specified target and a way of saying and doing things. In other words, Attitude is a way of looking at things. Today, we live in an era where many doors have opened for different kinds of professions. In this era all kind of jobs are accepted and appreciated. We are living in a world of opportunities, the twenty-first century. And however opportunities this world provides us, we cannot forget the competition and challenges from the rest of the globe, which makes it very essential we require other qualities to make a mark internationally. As we all know that academic excellence is certainly important in these life exams but then equally important are other things like discipline, attitude, perseverance, flexibility and interpersonal skills. These and other practical life skills are a combination of what will make one successful, and what our academic achiever needs to possess despite his flawless answer sheets and impeccable report cards. But these skills are not part of our school curriculum nor can anybody just cram them! They have to be imparted into an individual right from the beginning and also practiced in life on a daily basis. Out of these qualities, the most important one is attitude. Because Attitude is something over which all of us have total control. It is only thing on which we have the total control instead of aptitude on which none of us have any control except when we acquire learned skills. Attitude sometimes may also be defined as just a matter of choice. It is up to us how we take a particular situation i.e. whether to become depressed when something goes wrong or life doesnt turn out the way we wished for or, to learn from
the mistakes and step ahead with a positive mindset. Here in this context, I want to share the story of a toothpaste ad which goes as follows: A small kid is walking dejected and enters the school bus going back to home. His friend asks him, What happened? he replies, Main fail ho gaya (I failed).When his friend asks for details, he says, a toothpaste production company had come to their school for a germ test in mouth and germs were found in his mouth, as such he failed the Germ Test. And so the kid is completely dejected and feels lost in the world. Suddenly, his friend says, Par fail toh tera toothpaste hua (But its your toothpaste that has failed). Immediately the dejected kids face lights up and he elates with joy, Arrey haan mera toothpaste fail hua (Oh yeah its my toothpaste that has failed). And the kids joy knows no bounds.
A careful analysis of the above ad shows that till the time the kid was associating the failure with himself. He was sad, but the moment the feeling of failure shifted to the toothpaste, he was fine with it and shouting in joy. Same thing applies to our lives as well that without feeling devastated, we must look at the other side of the coin during the low phases of the life. But not only a positive mindset will help us to build a right attitude but also along with this, we must know how to react at a particular situation as. It is said that, Life is ten percent of what happens to people and ninety percent of how people react to it. What they mean by this is that most of what happens to people is because of the way they react. The other part of life is what happens because of the reaction. Another simple way of putting it is that attitudes controls what happens. So before reacting in reflex, we must pause, take a deep breath and then work according to the demand of the situation in order to escape ourselves from the negative consequences of such reactions which are frustration, resentment, broken relationship, hurt, panic, anxiety, high level of stress and the like. Here, we cannot deny the fact that Attitude determines ones altitude because having the right attitude towards things allows us to strive to improve continuously. For example, Thomas Edison who may not be a genius and had failed thousands of times in making his famous inventions, succeeded only because he had the right attitude and the determination. Had he not have the right attitude or determination, he would have long become pessimistic and given up and therefore not become successful in creating his wonderful inventions. Having the right attitude and mindset in life is important as it allows us to keep trying and to think of how to further improve ourselves and our methods just like what Thomas Edison did and ultimately obtain success. Therefore, I agree to the statement that attitude not aptitude, ultimately determines ones altitude because only with the right mindset can we never give up and further improve ourselves to be a step closer to success. Yet having the right attitude is not that easy and also not all people have it. So, in order to have a positive attitude or the right attitude, we must make a decision today to change, focus on what is right versus what is wrong, be more curious to know why the person is behaving in a certain way rather being judgmental, develop an attitude of gratitude, stop having high expectations from oneself and others, believe in ourselves, we should stop procrastinating and start now to build a positive attitude in ourselves. Most of us are concerned about what we are today. Some may be in jubilant mood because of success & knowledge at present or some may be in emotional situations, due to failure in career or life. But, we should not forget that not all relationships are perfect, not all people are perfect and neither are we. It all depends on how we look at a particular situation and how well we can handle it. One has to be always sure what is what & where it is leading to because we have God's most precious gift "our Mind". We should believe that everything is possible if not this way, but some other way, if not this time, but next time. So, what matters the most in life is ATTITUDE above everything else.
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