Q1: To what extent sexual awareness issues mounting to the social life phenomenon

happened in Malaysia?
Thank you to the moderator, sex awareness in Malaysia among teenager is indeed low and
this can lead to social illness. We can see that in the television there is lot of cases such as
baby dumping, pornography, prostitution, illegal race and so on among our teenagers.
Hence, today, I bring you a cut out article from the newspaper as a proof that most of
teenager in Malaysia are not really into sex awareness. The first article written that most girl
in the age of 18-29 does not have enough knowledge about their body function. Some of
respondent in the article admit that they dont know they can get pregnant even if both of
them used condom. Some of them think that they will not get pregnant if they do sex during
their menstrual period. They dont know that there is possibility that a woman who is in
menstrual period can still be pregnant. They also lack of knowledge that if they make contact
during menstrual period, it will lead to others infection on their oral part. The article that I
bring today also stated that teens as young as 10 years old already making sex without
knowing it. This shows how serious this social illness nowadays. The second article stated
the Illicit relationship involving school children and adolescents is a serious concern, with
many claiming to lose virginity before the age of 18 years and do so with a different man.
Who is to blame for this issues? I would say lack of exposure from teachers and parents is
one of the reason that this issues are a concern nowadays. Furthermore, the rapidness of
technology such as mobile phone among children can also lead to social illness. Nowadays,
children with the age of 5 years old already own a mobile phone as a gift from their parent.
As a parent, I know we are very concern and worried about our children. Hence, mobile
phone is one way to communicate with them when we are at work. However, we should also
monitor their mobile activity. Some of children already own a porno video in their phone. This
happened to my son. I seldom check my son phone, but that day, I feel uneasy, hence I
asked him to bring his phone. He is very reluctant to give it to me. When I asked him why, he
keep quiet. I sense something is wrong. Hence, I just grab his phone and his gallery. It is so
heart-breaking to see a pornography video in my son phone. My son is only eleven years
old. I ask him where he get this video, he said that he get it from his friends through
WhatsApp. I dont know to whom I should blame. Is it the teacher? Is it his friend? His
friends parent? Or Is it me? Instead of blaming others, I take initiative to prevent this from
happen. I as a parent should act, first. I told him this is wrong, give him situation to make him
understand. There is also a case in my neighbourhood, in which a girl who is 12 years old
already lose her virginity. She doesnt know it but her parents realize changes in her emotion
and physical. It is so shocking to know that their babysitters son is the one who constantly
rape the girl. The girl didnt know it, she thought it just something to be play or to have fun.

She doesnt know it was wrong until she is pregnant and everyone in her house is in chaos
and crying. The boy who rape him told the family that she loves the girl but doesnt know that
it is wrong because the girl is under age. This shows the lack of awareness about sex
among teenager in Malaysia.
Q2: Is sex education an answer to social ill?
Thank you, Mr Haziq. Yes, I agree that sex education is indeed an answer to social ill. In
home, sex education often being the least topic discussed closely among families. For
example, let me give you a situation to imagine here. Imagine that one day your child comes
home and asks you, point-blank, what intercourse means. What do you say? Well, there's
always the avoidance reaction: "Go ask your father (mother)" or "We'll tell you when you're
old enough to understand." Of course, "Where did you get that from?" is a possibility. Or,
difficult as it may sound, you could sit down with your child and explain what intercourse is.
This way you'll be the one who tells him, not the kid down the block who can actually twisted
the fact and bring your child to opposing route. Everyone agrees that parents should be
"open and frank" when they talk to their children about sex, but no one is willing to tell
parents how. After centuries of silence and secrecy, parents today are suddenly asked to
"liberate" themselves. How can this transformation be started? How to carry out? First,
parents need to brush up on some basic facts. For openers, accurate knowledge about
masturbation, intercourse, birth control, and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) is
essential for parents who want to develop guidelines for children. By grabbing the fact,
parent can teach their children about sex education at home. They are needed to be able to
explain to their children with correct fact instead of giving false example. Although most
adults today know that masturbation doesn't cause acne, impotence, or insanity, as was
once believed, there is still a great deal of unnecessary anxiety about it. A parent's reaction
to his child's masturbation will probably be conditioned by attitudes toward the practice when
he was growing up, but should still reflect his adult knowledge that it is normal if your child
does it and it is normal if she/he doesn't do it. Moreover, when talking with children about
sexual matters, parents should be receptive to the child's language but supply proper terms.
Giving the child the correct names for parts and functions of the body is important in lending
them dignity and naturalness. For example, if a young child repeats a sexual obscenity that
he has heard in the street or from adults, parents should explain what it means without being
afraid to use the word. By explaining the meaning of the obscenity with proper terminology,
parents are treating the subject of sex with respect, instead of relegating it to the gutter.
Parents need to provide moral guidelines, in my opinion. Given the fact that many teenage
engage in sex without their parents' consent, parent can try to ensure that these sexual

encounters are not disastrous. Standards of behaviour are good for teenager, as well as for
adults. Teenager want and need sensible guidelines from their parents.
Here are some "morals" I always give to my children and their friends:

No one has the right to exploit another person's body, commercially or sexually.

No one has the right to bring unwanted children into the world.

No one has the right to spread disease. If infected, get medical treatment fast.

As with other facets of experience, the best way to help your children develop healthy
attitudes about sex is through example. If parents are honest and well informed, children will
learn the value of knowing the facts. If parents are generous with affection for the child and
spouse, youngsters will themselves learn to be loving partners and parents. In effect, if
parents are comfortable with their own sexuality, children will have an excellent opportunity
to learn how to lead sexually healthy lives. And they will have learned how from the people
who can teach them besttheir parents.S o, I believe that sex education is prominent to be
taught primarily in home institution thus, helps to curbs the social ills from happening in
society.