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The definition of anger How anger affects you physically Understanding anger payoffs How anger can affect relationships How to deal with angry feelings effectively Steps to take to prevent an angry outburst
[1] Anger is an emotional state that may range from minor irritation to intense rage. The physical effects of anger include increased heart rate, blood pressures, etc. [2] Some view Anger as part of the fight or flight brain response to the perceived threat of pain. [3] Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force.
Raging
Angry
Furious
Mad
Upset
Enraged
Irritated
Bristling
Irate
Outraged
Seething
Danger!
Danger!
Danger!
Theres nothing wrong with occasional, moderate anger. It creates no lasting harm. But chronic, sustained anger can be a serious problem. By keeping the body in a constant state of emergency, chronic anger can contribute to hypertension, heart disease, and increased mortality from all causes (McKay & Rogers, 2000, p. 10).
Anger Payoffs
Why express anger? Everyone releases anger in their own way to meet their own needs.
Expressing anger might allow you to manipulate and control others through aggressive and intimidating behavior. Expressing anger releases tension. Expressing anger can reduce stress. Expressing anger can hide emotional pain. Expressing anger gets attention. Expressing anger can be used for punishment and revenge.
People who are around the angry person tend to shut down in order not to anger that person.
Others get their feelings hurt. Other people become defiant, become indifferent, avoid you, or lose respect for the angry person.
Communication is a two-way process. In successful communication, the sender is clear and accurately conveys the message he is trying to send, then the receiver clearly understands the message. Miscommunication occurs if the sender does not send a clear message or the receiver does not understand the message being sent by the sender.
How to deal with angry feelings effectively Identify the emotional baggage
from childhood issues. Take steps to establish real communication skills.
The following are some steps you can take to prevent an angry outburst:
Think of situations that provoke anger and plan a coping response for these in advance.
(McKay & Rogers, pp. 71-82)