got a raise from my #oss and Bust #ooked
three weeks holydays for Culy in this magnificent resort in the
Maldives8
3heck your friendFs reactions. What are they thinking?
86eese0 9he always has all this good stuff ha!!ening to her8
or is it more likeE
8Whaou0 *Fm im!ressed. )ou worked so hard this year0 %hatFs your
reward0 )ou deserve it08
Put it this wayE
%oo much ha!!iness and success can feel like a threat for those who
donFt have it.
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%here is no right or wrong #ehavior #etween friends. %his is only a
descri!tion of some underlying !ower dynamics which can ha!!en
within a circle of friends.
When you decide to #reak a negative thinking cycle& you might face
the resistance of those actually should care for you.
Why is that?
?ecause it 8!uts you #ack in the race8 for success.
%oday& you take a !ositive ste! in your own evolution and deal with
negative thinking. %omorrow& you might #e doing #etter than they are.
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The dangers o) negative attention
7egative attention can !ut you down.
7egative attention can #e the same as !ity& altruism or even
com!assion0
*f you are dee!ly in trou#le& a hel!ing hand will #e welcome.
7ow& if those around you get used to !roBect !ity on you& you generate
a very limiting mind set for yourself.
*n fact& you start relying on other+s !ity as a source of energy.
%he moment you grow and gain !ower& you will naturally tend to miss
other !eo!le+s !ity.
Why?
?ecause !ity can #e comforting. *t nurtures you. *t feeds you
with attention.
;gain& this is a !ositive force when you really need it.
*f negative attention is your main way of relating to others& your main
role in life #ecomes a victim role.
)ou !roBect and see yourself as a victim. )ou tend to !erfect that role
and #ehave in ways that reinforce it.
)ou have two o!tionsE
%he first o!tion is to stay fiAed on your victim role.
%he second o!tion is to reBect negative attention when you recogni4e it
and esta#lish yourself as a winner& not a victim.
;s you can see& these are two different strategies.
5etting go of negative attention might #e the #iggest challenge you
face when you #uild u! inner !ower.
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5etting go of negative attention and reBecting !ity is your way of
growing.
*magine a young child clim#ing the ste!s.
*ts mother wants to hel! #ut it reBects the hel!ing hand. *t wants to do
it alone #ecause that+s its way of growing and learning.
%he !rocess of inner growth works in the same wayE you find inner
sources of !ower and energy and let go of the eAternal sources of !ity&
negative attention and su!!ort.
%his is a conscious decision.
;s long as you !ut yourself in the victim role& you mind set does not
shift.
)our emotional #ase stays the same.
%he only way to shift is to reBect negative attention and esta#lish your
life in a new mind territory.
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How to educate &our environment
%he way to solve Gcom!etingH !atterns with friends& family& colleagues
and social circle is to educate your environment.
When you esta#lish a new mind set and develo! a new sense of success
in your eAistence& you want to shift some of your connections.
)ou want to educate !eo!le in looking at you in a different way.
%his is a challenge and it re/uires focus& awareness and consistency.
5et+s go #ack to a !revious eAam!leE
)ou are a male and have this male friend who !uts you down #ecause
you are -( and single.
;gain& su!!ose he saysE
G9o& where is your date? LhN that+s rightN )ou have no dateH
)ou can sayE
G>on+t you get tired of this same Boke? 3heck around youN >o you see
anyone laughing?H
When you res!ond that way& it is a clear statement. )ou sayE
G.nough0H
When you shift your emotional #ase and #uild u! !ower& success or
ha!!iness& you need to reeducate your environment in the way they
look and relate to you.
=eali4e that this is a #attle.
%here is com!etition.
%he first ste! is to identify the ones who are challenging your growth.
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*t can #e a sister or #rother. *t can #e !arents. *t can #e your !artner.
*t can #e colleagues. *t can #e in-laws. *t can #e all or !art of your
social circle.
When you want to shift your mind set& the challenge of getting your
environment to evolve with you can #e even #igger than shifting
yourself.
%his is why you might feel the need to isolate yourself when you go
through a !rocess of inner change.
*f you are aware of the underlying !ower dynamics& it is much
easier to shift the areas which show resistance.
%his is a #attle again.
;ny form of inner growth on your side re/uires adBustments and
shifts in your environment.
%he good news is that you have actually the !ower to delete resistance
on those levels.
%he /uality you need to free yourself from other !eo!le+s negative
!roBections is eAtra !ower and effective strategies.
When you educate your environment you stay firm with your direction
and decisions.
)ou might have to re!eat your message until those who need to hear
it truly get it.
*t usually does not ha!!en overnight.
)our Gnew roleH can #e esta#lished over a !eriod of one to three
months.
%his is the time it takes for your environment to #e reconditioned.
9tay focused and firm with your directions.
=e!eat your message a few times until GtheyH get it.
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-here to go ne9t
*f your life has reached a reasona#le level of harmony& and you are
well esta#lished materially& the neAt /uestion you can face isE where to
go from there.
%his is a very common /uestion.
*t is very im!ortant #ecause you have a natural need to con/uer.
?asically& your life never stands still.
; !art of you wants to kee! on growing and eA!anding.
%his growth can ha!!en on a material or mind level.
)ou want to eA!and your awareness& eA!lore new territories and kee!
on growing as a human #eing.
%his need is a reflection of your will !ower or 8manifestation drive8.
;nother way to kee! on growing is to im!act or interact with othersE
you can do this #y creating a family for instance or eA!anding your
s!here of influence to a larger circle of friends or com!any.
3hange and evolution are natural human instincts.
*t ha!!ens no matter what.
%he /uestion isE
8*n what direction do you want to grow?8
)our direction is your target.
)ou can have an infinite num#er of targets.
)ou can choose your targets consciously rather than res!onding to
internal or eAternal !ressures.
)our instinct knows eAactly what you want.
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9tart #y this sim!le /uestionE
8What is your target?8
6ive yourself a week to gather ideas& talk a#out it with friends and
identify what you are truly eAcited in eA!loring in for instance the neAt
5 years.
%his is your starting !oint.
*t is your first ste! into your futureE defining targets and directions.
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-hat is the challenge,
;ny time you feel something should evolve or change in your life& you
tend to face a #asic resistance.
%his resistance is your comfort 4one.
)our life is sustained #y what you can call !reserving forces.
; lot of what you create in life is aimed at giving you security and
comfort.
%he moment you go for change& you challenge your eAisting life set u!
Iyour comfort 4oneJ and take a risk #y ste!!ing #eyond the limits of
*t is like leaving a fortified castle to eA!lore or con/uer new lands.
%o do this effectively& you need eAtra !ower and energy.
3hange re/uires energy.
*t does re/uire focus and follow u!.
*f you resist change& it sim!ly means that you reinforce your comfort
4one.
=ather than discovering new lands& you will sometimes o!t for
securing what is already there.
%his is why change is sometimes not your to! !riority.
)ou can have a vision of where you want to go #ut the moment it
comes to taking real ste!s& you can delay action and sim!ly ste! #ack
within the territory of what you already know.
*f this ha!!ens& there is nothing to #e ashamed of.
%hese are natural life !rocesses and the /uest for security and comfort
is a natural healthy instinct.
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*f you feel however that you life has #ecome too secure and renewal
sto!s flowing in it I#asically& you feel stacked or even #ored J&
you can consciously invite change into your eAistence and start
taking small ste!s.
*f a #ig ste! is too much& try taking a series of small ste!s which
#rings you closer to where you would like to #e.
*f you feel fear& dou#ts or hesitation& see these as warning signs coming
from you !reserving instinct. )ou can consciously recogni4e the dynamics
of what is ha!!ening and sim!ly increase your a#ility to change and
evolve #y res!onding to o!!ortunities when you see them.
When you decide to change as!ects of your life& you res!ond to
your renewal or evolutionary s!irit.
3hange and renewal are inner calls.
%here is often a choice or a conscious decision to #e made.
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-ho should decide,
)our life is a shi! or a ?oeing "4"& and you are the ca!tain.
)ou are the one who owns the control seat.
9ure& there are situation in life where you delegate !art of this !ower&
consciously or unconsciously.
*f you are a teenager or young adult& you !arents often give you
strong guidance and directions.
*f you work in an organi4ation& you acce!t to work within an
infrastructure with a very s!ecific #alance of !ower.
7ow& when it comes to life choices& no#ody #ut you owns the right to
decide what you want to do neAt.
*t is your #irth right to have control over your life and the more you
eA!ress this !ower& the #etter you tend to feel.
.A!ression your !ower is em!owering.
9ounds o#vious when you !out it like that& right?
%he trick is that sometimes& !eo!le or other influences tell you what to
do.
%hey try to decide for you.
%his is wrong es!ecially if you never consciously gave them right
to take life decisions for you.
*t is your life and you are the one who owns it.
*f you are unsure of what to do neAt& you can of course ask for
advice or even ask someone to take some ste!s for you if you canFt.
What matters is that you do all this consciously.
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*f you donFt want to own the key choices of your life& it is okay to
delegate these choices if you want to.
*f& however& you feel like you miss control over what ha!!ens to you&
it is often the reflection of an un#alance of !ower.
9omewhere along the line you might have given away !ower in
various forms without actually reali4ing it.
)ou might #e -(S and still #ehave like your !arents have to decide for
you.
Lr you might #e in a relationshi! and let your !artner limit your
choices& actions and dreams.
%here can #e do4ens of life situations where you can recon/uer your
territory.
%his means one thingE
)ou decide0
)ou are in charge0
;lways remem#er this when your life comes to a !oint where you have
to take key decisions or set u! a long term life line for yourself.
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-hat is &our source o)
inspiration,
)our source of ins!iration is a stream.
*t is a s!irit.
*t is a vision of what you want to achieve or eA!erience in life.
%here are many sources of ins!iration you can ta! into #ut often& there
is only one which takes you eAactly where you want to #e.
%his is synchronicity.
*t is your a#ility to #e at the right !lace at the right time& !erforming
the right action.
)ou donFt have to acce!t everything which comes to you.
)ou can test what you read& listen to or feel.
)ou can test what you read right now.
)our a#ility to ta! at will into your inner sources of ins!iration is a key
life skill.
)ou donFt have to swim with every river which comes to you.
*t is okay to #e discriminative& selective and only invest yourself in
what you feel is 1((O right for you.
*f you are unsure a#out a choice or life direction& track #ack your
source of ins!iration and identify where it comes from.
Where did it start?
What is ins!iring you to take ste!s?
*f you discover more a#out your sources of ins!iration& you will for
sure get clearer answers a#out your choices and directions.
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%his means as well discovering more a#out your own s!irit and what
truly guides your ste!s in life.
ow does energy work for you?
What is your connection to what surrounds you?
;s soon as you !erceive the underlying dynamics directing your lifeFs
events& you wake u! to a whole new !erce!tion of your eAistence.
%he key word is awareness. %he #est way to increase your awareness
is to o!en new doors in your consciousness.
)ou can do this with some sim!le mediation or focus techni/ues which
clarify your inner screen and hel! you see the !lay of energies and
sources of ins!iration in your life.
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Positive thinking
-h& invest in &oursel),
Why invest in yourself?
?ecause it makes all the difference.
%oday& there are so many avenues in your life you can work on& and
consciously design an eAistence you love and enBoy.
ow do you invest in yourself?
)ou reinvest 1(O of your time& energy and resources in you0
)ou can do this #y giving yourself a treat& #ooking a well deserved
holiday on a tro!ical island.
)ou can as well consciously train new life skills& do a !ersonal
develo!ment course& go for a s!iritual retreat& take time for yourself
and your family and so much more.
%he moment you understand the dynamics& there is no limit.
What matters is that you give care to your #eing in one way or
another.
)ou take a moment to ste! #ack and give yourself the !riority for Bust
half a day a week.
)ou can of course give yourself much more #ut if you donFt know
where to start& this is the #est way to go.
3hoose a time& choose a target and sim!ly give this to yourself.
*nvest as well in it0 >onFt think that your #eing& #ody or mind are
not worth it.
*f you find easy to #uy a new set of dishes for your kitchen& donFt
hesitate a second to #uy a new tie& new dress or a gym
mem#ershi! for a few months.
)ou are the num#er one !riority in your life.
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Put it this wayE if you feel greater satisfaction and higher level of
energy& everyone #enefits from it.
)ou owe it to yourself as well.
When you feel down or low& everyone suffers from it.
When you are ha!!y and shining& itFs a win-win for everyone.
)ou are !riority num#er one.
*t is okay to #e totally selfish and give first to yourself Iat least once a
week0 J
9o& where or how do you invest in yourself?
What works #est is to develo! new life skills& gain effectiveness and
satisfaction in key areas of your life like #usiness& love life& social life&
!ersonal and s!iritual develo!ment.
What matters first is that you understand the dynamics involved and
sim!ly take ste!s in that direction.
)ou will notice that your level of life satisfaction can raise a cou!le of
!oints instantly the moment you do.
* wonFt sell you coaching here #ecause you already know that
coaching sessions go in the same sense.
*t is all a#out validating and em!owering your #eing.
>oing this is never a sign of weakness.
*f you want to invest in yourself in a challenging way& take a !ara
gliding course or go do some surfing in the awaiian waves.
)ou can care for your #eing in any way you want.
)ou can set u! goals and warm u! to the idea that you are worth it0
%his is not a thera!y line #y the way.
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Positive thinking
* am not talking a#out healing Ieven if this can #e an avenue as wellJ.
7o& the most direct way to invest in yourself is to con/uer new
territories in your life.
%he targets are sim!ly new.
:ocus mainly on yourself rather than systems or !eo!le around you.
)ou are the core of all that& right?
.m!owering your mind and life is the most direct way to energi4e the
totality of your eAistence.
>onFt hesitate a second0
)ou owe it to yourself0
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Part #* ( How to
change &our li)e in
these situations
*n the neAt few !ages& we will check key life situations which
re/uire shifts and effective strategies.
:ocus on your target and take action0
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! am not happ& right now 2ut !
don<t know where to start
What you descri#e is very common.
*f you were an artist& you would sim!ly say that you face an ins!iration
ga!.
With your life& the same can ha!!en.
When you face an ins!iration& motivation or energy ga!& all you need
is to reconnect with sources of !ower and renewal in yourself.
*magine channels of energy flowing through your #eing.
When life and ins!iration flows& your channels are active and you feel
truly ha!!y.
*f some of your channels feel #locked& you feel unha!!y and lack
energy or motivation.
%here are two ste!s you can takeE %he first one is to energi4e your life
eAactly the way it is.
%his might mean changing your diet or eAercising.
*t might mean as well relaAing with some friends or energi4ing
your social life.
*f you work hard& you can give yourself a #reak and take some time
off& sim!ly to gain #ack some energy.
%his is the first set of solutionsE energi4e your life as it is.
%he second set of solutions goes dee!erE you reorient your goals&
redefine your life !ur!oses.
%his im!lies a 8structural change8.
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)ou start changing the way you do certain things in life& find new
targets& or use your money& time and energy in a different way.
%his im!lies a #it of 8soul searching8.
*t means that you ste! #ack a little and o#serve your life from the
distance.
)ou redesign the way you stand in your eAistence.
*magine standing in front of your lifeFs architecture.
)ou are the designer and your first goal is to create a life vision you
are truly eAcited a#out.
)ou take what you have right now and ad new /ualities and actions to
it. )ou can as well sim!ly resha!e what you have.
Where to start?
*f all the goals you already achieved do not satisfy you& start
looking for dee!er and more !rofound targets.
%his might mean ste!!ing into some 8s!iritual8 or 8!ersonal
develo!ment8 fields.
*f you know nothing a#out these& then itFs a good sign.
>iscovering more a#out your values& energy and your life gives you an
inner sense of su!!ort which radically shifts the way you stand in life.
>oes this mean that you need to meditate ' hours a day and give u!
your material wealth?
7ot at all.
;ll you have to do is start nurturing these areas of your life Iyour mind
and s!iritJ and define your inner goals in these fields.
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;fter that& you can sim!ly con/uer these new territories eAactly the
way you con/uer anything elseE #y focusing on these to!ics&
develo!ing some new skills and eA!anding your awareness.
%he moment you set u! your mind and will !ower to gain a more
!owerful emotional or s!iritual #ase& you naturally head for new
targets which energi4e your life.
*n many cases& it means one thingE kee! the structure of your life
the way it is #ut ad new /ualities to itE life force& fun& !ower&
dynamism& !leasure& eAcitement& thrill& vision& generosity& love&
com!licity& synergy and so much more.
* encourage you to connect with sources of ins!iration in these fields.
*f you want to go for it& you can as well try solo and reinvent the wheel
on your own.
%here is no limit to it.
What matters is that you start eA!loring your mind and s!irit and
discover what truly goes on in it.
%his is the first ste! of many more to come.
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hange jo2
%he first ste! is to make a /uick assessment of where you are atE
1 -hat does &our dream jo2 look like,
2 -hat realisticall& can &ou e9pect,
3 How competitive are &ou on the market place,
4 Are the other areas in &our li)e secured,
5 How do &ou )eel a2out &our past
pro)essional e9periences,
6 -hat can &ou get in a new position that &ou are
not getting right now,
7 Eo &ou need e9tra training,
8 -hat steps did &ou alread& take,
9 -hat ke& in)ormation do &ou still need,
10 -hat are &ou deep reasons )or shi)ting jo2s,
;t the end& what takes the decision is an emotional im!ulsion. %o
strengthen this emotional fuel& the #est is to envision the future and
to gather !ower to take ste!s.
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Positive thinking
hange m& li)e
3hange comes with taking action.
What sto!s you from taking action can #e lack of confidence& lack of
strategy& lack of energy or resources& lack of skills or emotional fuel&
etc.
;ll of that can #e overcome with some determination and !ower. %his
is what we focus on in a coaching sessionE #uilding u! confidence and
su!!ort to take small afforda#le ste!s.
9te!!ing #eyond your comfort 4one is always a challenge. 7o matter
what ste! you take& changing something in your life always creates
!ressure or stress on your system. %his is why there is a natural
tendency to resist change.
%he way to handle that is to increase your awareness and get familiar
with the emotions and forces which are involved in any change.
%hese are conce!ts and ideas. Lnce you want to change something&
the #est is to focus on very !ractical ste!s you can take.
;cce!t that there is always an o!ening or some form of minor risk
involved #ut donFt let resistance emotions sto! you from taking action.
.very time you sit #ack and hesitate& you feed your dou#ts. *f you
want to #uild u! trust and confidence& the #est is to take action in one
way or another.
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Positive thinking
hange m& li)e ( ! don<t know
where to start
*f you donFt know where to start& the #est is to focus on !riority
num#er 1.
;sk yourself this /uestionE D!) ! could change one single aspect
o) m& li)e 2etween now and ne9t week: what would that 2e,D
Write your answer on a white !age. %ake another !age and write down
your !ossi#le o!tions to achieve your goal.
*t is #etter to start with something small& a ste! which is afforda#le&
realistic and that you can easily take. Lnce you get confident with
taking small ste!s& start focusing on #igger ste!s.
Cive &oursel) # target per week. *n the #eginning of neAt week for
instance write down a target for the week. Write down your o!tions.
>esign a strategy. ;nd start working on it.
*f what you want to change a 2ehavior& the #est is to look at it like a
form of life training. *f you want a new #ehavior you have to train
yourself with it. *t means re!etition& eA!erimenting until you feel you
truly own that new !attern you want to integrate in you life.
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Positive thinking
hange m& li)e st&le
%he #est is to take a white !age and write down the o!tions which
come to your mind. %he easiest way to start changing your life style
is #y taking small afforda#le ste!s.
;ny ste! you take should #e oriented towards gaining more fun&
freedom and eAcitement from life. Why? #ecause unless you are
eAcited a#out the changes you make& they wonFt stay for long.
>onFt take hard ste!s that limit your s!ontaneity and freedom. *f you
focus on disci!line& you are looking at short term success. *f you want
long term success& the #est is to follow your instincts& ins!iration and
eAcitement.
;llow s!ace for creativity. >onFt rigidify frames or ha#its. :ocus on
increasing !ersonal freedom instead.
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Positive thinking
hange something in me
What do you want to change in you?
2sually the answer will #eE
1 ;n emotion
2 My way of res!onding to a situation
3 %he way * feel a#out myself
4 %he way * relate to others
5 .tc.
All these are mind patterns.
What is a mind !attern?
*t is a thought form& an emotion& a ha#it& etc.
;ll these are the result of either conditioning or genetic im!rint.
3onditioning is the result of education and it can #e changed. ;ll you
have to do is to re!rogram your mind.
*f your com!uter is not efficient& youFll usually ad a !iece of software&
re!rogram an as!ect of the !rocedure& etc.
)our mind functions in a similar way. %o shift a mind !attern& all you
have to do is re!lace it #y a new more efficient !attern.
ere are some eAam!lesE
*f you tend to dou#t a lot& all you have to do is re!lace dou#t #y trust
and confidence.
*f you miss social skills& go and get what you are missing.
ow do you do that? ?y retraining yourself& retraining your reaction in
very s!ecific life situations.
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)ou start #y reducing the challenge to a si4e that you can handle.
>ivide the !ro#lem in very small !arts and focus on one as!ect at a
time.
*n the #eginning of the week& you identify a key area you want to
focus on. :or instance if you want to strengthen your confidence& you
consciously focus on taking risks or ste!s you did not take #efore. )ou
go #eyond your comfort 4one #y taking action. :ocus first on small
afforda#le ste!s. Lnce you feel confident with small ste!s& take
#igger ste!s& and so on.
:ocus on one target for 1 week. Make it your !riority and focus
num#er one.
%he following week focus on a new target& for instance
communication skills. >evelo! that skill for a week and move on to
another target the following week.
3hange will ha!!en if you take action. %his means taking ste!s and
going #eyond the limits of what you already know.
*t is !ossi#le& easy& and within your range.
;ction is what takes you from where you are to where you want to #e.
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Positive thinking
hange the wa& ! act
%he #est is to gain focus firstE take a white !age and write down
eAactly the #ehavior you want to change.
%ake a s!ecific life situation and descri#e in detail how you #ehave in
that situation.
%ake then another white !age and descri#e the way you would like to
act in this situation.
%ake a real eAam!le and write in detail your answers.
7eAt ste! is to train yourself in this new #ehavior. %he #est is to #e
eAtremely aware neAt time you face this situation. L#serve your
emotions& feelings and what is ha!!ening in you. %hen try to act
according to what you feel is your #est #ehavior in such situation.
;nother o!tion is to simulate the life situation you descri#ed and train
your new #ehavior. %he key with training a new #ehavior is re!etition.
*t might not flow and feel really awkward in the #eginning. <ery soon
though& you will notice how you new #ehavior starts growing and
taking roots in you.
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Positive thinking
hange the wa& ! act ( ! need to
)ree m&sel) )irst
%he #est to change the way you act& is to make it very s!ecific.
>escri#e the situation and the key #ehavior you want to change in that
situation. :or instance if you want to change the way you relate to
others& start #y focusing in the way you greet someone.
:ocus on your attitude in these 5 first seconds. 9!end 1 week focusing
on only that as!ect of relating. %he following week& focus for instance on
the way you say good #ye. %hink of words& smile& #ody language.
.tc.
%o esta#lish a new #ehavior& the key is training and re!etition. )ou
have to re!eat your #ehavior a few times Ireal life and simulationJ
until you feel confident with your new skill.
ere are the 4 sim!le ste!s to esta#lish a new #ehaviorE
1 3hoose a very speci)ic situation in which you want to change
your #ehavior.
2 :ind out what your new 2ehavior could #e. >escri#e it detail on
a white !age.
3 Practice in simulation. =e!eat until you feel confident
4 >o it in real li)e
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Positive thinking
Free &oursel) )irst,
ere are " key ways to free energy& s!ace and resources in your life
1 lear &our past
2 lear clutter
3 Finish un)inished 2usiness
4 @sta2lish clear 2oundaries
5 Free time in &our agenda
6 Allocate )inancial resources
7 Build support structures
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Positive thinking
hange m& diet ( ! don<t
know where to start
ere are some common unhealthy eating !atterns
1 5ate dinner
2 5ots of snacks
3 7o regularity in the meals
4 7o #reakfast
5 Lnly ' meals a days
6 5arge meals with second serving
7 9weets& candy #ars& etc
8 Poor in vegeta#les
9 Poor in fruit
10 5ots of meet and fish
11 5ots of #read
>o you recogni4e any of these?
ere is what you can do for a startE sim!ly choose one of these and
re!lace it #y a #etter !attern. 7o need to take a drastic ste!. We are
talking a#out a very sim!le and small afforda#le ste! you can take.
ere are some healthier eAam!lesE
1 8egular meals
2 8eplace 2ad snacks 2& good snacks L)ruit: muesli
2ar: etc.M
3 ook smaller meals
4 More veggies: less meat
5 Bu& more )ruit
6 N
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Positive thinking
6ive yourself 1 week to esta#lish 1 sim!le change and nothing else.
Cust choose one& write it down on a 8!ost it8 and stick it on your
fridge as a reminder.
Lnce this ha#it feels esta#lished and natural for you& focus on a new
ste!.
3hoose what feels natural for you& something which does not re/uire a
#ig effort.
%he key for long term success with eating !atterns is to focus on fun&
healthy and enBoya#le food& and find out natural ha#it !atterns that fit
you.
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Positive thinking
lear clutter
9im!le& sign in for a one time coaching session.
* will give you su!!ort and show you how to do it.
* know what you are thinkingE 8too com!licate& too eA!ensive& too
whatever...8
>ou#ts& resistance& hesitation0
9ee the dynamic?
* can hel! you #ut you need to invest at least some time& energy and
money into it.
Motivation is an energy. *t is !riceless. Lnce you have it and know how
to access it& youFll have this skill for the rest of your life.
* know& itFs not always an easy e/uation to understandE Motivation
does have a monetary value.
3onsider coaching as a 8life market8 where you can literally 8go
sho!!ing8 for /ualities like these?
Lf course you have other o!tionsE :ind motivation inside yourself& ask
friends& wait until it comes& etc.
*f you already tried these and it did not work& * suggest you try
another strategy and see what ha!!ens.
)ou and * want the same thing.
What you want is to get results with a minimum of effort& time and
energy. %hatFs eAactly what * want for you as well. * am 1((O
committed to it.
7ow& take a second to imagine your s!ace without clutter. *magine
how it feels. )ou get this feeling of satisfaction and achievement.
>one0
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Positive thinking
)ou have now s!ace& time and eAtra energy. *t feels really good
doesnFt it?
* know& on the net& you come across lots of stuff. )ou are #om#arded
#y a flow of !ro!ositions to #uy !roducts you often donFt need. *t is
truly tough to sort out what is needed and what isnFt& s!ecially when
dealing with !rofessional marketers whose only goal is to !ush you to
#lind consum!tion.
7ow& it is essential for you to use your discrimination.
*f what you see in this message is Bust another marketing scheme&
!lease& do run away fast0 )ou have more than enough of that kind of
stuff. My task is to !rotect you against stuff like that& not to make you
a victim of it.
*f on the other hand& you recogni4e in this message something
8different8 which is here to fulfill a real need with a !owerful
!roduct& then go for it. %he sooner you take action& the sooner youFll
get results.
9ome ideas on where to start?
.verything is made of energy. We have an energy or !sychic link with
a#solutely everything we have around us. .very o#Bect and element in
our !ersonal environment im!acts on our daily lives.
%here are a few !laces you can start
1 Administration
%ake this !ile of unsorted #ills and !a!er and sort them out.
%hrow away what you donFt need.
2 @mails
9ort your in#oA. 3reate folders for what you need to kee!.
Lrgani4e and delete.
3 lothing and personal stu))
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Positive thinking
3reate s!ace. 3lear the !ast. 3lean your !ersonal
environment. %his will greatly clarify your mind.
3learing clutter is a great way of freeing energy. Lnce you start& you
feel this energi4ing and stimulating force. When you finish& you can
almost touch the clarity you created.
%ake ste!s. %his will greatly clarify your mind and !re!are you for
enBoying more the !resent and the future.
7ow& what * want is sim!ly to give you s!ace.
ow does that feel?
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Positive thinking
lear the past
*f you want to clear the !ast& start #y clearing your !hysical
environment.
3lear the clutter& !ast memories& o#Bects& !a!erwork& etc.
3reate s!ace in the !resent so that you can start moving into the
future.
3learing the !ast means gaining emotional freedom. *t means having
free resources in you to invest into the !resent and the future.
*dentify what is draining you right now and strengthen your !ersonal
#oundaries to !rotect your !ersonal s!ace.
)ou gain emotional freedom #y taking control of your life. )ou decide
what goes in it. )ou take control of your agenda& time frame& actions
and activities. %his can mean a maBor shift.
)ou are the most im!ortant !erson in your life. )ou are the centre of
your eAistence. )ou take the decision and make choices. )ou are in
!ower0 )ou are in charge0
1 ! )ree m&sel)
* unhook myself from the !ast. * clear the clutter. * free energy
in me and get rid of anything which holds me #ack.
2 ! )ocus on what thrills me
.motional fuel is the key energy which makes me move and take
action. %he way to #uild u! motivation is to focus on eAcitement.
* make anything eAciting a !riority.
3 ! gain clarit&
* design my vision. * #ring in the elements * need. * am
the architect of my life. * am the designer of my destiny. *
am visionary and realistic at the same time.
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1 ! take action?
;ction is what #rings me from where * am to where * want to #e.
* love risk and learn from eA!erience. 7othing can sto! me.
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Find a new career
*n the initial stages& the #est is to gather information and check with
eA!erts. )ou canFt make your choice unless you have all the info you
need.
aving eAtra info will give you the confidence and su!!ort you need
right now. >are to go out there ask straight /uestions and get answers
from those who can hel! you.
1 -hat are &our options,
2 -hat are &our desires: passion and am2ition sa&ing,
3 -hat are &our realistic e9pectations,
4 How competitive are &ou on the jo2 market place,
5 -hat are the top #4 5ualities &ou have to o))er,
6 -hat top #4 5ualities do &ou e9pect )rom an&
)uture pro)ession,
7 -hat does it take &ou to 2e success)ul with &our
career shi)t,
8 -hat are the new skills &ou need to learn,
9 -here can &ou get targeted training,
10 -ho can help &ou or mentor &ou with these steps,
%ake small non committed ste!s and gather key information. %he only
thing that can take you from where you are to where you want to #e is
action.
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Positive thinking
Find answers
*f you need to find answers& the #est is to start asking /uestions.
9end me an email and tell me what your /uestions are. * can give it a
go. )ou have thousands of eA!erts online. )ou can ta! into this infinite
source of wisdom.
*f you feel you need to find the answers yourself IitFs okay& itFs very
stimulating to search and get eAcited a#out getting closer and closerJ *
can ask you the /uestions and sim!ly let you answer them.
*f you feel you donFt want anyone else #ut you to get involved& sim!ly
take a white !age and write down your /uestion in the middle of the
!age. %hen write down any idea which comes to your mind& even the
ones that you #elieve canFt #e right.
)ou might notice at the end that you get a strong feeling a#out one of
your answers...
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Positive thinking
Cet )it ( ! don<t have time
When you sayE 8* have no time8& you are in fact sayingE 8* have other
!riorities8.
%his is fine.
*t is okay.
We all have very #usy lives.
%he trick to create time is to #lock s!ace in your agenda.
Make a choice& like twice 1 one hour somewhere in the week.
%he second ste! is to focus on a way of eAercising or training which is
fun& eAciting& social& energi4ing& etc.
%he fun as!ect of training is essential. *f your training is !urely #ased
on disci!line and long term goals& forget it& it wonFt work.
%o succeed& eAercising must #e fun and flow naturally for you.
9urround yourself with !eo!le who train.
6et to meet new friends and make training a more social event.
6ive yourself a teat or do something together after training.
%hat way& motivation will dou#le.
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Cet rid o) an addiction ( !
can<t take action
%he #est to get rid of an addiction is to focus on something #etter
than that.
Most addictions are self destructive.
%hey literally destroy your life.
%he only reason they stay with you is #ecause something in you
tolerates their !resence.
Who or what can do something a#out it? )L20 Mainly you0
)ou are in charge of your life.
)ou have full res!onsi#ility for your actions and #ehaviors.
%he key for shifting is to increase your !ower.
)ou have an infinite source of !ower in you which can sim!ly #reak
through any form of self destructive #ehavior.
%he only thing you have to do is decide once and for all to #e in charge
and win a #attle against anything which is sto!!ing your from #eing
where you want to #e.
* #elieve in you sim!ly #ecause * know your !otential as a human
#eing.
%he moment you take a decision without looking #ack and aim for
where you want to #e& nothing will sto! you.
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! need to )ree m&sel) )irst
:ree your energy using these " sim!le a!!roaches
1 lear &our past
:ind out if there are any negative emotions& fears from !ast
eA!eriences which are holding you #ack from taking action.
2 lear clutter
3reate s!ace around you #y sim!ly clearing your !hysical
environment. Lld unsorted stuff& !a!ers& mess is often what
kee!s you from moving forward.
.s!ecially with !eo!le. ;re there hidden conflicts& unsolved
issues in your life?
Protect your !ersonal s!ace and energy. *s anything draining
your energy?
L!en s!ace in your agenda. %his is an eAcellent way of
esta#lishing clear !riorities.
Put some money aside for a s!ecial !roBect. 3reate a reserve.
7 Build up support structures
6ather the su!!ort you need from friends& family or !eers.
6ather the tools you need. 3ollect essential information.
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! would like to move
%he #est is to take a small ste! and go there first to check it out. %ake
a tri! to Montana and see how it feels first. .sta#lish contacts there.
;sk lots of /uestion to the locals. <isit real estate agents. >o all that
in a non committed way& sim!ly to gather key information.
9ometimes you are in a !eriod in your life where you want to change
something. 3hanging location can #e the first refleA& #ut there could
#e other o!tions.
.A!lore other 8changing8 o!tions& like career and Bo#s& new life
directions& !utting some fresh energy in your relationshi!& etc. make
sure that if you decide to move& you do that consciously #ecause you
know that it is what you want.
%ake a white !age and write down the 1( key elements you will find in
Montana that you canFt find in 5ouisiana.
When you know what you are looking for& it greatly strengthens your
motivation and gives you a kick to go ahead and do it.
)ou are realistic and thatFs eAcellent. >onFt lose it. 9tay with your two
feet on the ground. .stimate how much the moving will cost and how
you will finance it.
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hange house ( ! am not sure o)
m& ne9t move
;sk yourself these /uestionsE
1 -h& do ! want to move,
2 -hat will ! )ind in m& new location that ! donFt have
right now,
3 !s this the most important step ! can take right now,
4 -hat are m& possi2le destinations,
5 -hat is m& )inancial plan )or this move,
6 !s this plan realistic,
7 -hat is e9citing a2out moving to this new location,
8 -hat will it change in m& li)e,
9 !s there an&thing which needs to 2e secured
2e)ore making the move,
%ake a white !age and answer these /uestions one #y one. *t will give
you clarity and focus towards your target.
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8enewal power
%he single most im!ortant /uality to change is not ideas and strategy.
*t is free energy and !ower.
;s long as resistance is too #ig& change does not ha!!en. %he situation
sim!ly stays the way it is.
%he key to change and evolution Iwhatever that might #eJ is to
connect with the inner !ower and energy to actually go ahead and do
it.
Lf course you need as well a clear target& ideas and strategies on how
to do it.
%he first /uality you will need though is always thisE Power& energy&
emotional fuel.
* know nothing a#out your situation.
* donFt know if your challenge is inside yourself& with relationshi!s&
with work or something else.
When you have eAtra !ower& you can a!!ly it to any area of your life.
%his eAtra force is con/uering !ower or renewal !ower.
*t gives you the a#ility to dissolve resistances and move forward.
%he key is to connect with sources of !ower which 8s!onsor8 your
change.
Most of the forces in and around you are geared towards creating
resistance and sim!ly free4ing your moves.
*t is natural.
%hese forces are called !reserving or conservative forces.
%hey are what kee!s society together and sta#le.
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%hey are !roBected #y dou#ts and endless hesitations coming from
friends& coworkers& family& conditioning and self limiting #eliefs.
When you decide to change something& the forces of change need to
#e stronger than the forces of resistance.
*t is a sim!le !hysics e/uation.
*f you want to change& you need to connect with a stream of renewal
!ower.
)ou can connect with this inside yourself or you can connect with
sources of !ower and energy which will su!!ort you in moving
forward.
)ou have a wish and desire to change something.
%he /uestion isE 8do you have what it takes to make that change?8
*f the idea of investing a #it of time& energy and money is already
too much& * #elieve you are stacked my friend.
What you area saying isE 8* actually love my comfort and the idea of
ste!!ing #eyond the limits of what * know is Bust too much8.
3hange is stressful.
*t re/uires the integration of a new set of energies.
%his is why there is a natural tendency in you to resist change and
renewal.
)ou can sometimes get frustrated #ecause a force in you wants to
move forward while another one is resisting& sta#ili4ing and sim!ly
free4ing your moves.
)ou !ro#a#ly know many eAam!les of !eo!le who want change #ut do
nothing a#out it& right?
%hey sit #ack and the idea a!!ears in their mind every now and then.
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%hey think a#out it& get frustrated and then move on with their lives
doing eAactly what they were doing the day #efore.
%his means one thing. %heir will !ower is not strong enough.
%hey miss the inner renewal !ower which allows you to #reak
through resistances and shift key elements in their lives.
%hey sim!ly donFt have the resources in them #ecause there is no
determination to do something a#out it.
>etermination is an inner decision.
Lne day& you wake u! and decideE 8* am going to do what it takes to
shift this situation8.
3hange is a line of action& #ehavior and emotions you learn to
master in you..
3hange is renewal !ower.
*t is a form of energy you #uild u!& concentrate and use in your life.
%o tell you the truth& your !ower of renewal is more !recious than
money.
*t is more !recious than anything material you have in your life.
When you connect with your renewal !ower& it is your whole life
stream which shifts.
*t is as if you o!en the doors and allow a free flow of life !ower.
*t is refreshing.
)ou either watch the river from the side or you Bum! in it and go with
the flow of transformation.
%hatFs the choice you make.
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)ou canFt #e su!er resistant to life& feel threatened #y the forces of
evolution and want change at the same time.
)ou want to change?
%hen lift u! your natural resistances and acce!t to go with it& take
risks& o!en u! and move forward.
What can sto! you?
:ears& dou#ts or hesitations.
)ou get the !icture?
)ou might think * am trying to sell you something?
>efinitely yes0
* am selling you your own !otential.
* #elieve you have a strength and inner !ower waiting to come u!.
>on+t sit on this inner volcano of !ower without daring to o!en the lid
and free your energy.
)ou have the !ower to free your inner resources of energy.
*magine this inner stallion ready to #e freed.
2sing your !ower is a natural human right0
6o ahead and use it0
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Something has to change
ere are some key ideas on how to changeE
1 hange is stress)ul
)ou& like anyone else have a natural resistance for change. Why?
?ecause change re/uires energy. *t re/uires the integration of
new mind !atterns. %his means that if you engage into changing
something in you& youFll #e under !ressure or stress during this
transition !eriod.
9ometimes you will choose for sta#ility rather than change
sim!ly #ecause of that. 9te!!ing #eyond your comfort 4one and
trying something new is challenging no matter what.
2 ! love action? ! take risks?
%o go for change& you need to totally shift your mind set. ;ction
is your friend. .very time you sit #ack and hesitate& you feed
your dou#ts and comfort yourself in the !resent situation. 6oing
for change means !icking u! the challenge. )ou go for it even
though you know that taking action means ste!!ing #eyond
your comfort 4one.
3 The eas& wa&
%he easy way is to get hel!0 *nstead of seeing change like a
mountain to clim#& see it like a swim into a refreshing stream.
)ou can reinvent the wheel if you want to. )ou can as well
sim!ly #enefit from otherFs eA!erience. %he hard way is to
isolate yourself and reBect interaction and sources of su!!ort.
4 Book 2e&ond
:ocus on what comes after. :ocus on what you can do once you
changed what you needed to. )our mind& #ody and life are your
vehicle. %he sooner you make that vehicle !erformant& the
sooner you can focus on taking it to the neAt ste!. 6et rid of
what holds you #ack. Move forward. >onFt stay half way.
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Something is resisting in me
%he first ste! is to identify what is resisting in you.
1 :ear?
2 >ou#ts?
3 7o clear idea or strategy?
4 7ot sure of what you want?
5 .tc.
=esistance is very natural when wanting to change something.
Why?
?ecause change generates stress on your system.
*t generates !ressure.
%he integration of something new& new energies& new ideas is always
something you have to take inside and integrate in your own terms.
%his integration re/uires eAtra energy and focus.
9ometimes& you sim!ly donFt have the time or energy to invest in it&
so you let it go instead of doing something a#out it.
:rom the moment you are #orn& your mind is #eing conditioned
I7othing scary. *t is !ositive and Bust ha!!ens for everyoneJ.
%his conditionings are your thought !atterns& #ehaviors& attitudes&
emotional reactions& etc.
When you want to #reak through and free yourself from an old
conditioning& you need eAtra energy and eAtra !ower. *t is /uite
natural.
When something new wants to take !lace& something old has to
#e dissolved.
.nBoy0
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Positive thinking
Take an important decision
?efore you can decide you have to find out what your o!tions are.
;sk yourself these /uestions to gain clarityE
1 *s there something you have to let go if you choose for one of
the !ossi#le directions?
2 :or every o!tion& you could choose& what is it that you would
have to let go of?
3 >o you have enough resources& energy and time to follow u!
with your choice?
4 ;re there any conflicting interests?
5 Where is resistance coming from?
6 *s this resistance in you or outside of you?
7 What is this resistance telling you?
8 ;re there any risks involved if you take your decision?
9 What are these risks?
10 ow will you feel once you take your decision and move
forward?
9ometimes& all you need is sim!ly a little #it of eAtra !ower and
confidence. *s this the case for you?
.nBoy0
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Part #. % 3 ke& steps
to change &our li)e
%his is a sim!le method to gather energy and shift key as!ects in your
life.
;t the end& change is very instinctual. *t is like Bum!ing in a river and
going with the flow.
owever if you feel that change does not ha!!en s!ontaneously for
you& you can give nature a little hel! #y understanding more a#out the
dynamics involved and how to em!ower your transformation !ath.
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:ree energy using these " sim!le a!!roachesE
1 lear &our past
:ind out if there are any negative emotions& fears from !ast
eA!eriences which are holding you #ack from taking action.
2 lear clutter
3reate s!ace around you #y sim!ly clearing your !hysical
environment. Lld unsorted stuff& !a!ers& mess is often what
kee!s you from moving forward.
.s!ecially with !eo!le. ;re there hidden conflicts& unsolved
issues in your life?
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Positive thinking
Protect your !ersonal s!ace and energy. *s anything draining
your energy?
L!en s!ace in your agenda. %his is an eAcellent way of
esta#lishing clear !riorities.
Put some money aside for a s!ecial !roBect. 3reate a reserve.
4 Build up support structures
6ather the su!!ort you need from friends& family or !eers.
6ather the tools you need. 3ollect essential information.
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!denti)& and eliminate
top resistances
=esistances are forces you can understand and overcome. ere are
some sim!le mind tricks to em!ower your action and set you u! on a
!ath of transformation.
; mind set is more than an affirmation. *t is a whole stream of
energy which s!onsors your action.
ere are some key mind set which will !ut you on the renewal high
s!eed trackE
9im!ly focus on the mind set which matches the resistance you might
feelE
1 on)licting interests
1 ! am sure o) m& ne9t move
2 Eou2ts
1 ! know ! can do it
3 Hesitations
1 ! take action
4 Back o) time
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1 ! )ree time
2 Back o) knowledge
1 ! know where to start
3 @9ternal resistance
1 ! 2reak through an& resistance
4 Too man& choices
1 ! see m& line o) action with total clarit&
5 Back o) energ&
1 ! resource m&sel)
6 Back o) )ocus
1 ! sta& )ocus on m& target
7 +ot sure it is the right step
1 ! gain total clarit&
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1 anFt a))ord it
1 ! )ree )inancial resources
2 !nner resistance
1 ! wake up m& con5uering power
3 Too risk&
1 ! gather strategies )or an& situation
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!denti)& and )ocus on
priorit& num2er one
%his is one of the to! action taking keys.
%ake a minute to gain clarity and identify your num#er one !riority.
%his is not a mental decision.
>ee! inside you know eAactly what you need the most right now.
:ocus on your num#er 1 !riority.
%his will give you eAtra fuel and motivation to take ste!s
1 -hat is &our most urgent need,
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Find out wh& change did not
happen &et
*f you tried already to shift the s!ecific element you want to change&
find out what was missing when you first tried.
;ny eA!erience gives you valua#le information.
2se your eA!erience to understand the dynamics you are in and
develo! new !ower and strategies.
What was missing?
1 5ack of ideas?
2 5ack of action?
3 5ack of follow u!?
4 %oo high eA!ectations?
5 5ack of resources? time& energy or money?
6 7o clear strategy?
7 5ack of su!!ort?
8 7o sense of urgency?
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Build up &our con)idence
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>iscover these 5 essential ways of #uilding u! your confidence and
emotional fuelE
1 Take action
;ction wakes u! an instant stream of life force in your system.
%he moment you take action you invoke !ower in your life. *t is
the most direct way to #uild u! energy. %ake action even if you
go first for a small ste!.
2 Focus )irst on small steps
)ou heard this #eforeE every Bourney starts with a first ste!.
9ometimes you don+t have the full !icture of where you are
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going. %he #est way to gain clarity is to take one ste! forward.
%his allows you to test the waters and gather essential
information& feelings and insights.
1 Cain control over &our li)e
*t is your #irth right to #e in charge of your eAistence. When
you are #orn& you are given a reserve of controlling !ower. %his
controlling !ower is your a#ility to sit in the cock!it of your life.
*t is a human right0 )ou own it0 2se it0
2 Cather tools: resources and ke& in)ormation
%o take a sound decision& you need to have key information.
*nformation gives you !ower. *t is like road ma! of the country
you travel to. 5earn from those who have #een there #efore and
if you miss anything for the tri!& take ste!s to gather what you
need.
3 Have a strateg& )or ever& situation
; strategy is a !lan. ; strategy is what you need when you
engage yourself on a con/uering !ath. )ou face challenges and
you win them #ecause you have the right mind set to deal
with them. )ou foresee !itfalls and deal with them #efore they
even arise.
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hoose an e9citing conte9t
%he core of any action you take is motivation and emotional fuel.
When you focus on eAciting targets and esta#lish your actions within
an eAciting conteAt you multi!ly your level of !ower and energy.
:ocus on these key /ualities you want to have in the core of any action
you take or any transformation !ath you engage yourself intoE
My wishes a#out any new ste! * take in lifeE
1 Fun: e9citing and energiAing
2 @as&: )ast and direct
3 8espect )or all aspects o) m& li)e
4 Social i) possi2le ( meet people while doing it
5 Fit with m& natural rh&thm
6 Makes a signi)icant di))erence
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onclusion
* ho!e you enBoyed this material0
:eed #ack? Duestions? 9uccess stories?
.mail me at franciscoTvitalcoaching.com
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