The Deadly Chode Sins of Attraction

Check the boxes next to behaviors that apply to you

Over-pursuing (calling too much and wanting a date more than she does)
Telegraphing too much interest (more interest than the woman is conveying)
Rapport seeking too soon (ex.: Asking her name before shes hooked)
Staring at women too much (a sign that you arent having sex)
Facing her (seeking rapport) before shes earned it
Too eager to pay attention such as saying What? if you cant hear her, prior to
being in rapport because you are too interested in what she is saying (instead
stack openers to 1avoid looking eager and to 2appear more alpha since you are
disinterested in what she is talking about)
Appearing more into her than your wingman with whom youve known longer
and should value more (shows that you are too interested too soon)
Attempting to win women over with vague compliments
Qualifying oneself
Permission seeking behavior
Reaction and/or attention seeking
Being a people pleaser
Not willing to lose someones approval
Hoping or wishing that he is entertaining or funny
Ends sentences seeking validation asking such things as Is that ok? or What
do you think?
To weak and scared to say no
Always asks for permission
Attention snaps when someone calls his name wanting his attention (eager to
jump to someone when addressed)
Trying to act too sophisticated (not laughing or being relaxed) =
overcompensating because of self-doubt
Standing with legs not a meter apart at least because you are worried that
you will infringe on other peoples personal space
Speaking to softly because you are afraid that you will impose yourself on people
and their personal space
Speaking to loudly because you are trying to seek attention or trying to be too
alpha which is actually a beta-male quality that is considered overcompensating
Overcompensating insecurities because of a fear of not being accepted (ex:
Janitor says money is overrated instead of just saying that they are a janitor
which was totally acceptable)
Offering too much about yourself too soon or too early
Revealing (verbalizing) your accomplishments, high lifestyle, assets or even
your name
Entertaining (routines, magic tricks, canned jokes, etc.)

Seeking rapport by opening with such things as Nice necklace or Where did
you get that? or Whats your name? as if you care about this stuff from a
complete fucking stranger
Talking without feedback from the other person or people (a form of qualifying
yourself)
Trying to act to alpha or macho
Seeks signs of attraction from women for reassurance (a sign of low self-esteem
and insecurity)
Is apologetic (always apologizing or seeking approval from those he feels he has
offended)
His insecurities cause him to wonder what others think of him
Never admits his mistakes
Sensitivity to criticism
Always makes excuses in life for things he cant do
Adhering to the Tonights Entertainment frame by trying too hard to keep the
laughs going (an approval seeking behavior)
Chasing her when she walks away hoping shell listen (turn your body away
instead so that she will be drawn back)
Failing to break rapport (use takeaways such as back turns) when she does
something that you wouldnt tolerate from an ugly girl
Going back to a previously interrupted thread at the first break in the
conversation that you get because you are trying too hard to impress them (this
is a form of qualifying yourself because it shows that you are uncomfortable and
are trying to win their approval)
Bragging about your accomplishments (an approval seeking behavior)
Buying her gifts, paying for dinner, and all other supplicating behaviors because
you want to win her affection (supplication another approval seeking behavior)
Taking too many sentences to state an idea that could be stated in less (a sign of
qualifying oneself)
Fidgeting (a sign of nervousness and anxiety)
Crossed arms (a sign of defensiveness)
Stiff posture (a sign of nervousness)
Looking down (a sign of weakness and shyness)
Hands over your genitals (a sign of weakness do to this guarded stance)
Slouching shoulders (a sign of low self-esteem)
Holding or placing objects in front of you (a sign of shyness or resistance)
Shifting your weight (a sign of mental or physical discomfort)
Sitting at the edge of your chair (a sign that you want to get up and leave)
Touching your face while speaking (a sign that you are indecisive, shy, and
thinking too hard)
Biting your lips, licking your lips, twitching your noise, and other nervous facial
expressions
Smiling too much is needy and signals to other men that you arent a threat
Avoiding eye contact (a sign of insecurity or discomfort)
Talking too fast as if you are used to being interrupted
Doesnt look after his appearance

Doesnt exercise
Poor sense of style
Isnt well groomed
Has an unhealthy diet
Moving your hands around as you speak because you are trying to keep the
attention of the group (attention seeking)
Leaning in towards sets (pecking) because you are too eager to talk and thus
seeking rapport
Mumbles and doesnt speak with a monotone voice (a sign of unassertiveness)
Uses filler words between sentences such as so, umm, or uh
Never wanting to try anything new
Afraid to take risks
Fears making mistakes
Never adventurous
Being perceived as boring and/or predictable
Letting others or depending on others to lead them (not able to make his own
decisions)
Being indecisive because of a fear of making mistakes so you look for others
(even women) to make the decisions
Never makes suggestions
Not having a personality or identity
Follows trends to try and fit in
Does everything he is asked to do
Not persisting being too used to rejection and not getting what you want (a
sign of low self-esteem)
Not being confident
Acting creepy and unsure of yourself when approaching women
Easily emotionally affected
Gives reasons/excuses for his actions
Becomes very critical and rarely sees a positive outlook in any situation
Always hates the way he looks
Finds it difficult to make decisions
Fails to overcome approach anxiety
Needs alcohol to develop the confidence approach women
Negative attitude, negative emotional state, and low self-esteem
Rejection heavily affects their mindset and behavior
Gets jealous very easily
Gives up easily among failure and becomes fearful of failing again
Gets angry easily
He is a push over especially with women
He is uncompetitive
Is afraid to touch women or touches to softly and weak
Avoids physical or verbal confrontation
Desperate to have a girlfriend
Doesnt take control in bed
Taking too long to answer someones question because you are thinking too hard
because you want their approval or because you are indecisive

 Is shy or afraid to meet new people

Being bold because you feel as if you cant pick her up so you say such things as
Im sexy right? or Baby I want some of that which are self-defeating
actions that are overcompensated for the true insecurity of facing rejection and
dont destruct ones ego because they are on my terms meaning I got myself
rejected so it isnt a big deal (basically running blow out lines but instead of
doing so to kill ones ego it actually boosts or protects his ego)