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Are Parents Qualified to Teach a Special Needs Child? | 4
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From the
Managing Editor:
Jen McDonald
dont pretend to know what its like to have a child with special
needs, much less homeschool that child. But Ive had several friends
who do, and Ive witnessed firsthand the exhaustion, frustration, and
yes, the joys that come along with it.
Jenny Herman from our Facebook page and other social media. What you
may not know about her is that she also homeschools a child who happens to have autism. Her experience has made her passionate about
reaching out to other special needs families and letting them know
that they can do it, too. She has been instrumental in bringing
expert writers and resources to HEDUA to address these topics.
I hope that, by now, youve also read Jennys awesome column
in each issue of Home Educating Family Magazine, titled In the
Trenches: Life with Special Needs. In each issue, she gives real-life,
down-to-the-nitty-gritty help for other families. Jenny is an absolute
gift to the homeschooling world!
And because of Jenny Hermans tireless efforts, HEDUAs website has a plethora
of media, book and product reviews, and blog posts just for special needs families. If you
havent visited yet, please take a moment to do so today! We at HEDUA hope that you will find
something to encourage or help your family in a practical way. I know I have been
encouraged in my own life by words from my friend and colleague Jenny,
including these:
We need to look to God for our strength. The following Bible verse
has carried me through many dark days: The LORD sustains all
who fall and raises up all who are bowed down (Psalm 145:14).
I think I can safely say most special needs parents feel bowed
down at some point, if not often. Here God tells us he will raise
up his children who are weary and bowed down. It also tells
us God sustains those who fall. I take comfort in knowing God
will hold me up.
Many blessings to you,
Jen McDonald
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by Jennifer A. Janes
am often asked how I can possibly teach a child with special needs
without formal training. It stings, but its a valid question.
3. Intimate Knowledge Parents know more about their children than anyone else. They
spend tens of thousands of hours with them, and they get to know every quirk in their personalities, their likes and dislikes, their strengths and weaknesses, and their talents better than
anyone else. Because of this intimate knowledge, parents are best equipped to choose curriculum and learning activities that give their child the maximum benefit.
4. Customized Learning Experiences Homeschool parents are not limited to the materials provided by the state or supplied by certain vendors. We can examine vendors, price
ranges, and the amount of research and the philosophy behind each product, and purchase
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work sensory integration activitiesinto our days for children who need them. We can
take field trips to provide unique hands-on learning experiences related to the topics weve been
studying at home. The opportunities are endless.
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6. Help Parents may not be certified special education instructors, but they are certainly not
without the help they need to homeschool a child with special needs! There are special needs
consultants available for HSLDA members, tutors for hire locally, and websites and books with
research and resources galore. There are online forums where families can ask other parents whats
working for them, professionals and therapists who evaluate and make recommendations that
give families guidance in their educational decision-making, and support groups where families
can share life with other families. We do not homeschool our children with special needs alone!
For those on the journey:
If you are just beginning the journey of homeschooling a child with special needs, rest in the assurance that you can do this! God will guide you each step of the way as you lean on and trust him.
The answers to your prayers may look different than you imagined, so keep your eyes and heart
open.
Be open to using new teaching methods. The way your child learns best might be very different
from the way you learn.
Remember that worksheets, workbooks, and textbooks are not the only (or even the best) ways
to learn information.
Ask for help when you need it. There are others on the journey who are willing to answer your
questions, let you look at materials theyre using, and provide encouragement and support.
Be patient with yourself and your child. It will take time to figure out this thing called homeschooling. You will have to stop and evaluate everything periodically, and make changes so you can
keep moving forward effectively.
If you have been on this journey for a while, know that God will continue to guide and direct you
as you keep looking to him for the best way to help your child learn critical skillsfrom academics
to life lessons.
Keep asking for help as you need it. We never learn so much that we dont need to ask others
to help us.
Make yourself available to those who are just beginning the journey and could use the wisdom and expertise you have gained through experience.
Be as open and transparent about your journey as you can. It will make you approachable
and will open up opportunities for ministering to other homeschool families.
Continue to offer yourself and your child grace. Even experienced special needs homeschooling families deal with setbacks and regressions caused by changing medical needs or the
nature of various diagnoses. Theres never a time when we dont have to reassess the needs of
our children and make the changes necessary to meet them.
Stay the course. Remember the promise of Galatians 6:9 (NIV) Let us not become weary in
doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Be confident and assured in what God has called you to do. Homeschooling is not an easy journey, and homeschooling with special needs can be even more challenging. When you remember
that God has called you to this, you can be sure that he will provide everything you and your
children need to thrive!
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We dont really think of it that way. After all, its small. Sure, its bigger than zero, but everything else is bigger.
by Jenny Herman
If youre overwhelmed by grief as Elisabeth Elliot was, or drowning in the stormy seas of life,
one throws out the lifeline. Just do one more thing. Dont think about tomorrow. Dont stress
about the intimidatingly long to-do list.
JUST
DO
ONE
THING.
If she can do it, by Gods grace, so can Iand so can you. Ive been there. Ive been in tears.
Ive been angry. Ive been confused. Ive been desperate. Ive also learned how to keep going.
Focus on one.
One Task
I wonder if youre like me. Have you had times when youre so tired and overwhelmed that
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are thirty things that need to be done, and yet they
all seem impossible. Your energy is drained, your emotions are raw, and your spirits are low.
The idea of grocery shopping makes you want to cry. The laundry pile looms and sends you
running. If you have to explain that math concept one more time, youre going to scream. Your
childs meltdowns have left you on the bed in a fetal position.
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One Minute
There are many things you can do in one minute to free your time up later or to enrich your
life. You can:
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When you are able, choose the one thing that makes the
biggest impact. I know you cant always do this. Sometimes the thing that would make the biggest impact
say, five loads of laundryis just not possible. However,
when you have the opportunity to start with that, do it.
LORD sustains all who fall and raises up all who are bowed down (Psalm 145:14).
I think I can safely say most special needs parents feel bowed down at some point, if not
often. Here God tells us he will raise up his children who are weary and bowed down. It also
tells us God sustains those who fall. I take comfort in knowing God will hold me up.
Gracious is the Lord, and righteous; Yes, our God is compassionate (Psalm 116:5). Take a
moment and read those words again. Let those lovely, descriptive words about God sink into
your soul.
I know you can think of other things that you could do in one minute. You may need to make
yourself a list so that when youre stuck, you can choose one from the list!
God is gracious, righteous, and compassionate. We may not always like what he allows us to
face, but we can rest knowing that his character is good and perfect. Draw strength from that!
One Break
I have a friend who is a special needs homeschool mom who has gone before me. One of her
sons is grown and the other is a teenager. I highly value her insight and am thankful for her
encouragement. She wrote a blog post about knowing when to stop and take a break.
Such great advice!
Have you ever heard this riddle: How do you eat an elephant?
Weve all had themdays when nothing goes right. Your child cannot read a three-letter word
or remember to put away the toy you asked him to five times and twenty minutes ago. The
laundry machine broke, your daughter collapsed because her clothes are rough, and the dog
threw up. Maybe the doctor appointment was a huge disappointment. Whatever the list, weve
been there.
How do you live as a special needs parent? One break at a time. One minute at a time. One
task at a time. Focus on one to keep going. I think youll be surprised how it changes your life.
Theres nothing wrong with taking a break. An unfinished task list is much better than a sobbing and sulking family because everyone, including mom or dad, is on overload. Go outside.
Watch a movie. Make cookies. Play a game. Ive even hidden in my room to cry and take deep
breaths. Give yourself permission to stop and start over.
Focus on ONE
Focusing on one does us no good if we are doing it in our own strength. We need to look to
God for our strength. The following Bible verse has carried me through many dark days: The
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A Different Kind
of Writing Class
Help for the Reluctant Writer
I grew weary of the excuses. I just wanted them to write. I didnt even care if they said anything
worthwhile; I just wanted them writing.
by Carol Barnier
here are a bazillion writing programs out there. And there is usually
something of value in each of them. Ive tried many programs, with
mixed success, depending on the particular child, their age, what
they had for breakfast, and the current tilt of the moon.
But Im going to share with you the most successful writing program we ever
used. And the good news isyou dont need to buy a thing.
And thats when it hit methey needed to learn that they can write, any time, about anything,
at the drop of a hat, with little or no prompting. Heaven knows they can verbalize any time,
about anything, with little or no prompting (and incidentally, little or no real knowledge
either). So writing shouldnt be much of a stretch. Thus, for a whole year, this was my only
writing objective.
Heres how it worked.
It seemed that the place where my kids got stuck was on the starting.
It may be unpleasant.
They had great ideas, but they never got beyond that.
They were waiting for inspiration for that opening thought, that first line, that
introductory paragraph.
Ready.
Go!
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Thats the real world of journalism. Theres no time to sit and whine about waiting for inspiration.
Once I had my twenty-five prompts chosen, I typed and printed out each prompt. I put each
one in a separate envelope. Sealed it. And dropped it in a basket.
Create your assignments. I created twenty-five or so writing prompts. You can make your own
as well. Or, you can find a gazillion of these online. Just Google the words writing prompts
and you find them by the hundreds. Youll also find page after page of them at the online
Writers Digest site. And here. More here and here. You get the idea.
Each day, for a mere fifteen minutes, we had writing time. Five days a week. We even set a
timer. My daughter sat at one computer; I sat at another. For us it worked better if more people
participated rather than less, but you can decide what works for your crew.
Here are some of the prompts weve used, just to give you an idea. Sometimes they were really
short and simple.
Write about a woman who has a phobia about string.
Describe your dream house.
Write a short piece that includes three shades of blue.
Sometimes they were more substantial prompts. Here are two of the Writers Digest prompts.
Babies typically talk in babbles that adults cant understand. But one day, while at the
park, youre sitting on a bench next to two babies. They start their babbling, when all of a
sudden you realize you can understand them. Even more, they are plotting a nefarious plan.
Write this scene.
When you were little, you could swear there was a monster under your bedbut no one
believed you. On the eve of your thirtieth birthday, you hear noises coming from under
your bed once again. The monster is back and has an important message to deliver to you.
If you want some prompts that take your child far into the story line before expecting them to
write, take a look at a book called Story Starters by Karen Andreola. The writing prompts in
this book have several paragraphs of lead-in and are accompanied by beautiful illustrations to
further encourage imagery for your child. If you think any of the above prompts are not appropriate for your younger writer, just add for kids to your writing prompts Google search
and youll find plenty created for the younger child.
My student selected her assignment from the pile of envelopes. We set the stage of being
journalists in a buzzing office. Our assignment editor was coming up to our desk. The pressure
was on. We were told what we must do. She tore open the envelope, read it aloud, hit the timer
and then we both began to write.
And write we did, till the timer buzzed that our fifteen minutes was up. Then we simply read
to each other what wed written and filed it away.
That was it. There is nothing amazing or astounding about this process, but there was an amazing
outcome. My daughter learned that she could produceon the spotsome kind of commentary or fiction about anything. And after a few weeks, even she owned the fact that she could
write on demand.
The next year I worried about shaping the writing, proper spelling, line of thought, etc. But we
no longer suffered from the pain of just getting started. And it turned out that this was about
90 percent of the battle.
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When Rose-Colored
Glasses Break
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I was in a heap on our bed, sobbingagain. Begging God for help, and telling
my husband I couldnt do it anymorethis time I meant it! I was failing. I
was ruining our child. I was a bad parent. I couldnt get through to him and
had lost any semblance of the peaceful home Id dreamed about. I certainly
couldnt homeschool! I should go back to work to pay for private school. I was
honestly questioning if I were even the right mother for him!
From the very beginning, our little one had extreme emotions and intense
tantrums. We tried to do our best with consistent training and teaching, but
tantrums were still frequent and huge. He was extremely affectionate most of
the time, but the rage and physical tantrums were overwhelmingfor him
and for us! We were doing everything we had heard and read to do, but nothing was changing.
We begged God for wisdom. In Christian circles, how do you ask for help for an issue like
this without looking like failures? We continually questioned our methods and tried again. If
we struggled like this with our first child, we wondered how we could ever parent additional
children.
At one very low point, I remember asking a respected older mother, How do you know when
a childs behavior is SIN and when it is a developmental or neurological problem? Her quick
reply was, Its always sin. Well, now I really had no idea where to turn. I didnt want to jump
into a world of labels and medication; yet, the biblical resource Id sought just shot me down.
So we limped along a bit longer.
As we progressed in our schooling, I began seeing issues there, too. Was it age or an actual
delay? I tried multiple programs and methods for reading. Math was a constant battle. I read
about learning styles, convinced I was using the wrong method or that I was a bad teacher.
Extracurricular activities like soccer practice and karate set off a nuclear meltdown due to
overstimulation or fatigue! Behaviors were escalating, and tantrums were becoming violent.
I remember a tantrum at the beach one daywondering if our audience was making phone
calls to the authorities. I really was at my breaking point. My heart was also breaking seeing
the battle our child faced internally.
We reached out to a doctor with pediatric experience who was able to offer us alternatives to
medication. Realizing that our little man was fighting the effects of prenatal substance exposure, our practitioner gave us a plan. More than that, he gave us hope. The Lord had led us to
someone who could help us. My heart broke that our son was facing this. I confess, I felt some
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choices. But the Lord encouraged me that he had brought us help and hope. The practitioner
explained that, over time, many of the symptoms could be minimized or healed. We also had
hope that our sons learning delays could be caught up by high school. Now that we knew the
neurological source of many of his issues, we could research appropriate support and help.
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I realize that some of our challenges are exactly why others may choose
to avoid opening their homes and hearts to children through adoption. That
breaks my heart. Though I have had many days of pain and heartache, I cant imagine not
having our son in our family. When I think of the vast need of orphans around the world,
I hope that potential families will see that God is bigger than any of this. God loves the
fatherless, and so should we. We must be willing to lay down our perfectionistic ideals to
live life the way God tells us to. Churches must break down the idealistic standard often
held up for families and allow people to be real!
Celebrate success! Some days, life may feel like it is sucking you into a black hole
and celebrating seems impossible. Try to find some baby step to celebrate! Was the tantrum
forty-five minutes instead of ninety? Did it happen at home instead of at the store? Was a
dear friend around to help you buckle your out-of-control child into the car seat? Sometimes we just fall into bed exhausted and celebrate that the day is over, and Gods mercies
are fresh tomorrow!
We must adjust our attitudes toward others. Some children really cant handle
changes in routine. Some need more sleep, while others are sensitive to various foods. We
cant think that parents who make different choices than us are wrong. As home educators,
we must also guard against pride. I dont know how many homeschool forums I read and
felt overwhelmed because everyone else was always talking about how advanced their students were! We must allow for different strengths and personalities. I am not saying we need
to excuse laziness, but we cannot judge other families choices. We dont know whats going
on behind the scenes.
Our journey may look different than yours. I hope that through sharing our story, you may
have heard a word to encourage you. If your family is struggling right now, perhaps you feel
less isolated. God is faithful and full of grace. Though our journey has had (and probably
will have again) some very dark and hopeless times, God has carried us through. When my
rose-colored glasses shattered, he gave me a bigger vision of who he is. His grace is not just
offered one time for our salvation, but daily for our sins and struggles. He builds our families
and he sustains them. We must throw ourselves at his feet.
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I have learned to view life from a different perspective since my son began exhibiting traits of autism.
I now see blinking lights, Christmas trees, large
groups, unwrapping presents, etc. very differently.
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Special Needs
and Holidays
Its NOT the Most Wonderful
Time of the Year!
likely you will encounter at least one child who does not enjoy traditional holiday festivities.
By understanding what these children face and opening yourself to letting go of traditional
expectations, you can give a wonderful present: comfort in the midst of a very uncomfortable
time.
by Jenny Herman
uring the holidays, Andy Williams croons over the shopping mall
loudspeakers: Its the most wonderful time of the year! With the
kids jingle-belling and everyone telling you, Be of good cheer!
Its the most wonderful time of the year! Therell be parties for
hosting, marshmallows for toasting, and caroling out in the snow... As a mom
to a child on the autism spectrum, I know for many children and their families,
this is just not true. In fact, in some cases, its the most horrible time of the
year because of sensory issues, social delays, communication deficits, food
challenges, and more!
Autism touches 1 in 88 children. Even more children have sensory issues severe
enough to impair ability to function in normal situations. Children with
Fetal Alcohol Syndrome, attachment disorders, epilepsy, and other challenges
also find holidays to be highly stressful. Dont forget those who fight a variety
of allergies or have serious illnesses! Looking over this short list, it is very
I have learned to view life from a different perspective since my son began exhibiting traits of
autism. I now see blinking lights, Christmas trees, large groups, unwrapping presents, etc. very
differently. Lets look at this song through different lenses to understand what many children
face.
Kids Jingle-Belling
Ah, the sounds of the holidays! Most of us love the music, the fire crackling, the laughter, and
squeals of delight. However, to children with sensory issues, these things are not so lovely. For
some people, the pleasant sound of a fire popping can cause pain, or holiday music could be
so irritating they act out in frustration. Sensory issues dont end with sounds. Consider flashing
lights for folks with epilepsy or visual perception challenges. Wool sweaters and corduroy pants
can cause sensory meltdowns. Foods that appear on tables but once a year cause anxiety. A
mixture of aromas from food and candles can cause great discomfort.
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children cry or crumble to the floor. They either dont understand you or they cant tell you
what they need.
many things you can do to reduce stress and give them a great time.
If you are hosting and know a child has anxiety or gets overstimulated, make a calm,
quiet space available. Dont know in advance? Thats ok! You can still offer a retreat.
Dont get annoyed if a child doesnt want to try your mothers sweet potato recipe passed
down for generations. Is it really that important?
Ask! Its ok to ask parents ahead of time, How can I make our gathering special for
your child?
If a child just wont look at the camera or wear festive headgear for a picture, let it go.
A happy time for all is much more important than a child screaming because the turkey
feathers scare him.
Wanting to give a gift? You may want to ask parents if there is anything their child loves
to collect, or would they rather have money towards a museum membership? Especially
with children on the autism spectrum, you cannot predict a response to a present. If the
reaction is not what youd hoped, do your best to remember they are a child.
Speaking of gifts, sitting still for lots of people to open presents can be excruciating
for many. Let them walk around, play with a toy, or just go play in a different room if
necessary.
Ask guests if there are any food allergies in their family. See if there are things you can
have as alternatives, or invite them to bring something.
Avoid judging parents because of a childs behavior, lack of social skills, or casual clothing.
Now that youve looked at the holidays from the perspective of a child with special needs, I
hope that you will watch for ways to make these children more comfortable and help them
enjoy the holidays in their own ways. Consider the stress on the rest of the family as well.
My biggest tip is to relax expectations and think about what is most important. With a little
adjustment and a lot of compassion, you have the ability to change the holidays from the
most horrible time to the most wonderful time!
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Looking for a resource to help others understand your childs challenges during the
holidays? See the review of Ashis Birthday and Other Dreaded Days at hedua.com.
1. Watch the children so mom and dad can go Christmas shopping. If it is not possible
to be alone with the children, offer to go along and help with the children while mom
shops.
2. Shovel a sidewalk, wrap presents, or make some holiday goodiesall of these take
extra energy that mom and dad just may not have.
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Carol Barnier is a homeschooler of 19 years, author of four books,
mother to three children, and wife to one husband. Shes a popular
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