Emotional immaturity could be defined as the inability to control ones emotions.

Immature people
usually remain stuck in negative emotions, unable to get past them. They generally live a destructive life
and make life difficult for those around them as well. It can be extremely challenging to deal with an
emotional immature person. They do not have the ability to interpret and react to various situations and
are usually moody with many behavioral troubles.
Emotional immature people usually live life in the blame game. They tend to blame all their
problems and situations on other people and usually want to control others and situations, which is
something that cannot be done.
Emotional immature people are usually:
a. Self-centered
c. Cannot control their emotions
b. Too dependent
d. Usually crave attention
e.
f. Emotional maturity refers to your ability to understand, and manage, your emotions. Emotional
maturity enables you to create the life you desire. A life filled with happiness and fulfilment. You define
success in your own terms, not societys, and you strive to achieve it. Your emotional maturity is observed
through your thoughts and behaviors. When you are faced with a difficult situation, your level of emotional
maturity is one of the biggest factors in determining your ability to cope.
g. Signs of emotionally mature persons:
h.
1. You notice and verbalize (with
m. 6. You're compassionate to yourself and
composure) when you're wrong.
others.
i.
2. You're aware of your biases.
n.
7. You know when, who, and how to ask
j.
3. You acknowledge your privilege and use
for help.
it wisely.
o.
8. You know when to quit and when to
k.
4. You've created a space between feeling
persevere.
and reacting.
p.
9. You've realized the more you know, the
l.
5. You knowingly allow yourself to be
less you know, and you're OK with it.
vulnerable and allow difficult feelings in.
q.
r. How to become emotionally mature:
s. Step 1: Be present.
v. Step 4: Clarify Your Vision.
t. Step 2: Embrace Reality.
w. Step 5: Act from Integrity.
u. Step 3: Exercise Responsibility.

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y. Importance of maturity in relationships:
z. Maturity and Forgiveness - A persons ability to forgive their partner when neededa
distinguishing characteristic in successful long-term relationshipsis also influenced by maturity.
Maturity enables couples to stick it out when the going gets tough and to let go of negative
feelings. Mature people love their partners unconditionally and do not stay focused on resentments
or imperfections.
aa.
ab. Maturity and Personal Responsibility - Maturity plays a role in a persons ability to accept
responsibility for his or her own thoughts, feelings and behaviors. It governs a persons ability to
monitor his or her thinking and control the various emotions (anxiety, frustration, etc.) inherent in
any intimate relationship. When tensions are high in a relationship, it is common to handle the pain
by blaming the other partner. In emotionally mature relationships, partners are able to
have realistic expectations about relationships, marriage and their partner. Emotionally mature
individuals do not blame their partner or others for any anger or anxiety they feel.
ac.
ad.Maturity and Effective Communication
ae. Because maturity affects emotional control and reasoning, it affects a couples ability to
successfully make joint decisions, work together toward relationship goals, and to resolve
conflicts effectively. Mature relationships offer space for individuals to be vulnerable and share
ideas and feelings, rather than to dominate. Maturity clears the way for shared communication and
allows for an openness to the other persons perspective, allowing conflicts to be more respectfully
understood and resolved. Mature partners own their contributions to the relationship (both positive
and negative) and are able to personally search for solutions to problems that arise.
The good news is that while a person may not have control over their age or level of intelligence,
every person can choose to develop appropriate and healthy relationship skills that are conducive
to more satisfying and lasting relationships.
af. Conclusion:
ag. These points should not be used to cast a judgment upon yourself or others. Rather they are to be
used to evaluate where youre at, or where someone you are involved with is at, so that you may be
able to have a reasonable understanding of how to help each other grow into fullness of being.
Having the skills with which to communicate accurately, what our emotional states are to ourselves
and our significant other is of vital importance in our growing and ascending path. Once weve been
able to understand and learn how to accurately express our thoughts, emotions and feelings, it can
lead us to be able to open us up to a better relationship with ourselves and our partner because
then, validation can occur, leading to a greater closeness between partners.