FEAR OF FAILURE (SOCIETY INFLUENCE)

Beginning with special thanks to almighty Allah and all my instructors, motivators whom I
learned.
The main purpose of choosing this specific topic to reveal the real case study I faced.
In our surrounding there are lots of fears everywhere, somehow they are very beneficial for us
like if we don’t get fear while driving we would drive very fast and it will be dangerous for us
and others.
Through this article, I would like to catch your attention towards those fears which are the
greatest barriers of success, which made us stop, which made us paralyze, which made us
mentally sick to do something unique. Almost we have the same type of fears in our life like
 Fear of being poor
 Fear of being dispraised
 Fear of critics from society(what people would say)

Actually the brave is not that who doesn’t have feelings of fear but who continues his effort
despite having fears.
I am also a part of that society where there are dangerous bundles of fears.
It's almost impossible to go through life without experiencing some kind of failure. People who
do live cautiously and without taking a risk they go nowhere. Put simply, they're not living at all.
Because “The biggest risk in your life that you can take is by not taking any risk at all”.
After working on personality development and go through of different books and learning from
intellectuals, motivators whatever I learned I want to highlight all factors of fear and its remedy
as well.

CAUSES AND PHENOMENA OF FEAR:

The big reason for fear is comparison, when we compare ourselves with others or when we
compare our situation to other’s situation or when we compare ourselves with ourselves. If we
understand these phenomena we get rid of fear.
Another reason for fear is our unstable beliefs our values our weak peace of mind. As per the
research of experts and psychologists our fears develop during early childhood and these can
be transferred by our parents, our elders, our media, and our society.
We have fear because we are trapped by society, we do not do what we want but we do what
people want. The main reason of being a failure is that we get afraid from failure we don’t think
about success and the reason of being despondent is also fear.
To cope with any kind of challenge you have to make yourself believe and prevent from a
phobia of failure. You have to make yourself relax once you are in peace your mind works in
creativity because in the situation of fear your mind doesn’t get complete oxygen.
The wonderful thing about failure is that it's entirely up to us to decide how to look at it.
We can choose to see failure as "the end of the world” Or, we can look at failure as an
incredible learning experience. Everyone every time fails at something, it doesn’t mean we lost
all, we are supposed to lift our self again and again.

It's easy to find successful people who have experienced failure. For example:

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- Michael Jordan is widely considered to be one of the greatest basketball players of all time.
And yet, he was cut from his high school basketball team because his coach didn't think he had
enough skill.

- Warren Buffet, one of the world's richest and most successful businessmen was rejected by
Harvard University.

STOPPED DREAMING:
It is said that develop your dreams with excellence, but we left dreaming. This is absolutely
possible if we have dream we can certainly fulfill it. Big dreams always make you a successful
person, if you are to set a desire so set as big as possible because whatever you think about
yourself, you become the same with the passage of time, and big desires and dreams keep you
charge, it develops determination in your body and soul. In imply of Quran Allah says “The thing
you run after for I will give you” So set your priorities what you want to get.
Your dreams can be help to set the purpose of your life and every big thing starts after a dream.
So dream big that can kill your fear as well.
Substantially our dream’s capacity depends on our thoughts, attitude and values. Be in a habit
of thinking big once you think out of the boundary, your mind starts in that exact way. An
Indian politician and scientist Dr Abdul Kalam said “you cannot change your future but you can
change your habits and your habits will change your future ultimately”.

DEATH OF THOUGHTS:
Only your strong and intellectual mind can develop new ideas and dreams.
If there is a positive and significant change in your thought so it is big beneficence of Allah on
you, further RIZQ does not include only money but it also includes good thought and good
health given by Allah. When the process of thoughts starts changing and when you start
learning the fun of life then you do not remain an ordinary person.
Your academic degree cannot make you an intellectual, I haven’t found any lecture in class
where it is to teach that how to think, we have to separate education and up bring/training.
If we look at the history of world’s successful people we would get to know that they all had big
and unique dreams and success became their destiny because every big task starts from a
thought first.
The world biggest real estate agent Gary keller wrote in his book not about earning the money
but it’s about being the best you can be.

The world's best swimmer Michael Phelps does not give only swimming tips in his interviews
but he talks about making your mind strong to get win in every challenge.

Instead of giving tips on bodybuilding Arnold Schwarzenegger (politician, actor, and

professional bodybuilder) stimulates in his book to have faith and believe on you first.

ATTITUDE DEFINES ALTITUDE.

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REDEFINE YOUR MYTHS:
Consciously and unconsciously human gets learn from childhood till his maturity, but once he
gets mature it is compulsory to exclude all those myths having no reality in real life, Gery
keller challenged in his book (The One Thing) to all myths which we were told in our childhood
like
 If you work hard you will get success
 If you laugh too much you will cry too much
 As much you fly as early you fall
 Big is Bad

Substantially we can’t get success until we get focus, until we make our thoughts to do that
specific thing, and until we have an attitude towards that specific task. We see in our
surroundings that every child gets the treatment of up to bring in a traditional way that if you
get 1st position in class you will get success then you will get a good job and you will earn huge
money then again you will get success these all make up our mind and we make a perception of
success in the same way, opposite of this phenomena if you go through the autobiography of
successful people in world you will find an entirely different definition of success. The world-
famous book ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen covey does not include any
single habit which we are taught to get succeed.

Author Suggested:
 Redefine your knowledge after small researches and exclude all myths those keep you in
fear and misinform you.
 Do not sit idle and don’t stop yourself, do something out of box as once you start
reading the books out of your course then you become extraordinary. The habit of
reading books is the habit of the world’s successful people.
 Taking calculated risk in your small life is compulsory to make you differ from others, it
gives you a transferable lesson as well.
 To get success in your life you had better understand the definition of success first,
make sure in order to achieve big goals you have to face big problems.
 There is big conjunction between fear of failure and fear of society.
 Researched on “The death bed literature” it has been found that most people said they
are regretful because they didn’t do whatever they wanted in their life.
 Improve your thinking standard along with your living standard.
 If you have the spirit of fighting! You will get win.
 Your attitude and belief can make you win.

Thank you

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