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CONFIDENCE CHEAT SHEET

M AT T A R T I S A N
C O N F I D E N C E C H E AT S H E E T

18 UNIQUE HACKS THAT GIVE YOU


CONFIDENCE IN ANY SITUATION

In this guide, you’ll discover:

• 8 proven ways to develop Jedi-like mental strength – these are the secrets to
feeling naturally confident and carefree in any social situation.

• A simple 7-second technique called “The Power Switch” which gives you
confidence on demand (you can literally “turn it on” when you need it most).

• NASA’s proven scientific method for quickly overcoming any fear. This is
currently being used to help men overcome their fears of talking to women... fast!

• How to eliminate the fear of rejection around beautiful women – this will
make you feel confident when you’re talking to them and while being yourself.

• This 60-second technique for resetting your nervous system and feeling
like a powerhouse. (Do this right before you start your day or right before you
go out...)

• And SO much more...

Matt Artisan
CEO & Lead Dating Instructor
The Attractive Man

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After years of research and experimentation...

My team and I have discovered the ONE single reason why most guys, maybe even
you, lack confidence.

There is ONE reason guys get nervous when approaching beautiful women…

There is ONE reason guys feel gorgeous women are out of their league…

There is ONE reason guys feel insecure…

And this may sound harsh, but the reason is because of...

A weak mind.

Yes, let me explain.

A weak mind can't stop the negative thoughts from looping over and over again in
your mind.

A weak mind can't stop the paralyzing feelings of anxiety and nervousness in your
body.

But a strong mind can.

With a strong mind, you can control your emotions, your thoughts, and the feelings in
your body.

(Note: This has nothing to do with your level of intelligence, your problem-solving
skills, or your level of education)

Think about it like this…

Monks are always calm, composed, and in a compassionate state of mind. Nothing
stirs their emotions. They are in complete control of their mind and body.

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Monks have very strong minds because they meditate for hours a day. They've built up
strong mental faculties which allow them to control their emotions.

They don't get caught up in negative mental thought patterns. They don't experience
intense nerves because they are in control of their bodies.

So if you want rock solid confidence…

If you want to eliminate anxiety or nervousness…

If you want complete control over your emotions…

If you want to confidently approach beautiful women, without hesitation...

Then develop a strong mind. A mind that has complete control over your mind and
body.

Here's the good news: You don't have to meditate for hours a day just to achieve
this.

In fact, we've discovered 18 unique hacks that permanently “trick” your nervous
system and give you poised confidence in a matter of seconds. And it’s all revealed
here in the Confidence Cheat Sheet.

Go through it and let me know how you feel afterward.

Cheers,
Matt Artisan

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ABOUT MATT ARTISAN
Matt Artisan is the leading expert in
transforming the lives of men and
empowering them to create authentic
relationships.

He was voted WORLD’s BEST NEW


DATING COACH and over the past 7-
years has personally coached men in 40
different countries including the U.S.,
Australia, Germany, Czech Republic,
Denmark, Japan, China, Hong Kong,
India, Dubai, and the list goes on.

He is the President and CEO of The Attractive Man Inc., the legendary dating
company for men, based on his groundbreaking understanding of women and
psychology.

Matt Artisan is the creator of the Total Ten Program. This is an exclusive, invite-
only group where Matt and his team personally show men how to attract their
versions of a “Perfect 10” woman through lifestyle, charisma, and self-growth.

As one of the preeminent gurus in the dating community, Artisan’s specialties range
from advanced dating techniques and day game mastery; to deep inner confidence,
phone/text game and speed seduction. Artisan takes a very unique approach that
combines natural flow with extremely potent structured skills to generate deep
attraction and sexual mastery.

Matt and his team have been interviewed by Fox 13, ABC News Nightline, CNN and
MTV.

He’s is extremely passionate about teaching men how to have amazing success with
women and will make sure you get the success that you want. He won’t stop until your
dating life is completely transformed.

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DEVELOP JEDI-LIKE MENTAL


STRENGTH
With a strong mind, you can actually TURN OFF FEAR.

Recent scientific studies show that certain mindfulness exercises help control our fear
center of the brain (the amygdala).

Have you noticed how Buddhists monks are always so calm and carefree? That’s
because they have the mental strength to not let anything faze them.

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Here’s an example of how to strengthen your mind:

Sit back, relax, and close your eyes. Focus only on your breathing and count to 100
breaths. Every time you lose track or another thought enters your mind, start over.
Doing this as a daily meditation will give you supreme mental strength.

Here are some other techniques you can use to develop mindfulness:

◦ Box breathing: Breath in for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4
seconds, hold for 4 seconds, and repeat.


◦ Freediving breathing for relaxed, slower heart rate: deep inhale through
diaphragm pause for 2 seconds, then exhale for 10 seconds (Use this whenever you
experience anxiety).


◦ Daily meditation. I suggest using a mobile app like “Calm” “Breathe” or


“Headspace.” 


◦ TV exercise - Place a coin or small object on top of your TV. Turn on your
favorite show. Focus on the coin for 5 minutes without glancing down at the show.
This will also help strengthen concentration and willpower. 


◦ Count to ten breathing. This is a meditation technique used to gauge your


improvement. Simply meditate while focusing on your breathing. Count each time you
take a breath.  Your goal is to reach 10 without your mind drifting. Anytime your mind
drifts, start back at 1. 


◦ Walking meditation: As you walk, focus on being present. Don’t listen to


music or daydream. Just be there in the moment. Feel your feet on the ground with
every step you take.


◦ Yoga - This ancient discipline is not just about physical poses. It was also
developed to enhance your mind. While practicing yoga, you should also be engaged
in mindfulness. Good instructors will remind you to stay in the present moment, and

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focus on your breath. Practice yoga several times per week for a better mind and body.


◦ Read or listen to “Practicing The Power of Now” every day for 15 minutes for
90-days. In the beginning, the hardest part is just remembering to be present.  This
habit will remind you to be present throughout your day. 


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THE POWER SWITCH

Do any of the following on its own or perform all 4 simultaneously to snap back into
the present moment:

◦ Take 3 deep breaths with 6 second exhales. Let all of your awareness
and focus be on your breathing. This will calm your nervous quickly. Remember to
have a long exhale.


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◦ Feel your body and notice any sensations in your body. Do a quick body
scan and notice what is going on internally. Don’t fight your emotions or feelings, em-
brace them. Fighting them only makes them stronger.


◦ Scan the vicinity and notice the details in your environment. Often
times we live in a hazy realty unaware of what’s going on around us. This brings your
awareness to the present environment and present moment. 


◦ Say, “I’m back,” using this as a trigger word to jolt you back to the present
moment. Stop thinking about something else and focus on what is going on at that
moment.


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COLD SHOWERS

Cold showers can help improve emotional resilience training your mind and body to
be calm and relaxed during adverse situations.

Scientists have found that cold showers can reset your nervous system and increase
your heart rate variability. The higher your HRV is, the less prone we are to fear and
the easier we can stay calm under pressure.

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One minute of cold shower therapy can feel like one hour of meditation. The water
should be between 35 - 45 degrees Fahrenheit.

Each day simply take a freezing cold shower and allow yourself to stay calm, and
ultimately enjoy the discomfort. This trains your body to become relaxed and present
during uncomfortable situations.

Other potential benefits of cold showers include weight loss, increased blood
circulation, and willpower training.  

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PROGRESSIVE DESENSITIZATION

At some point, YOU HAVE TO JUST DO IT!  Real transformation happens when you
push out of your comfort zone.

Every time you do something that scares you, your comfort zone expands and what
once was difficult, becomes easy, thus cultivating courage and confidence.

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Make a list of everything you’re afraid of and rank the list from easiest to scariest.
 Start with the easiest until it becomes second nature and then work your way up to
the hardest.

For example, if you were terrified of spiders you would conquer your fear in the
following order:
1. View a picture of a spider
2. Stand in a room with a spider in a cage that is far from you
3. Stand closer to the spider in the cage
4. Stand in front of the spider in the cage
5. Hold the cage containing the spider in your hand
6. Hold the spider in your bare hand

When it comes to approaching women, for example, start with easy approaches like
asking for directions. Then build up to bolder approaches like telling a girl she is
pretty.

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DO SOMETHING TERRIFYING

When you do something that scares the living daylights out of you, you are essentially
facing your fear head-on.  

People often are afraid to take action because they fear a worst case scenario. So
instead of gradually desensitizing yourself, just go to the extreme and purposely put
yourself in the worst possible scenario.

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So if you had a fear of spiders, you might have someone cover you with spiders.

Your brain would initially be terrified. But after you calmed down, you would realize
and rationalize that you survived the situation, and is therefore, not so bad.

If you get really nervous approaching women due to a fear of embarrassment, then try
putting on a woman’s dress and approaching 10 women while wearing the dress.

This will probably scare the crap out of you and be highly embarrassing. But, once you
have completed the exercise, approaching women in your normal clothes will seem
easy and the fear of embarrassment will be gone.

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REJECTION THERAPY

One of the biggest fears that hold people back is the fear of failure. So instead of
worrying about failure, you can embrace it, learn from it and enjoy it.  Rejection
Therapy will show you how rejection can be an exciting and positive experience thus
eliminating the fear of rejection.

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Rejection therapy helps you become more aware of how irrational social fears control
and restrict us. It also helps you not be attached to outcomes and permits yourself to
fail.

Simply perform an act that has a high chance of failure.

You should not try to get fired from your job or do anything that could cause a long-
term negative effect. That would be idiotic.

Instead, try one (or all) of the following...

• Go to a stand-up comedy open mic night with the purpose of bombing.


• Approach women and try to get rejected. You can use an opener like, “my
girlfriend is in the bathroom right now, want to make-out?”


• Go into a coffee shop and ask the barista for a discount.


• Go to a restaurant and order something not on the menu.


• Ask for a ride from a stranger even if you don’t need one.


• Ask to trade parking spots with someone.


• Ask to cut to the front of the queue/line.


• Offer a hug to a complete stranger.


• Knock on a neighbor's door and ask to borrow something expensive like a


vacuum cleaner.


• Ask someone eating if you can try their food.


• Ask a beautiful girl for a kiss on the cheek .


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VISUALIZE SUCCESS

Word champion athletes (and most successful people) use this technique to achieve
their goals faster and become the type of athlete they want to become.

This is a secret weapon for sports psychologists because sometimes you have to see it
inside your mind before you can do it in real life.

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Studies show that the same neurons are activated in the brain when one visualizes an
activity as opposed to actually doing the activity.

Are you afraid of approaching beautiful women? Take a few minutes every day to see
yourself CONFIDENTLY approaching and flirting with women.

Make sure to see every detail to make the visualization seem as real as possible.

Here’s an easy 4-step visualization process you can try:

1. See another person do it. Find a youtube video of someone successfully performing
the activity that you want to be more confident at.

2 . Visual them doing it. Close your eyes and see the youtube video replay in your
mind.

3. Put yourself in their shoes and visualize it from an external point of view. Replace
the person in the video with yourself and see yourself performing the act.

4. Finally,  visualize yourself from a first-person point of view performing the act.  See
yourself with your own eyes.

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RECITING INCANTATIONS

Affirmations, mantras, and incantations have been used by personal development


experts for decades because they can rewire any limiting programs into powerful self-
serving beliefs.

Simply pick a belief about yourself, for example, “I am bad with women, and so they
always reject me,” and give it an opposite meaning, such as, “I am amazing with
women, and they love me.”

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Repeat it out loud at least 5 times. But, the key is to say it with emotion and
enthusiasm.

I love to say my affirmation statements in front of a mirror. Make sure you smile and
really get into it.

Studies show that if you tell yourself an “untruth” long enough, eventually you will
believe it.

Examples of incantations:

“I love myself and so do women.”

“I approach beautiful women everywhere I go.”

“I’m so happy and grateful that I’m comfortable in social situations.”

“I have a body like a Greek god and women get turned on by my sexy body.”

“I am fearless and bold at bars and clubs, and fun, exciting people gravitate towards
me.”

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LIFT HEAVY WEIGHTS

This will boost your confidence two-fold.

First of all, testosterone is released when you lift heavy weights. And with more
testosterone flowing through your system, you’ll have more drive to push through
fear.

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Secondly, the stronger you are – the more confident you’ll feel. As men, we tend to
correlate strength with status. Our brains are constantly comparing and sizing up the
other men around.

So start lifting heavy.

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DRESS LIKE A WINNER

Don’t you feel like a stud every time you put on a well fitted suit?

That’s because whenever you step into a high-class outfit, you get a shot of Serotonin,
which is a happy chemical associated with status.

In other words, you can trick your body into feeling high status just by looking the
part. So dress like you are super successful and you’ll feel powerful.

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STOP LISTENING TO SABOTAGING


MUSIC
Your unconscious mind is powerful. You are influenced by the ideas you expose
yourself to.

If you are constantly listening to songs that put girls on a pedestal, then you too will
put girls “above” you.

So pay attention to what music you listen to. Are the lyrics talking about “girls
cheating,” “not having money,” or “women being out of your league?” If so, change it.

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CREATE A “PUMP PLAYLIST”

Create a playlist filled with songs that pump up your confidence. Choose songs that
talk about having an abundance of women, money and power.

Something like, “Sexy and I Know It” by LMFAO, but choose songs that you enjoy.

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Specifically, listen to your pump playlist while you’re working out and right when you
wake up. That’s because your unconscious mind is more receptive during these times,
so it’s easier to change limiting beliefs.

Try this for the next month and see how you feel.

You’ll notice that it improves your mood immediately, and it’s also improving your
confidence and beliefs long term.

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GET GOOD AT SEX

Imagine you had the ability to satisfy any girl in bed. You’d hardly fear approaching
women because you know you’d rock her world in bed.

You’d feel like you have a special gift or superpower.

You’d walk into the room thinking, “I wonder what lucky woman is going to be lucky
enough to have mind-blowing sex with me tonight?”

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So arm yourself with techniques for amazing sex. Learn how to blow a woman’s mind
sexually and strive to be the best lover she’s ever had.

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PRACTICE GOOD POSTURE AND


BODY LANGUAGE
Science has proven that your posture affects the way you feel and your level of
confidence.

For example, stand up tall with your head up and your shoulders back, and notice how
you feel. After a couple minutes of being in this pose, you’ll feel more confident.

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People that are timid tend to make themselves smaller. They hunch over, cross their
arms, look down, and keep their feet together. Don’t do this.

Confident and powerful people have an open body, head up, eyes straight ahead, and a
straight back.

*Set a reminder on your phone to check your posture every day.*

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MASTER THE VICTORY POSE

Studies show that lifting your arms high above your head with your fists closed, as if
you just won a race, increases testosterone and decreases stress hormones  in your
body.

Try this out for 2 minutes a day a notice how you feel after.

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HAVE SELECTIVE MEMORY

Guys that lack confidence tend to dwell on past failures. They hardly ever dwell on
their past successes.

What do you dwell on?

From this point on, reframe all past failures as learning experiences and focus on all of
your successes.

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CONQUER YOUR INSECURITIES

If the girl of your dreams is a “10” but you see yourself as a “7”, then you have to
change that way of thinking and start to see yourself as a “10”..

What is stopping you from having “10” level confidence? What are you ashamed of?

Is it a lack of sexual experience? Is it a lack of money? Is it the way you look? Is it your
height?

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Whatever it is, conquer it.

If you feel your height is preventing you from getting the girl, find evidence of short
men dating beautiful women.

If you are ashamed of the way you look – get in shape, buy better clothes, groom
yourself and most importantly, realize that having good looks is only a small fraction
of romantic attraction.

Here’s what you should do: Write down all of your insecurities. Then, write one action
step next to each of the insecurity. Each action step should be one small step in the
direction of eliminating that insecurity.

So for example, if you are insecure about being overweight, your action step might be
joining a gym or starting a diet.

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LEARN HOW TO FIGHT

Here’s the deal, women don’t sleep with cowards. Women sleep with men that make
them feel safe.

Their unconscious sex drive revolves around safety, and they prefer a man able to
protect them from danger. If a woman knows you can fight, she’ll naturally feel much
more attracted to you.

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Plus, knowing you can defend yourself will skyrocket your confidence because people
will no longer intimidate you.

When you know that you can effectively protect yourself in certain situations, you will
have less to fear.

As your fighting skills improve so will your confidence.

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SOCIAL PROOF

Ever heard the expression “monkey see, monkey do?” As social mammals, we humans
are influenced and easily motivated by what we see others accomplish.  

For example, runners once thought that completing a mile in four minutes was
impossible. However, after Roger Bannister crossed the "four-minute barrier" it has
since been broken by many athletes and is now the standard of all male professional
middle distance runners.

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Once we see that something can be accomplishable, we become more confident in our
own ability to achieve a similar result.

So, when it comes to approaching women, watch videos on YouTube and in our other
programs to show yourself proof that it can be done and is easy.  

And be sure to monitor your thoughts. If you think, “well he makes it look easy, but I
could never do that?” then your thoughts will sabotage your success.  Instead think, “if
he can do it then I can do it too!”

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C O N F I D E N C E C H E AT S H E E T

DISCOVER HOW TO MEET AT LEAST


ONE FIT, BEAUTIFUL, INTELLIGENT
GIRL… IN THE NEXT 30 DAYS… 

ABSOLUTELY FREE!
I want to invite you to book a private, 1-on-1 breakthrough session with my team.

During this session, we will literally hand you my actual method for becoming a
powerful, authentic, and high-status man who can meet women without using
tricks, game, or manipulation.

This method will show you exactly how to score a date with at least ONE beautiful,
high-quality girl in the next 30 days… all while focusing on nothing more than
becoming the best version of yourself.

Plus, we will walk you through your goals, your biggest sticking points, then show you
a proven path to becoming a “10 out of 10” man who gets the girls he wants in any
situation.

The clarity and advice you’ll get during this breakthrough session typically costs
between $700 - $1,500 – but if you’re seeing this right now then I’m offering it to you
absolutely free.

No bait-and-switch. No high pressure sales tactics. And no tricking you into buying
something,

Just Pure, Unequivocal Value For Becoming The 



Man Who Women Can’t Ignore...

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>>> YES, I WANT MY FREE BREAKTHROUGH SESSION NOW <<<
Limited Sessions Available – Apply Right Now!

The reason I’m giving you this breakthrough session free is because if YOU find it
valuable, then I’ll personally have my team invite you to join our private
Total Ten program – but that’s only if you meet our conditions.

We’re strict about not ONLY the private clients we work with, but also who gets
accepted for our free breakthrough sessions.

Most dating coaches have low standards for who they accept as clients. Just like most
men have low standards for the kind of women they hang out with. Personally, I don’t
associate myself OR my company with men who don’t meet my standards and I’ll tell
you why in just a second...

If you want a free breakthrough session, then you must meet three standards to even
be considered:

1. First, you must be a man who values your PURPOSE over “game” and
getting women. We find that men who have “more important” things to do than
meeting women, but still want to improve this area of their life, are the ones who
succeed with our methods fast.

2. Second, you must be a man who’s ethical, authentic, and genuine in


your relationships with women. If you’re an honest man who absolutely
hates when guys treat women badly, then you naturally have what it takes to make
your perfect type of woman WANT to be with you.

3. And lastly, you must take 100% responsibility for getting what you
want out of life. You see challenges as opportunities to become better. Fear gets
you excited because you know it’s your path to becoming a Total 10 man who has
the power to create his ultimate life.

However, let me be EXPLICITLY CLEAR about who I refuse to work with or even talk
to.

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• If “gaming women” is more important than your career, health, or your purpose,
then I can’t help you and I wouldn’t want to even if I could.

• If you’re okay with using tricks, manipulation, and even degrading women to lower
their worth in hopes of making them like you, then you will be rejected for this
breakthrough session.

• And if you constantly talk about wanting to change your life, but you don’t take
responsibility for actually improving it, then save yourself time and leave this page
now. The best methods for meeting girls in the world can’t help a man who lacks fire
and doesn’t take action.


Now, be honest. If you fit our standards, then I invite you to click the button below
and schedule your free breakthrough session.

We’ll hand you the answer to meeting at least ONE “dream girl” who has the potential
to be emotionally and sexually committed to YOU and you only…  all in just a few
weeks from now.

Plus, what we’ll show you on this call WON’T be like everything else you hear online…

• No cold approaching dozens of times a week…


• No forcing yourself into painfully awkward situations....
• No gut-punching rejections time after time…
• No memorizing canned lines…
• No learning forced routines that girls can see right through from a mile away…
• No constricting “formulas” to follow...
• No negging girls or needing to be an asshole...
• And no doing anything that doesn’t feel natural to you...


Your breakthrough session will show you a NEW way to meet girls that’s
not being taught right now. It’s the best way to improve your game, without being
a weird creepy “pickup artist” or solely relying on approaching girls all day.

And you’re getting it absolutely FREE for reading this cheat sheet.

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Now, I know your TIME is incredibly valuable. That’s why I’m going to PROTECT
your time with our “All Or Nothing” Promise.

You either get a CLEAR game plan for meeting at least ONE beautiful, high-quality
girl in the next 30 days… and you’re absolutely thrilled with this breakthrough
session...  or you get $250 credit towards any of our flagship programs.

Sure, guys will try to take advantage of this. But the only reason I’m doing this is to
show YOU that I’m serious about every promise you’re getting from me right now.

If you’re interested, then here’s how to apply for your free breakthrough session:

1. First, click the big button below and you’ll be redirected to an


application form. All we ask is you fill out a few questions so we can get to
know if you’re qualified for this session or not.

2. Once you submit your application, you’ll know instantly if you’re


approved or not. If you are approved, then we’ll send you a private link where
you can schedule a time that works for both of us to get on a call with you.

3. Then finally, on this call, we will walk you through your goals, your
biggest sticking points – then show you a proven path to becoming a “10 out of
10” man who gets the girls he wants in any situation.

You’re either thrilled with this session or we’ll give you $250 credit to any of our
flagship programs.

>>> YES, I WANT MY FREE BREAKTHROUGH SESSION NOW <<<


Limited Sessions Available – Apply Right Now!

And if we see you’re a motivated man who’s living your purpose, values women, and
takes responsibility for your life, then we might even invite you to join our exclusive
Total Ten program.

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This is where me and my team personally coach you on meeting fit, gorgeous,
intelligent women by becoming what we call a “10 out of 10” Man. And we’ll set you on
the right path in just 90 days or less.

This is an invite-only program that’s tough to get into. At the end of your
breakthrough session, if we deem you a good fit, we MAY invite you to join, so we can
transform your life and help you meet any girl you want naturally.

If you’re seeing this right now, then DO NOT WAIT. We have thousands of men
finding us online every single day and it’s not slowing down. We’re deciding to only
give away a small handful of these breakthrough sessions, which is why we have an
extensive application process just to get accepted for these sessions.

So if you’re ready to finally change your life, your ability to get women on demand,
and to overcome ALL your obstacles to becoming a 10 out of 10 man, then don’t wait
and click the button below now to schedule your session with us.

>>> YES, I WANT MY FREE BREAKTHROUGH SESSION NOW <<<


Limited Sessions Available – Apply Right Now!

Thank you for reading this guide. You can follow me on Instagram/Facebook
@MattArtisan

Cheers to your success,

Matt Artisan, Your Personal Dating Coach


CEO of TheAttractiveMan.com
Instagram: @MattArtisan

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P.S. Here’s just some of the results our clients are getting through our coaching
methods...

“I walked around a college campus for an hour. I talked to three good looking girls
and went home with two phone numbers. The ability to do this is already inside of
you, Matt just helps you pull it out. (*Results may vary.)”
J.P., Colombia

“I’m so confident now in my approach… I’m talking to women everywhere! And it’s
not just THAT, my confidence has gotten boosted in other aspects of my life as well. I
feel like a new man… seriously. (*Results may vary.)”
Chris Keith, Canada

“Not only do I have incredible confidence, gotten numbers from hot chicks, and
significantly decreased my approach anxiety, but I’m confident at work and
communicate better. (*Results may vary.)”
K.F., Austin

Don’t wait, schedule your call with us today.

>>> YES, I WANT MY FREE BREAKTHROUGH SESSION NOW <<<


Limited Sessions Available – Apply Right Now!

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