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balding man who is bored out of his mind and likes the false
sense of companionship hes created with you. Its crazy
but those people are out there.
With this in mind, I will actually teach you how to avoid
and easily sniff out those individuals, so you dont waste
your time and emotions (Most of it is pure common sense
though, I mean really, if someone keeps avoiding a
meet-up, theres something wrong, right?).
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WHICH SITE DO I USE?
So the rst step of dating online is nding the right site
to sign-up for. There are free sites like pof.com and paid
sites like eharmony.com. Additionally, there are sites
tailored
to
different
religions
and
even
race
(christianmingle.com and asiandating.com). Find the one
that is a good t for you, and sign up.
tip
KEEP IT DRAMA-FREE
Nobody wants to know about how your heart was
broken by the last person you were with. Nobody
needs to know that your mother and father died in a
horrible car crash. These are things that denitely
have an impact on your life and help to shape your
personality and character, but the point of a prole is
to attract people. And most people are attracted to
positivity, not negative events and emotions. Try to
keep things light!
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THINGS TO DO BEFORE MEETING
So youve talked a little bit on the site, seem to have
some similar interests and values and you think he/she is
cute. So what is the next step? Meeting? Not really. I think
there should be a few more ltering steps before meeting
up.
RULE #1: TALK ON THE PHONE FIRST
I cant tell you how important a persons voice is to
attraction. Am I shallow? Maybe. But seriously though, I
talked to a guy on the phone that I swear did the voice for
Minnie Mouse you read that right MINNIE Mouse. Im
sorry, but the thought of spending my life with Minnie
Mouse just didnt turn my crank. Call me shallow. call me
judgmental whatever its just not happening. Also, there
have been times when I talked to someone on the phone,
and something didnt seem right. They were either high,
drunk or just seemed disinterested or off. Im not a big
phone person either, so I understand when someone is not
at their best on the phone, but sometimes you can catch
things that just dont feel right.
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TIME TO MEET UP
Ok so you followed the rules above and everything
checked out. Now is the time to meet not 3 months from
now, not in a years time. If you talk to someone and they
keep coming up with excuses not to meet, its time to move
on. They are not serious about meeting someone and/or
they are hiding something. Dont waste your time with
someone who is lying or delaying meeting you. If they were
that interested, theyd want to meet you sooner rather than
later trust me!
Ok
REMEMBER
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Where
meet?
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should
we
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The best place and time to meet is in a very public place
during daylight hours. Find a coffee shop that is in a busy
area of town, during a fairly busy time of day. Right after
work, or early afternoon on the weekends are good times.
The point here is that you want to meet at a safe place,
where if something were to go wrong, God forbid, you are
in a place with lots of people around.
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One more thing I wanted to add about preparing for this
meeting is to come prepared with cash, so stop at the ATM
rst! You just never know when or if you will need it, and its
better to be safe than sorry.
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the punches.
seemed nice and normal
and cute so we decided to meet for dinner at a nice
restaurant in Toronto. I was so looking forward to
meeting this nice man that I had been talking to for
a few weeks. I show up at the restaurant and am
led to a 50-something balding man, who had about
100lbs of extra weight on his frame, wearing
glasses. The man I had talked to on the phone was
a 30 year old cute guy with all his hair, and a fairly
slim/t physique. I was in shock. I had been duped.
Now let me tell you something. There is no sense in
being polite to someone and spend time with
them when they have at out lied to you about
who they are. Its like youre supporting bad
behaviour. I did not sit down, I did not pretend that
I didnt notice how different he looked. I did not
pretend to be ok with this situation. I made it clear
that he was not who he had claimed to be, and that
I was not going to have dinner with a stranger. His
response was to call me a shallow bitch, and I
leftstat.
The good news is that this is probably the absolute worst
case scenario that you may encounter. Not to mention
these types of guys/girls usually dont make it past all the
checkpoints you carefully set up before your meeting. But I
wanted to prepare you just in case you came into a
situation like this. It happens, and you just have to roll with
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THE MEETING IS OVER; NOW WHAT?
There are really only two possible scenarios that I can
think of here and they require different answers, so here we
go:
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But what do I do if Im
rejected?
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But
I dont want to
hurt their feelings, how
do I reject someone
without hurting them?
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DATING AFTER THE FIRST MEETING
So youve both decided to go on a date after connecting
well at the rst meeting. From this point forward, dating
someone from the internet is no different than dating
someone you met in a grocery store, or through friends etc.
Be smart and safe, and enjoy the time you spend getting to
know someone new. Congratulations, you successfully
dated someone from the internet! Woot woot!! You
technological tiger you!
There is, however, one more thing I want to mention
here: if you eventually decide to date someone exclusively,
REMOVE/DELETE YOUR PROFILE. This is a respectful
thing to do, and it signals to the other person that you think
they are worthy of dedicating more time and focus on.
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REMEMBER
THIS!
Now I didnt want to leave you without drilling home
some really important points that I think you should
keep in mind. This is like the Coles Notes version of the
book. So if you dont remember most of what you read,
please remember these things:
Always go with your gut
The rst meeting should be for coffee or a
non-alcoholic beverage
Meet in a public place
o And leave the meeting information and
contact details of the person with someone
you know
If you must reject someone, do it with tact, and
honesty
If you are the one being rejected. Dont get upset;
just remember that your happiness lies elsewhere
If something looks like a dog, smells like a dog and
sounds like a dog you shouldnt be dating it. Ha! ;)