This a a presentation on how to use art to help children heal from the death of a loved on, using art therapy techniques, for parents or professionals.
This a a presentation on how to use art to help children heal from the death of a loved on, using art therapy techniques, for parents or professionals.
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This a a presentation on how to use art to help children heal from the death of a loved on, using art therapy techniques, for parents or professionals.
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Good Grief Helping children grieve Objectives • Recognize how children grieve over the death of a loved one. • Learn how to use art to help children identify and express their feelings of grief. • Learn specific examples of the arts for healing… – Quilt-making –Writing – Drawing –Painting –Collage Good Grief Wk. 1 • Why the name “Good Grief?” Good Grief Wk.1 • Introductions & Icebreakers – Confidentiality explained – Group rules discussed Grief defined • Grief is….different for everyone, no right or wrong way to grieve.
• Grief is not a mountain to be climbed,
• With the strong reaching the summit long before the weak,
• Grief is not an athletic event,
• With the stop watches timing our progress,
• Grief is a walk through loss and pain,
• With no competition and no time trials,
• Grief is like peeling an onion in your own unique way,
• Ahead of you lies more peeling and more walking through your pain, • Learning to adjust to life as it is now, Remembrance quilts – Each child tells who they lost, their age and name. – Martha begins the quilt making project. – Photos are brought in and layed-out. – Children have a safe, non-verbal activity. • Photos allow kids to begin to confront powerful grief feelings in the group setting, as a show and tell, an idea they are familiar with. • Our stories are shared informally, as they work on designing their quilts. Good Grief Wk.1- 2 • We begin by sharing our stories aloud, honoring our loved ones, reminiscing – Each child briefly tells who died in their family. – Quilt making Good Grief Wk.3
• Mister Rogers “Talking about the unmentionable makes it
manageable.”
• Our goal is to begin to unpack the heavy load of grief that
each child carries, making the road ahead a little easier. • The first step is going into detail about what happened to them, their story is told. • Hellen Keller “The world is full tremendous sorrow, but is also full of the overcoming of it. Good Grief Wk.3 • Children often are not asked… • Gather them into a circle and talk. • The first step is going into detail about what happened to them. • Their story is told: – Who, when, why, how, where. – We listen to each other, the room is quiet… Good Grief Wk. 3 Give sorrow words, the grief that does not speak Whispers the o’er-fraught heart, And bids it break Shakespeare Good Grief Wk.3 • Children need to be given a chance to grieve. Parents often think it is better to shelter their children from discussing their feelings associated with grief and loss.
• However, the unspoken fears of a child and
thoughts are more damaging if left unsaid.
• Magical thinking explained.
Specific Projects to try… • Expressive Art Projects to help children tell their story: – Booking making with markers and paper – Creating a story about an animal who lost somebody..”Once Upon a Time” – Group Poem about the loss, pass around – Doodling while talking in a circle on large sheets of paper Drawing yourself before the death and after. Draw yourself as a tree who has suffered a loss Paper Mache Heart Project What’s Inside Your Heart What’s Inside Your Heart Wk. 4 Explore Grief emotions • Anger • Fear • Sadness • Worries about other parents dying • Feeling lonely • Feeling different than others • Guilt • Feeling responsible for the death • Magical thinking investigated and cognitive distortions corrected I am a volcano “I feel like I am a bomb about to explode. “I am splitting and exploding.” Good Grief Wk. 5 • Example of an intervention used on Wk. 5 • Focus: How to handle, identify and express anger in grief • Directive: Show your angry feelings as a monster (w/ woods, nails and broken tile pieces) which expresses your anger about the loss of parent.
• The children all interpreted the directive in a way that
they needed to express their grief and pain. These are the stories of the children. Good Grief Wk. 5 – When I asked Lauren what her sculpture would say if it had a voice, she said “I love you, don’t be afraid, you are never alone.” • Then Lauren said “…and tell someone how you feel.” Angry Monsters Sculpture • “My monster is not as angry as it used to be. It used to be out of control with anger. Now, it feels a little better each day. I still miss daddy but I know that I’m not the only kid who’s daddy died. I don’t feel so different and alone. I put a matchbox car on my monster because my daddy really loved them. I put these nails for hair because he didn’t have much hair because of his cancer.” “ I used to ask God why me, why did I have to loose my daddy when I’m so young. But now I know I will be O.K.” A group poem by 3-18 years olds… • “Love’s everlasting • Sorrow is a deep well, • But, life goes on • The memory of your loved one is deep like a well, • And everlasting like the universe (the stars in the sky). • There is a reason for everything, • You are here, • I am with you, • Look around there is sun, water’s sweet music • Let your grief float on the water, • The tide will carry your precious memories back to you • Let the tide carry away your grief, • The tide will carry tiny bits of precious memories back to you.”
• Week 6
• By week 6, they are comfortable and don’t want to leave the
group. • Quilt ceremony, first 15-20 minutes, family and friends are invited. • We end the group with a candle, some give a poem or song to the group. • I ask them “what are you leaving with?” • Share memories and funny stories. • We discuss ways to handle grief in the future and introduce Good Grief and beyond • Share their Quilts and Comfort Card quilt. How Do We Parents Help? How Do We Parents Help? Be honest with the child and give simple, clear explanations consistent with the child's level of understanding. • Be careful not to overload them with too many facts. • Younger children are more affected by disruptions in their environment than by the loss itself. • Avoid confusing explanations of death, such as, "gone away," or "gone to sleep." It might be better to say, "his body stopped working." Avoid making God responsible for the death. Instead say, "God didn't take your sister, but God welcomed her." Or, "God is sad that we're sad. But now that your sister • has died, she is with God." Don't assume that if the child isn't talking about the loss it hasn't affected them. Be consistent and maintain the usual routines as much as possible. Encourage the child to express their feelings and to ask questions. Children may act out their grief in their fantasy play and artwork. If children have seen adults cry in the past they will be less concerned about tears now. Show affection and let them know that they are loved and will be taken care of. Each child reacts differently to loss. Behaviors that you may observe include: withdrawal, acting out, disturbances in sleeping and eating, poor concentration, being overly clingy, regression to earlier stages of development, taking on attributes of the deceased. Sharing your grief with a chil • Avoid confusing explanations of death, such as, "gone away," or "gone to sleep." It might be better to say, "his body stopped working." Don't assume that if the child isn't talking about the loss it hasn't affected them. • Be consistent and maintain the usual routines. Encourage the child to express their feelings and to ask questions. Children may act out their grief in their fantasy play and artwork. If children have seen adults cry in the past they will be less concerned about tears now. Show affection and let them know that they are loved and will be taken care of. Each child reacts differently to loss. Behaviors that you may observe include: withdrawal, acting out, disturbances in sleeping and eating, poor concentration, being overly clingy, regression to earlier stages of development, taking on attributes of the deceased. Sharing your grief with a chil How to help… • Encourage the child to express their feelings and to ask questions. • Children may act out their grief in their fantasy play and artwork. • If children have seen adults cry in the past they will be less concerned about tears now. • Show affection and let them know that they are loved and will be taken care of. Each child reacts differently to loss. Behaviors that you may observe include: withdrawal, acting out, disturbances in sleeping and eating, poor concentration, being overly clingy, regression to earlier stages of development, taking on attributes of the deceased. • Show affection and let them know that they are loved and someone will always be there for them. What is normal grief in children? • Show affection and let them know that they are loved and someone will always be there for them. Each child reacts differently to loss. Behaviors that you may observe include: withdrawal, acting out, disturbances in sleeping and eating, poor concentration, being overly clingy, regression to earlier stages of development, taking on attributes of the deceased. Connecting with your child • While laughing with your child you’ll take a peek at heaven (play, build forts, rent funny movies, play games, cuddle, make jello, read, play wii). • Ages and stages…