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6 Steps to Become a Mature Person

Written by: Maria Lourdes Macabasco-Yanuaria

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Longing for acceptance and love are two things most of us desire for.
We seek for meaning and belonging in many ways, through
relationship or work.

With our desire to belong, we tend to become nice to everyone.


When I say nice, we are obedient, polite, pleasing and socially
acceptable. However, sometimes, people who are driven by the desire
to be nice or live by the attitude of do my best falls into the victim of
depression. They experience a sense of inadequacy that is shown
through feeling of guilt and stress. They have the uncanny ability to
keep everyone happy almost all the time, except that they are not truly
happy themselves.

The opposite of a nice person is a mature person.

Being a mature person means the assertiveness to trade the safe, passive,
people-pleasing behavior of niceness for the dynamic power of true goodness.
6 Steps to Maturity

Maturity is an invaluable asset in developing close personal and social relationship. If you long to be more
confident and capable, and more spontaneous in living the new era with ease and success, find out for
yourself to what extent your maturity is.

The practice of maturity means acting. Act as if you are already the mature person as you can be.

And to help you get started in becoming a mature person, here are the steps:

1. Understand Yourself
If there is no praise or criticism in the world, who would you be?

Take time to spend alone in silence of your true self and answer the question above. It may require
you to go out of town or just lock yourself up in your room, but dont neglect the importance of taking
time to answer it.

A step to maturity is knowing oneself. To see yourself as others see you.

2. Be Yourself
Will people still love you if you start honoring your own wants in life? Will they still value you?

A mature person knows how to exercise personal rights without denying the rights of others. It
includes your gifts and drawbacks, your potentials and limitations. It has your feelings and capacity to
express. Lastly, it gives you willpower and ability to make decisions.

In our desire to be nice to please others, we deny our true self.

But after knowing and understanding who you really are and what your capable of, have the courage
to express and stand up for your true self.

So, take for an instance, when somebody comply you to dance when you cannot dance, learn to say
no and offer your singing talent instead.

3. Appreciate Yourself
This may sound funny, but to practice appreciating yourself, do this:
Every time you look in the mirror, you must like what you see. More than you did
yesterday.

If you want to be appreciated, you have to start with the person closest to you, thats YOU.

4. Respect Yourself
Our generation loves to belong to the in crowd, so people tend to follow what most people does. As
such, the word different and unique becomes a thing in the past or at times, abnormal.

We are created by God as original. We must not forget that and stoop to become copies.

Do not be disappointed with your weakness while be proud and enhance your strengths. Respect
that both your strengths and weaknesses are part of your identity as an individually mature person.

5. Love Yourself
Sometimes, we get too preoccupied with all the things we need to do and relationships we have to
build, that we tend to prioritize ourselves the least.

But as Whitney Houstons famous song entitled Greatest Love of All have said,

Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.

The one true definition of happiness is being a good friend of oneself.

6. Laugh at Yourself

Happy are you if you can laugh at yourself! You will never cease to be amused. Those
who cant laugh at themselves leave the job to others.

Remember: Do not take yourself too seriously.

Be kind to yourself when you make mistake and accept your finiteness in these infinite world.

Make sense out of your failures and sufferings. These gives you insight that can transform your life.
Just dust it off and keep moving forward.

To end this post, we hope that these simple steps can help you become as happy and mature person that
you can be. That at the time you reach your old age, you can truly say that you have lived a very
meaningful life.

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mir mumtaz ali says:


February 1, 2010 at 14:27

you wrote good.


let me implement it.

Nikolai says:
May 6, 2010 at 10:45

I would jst like to appreciate the concern u have for others who need obscelecent help.

Lou Macabasco says:


May 7, 2010 at 07:34

Hi Nikolai, thank you for your comment. Were happy to know that our mission is
appreciated by people like you. Hope you keep supporting our purpose.

anonymous :) says:
August 29, 2010 at 00:07

This is truly amazing. The writer did a good job.. and even if Im only 11, my goal is to be a
mature person and to be different form others. I love this. THUMBS UP! :bd

Lou Macabasco says:


August 30, 2010 at 21:02

Thanks for dropping by and leaving a comment. Its great to know someone as young
as you are who are already conscious in living a matured personality. keep it up!

Zaman says:
March 1, 2011 at 05:08

Thank you very much Lou. This is great, to be frank i was a guy loosing self confident in
every thing, but from this lesson i really got to know how i should think and how i should improve my
self in life.
once again iam thanking you.

Please keep in touch mail me this is a request PLEASE.

Lou Macabasco says:


March 2, 2011 at 03:52

Im happy to hear about your decision to take the path of self-improvement. Im sure you
will learn alot and grow more as a person. Please do keep in touch with us too.

Amit Shrimankar says:


September 20, 2011 at 14:30

The thoughts were indeed lovely and beautifully narrated. Surely would make a difference
in many people life, also gets you closer to yourself

Jordan says:
September 22, 2011 at 18:17

Thank you so much!:D Im struggling with my relationship right now because we are both
immature. This seemed like a very good first step towards growing up and taking on all the
responsibilities that are required to sustain a serious relationship and a happy family:D Thank you!:D

Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria says:


September 23, 2011 at 08:14

Hi Jordan, glad to hear that this article has helped and inspired you in choosing to change
and become more mature. May this start your journey to personal development and growth.

ayam coet says:


September 28, 2011 at 03:15

Kedewasaan seseorang tidak bisa didasarkan dari umur, tapi kedewasaan bisa dilihat dari
cara dia bersikap saat menghadapi masalah dan saat dia bertindak saat harus mengambil suatu
keputusan yang sangat cepat namun tepat.
Cara berpikir orang yang dewasa selalu berpikir untuk jangka panjang, dan tidak pernah berkata
bagaimana nanti, tapi nanti bagaimana.

Terima kasih.

Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria says:


September 28, 2011 at 06:51

Hi Terima Kasih, thanks for the comment. To tell you honestly, I didnt understand what
youve posted. We appreciate it if you can translate it

Ganesh says:
October 23, 2011 at 22:08

Hi. Really thanks. Now i know about mature. Its will help very useful in my life. Thanks a
lot

Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria says:


October 23, 2011 at 22:17

Hi Ganesh, glad to hear this article has helped you. Thanks for your leaving a comment.

eddy adam says:


November 10, 2011 at 08:24

hey i am not really sure about all this sure it looks very helpful when you are reading this
human mind is very mysterious idk how to be more patient when i always know time is just slipping
away. I need help form God

shruthi says:
January 8, 2012 at 00:39

awsome things u were said ..i really change my life into bright like a rainbow colours.

Lou Macabasco - Yanuaria says:


January 8, 2012 at 06:07

thanks for your comment. glad to hear that the site has been a source of inspiration for you

Isha Rana says:


February 26, 2012 at 16:05

Its really amusing and helpful..I just like it

beverly says:
March 16, 2012 at 16:56

Wow, thanks for this article. You know, last night I was so depressed. I didnt know what to
do.
I was a mess.
You see, Im one of the nice persons you just mentioned in your article. I spent my whole life being
good,just wanting to please others.
I never really found my own happiness.
And I realized all this yesterday.
I dont know if I can change for real, but I want to give myself a chance.
I want to be mature, and happy.
I think that is what successful people are.

Nasri says:
March 29, 2012 at 18:19

Dear Lou,

Thanks so much for such a beneficial article. I am a happy and good person but i never thought
about my own happiness, i always tried to make others happy and keep myself depressed and
unhappy.
From today I have to find myself happy and enjoy.

Once again thank you so much for posting such a top articles.

Regards,

puja says:
March 31, 2012 at 02:14

thanx..its really very helpfull and it get me the right meaning which i want to
know..

Ritsu says:
March 31, 2012 at 11:27

Its nice to read something refreshing after a stressful week at work. Im 21 but I feel like
Im still a high schooler I recently submitted my resume here in our company, hoping to get a
promotion to a position I really liked. Im happy I get to know a few things about maturity, coz I do
really wanna step up and leave my comfort zone. Now, Im slowly but surely improving. Thanks ~

suvas says:
April 8, 2012 at 23:31

hi lou recently i have read ur two article both seems to be apriciating all the people. i m
just starting my life struggling to difficulties n taking the criticisms and complements from others.
these text is really helping me to understand life we have in this world
Aiyana says:
July 2, 2012 at 05:39

Hello im only 24 years of age and i have lived a really meaningful life so far and i reached
maturity earlier in life then most my age as i have been through life experiences that have forced me
to grow when i was young and now i consciously work on gaining as much meaningful experiences
as i can now its really important to live a happy life to be able to get stronger and stronger with what
ever life throws and by doing this i end up staying in charge and control of my destiny.
I now see others sweating over small things that mean next to nothing there are just some things in
life that are not worth getting stressed over in fact the only thing we need to focus on is accomplishing
our true dreams and expressing our true individuality so that we live our true purposes on earth.

Aiyana says:
July 2, 2012 at 05:47

The tough part of getting compliments and insults is that they are not proof of whether
someone likes you are not its just that person giving credit where they think is necessary and
discredit where they think necessary and the worst part is they could be biased as well its best to
listen carefully to someone who is trustworthy and wise as they are not going to be biased and can
really help unleash our true potential.

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Teneirah says:
June 19, 2013 at 05:17

These steps may or maynot work, but I would love to have a new me the next day. I have
just got done readings these and they seem helpful. Hope everyone with the same perspective can
relate. I hope everyone the best with the simple steps.

Bye,
Jaluzele rulou says:
August 31, 2013 at 00:42

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has shared this wonderful article at here.

Inacio Sarco says:


September 12, 2013 at 06:25

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regards,
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Bruno says:
July 8, 2014 at 06:31

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practice and also pass to my neighbours.thanks for your inestimable time and knowledge

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May 27, 2015 at 15:56

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thank you all for impacting self confidence, courage and most of all for making me discovered the he
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