IN THE NAME OF ALLAH

THE ALL-COMPASSIONATE, ALL-MERCIFUL

Aurangabad Islamic congregation (Tabligh Jammat) 24/25/26 – 02-2018.

All praise and thanks belong to Allah alone, the One, the Almighty, and All-Merciful. Blessings
and peace be upon Muhammad (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam), the last of His Messengers and his
family, his Companions and all those who follow in his footsteps until the end of time.

English Translation of Maulana Saad Bayan after Asr Prayer on the Subject “Wedding, Marriage
(Nikah) “

[Translator: I am really very scared for this delicate task. May Allah (Subḥānahu wa
ta'alā accept and protect me from any mistakes in translation. I have tried my best to make it
as close to the urdu version. Ya Allah, please forgive me for any mistakes (English is not my
first language and I, for surely has made mistake because my lack of knowledge. I therefore,
humbly request to the reader, to submit all suggestion and constructive criticism to the
translator at https://aurangabadijtema2018.blogspot.com , May Allah reward you
immensely for this) as these are the priceless and extremely valuable advises of Maulana as
my only aim is to make them available for English speakers. Ameen. The urdu audio is
available in most of the sites]

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My respected brothers and friends, Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam)
brought a perfect and a complete religion to the community. From Governing to household
necessity, each and every provisions and steps involved in it was practiced by our beloved
Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) for the community (Ummah) to learn.

The Household affairs of Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam), unless we do not research
and in accordance to it if we don’t follow, By Allaah all our actions will represent Animalism and
Animalism but not humanism.

Because the primary difference between a human and animal, the difference is of following of
Sunnah (the actions and precepts of Rasullulah ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam).

If the affairs are not in accordance to Sunnah, then either its yahudiyat or it is Nasraniyat or its
Animalism but not Humanism.

That’s because Humanism is Nature (Behavior) and Nature (behavior) is Sunnah (the actions
and precepts of Rasullulah ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam).

If the affairs are not accordance to Sunnah (the actions and precepts of Rasullulah ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) then there is no hidayat (guidance, righteousness).
It is clearly meintioned in the Holy book Quran “in tuteeAAoohu tahtadoo” (Surah Al-Nour (The
Light) 24:54) but if you pay heed unto him ( Rasullulah ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam), you will be
on the right way.

Following does not mean just to practice obligatory (Faraiz) actions but following means that
for each and every need of doings, Muslims should practice in accordance to Sunnah (the
actions and precepts of Rasullulah ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam).

Not one but our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) married more than one to
explain the model of marriage to the community and how it can be done.
It was an unlikely for people to consider that wedding and its ceremonies for bride and groom
can be done while in journey.

[ Rather our own condition is like if the occasion of Marriage and call for effort of Dawah
exacted, we opt for occasion of marriage and meanwhile we drop the call for Dawah and offer
reasons of Brother Marriage, sister marriage for not going]

Not anyone from close relatives or companions but Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) himself married while in journey in order to explain how easy it is.

A Traveller while on his journey has limited resource of food, things nor does he has roof to
sleep, how will he manage to do Valima, how will he pay the Mehar ( Bride Amount) , with all
this parameter Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) married while on his
journey in order to let Ummah know that marriage is a very simple deed and it can be
performed with very limited resources.

Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) married Hadrat Maymuna
(RadhiAllahu Anha) at makam saraf and all the ceremony were carried out while they were in
journey , it was lesson taught by Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) to
ummah until the last hour of qiyamah that it is not necessary for a person to be on his place or
book an hall or other extra stuff to do for getting married even if he is travelling he can get
married.

Not one but more than one Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) got
married, why? Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) married in such
Simplicity, [I seek refuge in Allah] was because Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) was poor

Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) prophet hood was predefined for
hardship and poverty, in order to make ummah understand that all the Necessity can be
obtained under such circumstance. Ummah should not feel only with money necessity can be
obtained and without money it can’t.
Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) in his hardship, nowadays in hardship
people doesn’t get married once but Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam)
married eleven.
Learn the way from us , try to learn the way , even if you marry four as per Our beloved Noble
Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) way , it will be easy but if you marry other than Our
beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) way it will be hard to marry one.

Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) has made marriage a very important
act of virtue( Worship), By Allah the Salah if performed in correct way stops a person from
Haram ( Unlawful ) and evil activities, after Salah if there is any act that guard a person from
Social Evil Act, his Gaze , His Private part is Marriage .

If Salah deteriorate, Life deteriorates, in the same way if Marriage deteriorate Society
deteriorate.

The System to Stop from Haram (Unlawful) and Evil Activities is Salah, The Same is Marriage for
Social Evil Activity.

Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) said Perform Marriage, Perform it in
Mosque, make an announcement prior to Marriage. Performing Marriage in Mosque gives us a
feeling that it’s somehow related to Salah and worship. The Way there are restriction in Salah,
in the same way collection of many provisions and defined method is called Marriage.

My Dear Respected Brothers and Friends, not only Marriage but every affairs of life if not
followed according to Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) then difficulties
is subjected to be born.

Our beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) has shown us the process of marriage
of his and the beloved companions too, in order to teach the Ummah.

 Profusiveness in life and money for this ummah is not meant for Marriages but to
establish the religion and to take out this ummah from being disdain and erring and get
them on the right guidance path, this is the foremost Principal of this ummah’s life and
money

 To think Marriages are place for spending money is against sunnah , Profusiveness of
money in marraiges is against sunnah , you will not find in any phase of Rasullulah (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) life that he stopped someone from marrying for the reason of
not having money.
Once a Companion asked, "O Allah's Messenger (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam)! Marry her to
me." The Prophet asked him, "Have you got anything?" He said, "No." The Prophet said, "Go
and search for something, even if it were an iron ring." The man went and searched and then
returned saying, "I could not find anything, not even an iron ring." Then the Prophet said, "Do
you know something of the Qur'an (by heart)?" He replied, "I know (by heart) such Sura and
such Sura." The Prophet (‫ )ﷺ‬said, "Go! I have married her to you for what you know of the
Qur'an (by heart).

Is there anybody in today’s age that will say that teach me Quran and marry me?

When marriages will differ from the path of guidance then marriages will be done with money
and not with the Bride You can see in today’s life People are keeping money and leaving the
Bride. If you follow Sunnah in Marriages then marriage will be done with Bride not with the
money. Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) has never stopped any one from
getting marriage for the reason of not having money.

Many Girls are delaying their wedding age, waiting for the reason of not having enough money
to celebrate like others belief.

Both from Boy(s) and Girl(s) families are waiting for the reason of not having enough money to
celebrate like others belief.

Blessings are searched in scholars and pious prayer , Who Shall perform my Nikah , Who Shall
perform my Nikah, address me of someone pious that will perfom my Nikah and my Nikah
will be of Blessing . By Allaah there is not personality greater than our Beloved Noble Prophet
(ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam). If other than Sunnah marriage is performed by the most pious
person of the time, Do not even bring thought of blessing in that marriage.

Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) did not said The path I taught you for
Nikah will be of Blessing but Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) said it will be
of Greater Blessing.

The path I (Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam)) showed you for marriage, the
way I (Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) ) I did it with ease , The Ease I
(Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) ) gave you for Nikah, If you follow this
path then this Nikah will be of Greater Blessing

We think who shall perform our Nikah for the blessings, May be Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) performed Nikah for someone, but no source of Beloved Noble Prophet
(ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) performing nikah for someone on request. Hadrat Jabir ibn
Abdullah Radiallahu anhu one of the very close and pious companions of the Beloved Noble
Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) got married, once Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) asked O Jabir why are you going early to home. Jabir Radiallahu anhu
replied: I got married. [( The Question raised by Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) means in the small populated area of Madinah Beloved Noble Prophet
(ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) was unaware of Hadrat Jabir marriage but on contrary in today’s
age if a marriage is happening at one place , the effect of it can be notice after ten lanes].

Hadrat Abu Dharr or Abu Sa'id Khudri (radi Allahu anhu) on his way found people seating near a
house along with their tasbih in hand and doing dhikr , he sat there along with them . After a
while he enquired who died, how it happened, what was the cause of death. They Replied:
Nobody died, it’s an marriage occasion, here is the groom and bride inside the home, we are
waiting here for the Valima .
 By viewing nobody could guess whether the home is under unease circumstance or
celebrating happiness

Continuing my talk, I was saying Jabir Radiallahu got married and it did not come to notice of
Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam).

Beloved Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) said: 'Have you got married, O Jabir?' I
said: 'Yes'. He said: 'To a virgin or to a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously married
woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin?' I said: 'I have sisters in their early age and did not want my
wife to join them in play but to make them learn religion , Quran , House hold affairs ' Beloved
Noble Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam said: 'That is better then.' ”

My Dear respected brothers, lets us deeply think deeply think how many of us intend to do
marriage for the purpose of guidance .In search of worldly pleasure age of marriage are lost
 Gain success by getting married as per the teaching of religion.

one of the companion married widow of Hadrath Umar (radi Allahu anhu) and said I married
her because not for the wordly pleasure or for the sake of honor or not for offspring but my
only purpose of marriage is to know from Hadrath Umar (radi Allahu anhu) Wife the condition
of how Umar spent his night in front of his lord, his prayer, his crying in nights, his family affairs
, we all knew his affairs of life outside the house but not his inner life.

My Dear Respected Brothers, the basic fundamental of marriage is to bring the guidance path in
our life and provided we do not lavishly spent in marriages.

As per our pious elder saying “we spent lakhs of lakhs with pleasure to unite two private parts
but we lack the quality of not spending in uniting a creature with his creator through the path
of guidance.

If we study the life of companions we will know all their expenditure/ Spending was for the
path of Allaah. You do research, you study their life their stories you will get to know, By
Almighty Allaah , their large part of expenditure was meant for only in path of Allaah.Their
borrowing of money/ their transaction was meant to spend in the path of Allaah
My Dear Respected brothers, I was saying we need to make our marriages a deed [Ibadath] to
please Allaah, we need to make our marriages a deed [Ibadath]to please Allaah .

It is mentioned in hadith, devil is always there with us in our genes, the way a child resembles
his father, by Allaah a child will resemble shaitaan if we accompany him in our private meet.
The child behavior, qualities will resemble devil. All because the act of love [sexual intercourse]
is not according to Sunnah. Read Dua , Read Dua before intercourse.
“allaahumma jannibnash-shayṭaana, wa jannibish-shayṭaana maa razaqtanaa.”
O Allah, keep the shaytaan away from us and keep the shaytaan away from what You have
blessed us with. Whoever says this Dua , Shaytan will never be able to harm the child.

Our Pious Elder says We worry for betterment of our child at the time when it’s too late, Rather
this type of worry should not be when a child is grown up or after birth but at the time when
the parents are involved in intercourse.

The act of Animalism he will do while in the intercourse, then same quality of animalism, child
will be born with.
 The First reason for fall of Society is this.
 That’s the reason for every moment of life, Sunnah has been taught to us.

Hadith is narrated from Hadrath Aisha (RadhiAllahu Anha) that Rasullulah (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) never looked at my private parts and I never looked at his private parts.

When Modesty and shyness ends,

 People think Modesty and shyness is doing of things in private. No, By Allaah, doing sin
in private is immodesty, doing things in open is not immodesty.
 We are thinking in opposite way, in much opposite way, the fall in Standards of our
religious understanding make us think immodesty is doing thing in open.
 By Allah, doing sin in private is immodesty, doing things in open is not immodesty.

It is difficult to understand the concept of talk, Dong Sin in open is not immodesty; immodesty
is doing sin in private, because the relation of Modesty and Shyness is with Creator (Allaah) not
with creature.

The level of modesty of Sayyiduna 'Uthman ibn 'Affan (radiyallahu 'anhu) was such that he
never undresses himself while taking bath.
 Nobody was there to see? From whom he was feeling shy.
 Uthman ibn 'Affan (radiyallahu 'anhu) used to feel shy from Allaah.
The Situtation now we are into, innovation of wedding procession, Wedding Procession means
that I am going to take my wife who all are coming along with me , By Allah if he had a bit of
modesty he would never ask this question.

With this innovation, marriages has become a trouble, the activities which will not be according
to Sunnah then that activity will either be a innovation or Yahadooiyat or Nasraniyat.

My dear respected friend leave all this useless wordly thing and study the sunnah of marriages,
Family (Clan) will get upset, It is mentioned in Hadith the one who pleases Allah and for this all
beings get upset , Allah will be pleased with him and make all the being please with him and
the one who pleases being and offend Allaah, Allaah get offended with him and make all the
being upset on him. As the hearts is ruled by Allaah.

Contemplate my Earlier Statement “doing sin in private is immodesty, doing things in open is
not immodesty”

Hadrath Salman Al-Farsi (radiyallahu 'anhu) got married, in the morning, some of his friends saw
him, and they asked him: “How was yor night?” Hadrath Salman ignored their question, and
turned to the other side. His friends insisted on asking the same question again, and Hadrath
Salman pretended not to hear it. On the third time, he retorted: I heard Allah’s Messenger (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) upon whom be peace say: ‘Whoever talks about it (i.e., his wedding
night) to a friend, the bride and the groom will be like two donkeys mounting one another in
the open.’ ”
 It Surmises, doing sin in private is immodesty, doing things in open is not immodesty.

 Very clearly he mentioned I heard Allah’s Messenger (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) say:
‘Whoever talks about it (i.e., his wedding night) to a friend, the bride and the groom will
be like two donkeys mounting one another in the open.’ ”

 Deeply think over it, when a talk about a lawful act is compare to a donkey, what will be
greater than this animal who do sins openly, that’s why I said Modesty is about shyness
from Allaah when no one is present (alone).

Shyness from creatures is not Modesty but Modesty is related to Allah Alone.

That’s why beware of spending lavishly in marriages, the much you spent the more it will be
trouble.
Our Beloved Nobel Prophet (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) in all his marriages distributed Paneer,
sometime Dates and said have it, this this is my Valima .
In today’s time, distributing dates as Valima, Nobody will acknowledge this as Valima though
this is an Very Important Sunnah .

Not one but all Rasullulah (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) marriages except with Hadrat Zainab
RadhiAllahu Anha, in that marriage, meat and bread was cooked for Valima and Mother Zainab
RadhiAllahu Anha use to feel proud about it.

All Prasies to Allaah , the marriage that differ from the usual marriages of Rasullulah (ṣallā
llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam), the same marriage Rasullulah (ṣallā llāhu ʿalayhi wasallam) has gone
through distress. A Very Strange fact it is.

Realize this and think over it where we have gone today how far we are going from meat and
bread. Today we are into debt , trouble , inconvenience, annoyance , debt interest.

Celebrate Valima and celebrate it happily but please remember there is one Sunnah in Valima
 Valima should be only of one Dish, only one Dish only.

At the time of Hadrat Abu Baqr RadhiAllahu Anhu administration, one of the companions
returned to Islam. In respect to his return Hadrat Abu Baqr RadhiAllahu Anha married his sister
to him. The companion left the place, went to the market and sacrificed all the camel available
in the market. Looking at this scene, traders ran to Ammer ul Muminin and complain the
behavior of the companion and said he made a big loss to the Muslim by killing all the Camels,
he turned apostate again. Ameer ul Mumnin to that companion said why you do this to
Muslims, for your honor I married my sister to you . The Companion replied I sacrificed the
camel in celebration of my Valima and all the traders of camels are requested to take their
amount, whatever amount they fixed for the camels, I invite all the people in this celebration. If
I was in my city, I would have celebrated in much grand way then this but as I am in travel, I
have not carried enough.

My Dear Friend we should make it our objective that our spending should be for path of Allah.

Maulana end his talk by doing Tashikl of Groom for 4 Months and dua for ending the
gathering.

Speech End.