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You know who I really need to forgive? God! He spits out the
word like its the name of a famous mass murderer, or someone
who viciously attacked him. He is seething with anger, a fiery
sheen of indignation that is thinly painted over his desolate loss.
I wasnt ever very religious, but when my daughters mental
illness got so bad it was life-threatening, I was willing to try
anything so I got into religion for a while, you know, really
seriously. I joined a high-energy, upbeat Evangelical church, and I
tried, I really tried. I prayed a lot, I kept my attitude totally
positive, I believed every day that with Gods help, everything
would be OK in the end. She committed suicide anyway. And
now my son, who is also mentally ill, is saying suicidal things
lately. I dont even want to talk to God.
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cold.
We do not have the power to make the great Self of the Universe
abide by our human will. What we always have the power to do is
to willingly evolve what our concept of God is, setting aside an
outmoded concept when necessary, and questing again into a new
level of understanding this mystery. Mike needed to forgive his
concept of God: a concept he signed up for when he joined the
Evangelical church. That version of God was an all-knowing,
concerned, and protective parent figure. This was a God who was
supposed to answer prayers and prevent human tragedy. This God
was supposed to help and grant your wishes if you are a good
person who prays a lot with unshakeable faith, --- remaining very
positive at all times. Yet this version of God failed Mike. It
comforted and uplifted him for a while, but when it did not
prevent his daughters death, he felt betrayed and devastated. He
slammed the doors of his heart shut to God, but it was clearly
hurting him now. Somehow he had to start finding his way out of
his miserable stubborn corner, and start living again. I suggested
to Mike that I believe that if your concept of God has failed you
--- if you are closing down instead of opening up when things are
hard --- its time to fire that particular version of God. Forgive
it and send it packing. Then ask the Universe to show you a new
concept that brings you forward --- one that keeps you opening up
and learning. Mike managed to do just that, and after a workshop
and a private session, he is moving forward, with his new God.
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He is still very sad about the tragic loss of his daughter, and he
misses her, but he has managed to move beyond the state of
blame about this tragedy. He has let go of his need to blame
anyone for her death, including God.
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had with their own parents. Interestingly, Anns concept of God
was clearly a reflection of her relationship with her parents. She
was a quiet child who worked hard at her chores and in school,
yet she received little personal attention from her caring but busy
parents. Her accomplishments and her needs were always
overlooked because she was lost among the bigger, louder
personalities in her sibling group who overshadowed her. If she
felt unimportant and untended, no one ever noticed.
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decided to step completely outside of this concept, and choose a
new belief: What I need is close at hand, and theres plenty for
me. From that day forward her spiritual life was transformed ---
Ann experienced her new God as a steadily refreshing Presence,
and she frequently reminded herself to look up and see the
waterfall flowing near by, and reach for her cup whenever she
needed water. Her experience these days is that her needs are
always met by a generous, limitless Source.
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Excerpt from Unconditional Forgiveness: A Simple and Proven
Method to Forgive Everyone and Everything
by Mary Hayes Grieco