Professional Documents
Culture Documents
By
Terry M. Drake, LSW, NBCCH
Published by:
Lake House Publishing
Wellsboro, Pa 16901, USA
info@lakehousepublishingonline.com
http://lakehousepublishingonline.com
First Edition
Introduction 13
Pre-step Stretch:
A few things you need to understand
The Formula for Happiness 21
Useful vs. Un-useful Habits 23
Your Belief System 26
Making sense of the formula 29
Summary 36
Step One
Don’t think of purple elephants!
I get what I want! 39
How does it work? 43
Thinking about what you want 46
Implementing it into my thinking 47
Helpful hints 48
Summary 52
Step Two
Drop the Conspiracy Theories!
What is a Conspiracy Theory? 55
Drop your conspiracy theories! 60
You are in control 62
How do I change it? 66
Summary 73
Step Three
If IT Works, Then Use IT!
If what works? 77
Please yourself! 82
No more! 83
The affirmation 87
Summary 89
Step Four
Have YOU Been Paying Attention?
Why pay attention? 93
Learn from me! 96
No failure only feedback 98
Helpful hints 102
Summary 104
Step Five
Curiosity Killed the Cat!
Did curiosity kill the cat? 109
What is childlike curiosity? 112
The idiom: Curiosity Killed the Cat 114
Curiosity Explored 116
Explore and Live! 120
Summary 124
Step Six
Perfection is a MYTH!
What is perfection? 127
Perfectionist quiz 129
The Perfectionist 131
How do I change? 135
Einstein a failure? 138
Summary 139
Step Seven
If You Don’t, Then Who Will?
You must take action! 143
Who’s in control of you? 146
Change yourself! 149
Dare to be happy? 151
Decide and take action! 152
Summary 155
Step Eight
Just Do It!
The Nike Principle 159
The Big Three 160
Reversing the process 163
Overcoming obstacles 166
Summary 168
Step Nine
Fake it Till YOU Make It!
Fake what? 171
Do you want proof? 172
Practice makes perfect! 173
How to practice 175
Summary 181
Now What?
Final note 185
How to use this book 186
My journey 187
Wrap up 189
Bibliography 199
Index 203
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Acknowledgments
I want to thank everyone who had a part in the
completion of this project, whether they knew they did or
not. To begin with I want to thank my wife, Lisa, and our
children, Kaitlyn, Emileigh, Desiray and Preston, because
they allow me the freedom and flexibility to spend the time
it takes to accomplish my goals. I want to thank my
parents, step-parents and in-laws; Sandy and Ray Osgood,
Larry and Jackie Drake and Don and Linda West, for being
supportive, encouraging and being available to help out a
busy family, with busy schedules. I want to thank Ron
Klien, my mentor and trainer, for opening a door in my life
that has led me in directions I had only dreamt of. I want to
thank CONCERN, the agency I work for, as well as Paul
Rieger, my direct supervisor for giving me the freedom to
grow as a supervisor and allowing me the opportunity to
develop a new set of skills and confidence.
One of the most important aspects to the
completion of this project was the guidance and direction I
received from my editor, Jen Bowen, thanks Jen. I want to
thank Judy Pearson and Jill Cody, who provided me with
extremely valuable feedback, which helped me to re-
evaluate my writing style. I want to thank John Higham,
for our occasional breaks from the day-to-day, as well as his
support and encouragement. I want to thank Autumn
Rumsey, for her hard work on the cover design and
illustrations, as well as being very easy to work with. I
want to thank Dan Poynter for laying the foundation in
Writing Nonfiction and for having a website full of valuable
resources. Lastly, I want to thank all my co-workers, other
family members and friends, thanks for being a part of my
journey.
Disclaimer
This book is designed to provide information about
the subject matter covered. It is sold with the
understanding that the publisher and authors are not
engaged in rendering legal, accounting or other
professional services. If legal or other expert assistance is
required, the services of a competent professional should be
sought.
It is not the purpose of this manual to take the place
of any medical or mental health treatment, rather to provide
the reader with insights into the workings of the mind and
the habitual development of un-useful habits, as well as
ways to change this within. This book is not meant to
replace any necessary treatment you may require to
achieve a balanced and healthy life. So, if you have serious
mental health or medical issues, it is recommended that you
seek and receive appropriate treatment from a qualified
physician or treatment provider. However, an individual,
who is currently receiving appropriate treatment for their
condition or diagnosis and is following through with
recommendations, may find benefit from the information
contained within this book.
The purpose of this book is to educate, inspire and
entertain. The author shall have neither liability nor
responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any
loss or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or
indirectly by the information contained in this book.
Beliefs
(Perception + Feedback+ Choice) = Happiness
Attitude
Which one are you? And which one do you want to be?
Pre-step Stretch 35
Pre-step Stretch 36
Summary