Self-Esteem

Definitions
Self-concept: Picture or perception of

ourselves/ a person's mental model of his

or her abilities and attributes
Self Efficacy: The set of beliefs that one

can perform adequately in a particular

situation.

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Contd..

Self-ideal: The way we would like to be

Self-actualization A concept in personality
psychology referring to a person's constant
striving to realize his or her potential and to
develop inherent talents and capabilities.
Self-awareness The top level of consciousness;
cognizance of the autobiographical character of
personally experienced events.

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 Self Esteem:

Feelings we have about

ourselves
Self Esteem: A realistic respect for or
favorable impression of one self; Self
respect
(Dictionary.com)

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What is Self Esteem?

Self + Esteem
The total, essential, or particular being

of a person; the individual: +Worth,

Value, Opinion ,judgment

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Self-EsteemWhats it made of?

Your self-esteem is
made up of all the
experiences and
interpersonal
relationships youve
had in your life.
Everyone youve ever
met has added to or
taken away from how
you see yourself!

Mrs.Najam-un-Nissa

Self-Esteem

Self-esteem refers to th way

we see and think about
ourselves
Self esteem is your opinion of
yourself.
High self esteem is a good
opinion of yourself and
low self esteem is a bad
opinion of yourself.

Mrs.Najam-un-Nissa

What Self Esteem is Not

Self Esteem

is NOT dependant upon what

other people think of you
Self Esteem is not egotism, arrogance,
narcissism/selfishness, or a desire to feel
superior to others
Self Esteem is not temporary euphoria

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How should we measure selfesteem?

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Factors affecting on high and low

self esteem

Your self esteem depends on many questions:

Is your job worthwhile? Do others respect what you do? Do
you?

Do you believe you are successful?

How do you see yourself (your self image)?

- Improve your self esteem
- Boost your self confidence
How do you feel about your strengths and weaknesses?

What do you think of your social status?

How do you relate to others?

Can you make your own decisions? A lack of choices leads to

low self esteem.

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Development of Self Esteem

A person develops his/her self esteem

throughout the life through experiences.

In this regard childhood experiences play
an important role in shaping self esteem.

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Factors that develop High and Low

Self Esteem
High Self Esteem
If you are being praised
If you are listened to
If you are being spoken
to respectfully
If you are getting
attention
Experiencing success
Having trust worthy
friends

Low Self Esteem

Experiencing Continuous
Failure
Being expected to perfect
all the time
Being Ignored or made
fun of
Having physical or
emotional punishment
Being criticized

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Why Self Esteem is important?

Having a healthy self esteem

creates confidence, self-reliance,

and overall happiness in an
individual

Self esteem increases your confidence. If

you have confidence you will respect
yourself and then you can respect others,
improve your relationships and
become happier....this is not a selfish goal
as you will contribute more and share
yourself with the world and those around
you.
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 Low esteem

causes depression,
unhappiness, insecurity and low
confidence.
Other's desires may take preference over
yours.
Inner criticism, that nagging voice of
disapproval inside you, causes you to
stumble at every challenge and
challenges seem impossible
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Change
the bad

Appreciate
life

Leader
to
others

Good
Self
Esteem

Willing
to try
new things Believes
in
self

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Accept
failure
Doesnt submit
to
peer pressure
Is not
a threat
to others

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Who has
contributed to
your self
esteem?
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No one can
Make you feel
inferior Without
your Consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
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Tips for building Self Esteem

Learn to be more assertive and not

feel guilty about saying no
Think positively
Believe on your self
Make plans for the future .Set and
achieve goals
Do something challenging each day
Look your best
Eat correctly
Do something for someone else
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Learn a new skill

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Contd.

Handle things one at a time

Use criticism constructively
Ask for help take advantage of learning
opportunities
Allow personal growth time each day
Do not say negative things about yourself
Reward yourself often
List your accomplishments each evening
Volunteer to share your skills with others
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Accept yourself: Stop worrying about the things

you cant change. Be more accepting of others
and the things they cant change.

Try not to compare with others. Its unfair. You

may compare their strengths with your
weaknesses. Judge yourself in terms of your
own growth

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Have Realistic Expectations We expect too

much from ourselves. Perfection is not possible
but bettering our-self should be a lifetime goal.

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 Emphasize your strengths.

Change what can be changed.

Some
things fast, others gradual, and others
never. There are things we inherit but we
can change our attitude about it. Try new
experiences.

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Best Friends
Would you take better care of yourself?
Would you be kinder to yourself?
Would you be more forgiving of your human
imperfections?
If you realized your best friend was yourself?
Who is always with you everywhere?
Who is on your side when others are unfair?
And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?
Who will always see you get your share?
And thats why Im a best friend to myself.
And I take me out whenever I feel low.
And I make my life as happy as a best friend would
Im as nice to me as anyone I know!

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 There are two different people in the

world. One that says I wish I had and

the one that says Im glad I did.
Remember you can have anything in this
world if you just believe in yourself.

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Final Thought
You are a unique individual. No one else is

like you in the whole world. This makes

you special already!
Our time in this world is limited. Make it
happen for you so you leave your mark in
history!

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Commercial of Me
Emphasizing the positive characteristics and
capabilities of you, develop an advertisement or
commercial to
sell oneself.
It may be a radio or television ad, billboard,
sweepstakes, etc.
Due next class period.
Mrs.Najam-un-Nissa

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