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Oxford House, Inc.

PRESIDENT
Each House shall have its own duly-elected President. The President must be a
resident of the particular house and shall serve a term not to exceed six months. A
resident may not serve as President for two consecutive terms, but may be elected to
President again six months after the completion of one term.

President's Duties:
• President will be responsible for calling a regular business meeting not less than
once per week. The President will preside over the meeting and will follow the
Oxford House Sample Meeting Agenda and basic parliamentary procedure.

• The President will have the duty of accepting responsibility for general leadership
within the house. Such leadership should include encouraging all house officers to
fulfill their duties and frequent AAlNA meeting attendance by all house members. In
addition, the President should stand ready to entertain any complaints from
members of the house as to general operation, personality conflicts, or events which
would affect the reputation of the house.

• The President, when present, will be responsible for calling and presiding over
emergency house meetings, particularly in regard to a house member's concerns of
possible alcohol or drug use by a resident.

• The President will be responsible for presiding over the process of interviewing
prospective new residents. In addition, unless otherwise delegated, the President
will be responsible for orienting new house members, including reading house rules,
filling out appropriate paperwork, and providing newcomer packets.

• The President will be one of the duly authorized officers designated to sign checks.
As an authorized check signer, the President will not have direct access to the
house checkbook.

• The President will represent the house at Chapter meetings. The President will vote
on behalf of the house and report the status of the house to the Chapter, including
providing a monthly financial status report and monthly activity report. The President
will be responsible for reporting to their house all decisions and business conducted
at each Chapter meeting.

" The President, Treasurer and Comptroller TOGETHER shall conduct a monthly
house account and audit report. The audit report results must be posted for the
entire house to examine and a monthly financial report submitted to the local
Chapter on a monthly basis.

• The President will be responsible for checking the house phone voicemail on a daily
basis, retrieving any house business-related calls, and addressing them
appropriately in a timely manner.
 Oxford House Traditions
1. Oxford House has as its primary goal the prevrsron of housing and
rehabilitative support for the alcoholic who wants to stop drinking or
using and stay stopped.

2. All Oxford Houses are run on a democratic basis. Our officers are but
trusted servants serving continuous periods of no longer than six
months in anyone office.

3. No Member of an Oxford House is ever asked to leave without cause - a

dismissal vote by the membership because of drinking, drug using, or
disruptive behavior.

4. Oxford House is not affiliated with Alcoholics Anonymous, organizationally

or financially, but Oxford House members realize that only active
participation in Alcoholics Anonymous offers assurance of continued
sobriety. -

5. Each Oxford House should be autonomous except in matters affecting

other houses or Oxford House, Inc., as a whole.

6. Each Oxford House should be financially self-supporting although

financially secure houses may, with approval or encouragement of
Oxford House, Inc., provide new or financially needy houses a loan for a
term not to exceed one year.

7. Oxford House should remain forever non-professional, although individual

members may be encouraged to utilize outside professionals whenever
such utilization is likely to enhance recovery from alcoholism.

8. Propagation of the Oxford House, Inc. concept should always be

conceived as public education rather than promotion. Principles should
always be placed before personalities.

9. Memberswho leave an Oxford House in good standing are encouraged to

become associate members and offer friendship, support, and example,
to newer members.
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OXFORD HOUSE
SAMPLE MEETING AGENDA (REGULAR MEETING)
1. CALL MEETING TO ORDER AT SPECIFIED TIME.

2. ROLL CALL BY SECRETARY

Determine excused and unexcused absences.

3. OPEN MEETING WITH A READING pF AN OXFORD HOUSE TRADITION EACH WEEK.

• Each Member can be asked to read a paragraph.

4. READ MINUTES OF LAST MEETING OR EMERGENCY MEETING. '

• Ask if there are any corrections orl additions.
• Ask for Motion to Accept as Read or Accept as Corrected if there are any additions
or corrections.

5. TREASURER'S REPORT

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All receipts, unpaid bills. and Hous check book(s) should be available at the Meeting
for all Members to review and comment. "
• Ask for corrections or additions to Finance Report
Ask for Motion to Accent as Read or Accept as Corrected

6. COMPTROLLER'S REPORT
Past due rent by Members may b~discUS5ed at this time.
• Motion to take Action may also be in order at this time.
• Bills owed, or future expenses she Id be presented and Motion made to allocate nec-
essary funds.
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7. COORDINATOR'S REPORT
• List each person's chore detail fer previous week and state completed.
Motion to Accept as Read or Accept as Corrected Coordinator's Report
List and Assign Next Weeks chore details ...

8. OLD BUSINESS
• Any business that was discussed previously.. Last week's New Business is this
Week's Olq Business. I
• Reports from Members assigned specific tasks at previous meeting( s).

9. NEW BUSINESS I,
• Any matters that have not been discussed previously.
• Any Member may bring up new busfness.
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Motions must be made to take action.
Assign specific Tasks to individual Members for follow-up on business not acted upon.

10. ADJOURNMENT
• President may.ask for a Motion to Adjourn
.• President may state: ... "If there is no further Business, this Meeting of Oxford House-
( ) is Adjourned"... I

An informal group meeting of individual sharing may follow. '

 OXFORD HOUSE
BASIC PARLIAMENTARY PROCEDURES

1. MAKE AN AGENDA AND FOLLOW IT.

Agenda should be available to all members before the start of the Meeting.

2. A MOTION IS A FORMAL PROPOSAL MADE IN A MEETING

• The lanquaqe by a Member is: ..."1 Move to ...."
• Requires a "Second" by another Member.
• All Motions are followed by Discussion
• To Close Discussion, a member may call for a Vote
• The President may limit the time for Discussion (i.e. 5 minutes)
• The President may call for a Vote by saying: .
..."If there is no further Discussion, all those in favor, all those opposed ..."
A Vote must be taken. No member should abstain.

3. ONCE AVOTE IS TAKEN AND ANNOUNCED, THE SUBJECT IS CLOSED.

• An Amendment (a change, substitution, or addition) to the original motion may be
formally made later to change a Motion.
• An Amendment requires a Second, a Discussion, and a Vote.

4. TABLING A MOTION.
After a Motion has been made, Seconded, but during Discussion it is decided that
further information or investigation is required a Motion is made to Table.
e Language: ..."1 move to table the motion until (Specific Time)...
• Requires a Second, and a Vote. '
There is no Discussion and the original Motion is Closed
• If the Tabling Motion is defeated, Discussion is again open on the original Motion,
or Vote is called for that Motion.

5. A MOTION IS DEAD IF THERE IS NO SECOND. MOVE ON TO THE NEXT SUBJECT.

6. EXPULSION OF A MEMBER FOR DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIOR REQUIRES:

• The disruptive Member must be present unless he/she refuses to attend.
• The disruptive Member can participate in the discussion
The disruptive Member has a right to vote.
o Carefully record reasons for expulsion and vote.

7. ALL MOTIONS MUST BE RECORDED IN THE MINUTES AND VOTES RECORDED.

• Example:
- A Motion was made by Bill W. to ... (record clearly what the motion was, how
much, or what action is to be taken by whom.).
- The Motion was Seconded by Harry J.
- The Motion was Passed by 6 yes, 1 no, 1 absent
• House Secretary must write (record) all Motions and Votes in the House Minutes
Book.
 Application For Membership In Oxford House
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1. Print Name (Last, First, Middle) 3. Date of Birth

Month Day Year

2. Present address (Street) Check jf treatment facility 0 4. Phone Where You Can Be Reached

Home ( ) -
City Slate Zip

Work ( )
5. Are you an Alcoholic? 6. Date of Your 9. Ust drugs you used addictively:
Last Drink?
DYes ONo

T. Ne you addicted to drugs? . 8. Date of last

DYes ONo drttguse?

10. When did you attend your first M or NA meeting? 11. How many AAJNA meeting do you now attend each
week? I

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12. Do .you wantto stop drinking alcohol and using addictive drugs? 13. Are you employed?
DVes D No DYes ONo If 'yes" who is your employer?

14. Are you getting welfare orother non-job related income? 15. If you do nol have a job will you get one?
D Yes 0 No If "'yes" what? DYes 0 No If "yes" What job plans do you have?

16. What is your monthlx income right now? 17. What do you expect your monthly income to be next
month?
$ $
18. Marital status [Check One] 19. Do you have a medical doctor?
D Married, 0 Never Married, 0 Separated, 0 Divorced DYes 0 No
If "yes" list the doctor's name and phone number.

20. Have you ever been to a treatment facility for alcoholism and/or drttg addiction? 21_ Do you take prescription drugs?
DYes D No If 'yes" list the treatment provider, phone number and primary D Ves D No If "yes' list drugs and reason the drug
counsellor, if any. has been prescribed.

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Please complete the other side of this application.
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22. Date of move in? 0 Immediately o Other - If "other" list the date you would want to move in, if accepted, and why the date is in the Mure
rather than immediately. Date: Reason:

23. Have you ever lived in an Oxford House before? DYes D No If "yes; provide the name and location of the Oxford House below and
answer question 24.

24. [Answer this question if the answer to question 23 was "yes."] I left the previous Oxford House for the following reason: [check one}

o relapse, 0 voluntarily, 0 other reason(s)

I, did 0 or do not 0 owe money to the Oxford House I left. If I did owe money to the Oxford House I left, I will agree to repay the money I owed to my
former Oxford House. 0 Yes D No

25. Emergency Telephone Numbers. [[List tami v doctor, if vou have one, + two family members or friends)
Name and Address Relationship Telephone

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2-

3-

26.I realize that the Oxford House to which I am applying for residency has been established in
compliance with the conditions of § 2036 of the Federal Anti-Drug Abuse Act of 1988, P.L. 100·690, as
amended, which provides that federal money loaned to start the house requires the house residents to
(A) prohibit all residents from using any alcohol or illegal drugs, (8) expel any resident who violates
such prohbition, (C) equally share household expenses including the monthly lease payment, among all
residents, and (D) utilize democratic decision making within the group including inclusion and expulsion
from the group. In accepting these terms, the applicant excludes himself or herself from the normal due
process afforded by local landlord-tenant laws.

27. Use this space for additional relevent infonnation:

I have read all of the material on this application form including the limitations set forth in item 26. I
28,
have also answered each question honestly and want to achieve comfortable recovery from alcoholism
and/or drug addiction without relaspe.
SIGNATURE: DATE:

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FOR USE BY OXFORD HOUSE
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MOVE OUT DAn;: ...

HOUSE KEYS RETURNED· 0 XES 0 NO OUTSTANDING DEBT TO HOUSE $' , .. DATE REPAID

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 INTERVIE ETIQUETTE

The interview process within your house is a very important part of getting and keeping your
house full and financially self-supporting.

Although each house is autonomous, there are suggested interview guidelines that each house
can follow. Your outreach worker can supply your house with a copy of these guidelines if you
do not have one.

Below are a few suggestions that can help to make the interview process a more comfortable
one for the house and the applicant.

• Have the application and pen ready with a quiet place for the applicant to sit and fill it
out.
• Introductions: Each individual will introduce themselves.
• Open with a brief explanation of the Oxford House concept.
• Show the 1160 Minutes" DVD. (Have house members sit and watch with applicant. This is
also a good time to pass around the application for members to review.)
• Have the House President read the application out loud, and address any missing
information.
• Have applicant speak briefly about him/herself.
• Conduct your Q & A time.
• Give a brief explanation of share of expenses, move-in fees, house expectations, chores,
fines, etc.
• Ask applicant if they have any questions for the house.

Once the interview is over, make sure you have a contact phone number where the applicant
can be reached. Explain that after they leave, the house members will discuss the interview
and vote. Let them know that someone (usually the House President) will call to say if they
have been accepted or not.

In the event that the applicant was not accepted and they question why, explain to them that
they did not get an 80% vote from the House members - then refer them to another house.
 SUGG~srED OXFORD HOUSE INTERVIEW QUESTIONS
Open by havingthe house presidentread theappllcatton out loud and address any missing information .
.Briefly explain the Oxford House concept, and show the ~'60Minutes" DVD. Have each resident introduce
themselves, and then conduct your Q & A time~·

NOTE TO INTERVIEWERS:

DO: Listen, share briefly about yourself, put the person at ease; and 'askquestions if you.
Want ,more information,': \ . .. . . ".. . . . .

DON'T Give adviceaboiit their recovery, di~~uss anythingrelat~dt~h6usebusinessoran6ther

. rrierrib~r's' ~roblemsl lgnorelt if someone is unsure abq~t th~'irclean date, or dlscuss
sexual preferenced;oliticsorrelhiion'-,:\ . .

L:, Tell us a littlE!abbutyourself::,<'

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2; How didyO~ g~tto t:t1i~p~inti~YQurrecoyery?~,: ~,. .,
. 3;H6,wdbY~~,Je~l~b~J.Jt yoJr gddh:tiqn?'(Pro~e for denlal.> do they accept the disease concept- anger

. .. 4. ~~~~isgJ%r'~'~~;f~'?r~G:~~iCY';:
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S','o6you go'to'M.iNA:~e~tin·gs? Whatstep ar~,YQ~cLJrfently working on, ifanyi. ".'.
'.;··~'.:'Pd'~6~H~Q~~c~pdri'~9~?Yfri·bf;~iiIYo~ge{~ri~~~thi~30 days?;;:: ', ' .
.' 7.·H~ve you'iCientifleq y'our ';~laPs~ trigg~rs~ If sq,,'I!hat_are,they? .. '. . . .,.... .. '
':'8~' :c~rlYhti.t~uts;any~.~hati.drs:Ydu'mjght,,~Xhitli.t that; WOljldJndicate' vou are headed. t6wardsa relapse? ..
. ",' ·'N,We~~~~'the~~'b~h~~l~r~;·i~'Yb~:~ouldy~~ccirl1pIYWith'~h~~se contract to address these behaviors?
..' 9:.,.Wha.ti~yourJotl'~histbfY?'D9,.youha"t= ·~.•. prOf¢~~id~/'tradeor skill? Do you.havk a re-entry plan?' . .
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.•. 'D()youpa"~'~n~~hg~Vprbbi~m?:lfsotwhat ~iov6k:e~t6e.anger? (Askthem to' name something that
....'.•.:'w6uid'make1:he~'·a~kty.p~obefo~!~ggressi~~behavior; phYSicalanddornesticviol~l1ce~ lsolatlon.) .'
.Ha~e:you'everatt~ndedang:etITlar1agen,~I11:.i~';;:;:;;'::-~':" .'. ..'.....".....•....' ...•.......
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.',.11~H9wd.qy~~.f~ela,boJ.ltgrdJ~jivi~~? }iey~~'~hri,patiblevvith·most people? Are YOll willing to work
. wi~h.others? ,:C'. " . '. ):-,:: ,< '"

-,12. Are youin\folved ln a r'elationship(significantother, children, etc.)? ',' •. -;:",'

.. 13. Are You.inyolvedipanYrE?l~tiO!1$hjpstha~'may ~~'pot:entially disruptive to the 'house?:
14. Are you on a~y rrledi~atiot1s? Ifs~, wliat? Ifyou are on narcotics, is your doctor aware of your
addiction? (Explain the house policy on medication.)
15. Tell us about your 'legal pr~blen1s.· .
a. How many times have you been in jail
b. How long? For what? .:,
c. Dovou have any legal charges pending? TrIals? Sentencing?
d. Are you currently on probation? If so, for what?
e. How did your addiction relate to your illegal activities?
 SUGGESTED OXFORD HOUSE INTERVIEW QUESTIONS
f. At what age did it start> (Probe for criminal mentality - does crime precede addiction?
Frequency of institutionalization?)
16. Are you a registered sex offender?
17. Can you handle being confronted in a constructive manner?
18. Can you confront others in a constructive manner?
19. Do you have any prejudice issues (racial, sexual, etc)?
20. Would you have any problems performing chores (disabilities, grass cutting, etc)?
21. What do you feel you can offer Oxford House?
22. What can Oxford House offer you?
23. Why do you want to live in an Oxford House?
24. Scenario: You and your roommate become friends. One day your roommate tells you they have had a
bad day (got fired from their job, lost their girlfriend/boyfriend, death in the family, etc). They need to
unwind a little and they just took one hit or drink, but they are so sorry and promise to never do it
again. They really want to continue to live in Oxford House, and know they will be evicted if anyone
finds out, so they ask you to please keep this a secret. How would you handle this situation?
25. Explain the house guidelines. Go over probationary period, meeting attendance requirements, and
house meetings dates and times. Make sure they understand that house meeting attendance is
mandatory.
26. Explain Chapter and Housing Service Committee meetings, dates and times, and rotation. Make them
aware of your houses attendance expectations.
27. Explain officer positions and the houses expectation to fulfill them. (It's a good idea to let them know
there are "outside" duties as welL) Ask them if they have any disabilities that would prevent them from
fulfilling a position (unable to read, do math, etc).
28. Explain the move-in cost (non-refundable move in fee/alumni gift and advance rent). Explain the
weekly rent amount, date and time the rent is due, and expectation to be current on rent at all times.
29. If accepted, when could they pay rent and move in?
30. Explain the voting procedures of accepting a new member (80%) and that the house will call them as
soon as possible (no longer than 24 hours) to let them know if they are accepted or not and the terms
of their probation contract if they are accepted. Make sure you have a good number to reach them.
31. Thank them, ask if they have any questions, and show them around.
32. Inform them they will receive a call from the House President regarding the status of their application.
 OXFORD HOUSES
WORKING WITH THE NEW MEMBER

I. The Greeting

II. The Interview (video and interview questions)

III. Notification of acceptance

(It is best to contact the individual immediately after the meeting and no later than ealiy
the next day)

IV. Newcomers Packet

1. Medical Release Form

2. House expectations
3. Manual
4. Any other helpful Info I.e.; bus schedule, meeting schedule etc.
5. Some houses ask for a written plan of recovery
6. 10 Insights for New Members
7. Any house specific guidelines for new members

V. The "Buddy" system

(Houses should assign a specific individual as a "buddy")

1. Go over House expectations or rules and manual
2. Show them around and their designated room, refrigerator, cupboards etc.
3. Help them get settled in and familiar with house organization and filling out
forms.
4. Take them to 12 step meetings and introduce them around

VI. Getting The Newcomer Involved

1. Explain Offices
2. Review Chores
3. ChaDter Newcomers Orientation
 10 Insights For The New Member
1. Oxford House is a missing link in the recovery process. It provides
the time and support each of us need to develop comfortable
sobriety.

2. It works only if the Oxford House system of democratic operations is

followed and the system of financial self-support is strictly followed.
Learn the Oxford House Manual and the nine Oxford House
traditions ..

3. House meetings take place once every week. Attend every weekly
meeting. The reason for weeks house meetings is to make the
house run smoothly. The weekly meeting is the place to resolve
disputes among the "family" and a place to work together to keep
recovery at the heart of all house operations.

4. Pay your share of expenses on time. Put first things first. Old
behavior put our rent last. New behavior puts it first; otherwise each
of us feels lousy and the house can fail.

5. Pride that is earned is worthwhile but false pride causes conflict. A

house where all the residents work with each other to gain
comfortable sobriety is one that generates worthwhile pride.

6. Open finances of the house helps to overcome the suspicion we all

have in early recovery. The house finances should be discussed at
each meeting and posted openly for everyone to see.

7. Do household chores on time. You may be the coordinator someday

and others will do unto you as you did to them.

8. Don't isolate, loneliness and self-pity lead many of us back to

drinking or using drugs.

9. Go to a lot of twelve-step meetings. AA and NA attendance is a good

habit to develop to make behavior change comfortable and to gain
comfortable sobriety - forever.

10. Blow the whistle on any member who relapses. The house can lose
its charter if the resident who uses alcohol or drugs -in or out of the
house - is not expelled immediately.
 Oxford House
New Member

My Plan for Recovery

Name: Date: _

My Plans for Follow Up In Recovery: _

If enrolled in an Aftercare Program, my plans for attendance: _

I do__ do not __ have a sponsor at this time. If you do not, how soon can you obtain

a sponsor? _

I plan to attend. ~AAlNA meetings per week?

I am using book for my Daily Meditation?

I understand that if I drink or use in or out of this house, I will be expelled immediately.

Signature: Date: _

House Officer: Date:

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House Officer: Date: _
 Oxford Houses
Emergency Medical Information Release Form
This form is to be used for emergency medical use only:

Name: Age: _

Date of Birth: Blood Type: _

Primary Physician: Phone # _

Hospital or Clinic: ----------------

Insurance: _

Allergies: _

Medications: _

Medical History (major surgeries, contracted diseases, hereditary health problems,

etc ...):

In Case of Medical Emergency Contact:

1) Name: Phone _

2) Name: Phone _

3}Name: Phone _

I hereby give my consent for emergency medical treatment:

Signature: Date: _
 Oxford House
House Member Property List
Name. _

House President
Date Property of House Member Initials
 Sample Guidelines for Expulsion From an Oxford H<HJse
(0 compilation from several Oxford House Sources)

It is the mission of the ehapter to ensure that each Oxford l-leuse is providing Q -safe haven· for reeovery.
The primary vehicle for ensuring a safe haven for recovery is by enforcing the importance of living tJll to
chor-rers granted to member houses by Oxford House.Tnc,

In keeping with the Oxford House, Inc. tradition, Chapter One, Washington, DC acknowledges that the
following acts are grounds for- immediate expulsion:

1. A relapse into the use of alcohol or drugs

2. The failure to pay any fees (rent, fines, etc.) owed.
3. The exhibition of disroptive behavior

For the purpose of General Rules of Expulsion, the following definition of "Disruptive Behavior' is used:

Disruptive behavior includes participating in any criminal activity such as drug trafficking. prostitution,
shop-fifting. «SSQIJ1t, am;f tlleft within the house or any other activi1y, which may -threaten the standing
of the Oxford House in the community. In addition, violence or MY threat of violence or destnJCtion of '
property ore considered disruptive behavior.

Exhibitions of any part of the above definition of disruptive behaVior by members of chartered Oxford
Houses should. without question. result in immediate expulsion.

Suggested Guidelines for Expulsion

1. Members who relapse or refuse to pay rent, or are guilty or the above definition of disruptive behavior
must be expelled as quickly as the house deems appropriate (a 51 per cent vote of all house members is needed
for expulsion). In the case of behavioral problems. houses should institute systems of fines. probations or
warnings.

If there are repeated behavioral offenses and the house. by democratic vote, deems the behavioral acts of
the member Inconducive to recovery in the Oxford tradition, then dismissal procedures could take place.
These procedures could include giving a two-week notice and refund of security deposit. Unused rent is always
returned to members who are expelled for whotever reason. .

2. Any house member who feels he/she is being unfairly asked -to leave an Oxford House. may. within the two-
week period prior to leaving, appeal to the Chapter Housing Service Committee to trediate the dispute. The
Chapter Housing Service Committee will then suggest a solution fo the full committee for a vote.

It should be emphasized that if at all possible internal conflicts should be worked out at the House level and
brought to the Chapter Housing Service Comtnrltee only as a last resort.

Disruptive behavior versus behavioral problems

The Scribner Engli1h Dictionary defines disruptiw: ~ to breek or to break llpilrt. Behavior. as the most general
word. applies to our G.ction in the presence of others. Prob!em is defined as a difficult matter to be setTled or
a qu~til," set forth for solution or discussion.

It .seems each house decides. based on the healthiness of the recovery in the house, what constitutes a
behaviorol problem and whnT is disruptive..
Mar.y chapters and state associations have established guidelines for disruptive behavior that constitute
possible expulsion, but some individuals in houses still make up their own self-serving roles.

A behavioral problem connected to the process of recovery can be as mundane as a result of an incomplete
chore or as significant as isolation; in the midst of the psychological trauma of the fourth step; a personality
conflict with another member; an unhealthy relationship; and any part of our old behaviors.

Change is a vital part of a healthy recovery. Change does not imply the other individual but you. Each of US is
at our own level of growth and acceptance - "Live and Let Live" The one personality defect that we can control
is our attrtude. We often hear the old adage of drinking of life from a haft empty ora haft full cup. Shifting
the focus on someone else's behavior leaves us void of honesty about ourselves. If you take the "me" out of
blame, all you have is bla, blc, bla. The only inventory we should be concerned with is our own.

Oxford is intended to act as a surrogate family and a support system, neither a treatment program nor a
dictatorial entity. We have no bosses in Oxford House. It does not mean that someone is not an important
part of the family if for some reason their behavior does not coincide with you. Oxford House should be a safe
haven. We must always put principles before personality. The welfare of the entire house and the principles of
our tradition should come first. Many of us choose to use a 12-step program. This teaches us that service to
other alcoholics and addicts is a vital part of our own recovery. What greater opportunity could we have that
helping a l"Oomma1e explore solutions to their behavioral problem? We have seen many individuals turn their
lives around while living in an Oxford House.

Suggested Guidelines for Behavior Modification

N.any houses use a contract; fines, and revocation of certain privileges or probation when some one displays
repeated behaviors that could be construed as dlsrup+ive to the house as a whole.

An example of revoking special privileges might be for someone who doesn't clean up after themselves in the
kitchen or laundry area would lose the use of the kitchen or laundry areas for one week. Fines could be for
non-completion of a chore or a late fee for tardy rent. A contract might be used after warnings or previous
discussion about a certain behavior that is disrupting the serenity of the house or is putting the individuaJ in
jeopardy of relapse.

The members of the house should write out the offending behaviors and the individual under contract writes
the means by which they will take to correct it. The contract is intended as a tool to aid the offender, not as a
punishment.

Definitions of Relapse

Relapse can come in different forms - the easiest one to deal with is the "for sure" relapse when a member
comes in obviously intoxicated or high on dnJ9S and admits relapse. Because there is no denial to deal with, the
other members have the time to concentrate on getting help for this resident. However, there are more
difficult types of relapse - many relapses can only be discerned by looking at behavior change - late payment
of rent - lapse in doing chores - argumentative or isolating behaviors - are all warning signs. Remember to
keep principles above personalities and think with your head and not your heart.

Another form of relapse is misusing prescription or over the counter drugs. Drugs must be taken according to
prescriptions or directions and residents who are getting prescriptions should inform the doctor of his/her
addict status.

Another form of relapse is when a member is usinq and others know about it and do not blow the whistle - in
this case, oJl who are using and all who knew about it are considered a relapse.
 OXfORD HOUSE MEMBER CONTRACT

FOR

DISRUPTIVE ANDIOR RELAPSE BEHAVIORS AND/OR PATTERNS

House Name and Location:

length of Contract:

Member under Contract

This contract represents our concern and responsibilitY as Oxford House members. To help you help
yourself, we have observed: ' .

Behaviors andJor Pattems:

1.

2.

3.

Contract Terms

Step1
Step2 _

Step3 ~ ~ _

Step4~---------------------------------------------------------

I. • acknowledge and accept full responsibility for my plan

. of recovery as outlined In this contract. Being fully aware if I am found negllgent of said terms as outlined
above, during any tlme of contract length, I am subject to Immediate expulsion from this Oxford House,
as well as possible future Oxford House membership.

Dated this day of '

SIgnature
We, your housemembers and roommates, friends in and for recovery for life, are wiling to go to any length
with you, not for you.

President: Members:

Treasurer:

Secretary:

comptroller:

C oordin a tor:
 Oxford House Member Contract for Disruptive Behavior

House:

Member under Contract:

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This contract is designed to help you help yourself. As your housemates, we have observed the following behaviors and/or
patterns that are disrupting the smooth operation of this House.
Disruptive Behaviors:

2.

use additional paper if necessary

. The House is asking that you modify your behavior in the following ways in order to best facilitate your recovery and the
recovery of everyone in the house.
Specific Behavior Changes..'

2.

3.

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This contract will be reviewed at each regular house meeting for its' duration and may be modified at any time by a
majority vote of the Housemembership.

Thirty days from the beginning of the contract. the House membership will vote to either:
1. conclude the contract satisfactoriiy and retain the member
2. expel the member for disruptive behavior-
3. extend and/or modify the contract and continue it

I acknowledge and accept full responsibility for my plan of recovery as outlined in this contract, I understand and accept
that this contract may be modif'1ed by a majority vote of the membership and that failure to comply with the terms of this
contract may result in my expulsion from this Oxford House.

Signature I Date

We your bousemetes and brothers/sisters in recovery are wi/fing to go to any length with you, but not for you.

Signature I Date

Signature Date

Signature Date

Signature Date

S\gnotur~ Date

_Signature Date
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Signature __

Week t Review:

Week 2 Review:

Week 3 Review:

Week 4 Review:

Contract ended on Date:

Action Taken:

Arlcfitinnal C:ommPl1t~~
 BOUNDARIES .... and WHAT IS and IS NOT ACCEPTABLE

'WE HAVE NO BOSSES IN OXFORD HOUSE"

IT IS NOT OKAY TO:

1. VERBALLY ATTACK ANOTHER PERSON, EITHER BY RAISING YOUR VOICE OR MAKING SARCASTIC
REMARKS TOWARD THAT PERSON
2. PUT ANOTHER PERSON DOWN. EXPRESSION OF INNAPPROPRIATE CRITICISM TOWARD A PERSON'S
MORAL BEHAVIOR, APPEARANCE, CLOTHES, FRIENDS, ETC.,
3. TAKE SOMEONE ELSES INVENTORY, UNLESS YOU ARE CONCERNED THAT PERSON IS EXHIBITING
RELAPSE BEHAVIOR. RELAPSE CONCERNS ALL OF US
4. SHAME OR FRIGHTEN ANY OF US BY CROSSING THE BOUNDARIES WE HAVE SET FOR OURSELVES
5. PLACE BLAME ON SOMEONE ELSE FOR YOUR BEHAVIOR OR FEELINGS. WE MUST TAKE
RESPONSIBILITY FOR OUR OWN ACTIONS AND FEELINGS.
6. THROW OBJECTS, SLAM DOORS, STOMP AROUND, CALL NAMES, OR PHYSICALLY ATTACK IN ANGER.
RAGING OUT OF CONTROL FRIGHTENS AND TRAUMATIZES EVERYONE AROUND YOU, AND IS NOT
ACCEPTABLE.
7. ISOLATE
8. HOLD RESENTMENTS TOWARD HOUSE MEMBERS WHICH CAUSE COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN AND
OR TENSION. AND DISRUPTIVE BEHAVIOR IN HOUSE MEMBERS. (IF PERSONALITY CONFLICTS CANNOT BE
RESOLVED BY THE PERSONS DIRECTLY INVOLVED, THEY SHOULD BE BROUGHT TO THE HOUSE AS A
WHOLE.)
9. TO ATTEMPT TO MANIPULATE OR CONTROL OTHERS TO MEET YOUR EXPECTATIONS THROUGH
GOSSIP, AGGRESSIVENESS OR SELF-JUSTIFICATION.
10. NO SPANKING, HITTING, OR YELLING AT THE CHILDREN. THEY ARE PRECIOUS AND VALUABLE PEOPLE
TOO, AND DESERVE OUR MUTUAL RESPECT.
11. IF A PARENT CANNOT CONTROL A DISRUPTIVE CHILD WITHIN 10 MINUTES THE PARENT MUST TAKE
THE CHILD TO HER RESPECTIVE ROOM, OR TO A LESS POPULATED AREA UNTIL THE CHILD HAS CALMED
DOWN.

IT IS OKAY AND ACCEPTABLE TO:

1. BE PATIENT AND TOLERANT. EACH OF US ARE AT OUR OWN LEVEL OF GROWTH. PRACTICE
ACCEPTANCE. uLlVE AND LET LlVE~
2. TO SHARE POSITIVE ATTITUDES AND FEELINGS TOWARDS OTHERS
3. TO RECOGNIZE ACHIEVMENTS AND GROWTH IN OTHERS.
4. SHARE YOUR PROGRAM AND LISTEN TO OTHERS.
5. TO HAVE PERSONAL QUIET TIMES AND PRIVACY
6. TO LAUGH AT YOUR MISTAKES.
7. TO DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD LIKE THEM DONE UNTO YOU.

"OxforU Houses provide the addicted individual the opportunity to change their behaviors"
Paul Molloy-Founder, OXford House Inc.
 GUEST EXPECTATIONS

** YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR GUESTS AT ALL TIMES ...lF NEED
BE, ASK ANOTHER MEMBER TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR GUEST

** NO GUEST IS ALLOWED IN AN OXFORD HOUSE WHILE UNDER THE

INFLUENCE OF ILLEGAL DRUGS OR ALCOHOL.

** NO GUESTS ARE ALLOWED TO STAY IN THE HOUSE WHILE YOU ARE

NOT PRESENT. ALL GUESTS LEAVE WITH YOU UNLESS OTHER
ARRANGEMENTS HAVE BEEN MADE WITH THE HOUSE!!!

**GO OVER HOUSE EXPECTATIONS & CURFEW WITH YOUR GUEST

**IF YOU HAVE A ROOMATE, YOU MUST PRE-ARRANGE WITH THEM

BEFORE HAVING AN OVERNIGHT GUEST

**PLEASE BE COURTEOUS AND INFORM THE HOUSE WHEN HAVING AN

OVERNIGHT GUEST

**CONFIDENTIALITY--NO HOUSE BUSINESS IS TO BE DISCUSSED OUTSIDE

THE HOUSE, OR, IN FRONT OF GUESTS

**IF YOUR GUEST IS DISRUPTIVE IN THE HOUSE AND, IT AFFECTS THE

SERENITY OF THE HOUSE AS A WHOLE, IT WILL BE BROUGHT TO THE
HOUSE MEETING OR AN EMERGENCY MEETING WILL BE CALLED TO
HAVE A MAJORITY VOTE TO EXPEL THAT PERSON FROM THE HOUSE.
o us ,IN e

1010 WAYNE AVENUE, SUITE 400

SILVER SPRINGS, MARYLAND 20910
1-800-689-64 t 1

ME 0
TO: All Oxford House Residents

FROM: Oxford House, Inc.

We have had several inquiries to our office as to the policy

concerning long term (more than two weeks) or permanent
use of prescribed narcotics by our residents.

Any member prescribed narcotics by a Physician must have

a letter from hisJherdoctor acknowledging that they are aware
that their patient is a recovering alcoholic or drug addict and
that, in their professional opinion, there is"no alternative or
suitable non-narcotic pain medication for their condition. The
letter should also state the lengt~ of time the patient should
be on their prescribed medicine.

In addition, the group conscience of the House must determine

if the presence of narcotics in the house might trigger or have
a negative effect on their own recovery and vote accordingly,
keeplnq in mind that we are a zero tolerance program.
 Oxford House Inc.

Frequently asked Questions from Oxford Houses:

Q. When an emergency meeting Is held to vote on expulsion of a member for usIng or d\s\'UptWe be1\a"itot,
does the member tn question have a right to attend the meeting and vote?

A. Yes,in a democraU~81/Yrun Oxford House, ererrmember has the right to vote, even If they
ere suspected 01breaking house rules. Emergencymeetin{§ should nol be held without tho
member In question belngpresent {unless, of course. thIs member cannot be found withIn a
reasonable time J.

Q. Does Oxford House, Inc.ts status of being a "tax exempt" non-profit mean that IndMdual
Oxford Houses don't have to pay state sales tax on house purchases?

A. No, a/l state taxes hare to be paid on house purchases. 7ax-exempl" In the case of Oxford
House means that Oxford toe: does not have to PilY federal taxes on Income they receive to start
Oxford Houses and that contributions to Oxford Houses or OxfiJrr/ House Inc. are considered tax
tkductible by the IRS.

Q. Can the house keep an expelled member's belongings in return for unpaid rent or other
expenses?

A. No, houses can/1{J/legallrkeep belongings In /Jell 81unpaid hills. T1Je $JOtIs should be
kep/ln a safe ptsce and If not picked up within a reaso/Ub/e amount of time, a certified retum
receipt requested Jetter should be sent /0 /he JndMdual or his/her family gMnlf them a Hme (at
leas/two weeks) when the ,foods will be gIven away to a non';Jloflt or,fanizaUon such as Goodwill
or the SalvatIon Army If not picked up_ The certttied letter will protect houses if an expelled
member decides to sue for the belongings.

Q. What If a zoning Inspector from the city shows up at our door? 00 we let him/her In?

A~ Politely ask the inspector to call the telephone number of the Oxford Inc. office -
301/587·291 G belDTS tltey do an Inspection 01 Me house.
Q. What If our houser~lves a oocument stating that our house Is being sold or roredosM7

A. Call Oxford House, Ine. on the loll-Iree number (1-800-689-6411) and the otttce will
advise you on how to proceed.

Q. If our house Is moving to another location or shutting down, can we use the security deposit
as the last month's rent?

A. No. the landlord IS security deposIt Is meant to COYerdamages to the house only -Itts
never to be consIdered as rental payment unless the landlord agrees to thIs an-angement -In
writlq ..after the walk-through InspecUon Is completed.

Q. Can Residents have locks on their bedroom doors?

A. No.1Boarding houses bave locks on doors because people rent rooms and do not participate
In the managing of the house directly. Oxford Houses are run by the residents and behave I/k~
families. TheresIdents share the entire house. By locks, we mean dead bolts, hasps, ./
padlocks or other heary duty hardware of thIs type. This does not mean the hardware that Is
part of a doorknob fDr privacy, such as bathrooms.

Q. How much time must elapse before a relapser can return to a house?

A, TheManual suggested that members should not be readmitted until there Is a clear
demoDStration that be/she has retumed to solid sobriety. Each house develops its own rules
01what constitutes IIsolld sobriety. " Some accept successful compleUon of a rehabilitation
program,. others require at least a month of no drinking or drugging and relflllar attendance at
12 step meetings as requirements for reacceptance Into a house.

Q. Can a resident be put on a contract?

A. ThisIs a hous« croup consclence~ but should only be used as a last resort to help a person to
chance nsgatlY8 b8harlon. The hOUS8 must vote, Including the person In question, and th8
terms should be documented In the minutes and with the person in question. Contracts are
strictly a matter between the house and Its members. Oxford House Inc. does not baWl a
posttlon on contrscts: TOUGHLOVE WORK$.

Q. Does the President of a house have a vote?

A. Yes, lire President pays an equal share of rent and lias an equal rote like all other residents.
 OXFORD HOUSE, INC.
FINANCIAL SERVICES OFFICE

Q: Can Oxford Houses have Bocks on inside doors?

A: The simple answer is NO. There are no Jocks on doors inside the House,
1. Boarding Houses have locks on doors. The client of a boarding house rents a
room and a bed. He rents his room for a specified or limited time, month to
month. week to week. He does not share in any of the actfvitfSs of the house,
He does not help manage the house. Most of all he or she has no reason to
care or be concemed about whom else lives or shares the HoUSS'.,

2. Oxford Houses are self-run and self-supporting families i,..

recovef)(--. There--
should be no reason to lock doors against fellow members of the fami~

3. We know that isolation. loneliness and depression am symptom$. of oue

disease and therefore we seek to be open and forthcoming with all members
of our House. A change in behavior and a sudden desire to be away from the
activities of the House is a sure sign of trouble and one. whfdl we all
recognize.

4. By locks we do not mean the type of hardware integra. to the dOOrknob and
commonly found on bathroom and bedroom doors. These locks are deSigned
for temporary "privacy", but are not designed to impede entry In tnen:!Verif-ot
fire or emergency.

5. By locks we mean dead bolts, hasps, padlocks and other hardware systems
designed to keep the guys out in the old neighborhood. This type of
hardware is normally locked when the member leaves the room. Youdo not
lock your bedroom door when you leave the House. You are a member of an
Oxford House. You have been voted into an Oxford House'- Yo(fdfcfnofrent
a room or a bed when you joined the House. You joined an Oxford family.

6. A lock can of course be placed on a cupboard. closet. or storage area. if the

House feels that the House records, the House check book or other House
documents or valuables belonging to an absent member should be kept
secure.

7. An Oxford House is very similar to a church. You voluntarily became a

member of the church but membership does not give you rights to the pew
you sit in. As in a church, you abide by the rules of the House. You can be
asked to leave if you do not comply with the wishes of the majority of the
members. You don't lock your pew when you leave, but if you sit in it tong
enough they may put your name on it!
 Good accounting practices keep your
house and its individuals healthy.
~·4: Does everyone participate in house
and chapter activities or do they just
use your house for cheap living? Do
you participate in regular
presentations to the treatment centers
and agencies?
5. Are you adhering to the three basic
Oxford charter rules? Is everyone
HOUSE CHECK-UP paying his or her share on time? Is
you house a zero tolerance for alcohol
As summer comes to a close, all houses and drugs, including prescribed
need to check their status. Each member narcotics? Does everyone participate
of the house should read this and take in the decision making for your house?
positive action. Remember we have no bosses and
each resident's vote is equally
1. How is_Jheoutside of your house? Is important.
it the best in the neighborhood or at 6. Are your house files and notebooks in
least one of the best? Are the lawns good order? Are all your forms in
and shrubs trim. leaves raked, weeds order?
gone. and all unnecessary junk 7. Do you make new members feel
removed? You have several adults in welcome by walking them through all
your home. probably more than your the house guidelines and physical
neighbors and this is the first aspects of cupboards, refrigerator,
impression people have of Oxford etc? Have you tried the "buddy"
House..•~nd.Jts residents. system?
2. It is time to repaint, wash walls, and 8. Is everyone anending your weekly
really deep clean everything inside. A house meetings? Are you rushing
thoroughly clean house makes for a through the meeting or do you allow
healthy environment physically and time for the democratic process to
mentally. Does your house need work? Do you allow ample time to
maintenance, caulking bathrooms, hold a "How Goes It- or processing?
replacing broken hardware, This has proven to be one of the
shampooing carpets, ete? Take care critical aspects of a stress free home.
of your home. 9. Do your house members make
3. Are your house finances in good order recovery, attltude. and behavior
and following the Oxford House change a focus by practicing the
guidelines? Is your loan current? This principles in all their affairs? Oxford
repayment makes it possible for other house is a privilege for recovery not
houses to open. Does the house cheap digs for dysfunctional people.
insure the safety of its funds by
signing authorized checks (all house If you are experiencing difficulties in any
members voted) at the house meeting of these areas, contact your housing
only; by giving receipts for all income; service chairman or outreach
by completing a monthly audit when representative for suggestions on
your bank statement arrives; and by improvement. We can ALL make the time
sharing all bills and receipt to clean up and sharpen up our homes
expenditures at your meeting? Do and our lives for a better chance at long
you use a 2-key lock box for your term recovery. Oxford house is
checkbook and petty cash? We trust RECOVERY. RESPONSIBILITY, and
everyone but not their addiction. REPLICATION.
City: Zip Code: Day and Time of House Business Meeting:

Phone Number: Email Address:

President

Treasurer

Comptroller

Secretary

Coordinator

H.S.C. Rep

H.S.C. Rep Alt.

Member

Member

Member

Member

Member

Amount of rent owed to landlord for current month: _ Amount of rent paid to landlord for current month: _

Are all financial obligations paid in full [YES/NO]? If not, list what is owed and to whom: _

Amount of World Services dues payment: Amount of Revolving Loan Payment _

Did House Secretary log on to website, www.oxfordhouse.org/update, & update house data & vacancies at least once per week
[YES/NO]? _

Did House Secretary check the house email account [YES/N01 ? How often? _

Did House President check the house voicemail daily [YES/NO]? _

list any repairs needed to your house. Discuss any contact with landlord regarding these issues.

MONTHLY HOUSE REPORT-VERSION MARCH 2010 Page 1 of 2

 House Status [How is your House doing?]

l_c_o_m_p_le_t_ed_BY_: I_D_a_t_e: ---"

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 Reconcile your House checking account every month. This form should be completed in duplicate. Keep
one copy for your House records and one copy should be submitted to the Chapter at the regular monthly
Chapter Meeting.

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The Beginning Balance should be equal to the House ending balance from the prior month
The Subtotal should be brought over to page 2

These two amounts should be equal

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PRESIDENT: DATE:

TREASURER: DATE:

COMPTROLLER: DATE:
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